How to Be Nice to Yourself: The Everyday Guide to Self-Compassion: Effective Strategies to Increase Self-Love and Acceptance

by Laura Silberstein-Tirch

Practice deep self compassion with a wide range of strategies.

Today’s the day to start loving yourself. How to Be Nice to Yourself makes it simple to start practicing self compassion with a wide variety of techniques and strategies that anyone can learn.

Filled with easy-to-use advice drawn from a variety of sources—including meditation, mindfulness, and acceptance and commitment therapy—this book will help you find the right way to start feeling good about yourself.

How to Be Nice to The Everyday Guide to Self Compassion

Proven Strategies—Learn a variety of ways to practice self compassion daily—with meditations, writing exercises, and more.Practical Advice—Bring self compassion to your thoughts, emotions, and actions with exercises that can easily be applied to your daily life.Personalized Approach—Customize your self compassion practice with a personalized plan based on what matters to you and the kind of changes you want to see. Start loving yourself with the techniques that work best for you. You’ll discover them in How to be Nice to The Everyday Guide to Self Compassion.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology, Personal Development, Mental Health, Audiobook, Health

172 pages, Kindle Edition

Published June 11, 2019

Reviews

[Kitten Kisser · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a nice workbook to help teach us how to better care for ourselves. There are meditative steps to help focus & calm the mind, plus work to do to help you get in touch with your feelings & as a result find more compassion for others. I enjoyed learning a few things such as, journaling helps to increase ones ability to learn. I used to journal everyday, but life, getting busier & busier, to the point of being drained (I run my own eco-farm & it's exhausting) with no time for things like journaling. Now I am putting forth more effort in setting aside some time to simply journal & reflect. I have not accomplished this daily (perhaps I will in the winter when I'm a little less busy) but the fact that I'm doing it at all, is a huge step forward.

Other points in the book are that offering forgiveness doesn't mean you are weak. You don't even have to tell a person you forgive them. You can let it go within yourself. You don't even have to speak to the person ever again. You simply have to let yourself move on.

This book is meant to be gone over step by step with your own notebook as you take however much time is necessary to complete each task. These tasks are designed to get us to better understand, accept, & recognize our own emotions & reactions.

This book is divided up into sections:
Compassion for Your Feelings-
Self-compassion & your emotions, self-compassion & your body, your self-compassion plan
Compassion for Your Thoughts-
Thoughts vs. reality, getting unstuck from thoughts, your self-compassion plan
Compassion for Your Actions-
The inner critic & your actions, moving beyond the inner critic, your self-compassion plan
The Compassionate Life-
Practicing compassion for others, the road ahead

The hardest part about this book is taking out the time needed to complete the various tasks. It's nice to know that we can be both compassionate & strong.

Overall, this is a wonderful book for anyone wanting improve their mental health for life.

[Emilio · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a thank, you to Netgalley and the publisher for providing me with an advanced readers copy I shall give an honest review of How to Be Nice to Yourself by Laura Silberstein-Tirch PsyD. Coming into this guide for practicing self-compassion I largely examined it from a professional perspective as I come from a therapeutic background. This book acts as a guide that we may use to practice self-compassion using techniques that anyone can learn. This text draws on resources from a variety of therapeutic techniques including meditation, mindfulness, and acceptance and commitment therapy. If you are unfamiliar with these resources that is okay as the author explains the impact of these resources if practiced daily. All she asks is that you provide a notebook where you may write down your thoughts and use them to recount what you provided. Thus providing yourself proof that you are practicing what it asks and are internalizing it yourself. I shall recommend this in my personal and professional capacity. Overall I give this book five out of five stars on good reads.
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[Maciej Bliziński · Rating 4 out of 5]

It's more of a work book than a reading. A large portion of the content are exercises; and I think the main point is doing them, rather than just reading the book.

[Tzu · Rating 4 out of 5]

Provides a structured and guided approach to practicing self-compassion.

[Emilio · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a thank, you to Netgalley and the publisher for providing me with an advanced readers copy I shall give an honest review of How to Be Nice to Yourself by Laura Silberstein-Tirch PsyD. Coming into this guide for practicing self-compassion I largely examined it from a professional perspective as I come from a therapeutic background. This book acts as a guide that we may use to practice self-compassion using techniques that anyone can learn. This text draws on resources from a variety of therapeutic techniques including meditation, mindfulness, and acceptance and commitment therapy. If you are unfamiliar with these resources that is okay as the author explains the impact of these resources if practiced daily. All she asks is that you provide a notebook where you may write down your thoughts and use them to recount what you provided. Thus providing yourself proof that you are practicing what it asks and are internalizing it yourself. I shall recommend this in my personal and professional capacity. Overall I give this book five out of five stars on good reads.

