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Addio sensi di colpa: come liberarsi dalla paura grazie al perdono
Paura e senso di colpa pesano spesso dentro di noi come macigni che non riusciamo a rimuovere. La nostra vita è incatenata da mille schemi che ci impediscono di essere in pace con noi stessi e con gli altri, perché sentiamo in noi il timore di sbagliare e il bisogno di ottenere l'approvazione di chi ci è vicino. Eppure sappiamo bene che la vita veramente vissuta si trova dove non esiste la paura: l'amore vive solo dove non c'è il senso di colpa. Ma la pace e la gioia sono possibili! La trasformazione che da sempre desideriamo non è qualcosa di irraggiungibile!
Questo è il messaggio che Gerald Jampolsky porta attraverso i suoi libri, che sono ormai best seller in tutto il mondo. Il segreto è riuscire a modificare il modi di vedere noi stessi. Addio sensi di colpa raccoglie 14 lezioni, grazie alle quali è possibile cambiare la propria vita attraverso il perdono. Possiamo così:
- superare le nostre paure;
- accogliere e donare amore autentico;
- smettere di giudicare noi stessi e gli altri;
- ascoltare la nostra voce interiore per ricevere sostegno, guida e... molto di più!
Questo è il messaggio che Gerald Jampolsky porta attraverso i suoi libri, che sono ormai best seller in tutto il mondo. Il segreto è riuscire a modificare il modi di vedere noi stessi. Addio sensi di colpa raccoglie 14 lezioni, grazie alle quali è possibile cambiare la propria vita attraverso il perdono. Possiamo così:
- superare le nostre paure;
- accogliere e donare amore autentico;
- smettere di giudicare noi stessi e gli altri;
- ascoltare la nostra voce interiore per ricevere sostegno, guida e... molto di più!
286 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2001
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Gerald G. Jampolsky
94 books106 followersGerald G. Jampolsky, MD, is an internationally recognized authority in the fields of psychiatry, health, business, and education. He has published extensively, including classic bestsellers Forgiveness, Teach Only Love, and Love is Letting Go of Fear.
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November 26, 2012
While reading this book, a particularly compelling passage jumped out at me. The gist of it is this: In every encounter we have with another human being, that person is either offering love to us or in need of love from us. In that instant, I became a better person.
Not long after, I walked into my gym and saw Bill, a member I knew fairly well. He was doing standing calf raises with his back to me. Impulsively, I wrapped my weight belt around his forehead as a goofy way of saying hello. He was not pleased. He whipped around and, in so many words, most of which are unprintable, told me he would punch my face in if I ever did that again.
Instead of reacting on the same level of consciousness—“Oh, yeah? Take your best shot, you jerk!”—I thought, "Cool! Here's my chance to see if this love stuff really works!" I immediately began radiating love from my heart and bathing Bill in its healing glow. I also tried to apologize, but he turned away, muttering angrily.
After hanging up my jacket in the locker room, I headed to the pull-up bar and began my workout. I dropped down from the bar just in time to see Bill striding purposefully toward me from the other side of the gym. “I mean it, Phil,” he fumed. “If you ever do that again, I'll drag you out to the parking lot and pummel you.” With that, he spun around and stormed away.
This time I followed him, choosing to pump love instead of iron. “Bill,” I called out, catching up to him, “I'm very sorry. I had no idea you would be so upset. It won't happen again.” I continued apologizing until he turned to face me. “My sister used to do stuff like that to me,” he sputtered. “And I hated it.”
Bingo. Bill's outburst had nothing to do with me; I had inadvertently triggered a painful childhood memory. What happened in the next moment was astonishing: The heavy, dark cloud of negative energy that had engulfed him simply vanished. It was as if a magician had uttered “Abracadabra!” and instantaneously replaced a violent thunderstorm with sunny skies.
I tried to apologize one more time, but Bill cut me off. “Don't worry about it,” he said calmly, dismissing the whole incident with a wave of his hand. “No big deal.” An hour later, we were both in the locker room, preparing to leave. “So long, Phil,” he called out. “Have a good day.”
Wow. If I had responded to Bill's anger in kind, the confrontation may have escalated out of control. Even worse, from that day forward the tension would have been thick between us, and my enjoyment of going to the gym every morning would have been tinged with dread. Instead, love healed our conflict, it healed our relationship, and it may have even healed the pain Bill had been carrying around since childhood. That was the day I stopped looking at love as a choice, and embraced it as a way of life.
