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F*ck Like a Goddess: Heal Yourself. Reclaim Your Voice. Stand in Your Power.
“I felt as if I had had a cathartic emotional experience not by talking but by following Ms. Roxo’s coaching to tune into my energy and desire.” ― New York Times
What if your deepest fears and wounds were the KEY to living a turned on, passionate life, sharing your gifts with the world, and having mind-blowing orgasms along the way? And what if you could embrace all of you―all of your messy, wild, raw, sensual self―exactly as you are right now AND still feel good? This is what it means to f*ck like a goddess―literally and metaphorically. To let life make love to you and enjoy every bit, even the parts that hurt, and to find the magic in all of it. And this is your birthright.
So why is it so damn hard for women to simply feel comfortable in their own skin, let alone feel strong and secure enough to freely share their gifts with the world? “Because each of us has been conditioned, programmed, and literally brainwashed into thinking we are not enough,” writes Alexandra Roxo,” and it is up to us to rewrite that story.”
A prominent voice in transformational healing and the divine feminine, Roxo shares tried-and-true methods that have led to both her own healing and that of hundreds of her coaching clients over the years.
“We are in need of an uprising of bold, wild women who have reclaimed their bodies and stand in their sacred sexuality for them ,” she writes. “As women, we need to liberate our voices, step into total security within ourselves, and fully own our raw, sensual power, finally letting go of the shame, guilt, denial, and repression that’s been put upon us.”
The methods in this book will inspire you, challenge you, bring up your resistance, and unleash your gifts. It won’t always be easy, but if you do the work, you’ll discover what it really feels like to f*ck like a goddess .
What if your deepest fears and wounds were the KEY to living a turned on, passionate life, sharing your gifts with the world, and having mind-blowing orgasms along the way? And what if you could embrace all of you―all of your messy, wild, raw, sensual self―exactly as you are right now AND still feel good? This is what it means to f*ck like a goddess―literally and metaphorically. To let life make love to you and enjoy every bit, even the parts that hurt, and to find the magic in all of it. And this is your birthright.
So why is it so damn hard for women to simply feel comfortable in their own skin, let alone feel strong and secure enough to freely share their gifts with the world? “Because each of us has been conditioned, programmed, and literally brainwashed into thinking we are not enough,” writes Alexandra Roxo,” and it is up to us to rewrite that story.”
A prominent voice in transformational healing and the divine feminine, Roxo shares tried-and-true methods that have led to both her own healing and that of hundreds of her coaching clients over the years.
“We are in need of an uprising of bold, wild women who have reclaimed their bodies and stand in their sacred sexuality for them ,” she writes. “As women, we need to liberate our voices, step into total security within ourselves, and fully own our raw, sensual power, finally letting go of the shame, guilt, denial, and repression that’s been put upon us.”
The methods in this book will inspire you, challenge you, bring up your resistance, and unleash your gifts. It won’t always be easy, but if you do the work, you’ll discover what it really feels like to f*ck like a goddess .
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Published July 21, 2020
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January 23, 2020
TW: Sexual abuse, trauma.
Surprise, surprise. I didn't like this one.
I am not a person who reads self-help books. They always make me feel awkward and uncomfortable cause I mean.. who the hell are you, trying to tell me how to live my life (even though I'm the one who decided to pick up your book)?? Plus, all the peppy, cheering you on stuff makes me roll my eyes, but maybe that's because I'm a super bitch? Peppy attitudes and inspirational quotes drive me nuts.
The title is definitely an eye catcher, and I wanted to see what this had to offer. Cause yeah, I totally wanna fuck like a goddess and own my voice and power and femininity and all that good stuff. Unfortunately, I am the same (maybe this just means I was doing all those things to begin with?).
It is extremely spiritual based and "feel the energy" type stuff. This is clearly a personal preference, and if this is your thing then that's cool, but it just isn't mine. Plus, a lot of this book is the author recounting all her own totally crazy life experiences. I understand the importance of anecdotes in order to either give examples or connect to the readers, but after she tells you about her experiences in all these crazy countries, dancing with snakes, and meditating with the best and smartest people for the millionth time, it starts to feel like she's just bragging.
I was trying really hard to listen to her and see what other readers might take from her advice and exercises, but it was just too much.
