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Vanilla to Kinky: The Beginner's Guide to BDSM and Kink: Discover the Keys to How to Be Dominant or Submissive in the Bedroom
What do you think when you hear “BDSM?” I’ll tell you what most people think. Most people think whips, chains, pain, and crying. They think only “evil” or “mentally ill” people enjoy these types of things. They think of the most corrupt things they can because of the way that mainstream media misrepresents BDSM.
BDSM has become more popular than ever in recent years. Only a few decades ago only 10-15% of surveyed people reported engaging in BDSM. Since then that number has increased by nearly 90%. Even though BDSM is gaining popularity many people still feel guilty for having BDSM related fantasies.
I’m here to tell you there is abosultely no reason to feel guilty. BDSM is much broader than it seems and when done correctly, is completely safe and healthy.
Whether you are somewhat familiar with BDSM or not familiar at all, don’t miss out on what could be a life-changing experience because of misconceptions and miseducation.
Vanilla to Kinky will help you
BDSM is for anybody. It does not discriminate against any ages, genders, or body type. Yes, even an average joe like you can partake in safe and healthy BDSM.
BDSM is a journey that can be truly rewarding every time but will take effort, patience, and self-examination. If you want to begin your journey then this is where you start.
Scroll up and click the “Add to Cart” to get started today.
BDSM has become more popular than ever in recent years. Only a few decades ago only 10-15% of surveyed people reported engaging in BDSM. Since then that number has increased by nearly 90%. Even though BDSM is gaining popularity many people still feel guilty for having BDSM related fantasies.
I’m here to tell you there is abosultely no reason to feel guilty. BDSM is much broader than it seems and when done correctly, is completely safe and healthy.
Whether you are somewhat familiar with BDSM or not familiar at all, don’t miss out on what could be a life-changing experience because of misconceptions and miseducation.
Vanilla to Kinky will help you
BDSM is for anybody. It does not discriminate against any ages, genders, or body type. Yes, even an average joe like you can partake in safe and healthy BDSM.
BDSM is a journey that can be truly rewarding every time but will take effort, patience, and self-examination. If you want to begin your journey then this is where you start.
Scroll up and click the “Add to Cart” to get started today.
104 pages, Paperback
Published May 20, 2019
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Displaying 1 - 9 of 9 reviews
December 21, 2025
It had some good info, but was a bit repetitive. It also had some terms that I have never heard of in the kink community. Some of the resources are missing the very obvious bit of taking classes or making local friends.
February 14, 2022
Informative for someone completely new to the topic, but full of grammatical errors that can make it hard to read. I wouldn't call this a guide. It's more of a very basic introduction, but if you're just learning the actual definition of BDSM this book could be helpful.
April 8, 2023
Outside of the poor grammar, terrible spelling and unorganized sentence structuring this book feels completely out of order, which lead me yelling at the book out of fear for inexperienced BDSM members reading this book as their first guide and impression. Discussing safety and limits should always be an introduction on the subject, not forethought for later chapters nor jammed into the middle of chapters.
This book assumes its audience and those practicing are hetero-BDSM curious individuals looking for sexual adventure as such it lacks diversity for alternative practices of BDSM outside of the D/S lifestyles and non-sexual BDSM activities or how BDSM and its dynamic itself can be a completely non-sexual experience.
In conclusion, this self-published book is a work of love for the author, but as a proclaimed "expert" on the matter, he's only presented an unorganized overview on the subject. While I'm for self-published authors and supporting them, I would recommend getting this book through his website instead of buying it.
This book assumes its audience and those practicing are hetero-BDSM curious individuals looking for sexual adventure as such it lacks diversity for alternative practices of BDSM outside of the D/S lifestyles and non-sexual BDSM activities or how BDSM and its dynamic itself can be a completely non-sexual experience.
In conclusion, this self-published book is a work of love for the author, but as a proclaimed "expert" on the matter, he's only presented an unorganized overview on the subject. While I'm for self-published authors and supporting them, I would recommend getting this book through his website instead of buying it.
November 3, 2021
More vanilla than kink
I’m sorry, but this book desperately needs a spellcheck. The plural of Doms isn’t “Dom’s” and no one “airs” on the side of caution. A comma once in a lifetime wouldn’t hurt either.
When it comes to the content of the book, it’s just too lightweight to be a guide on bdsm. It explains what a dildo is, and I suspect that if you’ve never heard of sex toys in your life, you’re not going to go into a D/s lifestyle.
Most kinks and dynamics are never mentioned, and there’s no depth in the ones that are. And let’s stop pretending that subs can’t be brats.
Some safety tips for ropes are good, but there are plenty of other things that should have been mentioned here. The content on consent is also relatively good.
I’m sorry, but this book desperately needs a spellcheck. The plural of Doms isn’t “Dom’s” and no one “airs” on the side of caution. A comma once in a lifetime wouldn’t hurt either.
When it comes to the content of the book, it’s just too lightweight to be a guide on bdsm. It explains what a dildo is, and I suspect that if you’ve never heard of sex toys in your life, you’re not going to go into a D/s lifestyle.
Most kinks and dynamics are never mentioned, and there’s no depth in the ones that are. And let’s stop pretending that subs can’t be brats.
Some safety tips for ropes are good, but there are plenty of other things that should have been mentioned here. The content on consent is also relatively good.
November 26, 2023
Generalized, easy read
I like that it really was an intro. As if I had never had a single bit of experience. I honestly wish it were longer. There are some silly editing errors and misspellings too. But I think people should be able to obtain information and this really is a great start to it.
I like that it really was an intro. As if I had never had a single bit of experience. I honestly wish it were longer. There are some silly editing errors and misspellings too. But I think people should be able to obtain information and this really is a great start to it.
June 6, 2022
information
This book is great for information for beginners. The definitions for terms are great. The writer really makes sure you understand how BDSM life works and what the most important parts are. It’s a quick read too. So worth it.
This book is great for information for beginners. The definitions for terms are great. The writer really makes sure you understand how BDSM life works and what the most important parts are. It’s a quick read too. So worth it.
July 7, 2022
A Fun Guide
A fun, down to earth laidback approach by the author into the world of BDSM. There's always something new to learn. It lost a star down to poor spelling and grammar which could've easily been rectified.
A fun, down to earth laidback approach by the author into the world of BDSM. There's always something new to learn. It lost a star down to poor spelling and grammar which could've easily been rectified.
May 5, 2020
Truly enjoyed this book
Eye opening to this life style. Thank you for your candor in describing all of the new ideas in this book.
Eye opening to this life style. Thank you for your candor in describing all of the new ideas in this book.
August 2, 2022
Some misinformation especially regarding asexuals
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