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Don't Ask, Don't Tell: A Geek Growing Up Gay in the 90s
When your superpower is invisibility, how can you expect to be seen? A decade of misperceptions. Don’t Ask. An era of silence. Don’t Tell. An epic battle of good and evil filled with humor, pain, loss, love, and triumph – Okay, a young, gay man’s journey of self-discovery in a society that demanded obscurity. A Geek Growing Up Gay in the 90s. Follow the author from the time he comes out of the closet until he discovers how to love. Not just another man, but more importantly, himself. Without any examples, role-models, or direction, Jay stumbles his way through a decade that devalued his voice and emerges a superhero – at least in his heart (or head). Sometimes painful, oftentimes funny, but always real, the story follows a disjointed path, as the author shares the memories that influenced his growth into a proud, gay man. Finding the courage to share your voice is the greatest way to fight back against the oppressions of closeting conventions; and the best way to slay a dragon is to surround yourself with powerful friends.
337 pages, Kindle Edition
Published April 20, 2019
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April 21, 2019
Amazing book!
What an amazing read! The author takes you on a wild ride down memory lane. There is a little bit of everything in this book. Action, romance, and humor.
This is a book that is relevant on so many levels. Even though it focuses on the 90s and the difficulties of being gay during that crazy decade, this book highlights the normality of finding individuality in a society that insists on fitting people into boxes. This is relevant even today in a world where the LGBTQ+ community is still struggling to bring society to terms with the fact that they are people no matter who they love. Do ask. Do listen.
What an amazing read! The author takes you on a wild ride down memory lane. There is a little bit of everything in this book. Action, romance, and humor.
This is a book that is relevant on so many levels. Even though it focuses on the 90s and the difficulties of being gay during that crazy decade, this book highlights the normality of finding individuality in a society that insists on fitting people into boxes. This is relevant even today in a world where the LGBTQ+ community is still struggling to bring society to terms with the fact that they are people no matter who they love. Do ask. Do listen.
April 13, 2025
Wonderful Read 📚
The struggle of growing up as a military kid and maturing into a young adult can be difficult at best. Jay has done wonderful to let people see inside how challenging this can be, especially when you are gay in a time when there was not very much acceptance.
The struggle of growing up as a military kid and maturing into a young adult can be difficult at best. Jay has done wonderful to let people see inside how challenging this can be, especially when you are gay in a time when there was not very much acceptance.
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