A daughter’s memoir of her mother evolves beautifully into a narrative of the sweeping changes in women’s lives in the twentieth century.
Our Revolution, vivid and rich, reads like a nineteenth-century novel as we follow the love story of a woman and her family through the twentieth-century civil rights, antiwar, and feminist movements. Born into Boston society in 1923, Jenny Moore rebelled by going to college and later emerged as a writer. At twenty-one, she married Paul Moore, a decorated war hero who became Bishop Paul Moore, and joined him in a socially radical ministry. Eventually, they had nine children. “Everything was just starting,” Jenny protested—meaning a new independent life inspired by the women’s rights movement—when she was diagnosed with cancer at fifty.
Jenny bequeathed her eldest daughter her unfinished writing, and there Honor Moore finds the mother whose loss had long haunted her. Our Revolution is a gripping account of two women navigating the twentieth century and a daughter’s story of the mother who shaped her life as an artist and a woman.
Honor Moore is the author of Our Revolution; The Bishop’s Daughter, a National Book Critics Circle Award finalist; The White Blackbird, a New York Times Notable Book; and three poetry collections. A professor at the New School, she lives in New York City.
“Our Revolution: A Mother and Daughter at Midcentury” (2020) is the third book poet/memoirist Honor Moore has written about her family, and is a remarkable and compelling tribute to the life of her mother Jenny McKean Moore (1923-73). Jenny Moore, a woman of faith, when she wasn’t closely involved rearing her nine children, spent most of her life advocating for civil and women’s rights, racial equality and social justice—and wrote the notable book: “The People on Second Street” (1968).
Honor Moore (1945-) educated at the Yale School of Drama and Radcliffe College, was living independently when her mother confided in her that she was having problems in her marriage. Honor wouldn’t begin to understand the meaning of her mother’s words until decades had passed. Her parents were a “power couple" of their time: Father Paul Moore Jr. (1919-2003) was appointed the Episcopal bishop of the diocese of New York. Honor’s wealthy prominent parents had once been received in the white house by President and Mrs. John F. Kennedy, and were affiliated with notable politicians, academics, intellectuals and other famous individuals of that era.
When Honor’s mother passed away from cancer at age 50, Honor was bequeathed her mother’s papers, letters, unfinished writing and manuscripts--and was determined to be a successful writer. Honor wrote in great detail in “Our Revolution” of wealth and privilege, politics, women’s liberation, gay rights, the (Vietnam) anti-war demonstrations, and the great impact of social and cultural changes of the 1960’s-70’s.
Delving into the study of her family history, Honor eventually viewed her mother’s decision to pursue an independent life without self-pity or blame as heroic, though at the time Jenny Moore was harshly judged by others and likely forfeited a portion of her inheritance. It is also important to recognize that the gift of healing can occur within a family when situations and family history might be seen from another perspective. Family photographs generously included. Honor Moore is also the author of “White Blackbird: A Life of the Painter Margarett Sargent” (1996) - “The Bishop’s Daughter” (2008) - and three poetry collections, she lives in New York City. **With thanks to W.W. Norton and Company via NetGalley for the ADC for the purpose of review.
A beautifully written biographical narrative of the efforts of three generations of women (Margarett Williams Sargent, Jenny Moore, and Honor Moore) to define themselves as persons against the backdrop of male hierarchy and societal change over the course of the twentieth century. It is also the story of a daughter seeking to understand her mother as a person and make sense of her family's complex, painful, rich, and privileged history. It is this latter element -- the privilege and wealth that opened doors to contacts and experiences that most Americans will never know -- that at times made it hard for this reader, at least, to identify with the author's story, even though many of the themes in this narrative transcended class and race. Still the writing is impeccable and the integration of her mother's writings into the narrative gives the story an intimacy that is hard to resist.
I would like to thank Net Galley, the publisher, and the author for allowing me access to an advanced copy of this book in exchange for an honest and fair review.
I have been thinking for a few years about what my mother's life was like, being an adult wife and mother in the middle of the 20th century. When I saw the subtitle of this book, I knew I wanted to read it. I was not disappointed. The author was left all of her mother's writing and notes when her mother died. Their lives were very different from my mother and me, but I gained valuable insights into both our lives reading this book. Highly recommend.
Despite having a fascinating family background and being an esteemed writer and teacher of writing, like too many of us Honor Moore tells her own story uncritically, dropping names here and there and wallowing in sadness. For this reason, the story of her mother's unlikely liberation which pairs with Honor's is more compelling, and excerpts from Jenny Moore's writing more finely wrought.
Honor's story as the first of nine children of the Episcopalian Bishop of New York and Jenny Moore, a social activist like her husband Paul Moore, was one of entitlement since this family was among the very richest in America. Despite this distance, perhaps because Honor Moore is my contemporary, I did feel connections. When I reached the final part of Honor Moore's memoir, which takes place in the Cleveland Park neighborhood of Washington, DC, I recognized several of my friends among Jenny's closest friends. I might add that my mother read and then reacted to the same books as Jenny Moore. My mother's liberation was more complete, perhaps because Jenny Moore was frightfully worn out by bearing and loving nine children and by participating in (spoiler alert) a sham marriage. Should the title Our Revolution be taken ironically?
