Do the Work: The Official Unrepentant, Ass-Kicking, No-Kidding, Change-Your-Life Sidekick to Unfu*k Yourself

by Gary John Bishop

HarperOne Trade Paperback Original
Based on the life-changing lessons from the New York Times bestseller that has sold more than a million copies, a practical, hands-on guide that helps you do the work you need to change your life.

In Unfu*k Yourself, Gary John Bishop inspired people to put his words into action to help them transform their fu*king lives. While millions of fans have read and embraced the messages in the book , Bishop knows it can be hard to actually take the next step and do the necessary work. Written in his no nonsense, tough-love voice, Do the Work is the kick in the ass you need to get moving and create the life you want. By drilling down into the three categories of self, people, and purpose, he helps us identify and remedy the primary problems and challenges that frustrate and often cripple us.

Filled with new material, Do the Work expands the lessons in Unfu*k Yourself, giving us the tools to identify, explore, and understand our specific issues and root them out. As Bishop make clear, “this is a personal workshop for your brain, a legit resource where you can work your life out, what matters to you, whats going to make the biggest difference and empower you to act in ways that make some palpable change to the direction your life is currently taking.”

So what are you waiting for?

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Audiobook, Psychology, Personal Development, Productivity, Business

135 pages, Kindle Edition

First published October 22, 2019

About the author

Gary John Bishop began his life journey in Glasgow, Scotland. The grit and wit of his early life have contributed to his tough-love, in-your-face approach to coaching. Coupled with world-class training and development, Gary has created a potent brew of effectiveness and the ability to reach through the crust of people's lives and root out the deeper issues that consume them and tie them to their hurdles. His ability to elevate and expand people's greatness makes the kind of life-altering impact that is so rare in the industry. Gary's hyper-awareness and years of elite training allow him to assess each client and guide them to the path that best expresses their lives; with micro precision, he cuts straight to the heart of what is going to make a difference.

Gary's experience and quick ascent to becoming a senior program director for one of the world's leading personal development organizations is proof that he is dedicated and committed to what is possible for every client and person he encounters. He doesn't claim perfection. He's been through life and doesn't sugar coat his folly. He uses his experience as both a human and a world class coach to mentor and coach people to raise the bar higher for what they once thought would be their greatest self.

Gary John Bishop is one of the leading Personal Development experts in the industry with a global reputation that has impacted tens of thousands of people worldwide. His "urban philosophy" approach represents a new wave of personal empowerment and life mastery that has caused miraculous results for people in the quality and performance of their lives.
 He calls it like it is while being influenced by ontology, phenomenology and the philosophy of some of the world's greatest thinkers. You be inspired, unburdened and grounded. Working with Gary creates the space to be an altered version of you. The greatness you once imagined becomes a reality, only its bigger, better and more incredibly freeing than you dreamed it could be. His work life changing.

Gary is willing to say what needs to be said. His writing is a higher level experience and the benefits of his philosophies have touched lives worldwide.

Reviews

[EMMA · Rating 2 out of 5]

