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What Makes Us Girls: And Why It's All Worth It
We cannot give what we do not have. So, if we do not love ourselves, or even if we are too obsessed with ourselves, how then can we love others? What Makes Us Girls examines the topic of self-worth through a modern cultural lens. Using examples from the author’s life experience and the life experiences of a variety of other girls, What Makes Us Girls analyzes seven of the most common issues that result in a destructive sense of self-worth: comparison, rejection, bullying, inauthenticity, purposelessness, betrayal and guilt. Every girl in the world, no matter our age or the country we are from, will have to face a battle for self-worth. Some of us will win and some of us will lose. But those of us who win will do so for two reasons: because we are able to see the battle for what it is, and even more importantly, because we have the right weapons to fight it.
“Faced with the very real suffering of today’s women and girls, it seems like society only reacts by promising women that they will inherit the earth, and also that nothing is their fault. Brittany’s book is a wonderful dose of tough love, which reminds us all that a sex that cannot take responsibility for anything, cannot achieve anything. This book feels like a summary of every time Brittany and I have laughed over coffee, or when she has held me while I cried and put my broken heart back together. I am so thrilled that so many other girls will have that experience. If I ever have a daughter, this book will be on her nightstand.“
- Lauren Southern
“Faced with the very real suffering of today’s women and girls, it seems like society only reacts by promising women that they will inherit the earth, and also that nothing is their fault. Brittany’s book is a wonderful dose of tough love, which reminds us all that a sex that cannot take responsibility for anything, cannot achieve anything. This book feels like a summary of every time Brittany and I have laughed over coffee, or when she has held me while I cried and put my broken heart back together. I am so thrilled that so many other girls will have that experience. If I ever have a daughter, this book will be on her nightstand.“
- Lauren Southern
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February 18, 2019
Reading this I felt like finally I found a book that mirrored my own views and outlook of the world. Brittany Pettibone is a conservative young woman who holds traditional values highly, something that is becoming increasingly dismissed and ridiculed in any of the conversations had in the name of feminism. When are more women going to wake up and realise that actually casual sex with multiple partners isn't empowering for a large proportion of women? And how can the fact that the decline of marriage and the traditional family structure is hurting society still being ignored and rejected?
Pettibone is a voice of reason and good sense that is sorely needed in the current culture war, giving young women and girls the courage to stand by their convictions and think about our own self worth and what we want in the midst of all the harmful messages pushed by modern 'feminism' such as abortions are nothing, casual sex is normal, and that its pathetic or misguided to aspire to be good wives and mothers. We need more voices like this! Loved this book.
Pettibone is a voice of reason and good sense that is sorely needed in the current culture war, giving young women and girls the courage to stand by their convictions and think about our own self worth and what we want in the midst of all the harmful messages pushed by modern 'feminism' such as abortions are nothing, casual sex is normal, and that its pathetic or misguided to aspire to be good wives and mothers. We need more voices like this! Loved this book.
February 16, 2019
A pandering, fawning, cringe-inducing grovel of echo-chambered marketing.
This book is, as I had expected, an absurd amount of pandering to the author's funding audience, rather than her supposed ""target"" audience.
This book sinply repeats common themes in the author's online content- women are not good enough, and how they act, speak and behave is the source of *all* problems that men have these days.
Make no mistake at all- the author knows the constant viewers and patrons to her content are downcast, low-spirited males who find solace with the author's content when being told that women's actions are the reasons why they are as dejected as they are. And the author knows on how to repeatedly capitalise on that-write a book following the lines of such common themes, and wrap it up in a package to deliberately market it as something useful and needed by girls and women.
I could have quite easily predicted this very "book" (pamphlet) from a mile away.
This book is, as I had expected, an absurd amount of pandering to the author's funding audience, rather than her supposed ""target"" audience.
This book sinply repeats common themes in the author's online content- women are not good enough, and how they act, speak and behave is the source of *all* problems that men have these days.