I particularly had an issue with the section dealing with sexual history/traumas/great experiences. The exercise is to write it down, deal with it in various ways, and eventually you write a list of all the people involved in your sex story inventory, look into the mirror, and thank them for "teaching you" something. This includes the people who may have sexually abused you. She does say that you don't have to thank them and to just skip them if there is still anger involved, but that you should still work on it.
I just could not get over this. I understand the concept of letting go of painful traumas and abuses, but it's not always like that. I will never believe a victim should thank their abuser for teaching them something, even if it is just to a mirror in a room by themselves. It makes me sick just thinking about it.
I couldn't get behind this one, but if it helps, it helps! Even though it's not for me, it definitely may benefit others who want to connect more to their spiritual self and learn to let go and let live (I cringed typing that, why am I like this? Why can't I just be happy?)
Happy Reading!
Surprise, surprise. I didn't like this one.
I am not a person who reads self-help books. They always make me feel awkward and uncomfortable cause I mean.. who the hell are you, trying to tell me how to live my life (even though I'm the one who decided to pick up your book)?? Plus, all the peppy, cheering you on stuff makes me roll my eyes, but maybe that's because I'm a super bitch? Peppy attitudes and inspirational quotes drive me nuts.
The title is definitely an eye catcher, and I wanted to see what this had to offer. Cause yeah, I totally wanna fuck like a goddess and own my voice and power and femininity and all that good stuff. Unfortunately, I am the same (maybe this just means I was doing all those things to begin with?).
It is extremely spiritual based and "feel the energy" type stuff. This is clearly a personal preference, and if this is your thing then that's cool, but it just isn't mine. Plus, a lot of this book is the author recounting all her own totally crazy life experiences. I understand the importance of anecdotes in order to either give examples or connect to the readers, but after she tells you about her experiences in all these crazy countries, dancing with snakes, and meditating with the best and smartest people for the millionth time, it starts to feel like she's just bragging.
I was trying really hard to listen to her and see what other readers might take from her advice and exercises, but it was just too much.
I particularly had an issue with the section dealing with sexual history/traumas/great experiences. The exercise is to write it down, deal with it in various ways, and eventually you write a list of all the people involved in your sex story inventory, look into the mirror, and thank them for "teaching you" something. This includes the people who may have sexually abused you. She does say that you don't have to thank them and to just skip them if there is still anger involved, but that you should still work on it.
I just could not get over this. I understand the concept of letting go of painful traumas and abuses, but it's not always like that. I will never believe a victim should thank their abuser for teaching them something, even if it is just to a mirror in a room by themselves. It makes me sick just thinking about it.
I couldn't get behind this one, but if it helps, it helps! Even though it's not for me, it definitely may benefit others who want to connect more to their spiritual self and learn to let go and let live (I cringed typing that, why am I like this? Why can't I just be happy?)
Happy Reading!
July 5, 2020
Ugh....I thought this was going to be some kick a$s book, but I was very disappointed. I thought it would a humorous and engaging book about saying you like to fu*k and be proud of it. Not the case what so ever. I didn’t get into the spiritual uplifting or the author bragging about all the the things she has done in every chapter. Ok we get the point you are sooo cool and spiritually connected to your sexuality. I also was very turned off about thanking all the people who you have had sexual encounters with, even if it was abuse! Yes she says that. I live with someone who was sexually abused and it has scarred them in every aspect of their lives and you want them to stand there and say thank you?!? That is beyond sick.
The title has really nothing to do with what is inside, it is just an attention grabber. Not for me at all.
Received a copy from NetGalley for an honest review.
The title has really nothing to do with what is inside, it is just an attention grabber. Not for me at all.
Received a copy from NetGalley for an honest review.
April 14, 2021
This book’s intentions are good but unfortunately it did not touch me. I guess I am not in a place and time in my life where I would need this book. I must be f****** like a goddess already ;-)
Not saying this book is bad, just that I am not the right audience.
Thank you Net Galley and the publisher for this e-ARC in exchange for my honest review.
Not saying this book is bad, just that I am not the right audience.
Thank you Net Galley and the publisher for this e-ARC in exchange for my honest review.
April 20, 2022
Heel anders dan ik in eerste instantie dacht, beter, maar zelfhulpboeken zijn gewoon mijn ding niet.