من صوتی این کتابو گوش دادم و بنظرم خیلی بامزه بود اجرای گوینده! بیشتر از گوینده خوشم اومد تا خود نویسنده😂
همش به کتاب معروفش اشاره میکرد که گویا به اسم خودت را به فنا نده ترجمه شده.
زمانش هم کم بود یه ساعت و نیم اینا شایدم کمتر🧐
در کل حرفش این بود تو مسئول زندگی خودت هستی و هرچی پیش اومده تو زندگیت قبولش کن و سعی کن تغییرش بدی.
این دیدگاهو من قبول دارم کامل، مثلا خونه شما داره آتیش میگیره خب میتونید تو آتیش بمونید و بسوزید و همش در حال این باشید که بگید بخاطر فلان چیز آتیش سوزی شروع شد و دنبال مقصر باشید یا اینکه خودتونو از آتیش نجات بدید!
با اینکه من مکتب اگزیستانسیالیسم رو یجورایی دوس دارم ولی بنظرم همه نمیتونن از اتیش نجات پیدا کنن و متاسفانه راه‌حلی برای اونا ارائه نشده و همین یکم اذیت کنندس.
مثلا شما یه زن متولد منطقه محروم هستید و از یه خونواده ریدمان مغز، ببخشید منظورم سنتی مذهبی بود هستید. تو سن پایین شما را به ازدواج مجبور میکنن مثلا تو این شرایط اون دختر باید چیکار کنه؟ ازدواج نکنه سرش رو سینشه که، بعدا هم بخواد جدا بشه که باز میزنن میکشنش! مثلا تو این شرایط که تو آتیش گیر کرده چطوری باید خودشو نجات بده؟
امروز یه سری استوری دیدم شاید هم شما دیده باشید، اینکه یکی از بلاگرها برگشته ایران و خب ماشینشو میبره تعمیرگاه یه بچه رو میبینه تو مغازست که اهل افغانستانه و بخاطر طالبان فرار کرده، میفهمه پولی که ماهیانه به این بچه ۱۲، ۱۳ ساله میده «صد و پنجاه هزارتومنه»!!!!!!!! فک کن با دلار سی تومنی حقوقت صدوپنجاه تومن باشه. خیلی ذهنمو درگیر کرد این قضیه چون از فضای مجازی و اخبار و این چیزا فاصله گرفتم و یادم نبود چه فقر و بدبختی بر جامعه حاکمه، یجورایی یادآوری بود.
سوال اینجاست این بچه با حقوق صد وپنجاه تومن یعنی پنج دلار در ماه چطوری خودشو از اتیش سوزی نجات بده؟
متاسفانه من فقط با حرفای انگیزشی و اینا مشکل ندرام با مکاتب فلسفی هم مشکل دارم😅 چون کاملا ایده آل گرانه هستش. بله خودم میدونم زندگی ناعادلانه است، ولی وقتی کسی میاد یه چیزیو بیان میکنه باید راه حلش هم رو بگه!
خب این افرادی که مثال زدم آقای نویسنده چطوری مسئولیت زندگیشونو قبول کنن و سعی در تغییرش داشته باشن؟!! یا چطوری هدف تعیین کنن؟ چیکار کنن از این سیکل بدبختی بیان بیرون؟
اصلا به این افراد اجازه داده میشه که سواد داشته باشن که بتونن هدفشونو روی کاغذ بنویسن؟
آیا با حقوق صد و پنجاه تومن در ماه با فرض داشتن سواد آیا اصلا میشه کاغذ و خودکاری خرید که بخوایم هدف‌هامونو بنویسیم؟

[Moha Dem · Rating 3 out of 5]

Just 3 stars.
This was great, but it was cut short, like he was holding on to some ideas, may be even he sometimes sounded like those motivational speakers he hates so much.
But, I really grew to like the guy, he is an example for real.

[Yodamom · Rating 5 out of 5]

I loved Un Fu*k Yourself and this one made it even better. His tone works for me, he's not saying anything new he's just saying it crisp and clear. His method is one of self responsibility, woah image being responsible for your own life and not playing. the blame game No one is going to save you, save yourself, lift yourself stop being a fu*king baby. Being stuck sucks, get up do the work and make your life more.
Yeh I loved it.

[Gypsy · Rating 3 out of 5]

بد نبود. بهش زیادی نمره دادن به نظرم. چیزهای خوبی می‌گه، تمرینات خوبی هم داره که آدم می‌تونه چند بار برگرده انجام‌شون بده. ولی یه اعتمادبه‌نفسی نویسنده داره توی حرف‌هاش که منو پس می‌زنه. بماند که حرف‌هاش شواهدمحور و علمی نیست و بر پایۀ تجربیات خودشه.

[Latasha · Rating 5 out of 5]

Hot Scottish guy telling you how to stop doing that self-sabotaging shit so you can be happier and more fulfilled? I’ll take 2.

[Karen · Rating 4 out of 5]

"When you're in a constant conversation about why you're stuck, you'll embolden and embellish it. It will become the altar at which you'll sacrifice your entire life experience."

Gary Bishop's no nonsense approach works for me. There's nothing he says that I don't know deep down or haven't heard before. But he cuts to the chase and gives it to you straight. I don't mind the cursing, in fact, it helps me get to the point faster.

"You have to hold yourself to account for your own purpose; no one is coming to save you or lift you up or inspire you. That's your fucking job."

No one. I do the work, or it doesn't get done. I keep having to learn this again and again.

"You are a space for life to happen, a wild and wondrous environment for miracles and hardships and everything in between. You are a moment, a loud bang in a burst of time that trails to a whisper and then disappears into the abyss."

In the end, this is the truth that matters most. No one is coming to save me and I can't save anyone else. I owe it to me to live my best life because I only get one. And I am here for a moment, I want to make that moment as magical as it can be. I don't want to waste it with anxiety or worrying about how I look to others or all the other noise in my head. I want to feel alive and I want to breathe every one of those moments I get.