Full disclosure: I have known the author for over 30 years and am biased in her favor. That said, I did not expect to be captivated by this astounding memoir about the author and her mother, an author herself who left her unfinished writings to Honor Moore in a bequest. Moore combed through volumes of unfinished prose, personal letters between both parents and other private and public materials and painted a portrait of a woman, her mother, striving for independence and recognition in her own right. Brava!
A memoir is a hard thing for a writer to get right. “Too indulgent”. “Too much information, please, we don’t need to hear what you had for dinner on October 16, 1989”. “Too long”. “Too short”, are just a few of the criticism I’ve read over the years in reviews of memoirs. Remember, a memoir is not an autobiography but rather a much shorter slice of a person’s life. Honor Moore’s new memoir, “Our Revolution: A Mother and Daughter at Mid-Century” is a bit too long and shares a bit too much with the reader.
“Our Redvolution” is not the first memoir I’ve read by Honor Moore. Many years ago, she wrote “The Bishop’s Daughter”, which was the story of her father, a famous Episcopal minister who rose up the Episcopal leadership ranks, while hiding the secret of his bisexuality. Honor, the oldest of nine children born to Paul and Jenny Moore, was a witness to her parents marriage and its decline. The parents never divorced because Jenny Moore died of cancer in her late 40’s. I’ve always thought memoirs are written as a way of figuring out one’s life and putting some order to it. In her case, Honor tries to make sense of her parents’s lives.
Moore tries to apply logic to Jenny’s activities. Born to a wealthy Boston family with its share of mental problems, Jenny was raised with a mother who spent long stretches of time in psychiatric hospitals. She attended Vassar and Barnard and chased and caught Paul Moore, a young soldier from a similar background. It was wartime and people married young. They began a life together, had nine children (either a sports team or a small orchestra), and moved around the country as Paul Moore climbed the church hierarchy. They were liberals and participated with honest conviction in civil rights and peace and other socially worthwhile causes. But Jenny Moore lived a life of quiet unhappiness. Overwhelmed by children (Why have nine? Seriously...), church duties, and her own unfulfilled dreams and desires, Jenny traveled down the same route as her mother, spending a couple of months at Payne Whitney. Finally, she died of liver cancer.
I’m not sure WHO Honor Moore found when she sat down to write about her mother and the influences Jenny and Honor had on each other. Even in as long a book as it is, I still can’t quite get a “handle” on Jenny Moore. Is that my fault or Honor Moore’s? However, I did enjoy the book.
My rating is based on several points. First of all, I felt like this book conquered too much to digest. It was very hard for me reading through eras of historical information, most of it beyond my realm. I struggle with my poor history background. I acknowledge that. I didn't have many interesting teachers who knew how to bring history to life. Ironically, because of that, I did teach History one year and did so well that the other teachers were amazed at how I would introduce projects into their studies, and how much the at-risk students gained from them. But, enough about me. That was the first and last year I taught History. I struggled through History prep lessons ten times as hard as the students had to learn it. In short, I was more of the student, and it was very scary.
History is just not an interest of mine. An exception is the Diary of Anne Frank, which I LOVE! I feel like you could totally understand the 3 D experience of the Holocaust without picking up another historical book. That book concentrated on one time in History, and did it well. I felt like Our Revolution marched through too much information too rapidly, with so many characters throughout the story. It makes it hard to digest the lessons. I am very much a "lessons" person. I am the same way reading the Bible. The Old Testament is challenging with all of the names and stuff going on. The New Testament is about the lessons we should know. So that is my background in providing this review.
The second reason why I gave this story three stars is that I felt like the REAL story did not start closer til the middle of the book. Even though I know that the grandma was not supposed to be one of the "stars" of the show, she somehow was for a while. I have not read any of the other books in the series. I was fascinated by the grandma, and how she was highly intelligent, but not able to care for herself due to her mental disability. People understand so much more about those things now. I wonder if they even still shock people who have problems? Anyway, I was not impressed with Honor's mom as a young student in college, and playing the "hard-to-get" girl. I felt like the antics she pulled prolonged her from her eventual marriage with Paul Moore. BUT, once the story began (for me) after she married, everything that was written suggested to me that she had it all way together more than the average mom. I had only two children, and know ALL the struggles I went through, even spacing them 8 years apart. I even took off a total of 14 years from teaching due to issues my children had. I never once read about any issues that any of her nine plus children had. My grandma had nine children, and they all turned out quite well. How she was able to run a household and do all that charitable work supporting her husband is amazing to me. I know that Honor felt like her mom was not good to her because she slapped her three times in her life. I would have happily switched places. I grew up poor in the South in the Bible Belt, where using a belt was the rule. I understand Honor's struggle with the hardship of getting lost in the shuffle. It is even harder on a first child to be always expected to help more and do more.