September 6, 2020
Bravo for coming up with a Catchy AF Title. I’ve been doing a lot of Shadow work and have been searching for delicious and empowering sexual reads.
This was not one of them. This audiobook has nothing to do with Fucking Like A Goddess.
This was not one of them. This audiobook has nothing to do with Fucking Like A Goddess.
August 8, 2023
This was great. A lot new-agey and metaphysical, but I'm into that. But there was also a lot of great advice, great exercises, and great guided work to help outside of her physical services. I got a lot out of this!
August 21, 2020
With a title like that, it must be good. I read the whole thing, and never got to the part where it helps you actually fuck like a goddess. It's just another Carl Jung playbook of shadow integration, only with emphasis on sex. There are lots of free resources mentioned that, once you visit the website, you find are part of a very expensive paid community.
The author shares her journey of healing through world travel, the use of psychedelics, and journaling, which isn't very helpful for your average woman who can't take years of her life to roll around with international lovers or go on ayahuasca trips while chanting with Buddhist monks. I guess the journaling part could be helpful, and there are some good prompts that help along the way.
Not empowering. Not even entertaining. Not one I'd read again.
The author shares her journey of healing through world travel, the use of psychedelics, and journaling, which isn't very helpful for your average woman who can't take years of her life to roll around with international lovers or go on ayahuasca trips while chanting with Buddhist monks. I guess the journaling part could be helpful, and there are some good prompts that help along the way.
Not empowering. Not even entertaining. Not one I'd read again.
August 29, 2020
I’ll be the first to admit that I was oversold on the title. This title was the August pick for a book group that I participate in. While I knew it was a self-help book, I was hoping that the author would delve deep into harnessing sexual power and all the components that comprise the subject matter. In my opinion, it was okay but mostly suggested surface level internal work, in general.
What I did find useful were the reflective questions and the overarching theme of doing the root inner work. And, it helped to have anecdotes and the authors personal experiences shared throughout.
I grew tired of the redundancy mid way through the book and while it gained momentum a time or two after, I was exhausted with it.
Perhaps depending on where you’re at in your own personal healing journey will affect how your receive this book.
What I did find useful were the reflective questions and the overarching theme of doing the root inner work. And, it helped to have anecdotes and the authors personal experiences shared throughout.
I grew tired of the redundancy mid way through the book and while it gained momentum a time or two after, I was exhausted with it.
Perhaps depending on where you’re at in your own personal healing journey will affect how your receive this book.
October 3, 2020
Spiritual but not overly esoteric approach to self exploration and healing, reconnecting to sensuality, feelings, finding confidence i.e. "to fucking life, to making love to it".
March 24, 2023
ya know what this was actually very good. I appreciated the authenticity and enthusiasm the author had about exploring a maybe alternative outlook on reconnecting with yourself in order to grow. I do recommend ( I did skim some parts that didn’t resonate or just sounded like repeated mantras that maybe weren’t for me but again a lot resonated and I liked it) it was a fun read.
January 13, 2025
I firmly believe that everyone, regardless of gender or religious affiliation, should read this book. I especially recommend it to my sisters who were born into cultures that equate women to second-class citizens. Women who survived domestic violence, assault, and harassment may find this book particularly beneficial.
The author invites you on her transformational journey of connecting to the heart and soul—of stepping out of the mind, grounding yourself in the present, healing, and reclaiming your voice, body, and more.
Each chapter includes tasks and exercises to guide the reader through this process. A very practical and transformational book, if you do your homework.
The author invites you on her transformational journey of connecting to the heart and soul—of stepping out of the mind, grounding yourself in the present, healing, and reclaiming your voice, body, and more.
Each chapter includes tasks and exercises to guide the reader through this process. A very practical and transformational book, if you do your homework.
September 17, 2021
Earth helps us, another white woman did some psychedelics and think she has unlocked the secrets of the universe. This book is horrifically insensitive, not trauma informed, performative af, and culturally appropriative. The book has a catchy title, good intention, but no follow through. I went into this with high hopes. It is probably the single most disappointing thing I’ve read all year. Let’s get into it:
- Credentials: Roxo is 37 and allegedly started her spiritual studies at 13 (which already has me raising my brows). She claims to have studied and has mastery in Norse shamanism, Peruvian shamanism, Mexican shamanism, indigenous North American medicine, yoga, Kashmiri Shaivist tantra, tantric Buddhism, and neopaganism. That is 24 years to study and master 8 spiritual practices that most people spend lifetimes on. Did I mention she claims to have talked to fairies at some music festival? (Yikes).