"Do the work."

And here I go. Off to do the work.

Thank you, Gary, thank you edelweiss and HarperOne for the advanced copy.

[Cat 🐈 · Rating 5 out of 5]

When you read it’s like you were beings hypnotised to do something better for yourself

[Souheila · Rating 4 out of 5]

this Gary guy is triggering an existential crisis

[Alexander Fitzgerald · Rating 5 out of 5]

There's a part of me that does not want to like Gary John Bishop.

He wants you to think he's not like other self-help authors. He's real, man.

But then he goes on and does a lot of the cheesy things they all do. He never seems to truly unchamber the pent up authentic passionate rant that's right below the surface. There's still the sense he's holding back so he can market to a wider audience.

That said, this book is an Audible experience to behold. I got it for $5.00 and it was worth every cent.

Listening to this is like sitting in the corner during a prizefight and having a super eccentric trainer yell at you. Except between all the random speeches he's asking you questions that are exposing all of your internal bullshit.

I still don't love the artificial mainstream palatability, but technique is technique. He drops some serious gems while he's working. He didn't get to his position by chance.

This one got my mind in the zone during a pretty hectic week. It was worth it for that.

[Ling · Rating 3 out of 5]

Mới vô tác giả kêu là "không phải là một người hâm mộ sách self-help" :))))

Quyển này dành cho những bạn trẻ đang lạc lối, ngụp lặn trong mớ bòng bong cuộc đời mình, cần sự chỉ dẫn tức thời, một giải pháp nhanh chóng để thoát ra. Thú vị của sách này là thật ra tác giả không nói nhiều lắm, tác giả cũng là diễn giả nếu nói thì là tái định nghĩa lại một số điều tuy giản dị nhưng người trẻ hay ảo tưởng hoặc suy nghĩ còn cạn cợt. Đúng nghĩa là NÓI. Mình hình dung qua những trang sách là khung cảnh một sân khấu lớn, một diễn giả cầm micro đi qua đi lại, chỉ trỏ, ngôn ngữ cơ thể hết sức linh hoạt để tạo thêm hiệu ứng khi dạy dỗ những bạn trẻ bên dưới đó :D

Khoảng 70% sách là những câu hỏi và khoảng trống để người đọc trả lời. Thật sự danh sách câu hỏi khá hay, giúp nhìn nhận lại hiện tại, quá khứ (nếu tư duy tốt sẽ khám phá ra vấn đề cốt lõi thật sự)... điều rất cần thiết để bắt đầu sắp xếp cuộc đời :D (Thay vì motif thường thấy là chỉ ra hiện trạng và đưa giải pháp ngay lập tức... dựa trên kinh nghiệm của người viết)

[John · Rating 3 out of 5]

This accompanying book to Unf*ck Yourself is a short version with some of the same points as the primary, with just a little more focus on self-reflection. Two things struck me about this book and put me on both sides of the fence about it. In the book, much focus is placed on analyzing what you don't feel capable of and what you believe your limitations are. I will admit this is meant to be a kick-in-the-butt book that stresses getting over yourself and moving forward. I do feel that it failed to even try to bring in any personal positives to help act as motivation to see that limitations are not all you are.

The second, and positive, point I got out of this is that purpose is not some grand external force. It, like motivation, come from within and require internalizing. I do feel that Bishop brought this out quite well. Motivation and purpose are internal - and must be sought there.

So, I'm quite middle-of-the-road on this short piece. I'm glad I read it well after the original, so I could absorb it as a booster shot, rather than right after the first.

[Sasha · Rating 4 out of 5]

An Edgy Titled book That’s Actually Helpful

Actually pretty decent. The questions can be hard to answer but that’s probably the point. The 7 assignments at the end , I believe, are actually well put together. I was worried by the title, but I’m glad I read it. For you see, this is a million times better than a certain orange covered book- similar premise, different author- skirting around the Internet with the facade of “best selling” high stared ratings. If you want an actually helpful self help book with an ‘edgy’ title, grab this book.

[drowningmermaid · Rating 4 out of 5]

The audiobook is kind of great with his Scottish accent swearing at you to do better with your life.

I do feel like some of the messaging feels inconsistent with both "fix yourself to fix your relationships, you ungrateful prick" and "get out of toxic relationships-- if it's dead it can only get deader" given basically equal time with no qualifiers for which is which. Of course, I'd probably be suspicious of any book that tells me what, exactly, to do with all my relationships, since the book's author doesn't have any more knowledge about my personal life than any other complete stranger.

