Build stronger relationships with strategies grounded in attachment theory
Attachment theory explores the different ways we develop connections with others. If you’re searching for a way to create stronger, healthier, and more authentic relationships with the people you love, The Attachment Theory Workbook can help. It’s your guide to understanding your own attachment style and exploring actionable exercises to improve honesty, intimacy, and communication with your partner, family, or close friends.
This workbook
The basics of attachment theory―Find a comprehensive overview of the Anxious, Avoidant, and Secure attachment styles, with self-assessments that help you understand which ones apply to you.Active strategies for healing—Develop your relationship skills with exercises like listing what you love about someone, and answering questions about how hypothetical scenarios make you feel. For yourself and others—This expert advice helps you explore your own attachment style as well as identify the attachment style of others, so you can better understand their perspective.
Lay the foundation for strong and lasting relationships with The Attachment Theory Workbook.
TLDR: It's a good book for folks who like a gentle, memory-intensive approach to attachment; it just didn't work for me.
This is a good introduction to attachment theory. I read it cover to cover, and did many of the exercises. Unfortunately, a large part of the book wasn't very helpful for me. Most of the exercises rely on "remember a time when." If you're the sort of person who has memory issues or who doesn't respond to the remember-when approach, this just stops everything dead in its tracks. I'd have preferred more issue-identifying and forward-thinking exercises. And while examples from the writer's practice are ok, I'd have also liked a bit more academic meat in there regarding data/studies.
This is a really interesting book that helps you identify what your attachment style is. Which is important for healing and recognizing how it affects your life. A lot of issues can stem from how you are with attachments. It has areas for writing prompts, activities, quizzes and other exercises as well as a lot of good information and tips. Very well put together. Each type of style has it's own section after the section where you identify which style you are. So far I have found this book to be very helpful.
Very helpful in understanding the various attachment styles and what is most important to a relationship: consent, safety and security. It also invites us to understand our partners more empathetically and implement rituals of kindness, give and take, appreciation, affection, openness, playfulness, commitment, and joy.
Amazing book and amazing model for relationship security. Indeed all problems and relationships come from insecurity and this book and the attachment theory in general provides tools to become more secure in yourself and to practice the behavior of security so you can have all that you want in relationships. That's what I got out of it and attachment theory so far.
This book was HARD to read. Not because it was complicated or complex and not because it dense; simply because it asks you to look deep within yourself and figure out why you do the things you do in relationships and why you view things the way you do. It asks extremely hard questions about your most important relationships and why they turned out the way they did.
It has chapters covering each of the attachment styles and a lot of workbook exercises to do to help you understand yourself better and to help you try and work through any issues you might have. The final chapters cover what it looks like to be in relationships with people who have different styles than you and then how to improve your attachment style. It gives you both personal exercises to work on and relationship exercises that you can work on with your partner to help you both understand each other better.
This book opened my eyes about so many miscommunications I’ve had in my relationships with friends, family, and romantic partners.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who has found that they’ve had issues in relationships, even if it’s not you that has trouble communicating, it has a lot of information about how to be with people who have trouble communicating.
The Attachment Theory Workbook is a solid means of examining yourself and your relation to others. Equal parts theory and exercise, by the conclusion of this book you will have a solid understanding of your attachment type, the attachment type of those with whom you regularly relate, and how to use this knowledge to improve yourself and your key relationships.
The work within The Attachment Theory Workbook is not easy, and herein lies the power of this experience. This workbook will inspire you to take a close, honest look at yourself and your relationships, which is no easy task, yet highly rewarding when all is said and done. An effective method for progressing through this book is to read a section of theory until you reach an exercise and then complete the exercise. If you do this amount of minimum work daily, you will progress through the workbook at a regular and achievable pace.
The Attachment Theory Workbook is perfect for those who enjoy self improvement and are seeking to optimize their experience and relationships within their daily life.
The attachment theory workbook has really helped me work through issues that I’ve discussed in therapy as well as reinforced concepts I’ve learned from reading other books on attachment and trauma. The workbook was set up to discuss each type of attachment style and there were also activities in each section to work through these things. I think that’s why I bought the workbook, I wanted to do activities that were directly linked to my attachment style. I really enjoyed also being able to read and learn about the other attachment styles. It definitely made a difference in how I viewed past relationships. I will say that this book is good for couples who live together. It doesn’t give any advice for anyone in a long distance relationship or anyone who’s polyamorous.
