Wanderlust: How I Learned to Rethink Love and Unlearn Lust

by Stephen Peter Anderson

There is an entire generation whose brains are permanently shaped by unrealistic standards of beauty, fostering unwanted sexual conditioning that governs their intimate behaviours. Lust - not love - is rendering millions unprepared for relationships, marriage, and parenthood in an unmonitored, hypersexual virtual world. But what if freedom from these unhealthy social mores meant unlearning what you've already learned?

For more than two decades, Stephen Peter Anderson experienced how his unrealistic and unattainable ideas of beauty unknowingly shaped his sexual conditioning. His odyssey is more than a struggle with overcoming a distorted representation of sex - it is a fight for reclamation.

Wanderlust is not just an intensely personal story but a journey of self-discovery in relearning how to attain the glory and beauty of love that God intended.

In this #MeToo era there could hardly be a more prescient and timely publication to recalibrate what it means to be a human and to love - a vital proclamation that needs to be heard.

265 pages, Kindle Edition

Published February 14, 2019

Reviews

[Simon · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this book pretty quickly. I friend recommended it to me because of the way it's written. A subject that's tough to articulate, yet the author has managed to be quite conversational, which makes it feel relatable. This book is not about porn, but a proclamation of how we need to rethink the idea of beauty and love. That is the real heart of the issue.

[Arnold · Rating 5 out of 5]

I actually picked this book up after my husband had finished it. What amazed me most is this book is for men and women. Although the author often refers to his own journey, it makes you question your own beliefs and thoughts. It made me realise how when two people come together you really are bringing your own skewed ideas of love.

[Scott · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wanderlust is a conversational and open account inviting all to be curious about our unwanted struggles and preconditioned sexual thoughts. Helping us to ask questions about where our lustful desires come from and why we keep coming back to the same place. It's not about recovery, but recalibration of how we should think.

[Andrew · Rating 4 out of 5]

Our value and discernment on what beauty really is has become so tainted societies projections. It's no wonder boys and girls grow up confused.

[Jennifer Joy · Rating 4 out of 5]

Timely proclomation

An important read in a time where lust is often confused with love because of the way we have been conditioned.

[Justine · Rating 4 out of 5]

I didn't expect to enjoy this book. I thought it was a book for blokes and their "battles" but to be honest it was surprisingly insightful for me as a woman. In the current climate, it not only explains why men grow up with a warped idea of women and love but also why women don't take into account their contextual, sexual conditioning.