[Youp · Rating 1 out of 5]

Did I miss something? When did people with no credentials or background in anything but self-help and coaching started publishing badly written books, full of broad claims about human nature with no evidence whatsoever? Just like Mark Manson, Gary John Bishop has no background in any relevant field, but is here to tell us all how to fix ourselves. Take some existentialist ideas, heavily water them down without adding any novel insights, then add a lot of profanity - that you describe as 'tough love' - to unsuccessfully cover up the lack of writing skills. F*ck off.

[David Peirce · Rating 2 out of 5]

I haven't read Unfu*k Yourself. I won't bother after reading this. Nothing new here that you can't get in numerous other self-help books: You can change your life. Define your purpose. Yada-yada. All written and marketed as if swear words are the distinction between great and poor advice or the motivation you need to get off your ass.

If you're going to read a book called "Do the Work", read the one by Steven Pressfield instead.

[Ndecker1 · Rating 4 out of 5]

I really enjoyed the overall book. I read it using the audiobook edition. I love his motivational voice and the way he delivers its words. It is a workbook though and that makes it impossible to actually try to complete the tasks without a hard copy of the book.

[Kristine · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really have to take your time and think about the journal prompts. Definitely gets you out of your comfort zone.

[Sarah Cupitt · Rating 4 out of 5]

- Summary: What's standing in your way? Besides money and luck.
- Three pillars - self, people and purpose.
- To get results, you will need to be brutally honest with yourself.
- What if every step you took was filled with purpose?
- Celebrate all outcomes (including perceived failures)
- Prioritise action over thought.
- Experience liberation by consciously honing an expectation-free mindset.

Takeaways:
- Often, we become acutely aware of “dark spots” and, instead of addressing them, adjust our lives to avoid the potential disruptions they might cause. In doing so, we erect a fortress of excuses to shield ourselves from confronting these truths.
- First, identify any traits you feel are “too much” in you – like I'm too passive. Second, explore areas where you feel you're lacking. For instance, I'm not confident enough. Finally, probe the justifications you've made to maintain your status quo.
- Make written promises to yourself. Keep in mind that these promises aren’t set in stone – they can be redefined with changing needs and circumstances. But they should resemble personal contracts, with specific goals, deadlines, and challenges to fuel growth.
- Doing demands courage and to act in unprecedented ways
- Take note of any areas in your life that have become stagnant, and push through with unyielding vigor.
- The life you lead is a reflection of the choices you’ve made and everything you’ve grown to tolerate. If you desire change, you need to challenge these entrenched thought patterns and redefine your personal purpose. In the end, only you can provide yourself with a more purposeful and fulfilling life. So don't just think – act, and take responsibility for your own journey.

[Nando Gigaba · Rating 3 out of 5]

I listened to Gary John Bishop’s Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life in 2021 and wanted to pick up another book from him. His straight talk, no bull sh*t + Scotland accent gave me that military feeling like I’ve got to get up and Do The Work.

What do you know, I discovered he has a book titled Do the Work: The Official Unrepentant, Ass-Kicking, No-Kidding, Change-Your-Life Sidekick to Unfu*k Yourself and I had to pick it up to remind me of the lessons I learned from the previous book.

I didn’t have the same feeling as the first book I listened to from him but it did make me realise I should stop reading/listening to self help books if I’m not ready to “Do The Work” because it defeats the purpose when I don’t don’t follow through on the lessons.

[Jung · Rating 3 out of 5]

"Do the Work" by Gary John Bishop offers readers a transformative guide to breaking free from self-sabotaging behavior patterns and taking control of their lives. The book addresses the internal obstacles that often hinder personal growth, emphasizing that true change begins with confronting the cluttered and negative narratives within our minds. This journey toward self-improvement is structured around three core pillars: self, people, and purpose.

The book highlights the tendency to make excuses as a defense mechanism against addressing personal shortcomings or challenging behaviors. These excuses often become barriers to growth, and Bishop encourages readers to identify these self-tolerated flaws and commit to changing them. By redefining one's self-concept and crafting written promises with specific goals and challenges, individuals can actively challenge their self-imposed limitations.

Bishop also delves into the realm of relationships, urging readers to consider the impact of past experiences on their adult connections. He emphasizes the importance of acceptance, understanding, and forgiveness in healing broken relationships. This applies not only to external relationships but also to the relationship we have with ourselves. Readers are encouraged to practice empathy and love when navigating complex emotional landscapes.