Make no mistake at all- the author knows the constant viewers and patrons to her content are downcast, low-spirited males who find solace with the author's content when being told that women's actions are the reasons why they are as dejected as they are. And the author knows on how to repeatedly capitalise on that-write a book following the lines of such common themes, and wrap it up in a package to deliberately market it as something useful and needed by girls and women.
I could have quite easily predicted this very "book" (pamphlet) from a mile away.
March 13, 2019
This isn't the typical book written by a woman about women that leads you down the crazy-hole of modern day "feminism" that is more anti-woman than ever (pink p*ssy hat wearing, abortion promoting idiotsy and outrage are not included in this book). This is a book written for young girls and women everywhere who have ever struggled with authenticity. Being a teenage girl is hard, but becoming a respectable woman is even harder. Brittany has a little bit to say about everything you are going through as a young girl and everything you look back on and regret as a grown woman. Where did you go wrong with love and friendship? What did it feel like to be betrayed? Who did you yourself betray? What is your purpose? Most importantly, how do you find your purpose? How do you become your most authentic self?
I didn't know what I was expecting going into this book, but by the end I was relieved that I had read it. We tend to get caught in the mindset that everything that happens in our life only happens to us, when that couldn't be more untrue. If you take anything from this book let it be that women need other women. If you find one genuine female friendship free of toxicity you are considered to be truly lucky, and that fact is just so sad. Women today demand so much respect, yet we have not yet learned how to respect each other. How can we love ourselves when we are so brutal towards our own?
I first heard about this book on Stefan Molyneux's YouTube podcast in his interview with Brittany Pettibone. Purchased on Amazon Kindle.
Thank you, Brittany for speaking out about how the publishing industry has been taken over by the left and their agenda to ruin everything. Readers are noticing and their propaganda is being rejected.
Congrats on your decision to get married and become a mother.
X
I didn't know what I was expecting going into this book, but by the end I was relieved that I had read it. We tend to get caught in the mindset that everything that happens in our life only happens to us, when that couldn't be more untrue. If you take anything from this book let it be that women need other women. If you find one genuine female friendship free of toxicity you are considered to be truly lucky, and that fact is just so sad. Women today demand so much respect, yet we have not yet learned how to respect each other. How can we love ourselves when we are so brutal towards our own?
I first heard about this book on Stefan Molyneux's YouTube podcast in his interview with Brittany Pettibone. Purchased on Amazon Kindle.
Thank you, Brittany for speaking out about how the publishing industry has been taken over by the left and their agenda to ruin everything. Readers are noticing and their propaganda is being rejected.
Congrats on your decision to get married and become a mother.
X
February 17, 2019
I am a 53-year-old father with 3 daughters: 14, 18 and 24. This is a very fine audiobook which I’m listening to with them and also we listen separately. Without a lot of categories, but with great illustrations and stories, she gets to the real heart of the matter when it comes to what young women face these days. People from my generation have a hard time understanding emotionally how social media affects young people as they begin courting and moving toward marriage.
Her overarching advice is to become the kind of person you would like to marry. Healing hurts, but no free lunch. I also like the general tone not to expect perfection but to be discerning when you meet a guy. It’s okay if he is a project, as long as it is a project that you can handle. Not all guys have toxic intent. We were so glad to hear that articulated.
Anyway, this book has really helped me as a dad and my daughters like it. It is timely and needed.
P S. I feel that her sister was a good choice for reader because her voice really makes you appreciate the depth of the struggles girls face and touches the heart strings, while also remaining calm and consistent.
Her overarching advice is to become the kind of person you would like to marry. Healing hurts, but no free lunch. I also like the general tone not to expect perfection but to be discerning when you meet a guy. It’s okay if he is a project, as long as it is a project that you can handle. Not all guys have toxic intent. We were so glad to hear that articulated.
Anyway, this book has really helped me as a dad and my daughters like it. It is timely and needed.