- Culturally appropriative: I could be wrong but at least two of her 8 practices are closed practices. She encourages elements of these practices in her work and despite her profuse calls for respect, doesn’t actually display any sensitivity to them or honor the practices individually. But it’s cool for anyone to use any elements of the practices she mentions… don’t worry she, the white American woman, said so. (Please note this is sarcasm and you absolutely should look into any spiritual practice you seek to adopt).
- Ableism: the daily practice. Her emphasis on refusing to work with people who cannot commit to a daily practice is cringe worthy. Some people are physically incapable of committing to a daily practice due to chronic health issues. Refusing to work with people who cannot practice daily and implying that people who cannot practice daily will never reach any sort of spiritual betterment is not only blatantly false but also ableist.
- Performative: Ms. Roxo… pick your call to action and know your audience! I lost count over how many lines of text were wasted because at some point in writing, Roxo realized her title was gendered and wanted to make it more palatable for an audience with various gender identities and religious backgrounds. There is a way to respect folks all across the gender spectrum without wasting four lines of text because you’ve never pondered gender neutral language before publication. F*** like the Divine is a gender neural option, just saying.
- Roxo talks just to hear herself talk. I felt actual physical exhaustion reading this book. I felt like a gold miner in the 1840s, I just kept sifting through the River hoping there’d be a glimmer of gold. (I never found one).
There are more substantive issues with this book but I DNF’d this pretty early. I recommend checking out other reviews to explore how deeply problematic her book is for people with sexual trauma. I am relieved I DNF’d before being asked to thank an abuser. Regardless, I still wish I could get my money and time back.
- Credentials: Roxo is 37 and allegedly started her spiritual studies at 13 (which already has me raising my brows). She claims to have studied and has mastery in Norse shamanism, Peruvian shamanism, Mexican shamanism, indigenous North American medicine, yoga, Kashmiri Shaivist tantra, tantric Buddhism, and neopaganism. That is 24 years to study and master 8 spiritual practices that most people spend lifetimes on. Did I mention she claims to have talked to fairies at some music festival? (Yikes).
- Culturally appropriative: I could be wrong but at least two of her 8 practices are closed practices. She encourages elements of these practices in her work and despite her profuse calls for respect, doesn’t actually display any sensitivity to them or honor the practices individually. But it’s cool for anyone to use any elements of the practices she mentions… don’t worry she, the white American woman, said so. (Please note this is sarcasm and you absolutely should look into any spiritual practice you seek to adopt).
- Ableism: the daily practice. Her emphasis on refusing to work with people who cannot commit to a daily practice is cringe worthy. Some people are physically incapable of committing to a daily practice due to chronic health issues. Refusing to work with people who cannot practice daily and implying that people who cannot practice daily will never reach any sort of spiritual betterment is not only blatantly false but also ableist.
- Performative: Ms. Roxo… pick your call to action and know your audience! I lost count over how many lines of text were wasted because at some point in writing, Roxo realized her title was gendered and wanted to make it more palatable for an audience with various gender identities and religious backgrounds. There is a way to respect folks all across the gender spectrum without wasting four lines of text because you’ve never pondered gender neutral language before publication. F*** like the Divine is a gender neural option, just saying.
- Roxo talks just to hear herself talk. I felt actual physical exhaustion reading this book. I felt like a gold miner in the 1840s, I just kept sifting through the River hoping there’d be a glimmer of gold. (I never found one).
There are more substantive issues with this book but I DNF’d this pretty early. I recommend checking out other reviews to explore how deeply problematic her book is for people with sexual trauma. I am relieved I DNF’d before being asked to thank an abuser. Regardless, I still wish I could get my money and time back.
February 2, 2021
Where to begin?
First of all, yikes.
Admittedly, I'm a (mostly) asexual type, bent on proving that women are not the sexual creatures we so desire to identify as. Still, knowing that my experience is not the same as every other woman's, I try to remain open to a compelling argument, and so I read books like these.
This book, unfortunately, only confirmed standing suspicions.