Not long after, I walked into my gym and saw Bill, a member I knew fairly well. He was doing standing calf raises with his back to me. Impulsively, I wrapped my weight belt around his forehead as a goofy way of saying hello. He was not pleased. He whipped around and, in so many words, most of which are unprintable, told me he would punch my face in if I ever did that again.
Instead of reacting on the same level of consciousness—“Oh, yeah? Take your best shot, you jerk!”—I thought, "Cool! Here's my chance to see if this love stuff really works!" I immediately began radiating love from my heart and bathing Bill in its healing glow. I also tried to apologize, but he turned away, muttering angrily.
After hanging up my jacket in the locker room, I headed to the pull-up bar and began my workout. I dropped down from the bar just in time to see Bill striding purposefully toward me from the other side of the gym. “I mean it, Phil,” he fumed. “If you ever do that again, I'll drag you out to the parking lot and pummel you.” With that, he spun around and stormed away.
This time I followed him, choosing to pump love instead of iron. “Bill,” I called out, catching up to him, “I'm very sorry. I had no idea you would be so upset. It won't happen again.” I continued apologizing until he turned to face me. “My sister used to do stuff like that to me,” he sputtered. “And I hated it.”
Bingo. Bill's outburst had nothing to do with me; I had inadvertently triggered a painful childhood memory. What happened in the next moment was astonishing: The heavy, dark cloud of negative energy that had engulfed him simply vanished. It was as if a magician had uttered “Abracadabra!” and instantaneously replaced a violent thunderstorm with sunny skies.
I tried to apologize one more time, but Bill cut me off. “Don't worry about it,” he said calmly, dismissing the whole incident with a wave of his hand. “No big deal.” An hour later, we were both in the locker room, preparing to leave. “So long, Phil,” he called out. “Have a good day.”
Wow. If I had responded to Bill's anger in kind, the confrontation may have escalated out of control. Even worse, from that day forward the tension would have been thick between us, and my enjoyment of going to the gym every morning would have been tinged with dread. Instead, love healed our conflict, it healed our relationship, and it may have even healed the pain Bill had been carrying around since childhood. That was the day I stopped looking at love as a choice, and embraced it as a way of life.
May 16, 2021
This book moved for me from "liked it" to, by the end, "it was amazing." The first word that kept coming to mind-heart after finishing this work is "beautiful." Rarely would I apply "beautiful" to a book. I sensed a contrast with all the bad news we are invited to indulge in - just look at the daily news offering us a constant intake of argumentative waste to ingest into our precious lives, bodies, and relationships. Yet, here is the offer of truly good news, beautiful wisdom - guidance and inspiration to live in a lovely world and choose a lovely life: peace, love, forgiveness, ...
A second word that arose to me is "simplicity." Wisdom is here wrapped in simplicity that to the ego might seem simplistic - it is not, it is profound. Hence, the book mirrors the simple truths taught in the Centers the author founded, initially to assist children with potentially terminal illness and their families. Now, the Work is broader.
This is a new, expanded edition. The final chapter is devoted to the author's belief in God and what that means to him and the Work. When the book was first written, the author was a proud-to-be atheist - not so now. In fact, he was drinking himself to death. Yet, his view of God is far from the narrow view of much of religion. And the Attitudinal Healing centers are not religious and the word "God" is rarely heard, but many who go there for help come to a belief in a Higher Power through applying the principles. The author alludes to the fact that many persons have no belief in a traditional view of God, yet are, in the best sense, godly beings for being loving beings. I recommend this chapter be read first.
In conclusion, I see this as a spiritual book, for it applies universal principles that lead to love, peace, and fulfillment through our serving as teachers-and-students to each other. And the many heart-touching, inspiring stories shared to exemplify the principles of Attitudinal Healing make the book well-worth a thoughtful read. If one reads with an open heart Teach Only Love, she or he will come away more inspired to be Love and show Love.
Review: Brian K. Wilcox. See author page for biographical introduction and link to his website, "Lotus of the Heart: Living in Love beyond Beliefs."
A second word that arose to me is "simplicity." Wisdom is here wrapped in simplicity that to the ego might seem simplistic - it is not, it is profound. Hence, the book mirrors the simple truths taught in the Centers the author founded, initially to assist children with potentially terminal illness and their families. Now, the Work is broader.