[Elissa]

I appreciate this book very much. Definitely recommend!

[Selina Gonzalez]

I honestly have no idea how to rate this so I'm not going to assign a star rating. I picked this up after DNF-ing Neff's Self-Compassion book (it was too focused on New Age and eastern mysticism for my tastes and I found the approach she took in explainimg some concepts undermined her message imo), and this looked more to the point and more interested in application than wandering stories and loose "theories" than Neff's book. I can say that it definitely was more streamlined and application focused. However, it's basically a workbook, and I am not good at workbooks. I'm unsure I've ever finished one that wasn't a school requirement. 😆 Some of the exercises, mostly the ones more focused on centered breathing or in-the-moment approaches, I think were good. The "book" parts between the "try this" exercises were very good and the short story examples were pretty good. It has a good chapter on compassion for others (something that at least the beginning of Neff's book seemed to lack). But it wants you to keep a journal and has a lot of "take some time to reflect on this and visualize that and answer these deep, proving questions" (I just...I admittedly don't have the patience for that...and when I read a book my brain is in "read book" mode, not "sit there and ponder" mode) and "keep track of things in your journal over the next week using this table." I am not a journaler. I've tried for far simpler things and I forget it almost immediately and have never been able to keep up such a practice in 29 years on this earth. And then the books assumes you did and is like "using your journal notes from the last week of tracking this..." So the workbook nature of this was just not a good fit for me, which also means I probably didn't get as much from it as I would have if I didn't have a "never!" response the moment a book of any kind tells me to get out a journal or piece of paper and do an exercise. (It's a problem with many books I've read. I rarely even can make myself do the stupid exercises in a book that gives me a lined page to write out my response right there. I despise it for unknown reasons. 🤷‍♀️) It is still also a bit touched by New Age-ism, but in a way I could still apply the concepts in a way that more fits my worldview.

Do I recommend this, though? If you'd like a quick basic introduction to the concept of self-compassion (a concept I think is helpful especially for those of use who struggle with perfectionism or being too hard on ourselves or have a tendency to breakdown if we feel we have an issue/make a mistake/feel we aren't or didn't do "enough") with some practical applications and examples (and that I think does a pretty good job of demonstrating that self-compassion isn't about "letting yourself off the hook"), I think this is pretty good. Especially if you have Kindle Unlimited (I read it through KU).

[Sharon · Rating 4 out of 5]

The book for review is “How to Be Nice to Yourself: The Everyday Guide to Self Compassion: Effective Strategies to Increase Self-Love and Acceptance” by Laura Silberstein-Tirch, PsyD. This falls in the genre of personal growth and self help.


Are you nice to yourself? Take a few minutes to think about this.

Inside the pages of this book you will find techniques and strategies that we can learn to start showing ourselves a little bit of compassion. What you will discover is how to have compassion for your feelings, thoughts, your actions and how to have a compassionate life and how to treat others the same way.

But how will one accomplish this? As with any self help book there are loads of questions to think on and for this particular book breathing exercises to do.

The questions are deep and there is no quick answer to these if you want to get to the goal of being nice to yourself. One must be honest through this process to get to the core of why you are not being nice versus being nice to yourself.

I did enjoy the book. With the way the world is now it is so easy to forget to be nice to one’s self. The book is pretty straight forward.

I received this book for free from Callisto Publishing in exchange for an honest review

[Virginia Campbell · Rating 5 out of 5]

In "How to be Nice to Yourself: The Everyday Guide to Self Compassion", author Laura R. Silberstein-Tirch advises: "Today's the day to start loving yourself.". Through an assortment of strategies and techniques such as meditation, mindfulness (bringing one's attention to experiences occurring in the present moment), and practical advice--plus a variety of self-help therapies-- she guides readers toward practicing daily self-compassion. In addition to following the general guidelines, readers are encouraged to customize their "self-compassion plan" by recognizing what matters most to them and to also note what changes they hope to make. "Self-compassion" is defined, and reasoning is offered for why we need it in our lives. The author advises: "This book is about how you can develop self-compassion to help navigate your life with greater awareness, mindfulness, and kindness for yourself and all those you encounter.". While this book is about self-compassion and learning how to be nice to yourself, it also includes compassion for the struggles of others.