First of all, Alexandra Roxo talks often in this book about her sexual assaults and traumas. Not at all a surprise to me, but certainly disappointing to have my assumptions proven, because it seems traumatic sexual history is the case for the most sex-positive individual women. I get it, sort of. Writing a book like this. You're reclaiming your space, or trying to. The problem is, sex isn't our space.
The sooner we realize this, the more we will actually be "standing in our power" or whatever.
Roxo laments, at one point, about how her friends grew uncomfortable one time she decided to share a story about her sexual adventures with some kind of tantric sex healer. No shit, dude. If you compensate for your trauma out in the open, a lot of people aren't going to relate. And anyway, "locker room talk" is unappealing to any sane person. Even you, if you have any self awareness, probably felt a little weird about saying it, didn't you? You can try to change the norm, but the only people who are going to engage with you are the oppressor. And then they'll fuck you. Literally. And you'll say it was empowering.
Another story that stood out to me was where she got bad vibes from a dude, but fucked him anyway (on their first date, I think she said?) after he goaded her a bit. Later, she found out he had been harassing or assaulting a number of women and she was like, "Ah, yes. My magical vagina was telling me he was bad news. Oh well! Make sure you listen to your lady parts."
No. That's just men, honey. And you just happened to find out the rest of the story.
Imagine all the stories we don't find out about. Imagine if we could just ZIP the totality of men's actions, past present future, into our awareness. Would we ever fuck a man again?
LOL anyway, I am so not the audience for this book. And if you are, good luck, babes.
+1 star because I totally agree with her view on the patriarchy, even though it contradicts her whole fucking lots of men thing
First of all, yikes.
Admittedly, I'm a (mostly) asexual type, bent on proving that women are not the sexual creatures we so desire to identify as. Still, knowing that my experience is not the same as every other woman's, I try to remain open to a compelling argument, and so I read books like these.
This book, unfortunately, only confirmed standing suspicions.
First of all, Alexandra Roxo talks often in this book about her sexual assaults and traumas. Not at all a surprise to me, but certainly disappointing to have my assumptions proven, because it seems traumatic sexual history is the case for the most sex-positive individual women. I get it, sort of. Writing a book like this. You're reclaiming your space, or trying to. The problem is, sex isn't our space.
The sooner we realize this, the more we will actually be "standing in our power" or whatever.
Roxo laments, at one point, about how her friends grew uncomfortable one time she decided to share a story about her sexual adventures with some kind of tantric sex healer. No shit, dude. If you compensate for your trauma out in the open, a lot of people aren't going to relate. And anyway, "locker room talk" is unappealing to any sane person. Even you, if you have any self awareness, probably felt a little weird about saying it, didn't you? You can try to change the norm, but the only people who are going to engage with you are the oppressor. And then they'll fuck you. Literally. And you'll say it was empowering.
Another story that stood out to me was where she got bad vibes from a dude, but fucked him anyway (on their first date, I think she said?) after he goaded her a bit. Later, she found out he had been harassing or assaulting a number of women and she was like, "Ah, yes. My magical vagina was telling me he was bad news. Oh well! Make sure you listen to your lady parts."
No. That's just men, honey. And you just happened to find out the rest of the story.
Imagine all the stories we don't find out about. Imagine if we could just ZIP the totality of men's actions, past present future, into our awareness. Would we ever fuck a man again?
LOL anyway, I am so not the audience for this book. And if you are, good luck, babes.
+1 star because I totally agree with her view on the patriarchy, even though it contradicts her whole fucking lots of men thing
August 14, 2020
Alexandra is a beautiful writer whose work has truly changed the lives of thousands of women. Her methods may be unconventional but I think that is distinctly prefaced by the very name of the book: Fuck Like a Goddess. The people that will benefit most from this book and its teachings are those that are sex positive and unafraid of wild, unique, and raw healing methods. If laying on the floor screaming and crying sounds intimidating to you then this is not your method and that's ok!
Alexandra captivates with her wisdom, raw storytelling, poems, and advice. I truly couldn't put the book down. Unlike most self help books I loved that Alexandra describes her methods without forcing or acting like her method is the only one. All of her healing experiments (dancing with snakes, taking plant medicines, producing and acting in films about her personal experiences) she says repeatedly are not required but definitely do enrich the story and the book!