P S. I feel that her sister was a good choice for reader because her voice really makes you appreciate the depth of the struggles girls face and touches the heart strings, while also remaining calm and consistent.
January 26, 2019
A solid book full of wise words and wonderful advice from an experienced woman. This book made me believe in the possibility of authentic friendships, and I related to Brittany in a lot of the personal stories. I will definitely be reading it over again. Thank you so much for sharing, Brittany!
July 6, 2019
Very superficial...
September 27, 2024
4.5 stars.
This was a really lovely read. It was sort of like having a heart to heart with Brittany. I do recommend to women, especially young girls ages 13+.
This was a really lovely read. It was sort of like having a heart to heart with Brittany. I do recommend to women, especially young girls ages 13+.
January 5, 2019
My review is 4.7 stars.
Wow, what a read this has been! I'm blessed with a lot of female friends since my early days so I know life of a Girl, but this book definitely give me a refreshing way to explain a complex cum sophisticated life of a female. Definitely a tough piece to write, yet so powerful and impactful piece.
I don't know how as I got to find this book on Goodreads but I'm glad I did. This is my humble request to all the readers especially the Male Readers that they must read this book.
A super read!!!
Wow, what a read this has been! I'm blessed with a lot of female friends since my early days so I know life of a Girl, but this book definitely give me a refreshing way to explain a complex cum sophisticated life of a female. Definitely a tough piece to write, yet so powerful and impactful piece.
I don't know how as I got to find this book on Goodreads but I'm glad I did. This is my humble request to all the readers especially the Male Readers that they must read this book.
A super read!!!
January 5, 2019
This is a wonderful book which delves into the struggles that many girls and women face on a daily basis in the modern world. It is interesting and provides relatable, real-life anecdotes and ventures into some Brittany’s own struggles with self-worth, and has helped me to deal with and understand my own lack of self-confidence (which most of us face at some point in our lives) while also showing that we are not alone. Although I myself am a conservative, this should be a good read for anybody as it is hardly political at all.
October 25, 2020
I really enjoyed this book!
Brittany uses antidotes from here own life to speak about the troubles and challenges young girls face.
The parts I liked the most where the chapters about guilt and forgiveness. For me this is something our modern society often neglects as unimportant.
In my opinion this book is a good guide for girls and an opposition pole to the madness that gets taught nowadays that women only can be happy if they are superior to men.
Every girls that’s looking for her place in society should give it a try.
Brittany uses antidotes from here own life to speak about the troubles and challenges young girls face.
The parts I liked the most where the chapters about guilt and forgiveness. For me this is something our modern society often neglects as unimportant.
In my opinion this book is a good guide for girls and an opposition pole to the madness that gets taught nowadays that women only can be happy if they are superior to men.
Every girls that’s looking for her place in society should give it a try.
January 22, 2019
a simple read enlightening me on the fact that happiness is attained in result of a purpose, that forgiveness can be described as “mercy looking upon misery,” and numerous insightful things on balance and love. not a life changing book, but a nice and simple read of truth, maybe i’ll have my future daughter read it some day as she navigates through life
March 15, 2019
Such a beautiful, honest look at womanhood ♥️
May 30, 2020
Reading this book felt like an endless constellation of clichés, nothing new was added.
I appreciate the author trying to guide girls into questioning the mainstream guidelines for women in this society. However, one cannot do so by not even considering the possibilities outside the straight oriented narrative.
I appreciate the author trying to guide girls into questioning the mainstream guidelines for women in this society. However, one cannot do so by not even considering the possibilities outside the straight oriented narrative.
March 29, 2019
This book was amazing!
I loved the examples this book had.
It was very thought provoking and I learned so much from it. 10/10 would recommend to everyone I know.
I loved the examples this book had.
It was very thought provoking and I learned so much from it. 10/10 would recommend to everyone I know.
February 9, 2019
Amazing! Highly recommend!