This is a new, expanded edition. The final chapter is devoted to the author's belief in God and what that means to him and the Work. When the book was first written, the author was a proud-to-be atheist - not so now. In fact, he was drinking himself to death. Yet, his view of God is far from the narrow view of much of religion. And the Attitudinal Healing centers are not religious and the word "God" is rarely heard, but many who go there for help come to a belief in a Higher Power through applying the principles. The author alludes to the fact that many persons have no belief in a traditional view of God, yet are, in the best sense, godly beings for being loving beings. I recommend this chapter be read first.
In conclusion, I see this as a spiritual book, for it applies universal principles that lead to love, peace, and fulfillment through our serving as teachers-and-students to each other. And the many heart-touching, inspiring stories shared to exemplify the principles of Attitudinal Healing make the book well-worth a thoughtful read. If one reads with an open heart Teach Only Love, she or he will come away more inspired to be Love and show Love.
Review: Brian K. Wilcox. See author page for biographical introduction and link to his website, "Lotus of the Heart: Living in Love beyond Beliefs."
June 22, 2024
Sometimes it was a bit out there, but overall had some really good ideas about how to move through the world as a good and calm human who sees the good in everyone. Reminded me of quakerism in a really good way. Nice and short too so even though it was woo-woo at times it was easy to read. Not sure I would particularly recommend the book but I got a lot out of it!
October 2, 2015
I read this book after Love is letting go of fear. Has numerous stories of mostly children in terminal illness and the lessons and gifts they gave to those around them. It is so humbling to look at the strength, wisdom and love these children possessed and shared with those around them even through pain and awareness of their immortality. Great read if you want to learn how to truly love unconditionally.
September 9, 2013
CHOOSE LOVE AND STAY IN THE MOMENT!
May 20, 2015
Excellent book. I loved applying each new principle in my life. I will read it again and learn even more. Highly recommend.
July 1, 2018
I used to live in Marin County, California and my neighbor worked at the Center for Attitudinal Healing. Believe it or not, I wound up telling her fuck you one time when she was typing while I was trying to sleep. And I had already read this book several times. So, I am not sure how much good the book does for people who are grumpy from lack of sleep but if you read it a second time, you might want to go upstairs and say you're sorry.
I think this book will make you aware that there is nothing to forgive, that the words fuck you are not offensive, they are only the words that come from people who are suffering. The people my neighbor worked with were suffering in ways my grumpy, hungover ass could never even comprehend. She worked with terminally-ill children and their families.
She never even batted an eyelash at me.
Jampolsky's work changed lives in ways that made suffering seem insignificant in the face of what truly matters in each moment. This book teaches what to focus on and how to stay in the present moment with the people who mean the most to you in this life.
I think this book will make you aware that there is nothing to forgive, that the words fuck you are not offensive, they are only the words that come from people who are suffering. The people my neighbor worked with were suffering in ways my grumpy, hungover ass could never even comprehend. She worked with terminally-ill children and their families.
She never even batted an eyelash at me.
Jampolsky's work changed lives in ways that made suffering seem insignificant in the face of what truly matters in each moment. This book teaches what to focus on and how to stay in the present moment with the people who mean the most to you in this life.
May 25, 2021
Teach Only Love is a faith-in-humanity-and -ourselves restorative book. Jampolsky expands on the twelve principles necessary for healing. He opened a center for cancer patients forty five years ago based on Attitudinal Healing. There are many stories to illustrate how unconditional love, forgiveness, and acceptance of love always result in peace. He uses the word "God" but is clear that God is his word for Divine Source, Higher Power, and whatever each person calls it, including atheists.
I like his concept of forgiveness meaning simply, to let go...We forgive to give ourselves peace, not the other. It is a spiritually self serving concept, not a religious demand. Teach Only Love is a timely book, being post Covid19.
I like his concept of forgiveness meaning simply, to let go...We forgive to give ourselves peace, not the other. It is a spiritually self serving concept, not a religious demand. Teach Only Love is a timely book, being post Covid19.
August 13, 2023
While I enjoyed "Love is Letting Go of Fear," I found this book to read like a promotion for "Course in Miracles" which I cannot read because it's a dense stream-of-consciousness narrative that refers to everyone as a son of God [some of us are women].
January 31, 2025
This book is a great short read.
I love the anecdotes in it about how love is uniting and how we can all learn from each other. I crave nothing but to see others for who they are and love them. I love the ending with Mary as well, I can only hope to be as peaceful.