Highly recommend this book as these teachings have helped me tremendously to listen to my body, love myself, and open my heart to others <3
Alexandra captivates with her wisdom, raw storytelling, poems, and advice. I truly couldn't put the book down. Unlike most self help books I loved that Alexandra describes her methods without forcing or acting like her method is the only one. All of her healing experiments (dancing with snakes, taking plant medicines, producing and acting in films about her personal experiences) she says repeatedly are not required but definitely do enrich the story and the book!
Highly recommend this book as these teachings have helped me tremendously to listen to my body, love myself, and open my heart to others <3
August 14, 2020
Sad to see so many negative reviews of this book from people not interested in spirituality, self help and curse words - which makes me wonder what they thought a book called “F*ck Like a Goddess” would be about.
Roxo is a Lode Star for sexual, spiritual and emotional liberation. Her stories, pains and anxieties are familiar and shared by far too many women. I love her embodied, fiery approach to spirituality and healing. I love her commitment to supporting women. I love how honest and raw she is. All these things come across in her book.
I think it will be a great addition to any bookshelf of someone looking to shake up their life, the system and their relationship to their body. It’s accessible And engaging enough to read in an afternoon, has enough exercises in to keep you busy for months (or a lifetime..) and brave enough to make a lasting impression
Roxo is a Lode Star for sexual, spiritual and emotional liberation. Her stories, pains and anxieties are familiar and shared by far too many women. I love her embodied, fiery approach to spirituality and healing. I love her commitment to supporting women. I love how honest and raw she is. All these things come across in her book.
I think it will be a great addition to any bookshelf of someone looking to shake up their life, the system and their relationship to their body. It’s accessible And engaging enough to read in an afternoon, has enough exercises in to keep you busy for months (or a lifetime..) and brave enough to make a lasting impression
August 2, 2021
F.L.A.G. was written for the spiritually minded woman, and it's not just a sex book. It's about femininity, liberation, energy and being actively engaged in life. The activities Roxo suggests were powerful- journaling to people in the past and creating a ritual around saying goodbye, not directly to them, but by speaking it into the mirror at yourself and listening to if it sounded true or not, and getting curious as to why. The book is about shedding the layers we as women have taken on, a collective blanket or burden that maybe once served us, but has also stifled.
September 7, 2023
An empowering read about deprograming from societal imprints to rediscover your voice and enjoy all of life’s pleasures
January 22, 2021
First things first: If you choose the title “Fuck Like a Goddess,” you damn sure should make sure you are explaining how to do so. Of course you have to get all the way through the book before she discusses it and it feel like, “Meh, just fuck the universe and you now fuck like a Goddess.” Poof. Magic. Ugh.
Second, I very much appreciated her acknowledgment of privilege. I was frustrated as she discussed things she had done with other healers and didn’t explain what those things were, why she did them, and the results she experienced. While I had heard of a few healing methods, they were few, and having a greater understanding would have been appreciated.
Third, I liked the first half of the book more than the 2nd half because it felt as if the ideas she was providing had been previously discussed in a different section. By the time we got a bit more than half through, it reminded me of the British comedy show, “The IT Crowd” where the guys in IT are constantly asking the callers if they have Turned the computer off and then on. Just same blanket “prescription” for a different “block.”
I did really enjoy the reference to the feminine Devine (which had me immediately ordering/saving audiobooks from the library.
For the most part, I have heard a lot of advice about journaling (and if you are in the same circles who discuss The Artist’s Way), utilizing art in any way....BUT the two things I was SO, SO excited about was sound and body work. Making sounds, singing and dancing...yelling and screaming. I instantly added those ideas to my potential morning routine.
I don’t recommend this book....it just didn’t deliver.
Second, I very much appreciated her acknowledgment of privilege. I was frustrated as she discussed things she had done with other healers and didn’t explain what those things were, why she did them, and the results she experienced. While I had heard of a few healing methods, they were few, and having a greater understanding would have been appreciated.
Third, I liked the first half of the book more than the 2nd half because it felt as if the ideas she was providing had been previously discussed in a different section. By the time we got a bit more than half through, it reminded me of the British comedy show, “The IT Crowd” where the guys in IT are constantly asking the callers if they have Turned the computer off and then on. Just same blanket “prescription” for a different “block.”