I felt that Honor's view was that her mom was bad, and her dad was good. Yet, her mom supposedly did not cheat on her dad until well after she discovered his "alternate" lifestyle. And that is another thing that personally bothered me, because my faith does not believe in that "alternate lifestyle. It really didn't make sense. It seems like either the mom would have mentioned examples of how she knew Paul was unfaithful, or the children could look back and and realize that times gone and behaviors he exhibited were huge clues. I don't know how you can keep that kind of secret from nine children and a wife, unless all of them never expected him to come home at a decent time and spend any length of time there. I guess I will have to read the other book. It is hard when secondary characters in a memoir are barely addressed. It is hard to put the pieces together.
I felt bad that Honor's relationships with men seemed to be just as unstable as her mom's. However, I took offense to another reviewer stating that her mom was just like her grandma. NO, SHE WAS NOT! I take this personally, as my grandma's side had lots of mental illness, and suffered due to poverty (my rich grandfather divorced her and did little for her or the children he left behind, minus one child.) I know what it was like growing up wondering if I would have it, and being accused of having it because I was very much shy and an introvert. I will agree that both the grandma and mom had mental illness. But her grandma had it to the point that she didn't even realize it and could not function. Her mom had a series of events and hardships put on her (raising nine plus children, all kinds of charity work, her husband rejecting her), that her body and mind became tired and she fell into a huge depression. She need a break! She needed permission to stop being everything for everyone else and just be HERSELF! I think that was Jenny Moore's revelation. It is sad that she had the horrible car accident and later died of cancer, as that was when JENNY'S life began. She was on the upswing of not having to raise children. She could do anything she wanted. She could have a new relationship. It hurts that she died too soon. My mom died when she was in her early 50's. I so totally get it. My dad had retired 2 months earlier. She was happy, eating out, enjoying her 2 grands. When you think of an individual as worthy of a separate life, that means that they can selfishly pick for themselves. Then you realize it is tragedy when they never got to do so. However, Jenny did get to write. And that was probably the best legacy that Margaret left her. If I remember right, Margaret wrote as well as illustrated. And now it seems like Jenny has left her writing skills to Honor.
After reading this memoir, I am convinced that Honor was well-loved by her mom, and passed on the legacy to her. I love the name Honor. I felt like she took her time, and gave her a wonderful name, and wish the best for Honor in the years to come. I think that if Jenny had lived long enough, she would have apologized or explained her side of what raising all those siblings was like, moving over and over, and dealing with a husband who rejected her in the ultimate worse way possible.
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as i was reading, i kept thinking of the women in my life: my mom, my grandma, and my great grandma (who from what i know, even though she died when i was a baby, was a lot like moore's mother). how they shaped me - and how they didn't. sometimes it amazes me that i even came from them because we're so dissimilar in a lot of ways, but i think what moore said in the last chapter of the book - that generations are literally and figuratively revolutions of what came before them - holds true in my case. so much of what was discussed through a 1940s-70s lens is still so relevant right now.
i enjoyed that the book was written less like what i think of a memoir to be and more like a novel; that made it easy and engrossing to read. i didn't click with moore's writing choices in a few places, but that didn't take away from my overall experience.
If you, dear reader, have struggled with the history between your mother and yourself, trying to bring many broken and tangled threads into a cohesive weaving, this might be your book.
“Our Revolution “” spoke deeply to my mid-century childhood and growing into a woman attempting to be totally separated from my mother only to run into her internally nearly every single day inside my heart and head.
The resonance of the powerful bonds of mothering & daughter-ing, the attraction and repulsion that Honor Moore so candidly and deftly records in this autobiography/biography will catch many in a familiar unpacking a lifetime of emotions.
This work was refreshingly honest as well as sometimes being cringe-worthily raw. But isn’t that life?
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A unique memoir that is beautifully rendered about the emotional, physical, and psychological connections between a mother and her oldest child. (There were nine in all.) Unlike any memoir I've ever read, this book pierces the mind and heart by its distinct story written with astounding lyricism. For anyone who has a mother, who appreciates illustrative prose, and for those who may seek to understand our deepest feelings about mother and child.
A daughter takes the pages her Mother had bequeathed her years earlier and weaves them into the story of her Mother, their relationship, and the journey from pre-War society to racial and social justice reforms, from dropping out of college to focus on supporting a husband's career and an increasing number of children to learning to make time for oneself and to use creativity and strength not on the vacuum cleaner, but on her own desires.
This was a memoir of a young woman writing about her mother and her life. It was okay. It wasn’t life changing and I really didn’t get much out of it. It seemed to me that it was a super rich family that had a lot of advantages, affairs and issues that was just trying to normal in a very unnormal time.
I had a hard time reading this but also couldn’t put it down. It was a look-back in a mother’s life with the daughter entering from her perspective but then seeing how she didn’t always have the full picture of what her mom was going through. So fascinating.
Being a mother with nine children is never, ever easy. Her mother was willing to bury her dreams even if she was free she could have pursue her dreams. Good memoir indeed.
Memoir & Biography. A very interesting and complex grandmother, mother, both very different and extraordinary. Enter generation three. I did not learn as much about the daughter (author) as I would have liked, to finish fitting the dynamics together. Worth a read just for the family history and someone more perceptive than I might find closure in the relationship.