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I Still Do: Growing Closer and Stronger through Life's Defining Moments
Lasting marriages are built one defining moment at a time. The moment of blame. The moment of weakness. When your spouse suffers. When dreams disappoint. When the kids leave the nest. It's how we think and behave toward one another in moments like these that determines whether our marriage endures or falters. Ultimately, these are invitations from God to consider our direction and pursue transformation.
With 37 years of marriage and 33 years of pastoring under his belt, Dave Harvey has identified those life-defining moments of a post-newlywed marriage. He wants to help couples recognize them in their own relationships so that they can take a proactive, godly approach to resolving conflicts, holding one another up as change inevitably happens, and ensuring that their marriage survives and thrives.
Whether your relationship is maturing gracefully, just needs a tune-up, or you and your spouse are locked in conflict and your future seems uncertain, Dave Harvey has encouragement and practical tools to help strengthen what remains and build a rock-solid union for the days to come.
With 37 years of marriage and 33 years of pastoring under his belt, Dave Harvey has identified those life-defining moments of a post-newlywed marriage. He wants to help couples recognize them in their own relationships so that they can take a proactive, godly approach to resolving conflicts, holding one another up as change inevitably happens, and ensuring that their marriage survives and thrives.
Whether your relationship is maturing gracefully, just needs a tune-up, or you and your spouse are locked in conflict and your future seems uncertain, Dave Harvey has encouragement and practical tools to help strengthen what remains and build a rock-solid union for the days to come.
224 pages, Paperback
Published January 21, 2020
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Dave Harvey is senior pastor of Covenant Fellowship Church (Glen Mills, PA), part of a family of churches called Sovereign Grace Ministries. He received his Doctor of Ministry in Pastoral Care from Westminster Theological Seminary. Dave lives in West Chester, Pennsylvania, with his wife, Kimm, and their four children.
Dave Harvey is senior pastor of Covenant Fellowship Church (Glen Mills, PA), part of a family of churches called Sovereign Grace Ministries. He received his Doctor of Ministry in Pastoral Care from Westminster Theological Seminary. Dave lives in West Chester, Pennsylvania, with his wife, Kimm, and their four children.
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September 27, 2019
Here’s my endorsement:
If you want a picture of marriage, don’t go to a waterpark. You may see inner tubes floating down a river and become terribly misled. Marriage is more like a marathon; the course is long, the work is grueling, and the couple seems rather out of shape. Of course, many quit. But Dave Harvey wants your marriage to endure and to thrive. “I Still Do” is more than just a training manual; it’s medicine for the journey. Whatever you and your spouse are staring at—exciting plans or dashed dreams, a full plate or an empty nest, easy communication or endless conflict—these moments will either derail or define your course. God longs to help you run faster, and farther, than you ever could alone. Open this book and watch him work.
If you want a picture of marriage, don’t go to a waterpark. You may see inner tubes floating down a river and become terribly misled. Marriage is more like a marathon; the course is long, the work is grueling, and the couple seems rather out of shape. Of course, many quit. But Dave Harvey wants your marriage to endure and to thrive. “I Still Do” is more than just a training manual; it’s medicine for the journey. Whatever you and your spouse are staring at—exciting plans or dashed dreams, a full plate or an empty nest, easy communication or endless conflict—these moments will either derail or define your course. God longs to help you run faster, and farther, than you ever could alone. Open this book and watch him work.
October 24, 2020
Although this is geared towards couples who’ve been married for a while, this book was helpful to read and discuss as we look forward to many years of marriage to come. May Jason and I never stop communicating, growing, and loving each other!
February 14, 2020
There's no shortage of marriage books on the market, so I suppose I wasn't expecting much from this other that a maybe a few snippets I could use in pastoral counseling. I Still Do, however, quickly grabbed my attention and will likely be a go-to resource for me and our church.
Harvey's writing style is engaging and light-hearted, but also theologically precise and nuanced. There are two two big strengths to the book:
1.) It's thoroughly biblical and gospel-oriented, yet it's not simplistic. In a sense, Harvey combines the realities of Ecclesiastes (though I'm not sure he mentions the book), with the hope of the gospel. Near the beginning of the book he points out that the brokenness couples experience in marriage is deeper than just personal sin. This insight is rare in the marriage material I've read. Yes, personal sin is a huge part of marriage struggles, but so are the broken realities of this world like aging, sickness, unexpected struggles, and social influences. I appreciated his thoughtful application of the gospel to the whole person.