I did really enjoy the reference to the feminine Devine (which had me immediately ordering/saving audiobooks from the library.
For the most part, I have heard a lot of advice about journaling (and if you are in the same circles who discuss The Artist’s Way), utilizing art in any way....BUT the two things I was SO, SO excited about was sound and body work. Making sounds, singing and dancing...yelling and screaming. I instantly added those ideas to my potential morning routine.
I don’t recommend this book....it just didn’t deliver.
September 14, 2021
There is a lot in this book I rolled my eyes heavily at, a lot in which I don't subscribe or believe, but there was also a great deal of content here that was timely for my current stage of life. There's good stuff in here about body acceptance, body positivity, self-love, healing from sexual trauma, and being a woman through different stages of life. I did appreciate much of it, regardless of the chunks I rejected. It was worth it to wade through the portions I didn't appreciate for the content that came to me at the right time of life.
February 26, 2020
I think this book is definitely the "different strokes for different folks" type of book. (Literally). This was very much more of a spiritual book than I was expecting. Given that that is not me whatsoever, this book didn't really "click" with me.
I would definitely recommend this book if you think that's your thing and that's why there are so many different types of self help books!
Thanks to NetGalley for giving me an ARC in exchange for an honest review!
I would definitely recommend this book if you think that's your thing and that's why there are so many different types of self help books!
Thanks to NetGalley for giving me an ARC in exchange for an honest review!
July 9, 2020
I had difficulty getting into this book. Although the title really grabbed me, I think this book is more for those who have experienced sexual trauma. Unfortunately, I didn't get a lot out of it. I did like some ideas, such as seeing your vagina as a sacred portal and listening to it daily, and starting a surrender practice. But I was hoping for more ideas on things you can do with your partner.
September 12, 2020
I DNFed this book. I tried reading it for the first 20% or so but I just couldn't get anything out of it for me personally and just skimmed through the rest. I liked the title which sounded empowering and intriguing but in the end I wasn't taking in any of the information that I was reading.
December 12, 2022
Wish every women would read this. Raw. Vulnerable. All inclusive. Just like a woman. I don't see an author bragging here, I saw a person who went to various experience without fear and judgement. Why the fuck she shouldn't talk about it? Fuck yes for her! Fuck yes for me! Fuck yes for you all!
August 14, 2020
I thought this was going to be a badass book and really it just scratched the surface of self-help and tells you to journal. Nothing groundbreaking.
June 1, 2025
The first half of the book is more geared toward people with sexual trauma and shame centered around sex but the last half I took away some good thoughts. You can skip around without reading the whole book. It was good just not a lot applied to me
July 8, 2021
This book has the power to change the world
July 28, 2021
Waste of time and money!
If you really wanna know what this book is about just listen to any interview/podcast with this writer online.
If you really wanna know what this book is about just listen to any interview/podcast with this writer online.
February 2, 2023
I thought this book would be powerful and empowering but it was mostly about the author sharing her own personal stories. She touched up on a few things that will help the audience heal with their traumas, and shared a few good exercises, but she doesn't go deeper into it. Also, the book is very spiritual. She talks about psychedelics, nature and rituals and you have to be the right audience for this book. It is a niche topic. And this book wasn't for me at all.
The beginning had lots of potential; how to recognize your deepest traumas and how to heal. However, she kept repeating 'I'll show you how' but instead she focused on her own experiences. I get it, it is useful to share them so some people can relate to, but I felt like it was all about her. It felt like at times she was boasting about her wildness and how comfortable and open she is with herself and her sexual experiences. Good for her! And it's good she can be herself and healed from her sexual trauma.
But, talking about thanking people that gave you the trauma is ironic for me. And also, when she referred to excusing her dad for treating her like that because of his own demons. We all have our traumas and past demons, but we shouldn't be treated like that or treat others like that because as she says, this creates problems later on in life. So why thank them or excuse them for making us feel like that, for giving us all this trauma?
Also we can't blame society for everything. I understand Earth and nature helped her to heal. But not every trauma and how we're treated is because of society. Someone can be toxic or unhealthy towards us because of their personality, opinions and who they are as a person, not because society taught them to be like that. Many people are more open and accepting towards changes in society, but when it comes to their personalities and treating others, they can be toxic. I understand, it might be of personal trauma, or because they are not comfortable with themselves or open to be themselves, but that doesn't have to be about society. But them as individuals.