I received a copy of this from the publisher to preview. As a person who has always been interested in how the mind works, this book really caught my eye. So many things we do in life, we do without realizing it. When we can understand our motivations and tendencies on a deeper level, we can achieve better relationships. This book covers four attachment styles. Each chapter has interactive excercises to help you discover attachment style and how it effects you. Then they offer strategies to help you build better relationships. I believe everyone could benefit from this book even if only to understand how you operate.
This is a decent beginner book to attachment theory. I definitely felt seen when they described anxious attachment, and there were a few suggestions I will keep in mind when dealing with the people in my life who are more avoidant.
Overall, though, I wished there had been more concrete instructions on what the right way to deal with problems were. A lot of the exercises seemed rather silly and/or not super helpful as I have a hard time imagining past scenarios when books ask me to.
I am definitely going to be finding a more in-depth version of this topic to read next, but I don't regret the time reading this one.
A nice cute beginner’s book to the attachment styles. The book is super short and covers all of the styles, so naturally it doesn’t go too deep and could probably be more informative. Still, it did give me more perspective than I may have gotten from watching multiple one-minute long videos. I really enjoyed the small relationship dynamic examples that they gave. They really helped to fully explain some of the concepts. I also really liked that they were not all romantic examples. I do wish that the workbook had more techniques to move from an insecure to a more secure style. For example, it says many times that anxious attachments need to work on self-soothing, obviously. However, IT doesn’t give ways to do so. Instead, it just allows the reader to write out their own ideas themselves. Still, great place to start.
This was really good. I don't know if everyone's journey involves attachment theory (for all relationships, not just romantic), but if there are relationship patterns you notice that you want to understand or improve, this is a really good, practical introduction to this. There were only a couple exercises that made me say "Pass". Each section was clearly written and I thought the organization of the book was clear and thought out .
I was really curious about this book hearing about it from non-clinicians. Overall seems helpful and certainly not harmful. I will be using with my anxiously attached daughter Anika.
A very good and insightful book, and as it states, it is very much a workbook haha
Giving a good overview of attachment theory and styles, it gave me start to understanding myself and those I interact with, especially those that are close. The first few chapters are quite rough, focusing on introspection to our lives and calling us to question where our insecurities (should we have them) come from. Like other therapy books I've read, it gives many ways to explore ourselves and then to continue on past the book to keep introspecting and working on the problems we find through it.
I find a lot of the exercises helpful, and especially the last few chapters I will keep around and come back to them as I continue my own journey. Reading is always good, in many ways, but this book specifically I like for all of its exercises. It takes a bit longer to get through, but the work and effort felt more tangible for me, as someone who hasn't development my own system of notes yet.
Багато практичних порад які можна застосовувати для покращення своїх стосунків з друзями т�� близькими людьми. В основному авторка описує приклади і засоби з романтичних стосунків, але багато чого можна перенести і на дружні відносини. Це саме воркбук, тому багато завдань де треба згадувати свої моменти з життя і думати над тим що призвело до таких вчинків і які наслідки вони дали. Ця частина мені не дуже сподобалась, бо іноді дуже важко згадати щось конкретне про що питається в завданні. Часто я відчував ніби проводив терапію сам їз собою, дуже прикольно. Якщо у вас є бажання покращити своє життя в стосунках, ця книга однозначно для вас. Коротенька, практична і дієва. P.S.: Я просто випав з деяких прикладів в кінці книжки. Ну як можна якось відновлювати і продовжувати стосунки якщо тобі зрадили😭😭😭
Là workbook nên cuốn này chú trọng vào các bài tập thực hành để hiểu và tương tác với những kiểu gắn bó khác nhau, chia làm 6 cặp. Phần phân tích về từng kiểu gắn bó cũng khá ổn, không dài dòng như những cuốn sách khác.
Sách này chắc chỉ dành cho những người làm giáo dục hoặc trị liệu. Còn người đọc thông thường mình không thấy phù hợp lắm. Các bài tập trong sách cũng khá sơ sài, không dễ để áp dụng.
