I am once again pressed for time, but want to get a review posted; I apologize for not doing this book justice.
It is actually more like 4.5 stars; I found the characters compelling and the nuanced details both educational and entertaining. This is not a happy book, it is raw and true. Murphy tells the story of a priviledged 2nd generation Iraqi immigrant who goes to Harvard to become a journalist and is then stationed in Iraq. Rita is in the unique position of emphathizing with the locals, while also being fully Americanized herself.
Murphy uses the platform both to criticize the war and to emphasize the need for slow withdrawl and support; I was amazed when reading to compare/think about the ways that we just did the exact same thing to Afghanastan. In particular, near the end, when they are interviewing the woman who helps Iraqi refugees in CA get settled, I was reminded of many discussions last year about how to help settle Afgahnis in WI: "the people in our community here, especially when they first arrive, they need help with everything. Where to sign up for health care services, how to get their kids in school, what is and isn't legal here compared with Iraq, how to get your license for the ones who need to drive, how to drive American-style. I mean there is so much to adjust to."
I was also struck throughout with the fact that Syria was the stable, haven; I did not know that "back in the day" and certainly now Syria is no longer such.
The entire region has been decimated over the past 30-60 years (depending on which country we focus on) while we (average American) pretend that there is not a war happening: "Americna, he soon noted, has the lightest and brightest look in their eyes, the look of never having seen injury or untimely death occur, of never fearing that their state would not keep them safe." Colonial America at its worst.
Murphy also gives a lot of good press to mental health: he explains trauma fairly well (and the ways that it is not always predictible) and is generous to the "shooter" character (yes, BD is bipolar, but he also has an aunt that loves him and has suffered himself).
He also touches on immigrant work ethic, domestic relationships, as well as LGBTQIA issues, gender, and cultural constraints on one's individuality.
Overall I really enjoyed it, but it is certainly not for the faint of heart; this is not a happy story, it is the struggle of suffering individuals who have experienced a lot of terrible things.