The book further delves into the concept of purpose, asserting that purpose is a driving force that leads to an intentional and meaningful life. Readers are prompted to identify areas in their lives where they lack a sense of purpose and to imagine the potential transformation if they were to fill these voids. Purpose is not a fixed entity but an evolving and redefinable concept. To actively shape one's purpose, individuals must recognize self-sabotaging behaviors that hinder progress and take steps to overcome them.

The book concludes with seven transformative exercises aimed at reshaping thought patterns and neural connections. These exercises encourage readers to embrace change and challenge the status quo, celebrate all outcomes, acknowledge their resilience, dance with uncertainty, prioritize action over thought, cultivate unwavering determination, and free themselves from societal and personal expectations. By engaging with these exercises, readers can alter their mindset and life direction, sculpting a better version of themselves and creating a clearer, more empowered vision of their future.

In summary, "Do the Work" is a guide to self-discovery, transformation, and empowerment. It calls on readers to confront their internal obstacles, redefine their purpose, heal broken relationships, and actively engage in exercises that reshape their neural pathways. The book emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility for one's own journey and making choices that align with their core beliefs and goals. By doing the work, readers can seize control of their lives and break free from self-imposed limitations, ultimately leading to a more purposeful and fulfilling existence.

[Mikala · Rating 4 out of 5]

A good mini accompaniment to Unf*ck Yourself. You have to come to his books when you’re ready. There’s no process, no twelve-steps and literally the only suggestion he ever gives is Just Do It. It sounds stupid but the audiobook version is pretty helpful. It’s like getting a pep-talk from Irish Rocky Balboa or something.

[Rachel]

A Nike ad as a book that demands fewer excuses and more reflection on what you want out of life

Not rating atm but i get how this book can either radicalize someone into changing themselves for the better... or how this book can feel like a less mystical but just as problematic rough and tough version of "The Secret"

[Adriyana Grotseva · Rating 3 out of 5]

I listened to his first book “Unf*ck yourself” and really liked it so decided to hear the other ones too. All audio books are read by the author with his Scottish accent. This one is more like a guide and there is accompanying pdf workbook (https://d1xcdyhu7q1ws8.cloudfront.net...), asking you some questions that you need to answer to yourself honestly. The book is separated into 3 parts: relationship with yourself, relationships with others and purpose. It ends with 7 exercises. This is not typical motivational book but more telling it straight and putting the work, so wouldn't be suitable for people who usually like to listen to motivational speeches like "you are so great, you can do this" but he asks you to put the work, not find excuses and not to believe the hype. Also Gary disagrees with some overall accepted clichés. Some of the things in this book I agree with and some, I found are more personally related to him things that worked and don't really make sense to me or find them applicable.

Relationship with yourself: Don’t allow yourself to back out of things just because you are having thoughts that you can’t do this thing. Just do it instead. Epictetus said: first say to yourself what you would be and then do what you have to do. You are not your thoughts, you are what you do. Do what you have to do and take the steps necessary to be what you would be and stop tolerating the person that you are.
Stop telling yourself you will do something this time. Look in the past and see your behaviour for this thing and how you handled it and use this to predict to see how you will handle it in the future. We are too reactive - it is time to be proactive.

Relationships - you drag those weights in your life and pretend everything is fine, tolerating those. You have relationships that spark anger, resentment, sadness within you or relationships that are just dead, without life or spark, you feel numb. You tell yourself different things to pacify the guilt and avoid the effort of what it actually takes to connect with another or separate with some kind of honor and genuine peace of mind. Often we try to fix our relationships by changing the other person into being something that we want or think they should be. We are trying to make others to be different so we can be our best self. Being an accepting person means you are open to allow others to be who they are, without judging or resenting them. Accepting someone and where they are at in life doesn’t mean you can’t work with them to make the changes they want to make. But if someone doesn’t want to make those changes - you can’t force them change.
Whatever you refuse to forgive, keeps living in you as long as you keep holding to it and affects negatively your life. Forgiveness doesn’t mean letting people of the hook for their bullshit or being used, duped, taken advantage of. Forgiving someone doesn’t make you better than they are (that’s self righteousness). Forgiveness is seeing pass what a person did, don’t compare what you would have done but try to understand where they are coming from given their life and circumstances. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you are allowing same behaviour from the past from you or them. It can also include taking a stand of what you are willing to allow or not in your life. You can forgive and let go (remove them from your life) and do without any cynicism, resentment or lost of who you are.
Relationships shouldn’t be 50-50 because it becomes a game of judgement if the other person also gives their 50. I give my all in so it is up to the other person what they will give. Epictetus said: my brother shouldn’t have treated me this way but it is for him to see that. For my part, however he treats me, I should conduct myself toward him as I ought because that is my business and the rest is not my concern. In this, nobody can hinder me while everything else is subject to hindreds. If a relationship is truly unworkable and no longer serving anyone - then break it, get out of it. Most people rather be miserable than deal with what it takes to make themselves happy. Don’t be that person - it’s a complete sell out on yourself and everyone else when you double down on your own misery.