Another turn off how was she talks about helping a person heal individually, finding their voice and inner self, but then she keeps referring to the collective healing. I understand as a society, we're not perfect, but we can't be the ones who will change people, or heal them or teach them how to love themselves or be themselves. Yes, we can be a positive influence, but in the end is about them individually doing the work. We can't change the world, only better ourselves and that's what will change the world! So why be the ones to do the collective healing when it's not our job?
The beginning had lots of potential; how to recognize your deepest traumas and how to heal. However, she kept repeating 'I'll show you how' but instead she focused on her own experiences. I get it, it is useful to share them so some people can relate to, but I felt like it was all about her. It felt like at times she was boasting about her wildness and how comfortable and open she is with herself and her sexual experiences. Good for her! And it's good she can be herself and healed from her sexual trauma.
But, talking about thanking people that gave you the trauma is ironic for me. And also, when she referred to excusing her dad for treating her like that because of his own demons. We all have our traumas and past demons, but we shouldn't be treated like that or treat others like that because as she says, this creates problems later on in life. So why thank them or excuse them for making us feel like that, for giving us all this trauma?
Also we can't blame society for everything. I understand Earth and nature helped her to heal. But not every trauma and how we're treated is because of society. Someone can be toxic or unhealthy towards us because of their personality, opinions and who they are as a person, not because society taught them to be like that. Many people are more open and accepting towards changes in society, but when it comes to their personalities and treating others, they can be toxic. I understand, it might be of personal trauma, or because they are not comfortable with themselves or open to be themselves, but that doesn't have to be about society. But them as individuals.
Another turn off how was she talks about helping a person heal individually, finding their voice and inner self, but then she keeps referring to the collective healing. I understand as a society, we're not perfect, but we can't be the ones who will change people, or heal them or teach them how to love themselves or be themselves. Yes, we can be a positive influence, but in the end is about them individually doing the work. We can't change the world, only better ourselves and that's what will change the world! So why be the ones to do the collective healing when it's not our job?
November 30, 2022
So…there’s a lot of good shit in this book. There’s an extensive content warning and a lengthy note about white privilege that I think is often forgotten when discussing healing work. The book has a whole chapter on healing sexual trauma and many of the concepts there are things I’ve worked on in therapy. There’s also a lot of good content about being in the present moment, making the space to work through things you’re feeling, etc.
But…there’s a lot I didn’t like. The book is chock full of wishy-washy new age language like container, womb, sacred, magic, etc. etc. that privileged white women have taken on as their own. I’m more of a peer-reviewed science kind of gal and this book was missing literally ANY references (other than two books: Come As You Are and The Body Keeps the Score - both written by qualified people thank god).
Would I recommend it? For the overarching concepts and for the continued encouragement to take time for yourself and work through tough feelings, yes. Otherwise no.
But…there’s a lot I didn’t like. The book is chock full of wishy-washy new age language like container, womb, sacred, magic, etc. etc. that privileged white women have taken on as their own. I’m more of a peer-reviewed science kind of gal and this book was missing literally ANY references (other than two books: Come As You Are and The Body Keeps the Score - both written by qualified people thank god).
Would I recommend it? For the overarching concepts and for the continued encouragement to take time for yourself and work through tough feelings, yes. Otherwise no.
December 27, 2021
I found this book lying outside in my village so I took it home and decided to give it a go. The writing came off as fake, as if there was some instagram filter over her own experiences, and lo and behold, she is an influencer. She's vague about everything: what is the Western culture (America?), what are the precise indigenous cultures she so admires; surely they're not all the same blob. She loves ayahuasca (not a bad thing per se I guess) and journaling while lying in a "nest" made on the floor. She fucked up language by being imprecise and treating everything as if it was a synonym.
Yet, the previous owner dog-eared all the exercises in the book, so I can only assume that it has some worth in its message: love yourself so you may love the world. There are better books out there that spread this message but I guess this one can be a start?
Yet, the previous owner dog-eared all the exercises in the book, so I can only assume that it has some worth in its message: love yourself so you may love the world. There are better books out there that spread this message but I guess this one can be a start?
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