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[Ms. Arca · Rating 4 out of 5]

Simple and clear with table examples and prompts to ask yourself questions.

I liked this for myself or for any human, but I also really liked this as educator. It’s a great way to familiarize educators with this concept, practice on their own, and be more fluent with the concept of self compassion so that they can model it and foster it within the classroom.

I’ve seen some great educators model how they struggle with something and are compassionate with themselves and it resonated with students and with me as an observer, and it sets the tone for the classroom. I like that this doesn’t have a ton of fluff. It is grounded in breathing exercises so that’s something to note when considering talking about it with students etc. (Some of my students hear the word ‘mindfulness’ and check out).

Anyways, glad it exists and thanks to the publishers and Netgalley for an ARC in exchange for an honest review!

Always here for reminders / tips on how we can all be nicer to ourselves!

[Ashwini · Rating 4 out of 5]

I came across this book, it was a serendipity, a quick read, start to finish, to make myself self familiar with the various concepts, practices and exercises. This is one book which is a true self help book, if you are really hard on your self and want to create / generate some compassion and love for your self, read this book, find some quiet corner in your home and do the exercises. Some very practical tips and guidelines which one can use at any point in time. A true gem. A word of advice, don't be hard on your self. Only you are going to be with you till the very end and no one else. So take care of your self, be kind and, love your self. :-)

[Lyn Richards · Rating 3 out of 5]

I struggled to finish this book. As a self confessed self help junkie who consumes many books of this genre, I really struggled to gain some tangible tips from this book that I havent got from other free avenues such as newsletters, podcasts and free websites such as BeyondBlue etc.

I listened to the audio version and it was well narrated and the chapters were split into logical chunks with solid exercises for the reader to pursue and challenge their way of thinking about situations.

[Kerstin Reads · Rating 3 out of 5]

It was ok.

I read this book in hopes for new ideas and Information. But most of the things mentioned in this book, is available for free on different blogs.
Still though. For someone who hasn’t researched the basics, this book might be really helpful

[Elizabeth · Rating 3 out of 5]

I just can't pull this off. I think there is so much to self-compassion but trying to undo 60 plus years of hearing the inculcated, critic that lives in my head is a little too much for one how-to book. There are some nice strategies. Maybe one will stick one day before I am dead.

[Digital_Reader · Rating 3 out of 5]

A beginner’s mindfulness workbook. If it was billed as that I would give it 4⭐️s. However as it wasn’t and that wasn’t what I was looking for it’s got some decent info for people starting to discover mindfulness. Audio workbooks in general are not my thing.

[Chad Brown · Rating 3 out of 5]

I think it will be helpful for other people, but I just didn't get a lot out of it. To be fair, I'm in a bad place mentally so it's hard to digest anything like this positively.

Maybe I'll revisit when I'm in a different frame of mind.

[Amanda · Rating 4 out of 5]

A definite must read!! We all need to be nicer to ourselves and others and this book gives us all someplace to start that healing process.

[Selen Ozbek · Rating 3 out of 5]

Fairly basic rules of self-compassion. Ideal for beginners and those wanting to be kinder to themselves.

[LemontreeLime · Rating 3 out of 5]

Very nice.

[Ashley Speed · Rating 3 out of 5]

I wish I had ordered a real copy of this book instead of an e-book. I definitely would be gotten more out of it if I could've held it in my lap and journaled through the exercises.

[Chanel Burgess · Rating 4 out of 5]

Easy Read

I enjoyed the book and the self compassion exercise. This was a very easy read. Looking forward to putting what I learned in to practice.

[Overbooked ✎ · Rating 2 out of 5]

1.5 stars

[Boostamonte Halvorsen · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is a good book, but I highly recommend you do the guidebook and the work that it asks you to do, otherwise you miss out on a lot of the benefit of it

[Lizzie · Rating 4 out of 5]

A good start...

This is a good start if you haven't gone to CBT or anything else to help you with self esteem. It's also a good refresher course if you forget.

[Nick Salenga · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a great book that makes it simple to start practicing self-compassion with wide variety of techniques & strategies that anyone can learn.