Purpose - the reason for which something is done, is created or exists. Instead of thinking about something radically different than what you are doing now, think of all areas of your life where you lack direction, fulfilment, aliveness or general sense of going nowhere, wasting your life. Has to come from the life you have and not the one you want to have. Life is not about doing things but rather what do those things mean to you.
I expect nothing and I accept everything. Real freedom and power emerge when you free yourself from the self imposed prison of expectations.

[Patrick Kelly · Rating 5 out of 5]

Do The Work
By Gary John Bishop

- [ ] Love this guy
- [ ] Self, people, purpose
- [ ] You have to be absolutely honest with yourself for this to work
- [ ] Try on the uncomfortable truths about yourself; you are a manipulator, you are a liar. Are you running away from them, not helpful. You have to be completely honest
- [ ] Keeping your personal promises above all else - they are a reflection of your greatest self
- [ ] Do the exercises

- [ ] Self: how willing are you to say that your life is the way it is because of your own self talk?
- [ ] You can change
- [ ] Don’t let the negative self talk win
- [ ] Do what you have to do
- [ ] Stop tolerating who you think you are

- [ ] Questions
- [ ] What are you not enough to of
- [ ] Why do you think you are that way
- [ ] Try this on: you are the way you are because you are avoiding something, you are justifying your situation to yourself
- [ ] It’s not fear or pain
- [ ] Take responsibility for your life
- [ ] What’s the one action that would move you forward/show victory
- [ ] What’s one new thing you can/will do to unfuck this way of life
Now the promise


- [ ] The relationship trap
- [ ] Your relationships don’t work because you are trying to control or change someone. You can’t
- [ ] You don’t know how to have adult relationships
- [ ] You were never taught, no one was
- [ ] Write down the relationships that are the biggest drains
- [ ] What could you do or who could you be of you unfucked X relationship?
- [ ] I did not accept her having a boyfriend, her living a life without me, I did not accept her compartmentalization, I did not accept her excuses, I did not accept her immaturity - dang that is a lot of things that I did not accept
- [ ] What action demonstrates your acceptance of that person the way they are
- [ ] Forgiveness has nothing to do with letting someone off for what they did. It does not mean you are letting that person back in or accepting the behavior. It can actually mean establishing your boundaries and standing up for yourself
- [ ] Forgiveness is relating to the person and understanding them
- [ ] Your ability to forgive is a direct reflection of your peace of mine
- [ ] It’s not about ability to forgive, it’s about your willingness to forgive. You have to be willing to forgive
- [ ] Your forgiveness does not make you a great person
- [ ] What have you been unwilling to forgive and how has it been impacting you?
- [ ] Resentment, frustration, bitterness, angry, and pain
- [ ] Dang, forgiveness leads to freedom
- [ ] This is a great section on forgiveness

- [ ] Courage
- [ ] How others treat you is not your concern, how you treat others is your concern. You can control how you treat others

- [ ] The actions I am taking to demonstrate my acceptance of who they are/my forgiveness of them is X
- [ ] What I now need to take ownership of my actions in this relationship are X
- [ ] I need patience, compassion, etc
- [ ] In this relationship I now promise to be X in this relationship
- [ ] Whenever I am tempted to react or return to my default behavior I will do X instead

- [ ] Purpose
- [ ] Frankl?
- [ ] The reason for existence
- [ ] List three areas that do not reflect how you want your life to go and why these areas are the way they are
- [ ] What is this costing you?
- [ ] I am committing to bring purpose to X
- [ ] Your purpose is your why, it is your reason, your mantra,
- [ ] Your purpose has to been greater than your own internal bull shit. Once your purpose is greater than your hang ups, than you can move forward