I love the anecdotes in it about how love is uniting and how we can all learn from each other. I crave nothing but to see others for who they are and love them. I love the ending with Mary as well, I can only hope to be as peaceful.
May 30, 2019
Amazing
Perfect for anyone
Spiritual
Rewarding
Enlightening
It is written so well. I could read and start to apply and feel love
Perfect for anyone
Spiritual
Rewarding
Enlightening
It is written so well. I could read and start to apply and feel love
July 13, 2021
A most enlightening book.
August 7, 2024
Questo libro è stato illuminante!
February 1, 2014
The overall message and essence of this book is phenomenal. I cried through the introduction and first few chapters as well as many of the stories to follow, because Jerry put words to something I have been contemplating and needing to hear: that love really is the answer.
"Love is total acceptance and total giving - with no boundaries and no exceptions. Love, being the only reality, cannot be transformed. It can only extend and expand. It unfolds endlessly and beautifully upon itself. Love sees everyone as blameless, for it recognizes the light within each one of us. Love is the complete absence of fear and the basis for all Attitudinal Healing."
Jerry encourages us to listen to the inner voice of love and follow it, rather than succumbing to our fears. Being a Universalist-Christian myself, I understand this as listening to the voice of God who is love and who teaches us to walk in love because this brings peace to us and to others.
I am still contemplating the 12 principles of Attitudinal Healing. Below are some of the things I have gleaned from them:
We can release negative emotions by forgiving others and interpreting any "attack" as a cry for help from the person we perceive as attacking.
We judge others according to our sense of "right" and "wrong" which is based on our experience and is not based in the reality of love. It is healthier to let our judgments fade and to stop trying to change people. Then we can accept them exactly where they are at.
By giving love we also receive love and healing within ourselves. Loving ourselves and others seems intimately entwined, just as giving and receiving seem to operate at one and the same time. This is the law of karma or sowing and reaping.
Death is not the end: we live on in a state of eternal love. There is no separation between myself and God, or any other creature in existence. Every minute action of mine causes ripple effects around the world, so the more I focus on giving love, and being in a state of peace and non-judgmental forgiveness, the more the world will come into alignment with love, peace and forgiveness.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to give and receive more unconditional love and therefore minister healing to his or herself and others.
"Love is total acceptance and total giving - with no boundaries and no exceptions. Love, being the only reality, cannot be transformed. It can only extend and expand. It unfolds endlessly and beautifully upon itself. Love sees everyone as blameless, for it recognizes the light within each one of us. Love is the complete absence of fear and the basis for all Attitudinal Healing."
Jerry encourages us to listen to the inner voice of love and follow it, rather than succumbing to our fears. Being a Universalist-Christian myself, I understand this as listening to the voice of God who is love and who teaches us to walk in love because this brings peace to us and to others.
I am still contemplating the 12 principles of Attitudinal Healing. Below are some of the things I have gleaned from them:
We can release negative emotions by forgiving others and interpreting any "attack" as a cry for help from the person we perceive as attacking.
We judge others according to our sense of "right" and "wrong" which is based on our experience and is not based in the reality of love. It is healthier to let our judgments fade and to stop trying to change people. Then we can accept them exactly where they are at.
By giving love we also receive love and healing within ourselves. Loving ourselves and others seems intimately entwined, just as giving and receiving seem to operate at one and the same time. This is the law of karma or sowing and reaping.
Death is not the end: we live on in a state of eternal love. There is no separation between myself and God, or any other creature in existence. Every minute action of mine causes ripple effects around the world, so the more I focus on giving love, and being in a state of peace and non-judgmental forgiveness, the more the world will come into alignment with love, peace and forgiveness.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to give and receive more unconditional love and therefore minister healing to his or herself and others.
August 30, 2008
So true all that is said in this book!
August 14, 2011
I read this about 20 times as a young adult and still live by much of the information.
May 14, 2012
Great, educational and transformational!
January 27, 2016
The Spirit Quest group at SotH is using this book for our weekly discussion groups. Too repetitious, gave up on completing it.
February 24, 2016
Love this book and its message.
June 14, 2016
This one is going to take me some time to read as I'm only reading a bit each night.
March 23, 2022
Good helpful book- "Health is Inner Peace"- ("Our single goal is peace of mind".
""The Essence of our Being is Love." "All Minds are joined."
""The Essence of our Being is Love." "All Minds are joined."
January 27, 2014
I marked this as "read" but I go back to it again and again.
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