February 20, 2025
I was really looking forward to reading this book when I first picked it up, because I used to really enjoy the author's youtube channel, but I would be lying if I didn't say this book kind of disappointed me. I should say that I do think it's a little bit of my own fault of why I didn't like this book though, and that's because I was expecting something totally different then what it actually was, and if I had researched it a little more, I probably would have realized that.
When I got this book, I was expecting it to be more of a commentary on maybe femininity, modern women, or how women's role in society has shifted over the years. More of an objective view and reporting of modern women and femininity if you will. However, it was more of a self reflection of the authors life and relationships and her relating those experiences to what other women may be going through. Which is fine, there was definitely some good points made and advice given, but it just wasn't what I was expecting, which again is my fault for not researching better. There were a couple things I didn't like though.
1. I don't think the title of the book fits at all. A lot of the past experiences and things that the author talks about, except for like one or two things, are really broad and could apply to literally anyone. For example, she talks about perfectionism and not being able to balance work with family, and that's something that anyone of either gender can deal with! It kind of felt like she thought that since she leaned so heavily on her own life and since she's a girl, that women would probably relate more to the book then men, but there are really only a couple stories in here that woman would relate to more.
2. I didn't really like the way the topics were presented. I didn't like how the first half of the chapters presented the theme or topic of the chapter as a dramatized story rather than just talking about and explaining the topic. Whether it was an experience from the author's life or from someone she knew, the first half was written like a dramatized version of events and then the second half of the chapter expounded on and explained her opinions on the story. I thought it flowed really weird and it made reading a little distracting.
Overall, I did like it and a lot of the things she said were good, it just wasn't what I was expecting.
When I got this book, I was expecting it to be more of a commentary on maybe femininity, modern women, or how women's role in society has shifted over the years. More of an objective view and reporting of modern women and femininity if you will. However, it was more of a self reflection of the authors life and relationships and her relating those experiences to what other women may be going through. Which is fine, there was definitely some good points made and advice given, but it just wasn't what I was expecting, which again is my fault for not researching better. There were a couple things I didn't like though.
1. I don't think the title of the book fits at all. A lot of the past experiences and things that the author talks about, except for like one or two things, are really broad and could apply to literally anyone. For example, she talks about perfectionism and not being able to balance work with family, and that's something that anyone of either gender can deal with! It kind of felt like she thought that since she leaned so heavily on her own life and since she's a girl, that women would probably relate more to the book then men, but there are really only a couple stories in here that woman would relate to more.
2. I didn't really like the way the topics were presented. I didn't like how the first half of the chapters presented the theme or topic of the chapter as a dramatized story rather than just talking about and explaining the topic. Whether it was an experience from the author's life or from someone she knew, the first half was written like a dramatized version of events and then the second half of the chapter expounded on and explained her opinions on the story. I thought it flowed really weird and it made reading a little distracting.
Overall, I did like it and a lot of the things she said were good, it just wasn't what I was expecting.
November 9, 2022
Uninterresting, only stating the obvious without going further. A bit too much the appearance of religion when there is no need and no reason. Very empty read (imo)
Most interesting part are the quotes at beginning of chapter but they aren't hers
Most interesting part are the quotes at beginning of chapter but they aren't hers
October 18, 2019
Entertaining like a big blog post on a girlisch website.
June 1, 2020
What a terrible book.
January 19, 2021
shit, don’t read
April 27, 2021
I read this Book for an University Assignment. It is literally like a Girl-Magazine, but from a Young, alt-Right Influencer. It is Interesting, how sehe connects Life advice With her ideology.
January 17, 2023
We cannot give what we do not have. Loved this. But the end did fall apart and become a bit too preachy for me
June 13, 2024
This is definitely a book to give to the young women in your life. It offers essential advice that young girls desperately need in this day and age. It addresses all the wrong things women are taught in today’s culture which promotes narcissism and entitlement. Brittany delivers timeless advice in a relatable manner being a young woman herself. Her perspective therefore makes her traditional outlook on life more palatable to the young generation. I hope in the future she will write more diving deeper into the subjects she touches on in this one!
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