- [ ] Seven assignments, from the seven principles in unfu@& yourself
- [ ] Spend at least a day or more focused on each of these - review unfu@& yourself
- [ ] I am willing
- [ ] I am wired to win
- [ ] You are not your thoughts, you are your actions
- [ ] I embrace uncertainty
- [ ] Low expectations, high acceptance
- [ ] I am relentless
- [ ] I got this

- [ ] You are a force of nature, you are unstoppable. You are amazing. Do the work
- [ ] I love this guy. I know it’s a bunch of recycled old world wisdom in a Scottish accent but it speaks to me and I like it
- [ ] I have the hard copy and will go through the assignments

[Wendy · Rating 3 out of 5]

No-BS motivational guide slash journal, more like an addition to "Unf*ck Yourself" and not as good as the predecessor.

I liked it, and the straightforward tone definitely works for me, but it fell short compared to Bishop's first book. It was a bit about everything but not enough about one thing, making it unmemorable; however, it totally worked to motivate me in the present moment.
"You have to hold yourself to account for your own purpose; no one is coming to save you or lift you up or inspire you. That's your fucking job."

Key takeaways:
- "It's all you and your promises - the rest is just noise"
- Stop tolerating the person you think you are or what you're in denial about
- Take responsibility for your own emotions!!
- "We're too reactive, it's time to get productive"
- Be mindful about what you do with your free time, does it contribute to who you want to be?
- Trying to change the other person never works
- Don't blame your behavior on upbringing or childhood
- "No one is coming to lift you or inspire you. That's your fucking job"
- Happy is an attitude; no one will 'make you' an attitude
- "You are your actions, not your thoughts - take a day to do what you normally don't. Eat at that restaurant, buy those pants, go to that service station, get a cup of coffee, talk to the person near."
- You are relentless, but you operate the vast majority of your life in a comfort zone
- Free yourself of dumb self expectations - say 'i expect nothing and accept everything' twice a day for a week
- "You can either indulge your shit and repeat it until you die, or finally change your life. There's no in between"
- "Look at where you're most unhappy and declare a change. Get to work. Too overwhelming? Get to work. Too hard? Get to work. Change happens when you begin to change what you. Start with a small action."

[Jonathan H. MONTES · Rating 3 out of 5]

It's about 50 pages on the Kindle, but not meant for the kindle however. It's a workbook first and a book second.
Going back, I would get the workbook to make it easier, but you can just write the questions down on paper and work from there, making it more personal while still keeping the digital edition.
Personally, I typed all the questions into word and answered them that way after I highlighted them while reading the book.
You can't miss them, they are all in Bold letters.
Here, you will mostly learn about yourself. What triggers you. What triggers you to get angry, procrastinate, to hate that person, or to do that thing you hate but can't stop.
Some of the questions in here I have never seen before, which is good. The content is fresh and new. But the difficult part is that you have had to read the previous book written by the author just to attach yourself that closer to the content. But I don't think it's absolutely necessary. I got it down, even after having had years in between the two books.
Seriously, all you have to do is sit down and answer some questions. On top of that that you have the motivational content sprinkled about that hypes you up right before the questions appear at the end of each section.
It's not a bad book. But I don't think I would read it again. However, I will periodically go back to the questions and see my answers. That might be more important.

[Loki · Rating 2 out of 5]

Since I read Unfuck Yourself and the other book of Bishop's, I saw this come up in Hoopla and decided to give this a listen as well. I preferred 'Stop Doing that Shit' to Unfuck Yourself, and I liked this workbook to Unfuck yourself least of the bunch.
Most of it was fine, though I disagreed with one point about relationships you want to unfuck. He wants you to forgive people in your life, that's fine. He doesn't mean to excuse things that have been done to you, but holding on to that doesn't hurt anyone but yourself, I understand that. He does even say that some relationships should be forgiven and then let go of entirely, though I do think that he didn't spend enough time on that thought. People in abusive relationships or unproductive relationships might need more prompting than the short bit that was there to actually do that. But at least it's there.
The thing that I didn't like was how he went on about keeping your relationships with your family because they are always so important and no matter what you should keep them up. Family doesn't have to be blood my dude, and there are plenty of toxic or abusive family situations that should also be forgiven and then let go of because they are not good for those in them.
The rest of the book was fine, but I don't think that was good advice.

[Suz Jay · Rating 3 out of 5]

“You are a space for life to happen, a wild and wondrous environment for miracles and hardships and everything in between. You are a moment, a loud bang in a burst of time that trails to a whisper and then disappears into the abyss.”