Túm lại là dành cho người chuyên môn. Còn các bạn muốn đào sâu để tìm hiểu về thuyết gắn bó thì không phải là một lựa chọn tốt lắm.
Відео про типи привʼязаності почали мені попадатись в кінці серпня, і я в шоці, але тік ток щось знає, бо саме ця тема стала ключовою в подальші місяці. Я вірю, що все відбувається в потрібний час, і знання про типи привʼязаності визначили подальший мій напрям психологічної роботи, адже, як виявилось, тривожні люди схильні обирати собі в партнери уникаючих. It’s sad, but we have what we have.
Я була в пошуку хороших книги на цю тему, і знайшла цей воркбук. Що тут скажеш, непогана книга для того, щоб ознайомитися з загальною інформацією на цю тему, як певний вступний екскурс. Є багато тестів та вправ, які допоможуть визначити власний тип привʼязаності і є вправи на покращення взаємодії між людьми, згідно їх типу. Не можу поставити 5, бо я очікувала глибшого аналізу та наукового підгрунття для пояснень, і більшість інформації я вже знала (thanks to Tik Tok)
Загалом, якщо ви вже прочитали цю книгу і визначили свій тип привʼязаності, раджу подивитися відео в тік тоці на цю тему - styles/types of attachment, там ви знайдете ще більше інформації, навіть з прикладами з відомих фільмів та серіалів.
Ще, також, цій книзі не було багатьох деталей та нюансів, адже виявляється є різні типи уникаючих, fearful avoidant та dismissive avoidant.
Але що радує - можливо досягнути secure attachment. Якщо у вас тривожний чи уникаючий тип, то це не клеймо! Це лише означає те, що із-за «небезпечної» атмосфери в дитинстві сформувалися захисні механізми психіки, і зʼявився страх близькості, але це все можна виправити, якщо бути чесним з самим собою і віднайти відчуття безпеки всередині себе (медитації можуть в цьому допомогти. перевірено), і тоді приходить усвідомлення того, що не всі люди будуть нас ранити в близьких стосунках.
Honestly this book was super helpful as far as identifying relationship anxiety & how to deal with it. The workbook is so helpful as far as being able to highlight things & then write down notes as to how you are currently feeling & how you have felt in the past.
It goes further in depth more so than just helping romantic relationships. It also can 100% help you improve relationships with friends, family, coworkers, etc.
Kinda basic in my opinion. I didnt feel there was any particularly new information that I hadnt encountered previously in Wired for Dating by Stan Tatkin or listening to podcasts on attachment theory. Seems like it has more potential if you have a partner, especially as most of the exercises later in the book require one.
Ever had a breakup or have a relapse that is completely confusing to you? Seems great, then fades, for seemingly no reason? Or is hot and cold? Or your partner seems to start to withhold and withdraw while not really communicating what they are thinking/feeling and why? This book may help explain.
I blew through this book because I was so desperate to understand people around me and also become more secure in my own attachment style. I love how in-depth it goes about every type of relationship and compliments each style and pairing with exercises. I would buy it again just to see how my answers have changed over time.
I think this workbook is accessible for all levels of education and training. I appreciated the simple presentation of complex topics, the many case examples, and the space for writing.
I’ve begun giving this book to my own clients who are working through unproductive attachment patterns.
Easy to read and follow. Written with compassion with many helpful examples, suggestions and exercises on this sensitive and important relationship issue. Good tool to help break down relationship barriers and improve self reflection in order to understand oneself and our patterns much more.
Understanding attachment theory has given me so many insights about myself and the way how i navigate relationships. This book explains very well the behavioural tendencies of each attachment style. The reflection exercises are also very helpful in understanding yourself.
Good intro to attachment styles. Could have used more worksheets or solutions to more specific problems as opposed to role-playing their examples. Still, gave good background and general information.
Very good workbook. I've gone through it mostly by myself, and I'm going to go through it again with my therapist so I understand all of it and can work on applying it to my relationships. I'd definitely recommend for anyone struggling with their attachment style.
Leitura acessível, sem muita linguagem técnica. Excelente livro de autoconhecimento, ideal para nos conhecermos um pouco mais sobre (e melhorar!) a forma como nos relacionamos connosco mesmos e com os outros. Recomendo!!