This book is a workbook for the principles for the author’s first book. He reiterates concepts from that book and provides a series of related questions/actions. While I expected this to be a deep dive on previously provided material, I also expected there to be more than what’s included in this short work.

There’s a brief introduction chapter and three “project” chapters: Project 1: A Question of Self, Project 2: The Relationship Trap, and Project 3: Purpose, What Purpose? The chapter before the short conclusion/farewell one includes seven assignments based on each of the chapters of his previous book.

I got the most out of the relationship with others chapter, where the author advises that most of our relationship problems are based on not accepting people as who they are and forcing our own unfair expectations on them.

Definitely check out his earlier books before this one. I recommend his second “Stop” book, which is my favorite of his works to date.

[Drthuongn · Rating 4 out of 5]

01. Bạn không được định nghĩa bởi những gì bạn nghĩ. Bạn là những gì bạn làm. Những hành động của bạn.
02. Bạn đã sẵn sàng để xem xét lại cuộc đời của mình theo đúng bản chất của nó, tức không phải gánh nặng từ hoàn cảnh hay tình trạng của bạn mà chính gánh nặng độc thoại đã hủy hoại bạn

P178. Cuộc sống của chúng ta trở nên đảo lộn và bề bộn bởi những áp lực không ngừng đến từ những kì vọng của chính mình. Vấn đề là, chúng ta thực sự không thể thấy rằng những kì vọng tệ hại nhất là những kì vọng mà chính chúng ta tự biến chúng trở nên hỗn độn. Tự do thật sự và tràn đầy năng lượng là khi bạn giải thoát bản thân khỏi nhà tù của sự kì vọng.

P184. Hãy tạo ra một con đường cho riêng mình. Ngay bây giờ
Quá sức ư? Hãy bắt đầu thực hiện
Quá khó ư? Hãy bắt đầu thực hiện
Quá phức tạp sao? Hãy bắt đầu thực hiện
Hãy làm một điều gì đó, bất cứ điều gì, ngay cả những việc nhỏ nhặt nhất.
Thay đổi sẽ xảy ra khi thay đổi những việc bạn làm.
Nhũng điều tuyệt vời đã từng xuất hiện trên thế giới này đều bắt đầu từ một hành động nhỏ.

.....Bạn thực sự là một phép màu của tạo hoá

[Miniring · Rating 4 out of 5]

단언
나는 의지가 있어
나는 이기게 되어 있어
나는 할 수 있어
나는 불확실성을 환영해
생각이 아니라 행동이 나를 규정해
나는 부단한 사람이야
나는 아무것도 기대하지 않고 모든 것을 받아들여
갖지 못한 것에 한탄하지 않고 가진 것을 기뻐하는 자가 현명한 사람이다. #명언
에픽테토스
환경이 사람을 만드는게 아니다. 환경은 그가 어떤 사람인지 드러낼 뿐이다. #명언
에픽테토스
"나는 나에게 해로운 방식이 아니라 도움이 되는 방식으로 말하겠다." 라고 결심한다.
올바른 언어를 사용하고, 내 문제를 접근하기 쉬운 방식으로 규정한다면, 말 그대로 "세상을 보는 법"과 "세상과 교류하는 법"을 바꿀 수 있다.
세상을 내가 '원하는 듯 보이는' 것과 '원하지 않는 듯 보이는' 것이 아니라, 내가 추구할 '의지가 있는 것'과 '의지가 없는 것'의 렌즈로 보기 시작하면 모든 게 훨씬 더 분명해진다.
내가 정말로 할 의지가 있는 일이 뭔지 이해하고 나면, 무의식적인 생각과 느낌에 대한 통제권도 되찾아올 수 있다.
가장 어두울 때 빛에 집중해야 한다. #명언
아리스토텔레스
결정의 순간이 왔을 때 최선은 옳은 일을 하는 것이다. 차선은 틀린 일을 하는 것이다. 최악은 아무것도 하지 않는 것이다. #명언
시어도어 루스벨트
훌륭한 사상은 생각이 깊은 사람에게만 말을 걸지만, 훌륭한 행동은 모든 인류에게 말을 건다. #명언
시어도어 루스벨트
누구도 같은 강에 두 번 발을 담글 수 없다. #명언
헤라클레이토스
당신이 "할 거라고" 말하는 일 말고, 당신이 "하는" 일이 당신이다. #명언
카를 융
승리나 패배를 기대하지 마라. 승리를 계획하되, 패배에서 배워라.