2.) It's a book written from the perspective of a couple that has been married for 40 years and it walks through different seasons of marriage, each with different potential issues. Through each phase, Harvey is neither naive nor cynical. The book, therefore, is a great resource for couples who are struggling with deep issues like unforgiveness, but it's also good for couples in good marriages to be reminded of the potential problems and joys of each season.
This is a book I'll be handing out to couples and referring to not only for others, by for myself, for many years.
Harvey's writing style is engaging and light-hearted, but also theologically precise and nuanced. There are two two big strengths to the book:
1.) It's thoroughly biblical and gospel-oriented, yet it's not simplistic. In a sense, Harvey combines the realities of Ecclesiastes (though I'm not sure he mentions the book), with the hope of the gospel. Near the beginning of the book he points out that the brokenness couples experience in marriage is deeper than just personal sin. This insight is rare in the marriage material I've read. Yes, personal sin is a huge part of marriage struggles, but so are the broken realities of this world like aging, sickness, unexpected struggles, and social influences. I appreciated his thoughtful application of the gospel to the whole person.
2.) It's a book written from the perspective of a couple that has been married for 40 years and it walks through different seasons of marriage, each with different potential issues. Through each phase, Harvey is neither naive nor cynical. The book, therefore, is a great resource for couples who are struggling with deep issues like unforgiveness, but it's also good for couples in good marriages to be reminded of the potential problems and joys of each season.
This is a book I'll be handing out to couples and referring to not only for others, by for myself, for many years.
October 24, 2020
Read this with Christa as part of a marriage group.
August 21, 2023
I wish I could give it more stars!
February 11, 2020
Maybe it’s just me and the time of life that I’m in, but this book really resounded in my life. I am blessed to have a great wife and 30 years of marriage and ministry. But I am a fallen man, and I’d be a fool to think that I couldn’t be a better husband, father, and child of God. This is a book that can help me be just that.
This isn’t a traditional marriage book. It isn’t primarily shining a light on the deep-seated sins that manifest themselves in broken relationships. While it doesn’t deny or avoid such a reality, this is a book that shines a light on the implications of a couple living in a fallen world and on the pressures of life (individually and as a couple) that face us as we mature. While the lessons center on marriage, it has applications far beyond it. Harvey writes:
Section 1: Starting Together
1. When You Discover Brokenness Is Broader Than Sin
In this section, we are introduced to five concentric circles, first presented by David Powlison. These were presented in the context of a question he was asked: “Why do we do what we do?” From the innermost to the outermost, the circles are: the human heart, physically embodied, socially embedded, spiritually embattled, and God of Providence. Harvey explains that “The nested circles offer a simplified way to understand the complex influences that shape marriage.”
2. The Moment of Blame
Harvey writes: “[T]here is one fundamental issue that lies at the heart of each miserable marriage and every devastating divorce since the beginning of time. . . . We have trouble accepting the blame when we are wrong.” Such a realization should promote humility. It should also help us to respond in a Christlike way when we are sinned against and when we sin against others, particularly our spouse.
3. The Moment of Weakness
“Marriage is the union of two people on a journey to discover their weaknesses. . . . Weakness is an experience of inability that requires dependence on God” (p61). Just as the church is sovereignly fashioned for the glory of God, so too is each marriage. God brings two people together that they might promote spiritual growth. Marriage has the ability to reveal our weakness and our need for God’s gracious power.
Section 2: Sticking Together
1. When You Realize Family Can’t Replace Church
“Declining church attendance is only a symptom of a deeper problem. The deeper problem is that our family units, with all of their weekend expectations and commitments, are increasingly being prioritized over gathering with God’s people” (pp79-80). Here Harvey emphasizes the need for each couple/family to commit themselves to the local church and to gathering together. God intends the family to flourish within the broader family of the church. Isolating a husband and wife from the broader Christian community is “one way the enemy unravels a marriage.” He quotes John Piper as well: “There is a great gulf between the Christianity that wrestles with whether to worship at the cost of imprisonment and death, and the Christianity the wrestles with whether the kids should play soccer on Sunday morning” (p91).
2. When Your Spouse Suffers
“How we respond when our spouse suffers says a lot about our understanding of marriage” (p100). “Selfishness, fear, worry, self-protection, anxiety, unbelief, confusion, exaggeration, self-service, bewilderment, disquiet—all represent opportunities lost for the sake of a personal agenda” (p103).
3. The Moment You “Get” Mercy
“Marriage, particularly an aging one, becomes an awakening to the mercy of God. A place of safety where we see each other as God sees us (as we are, without any masks) and where we learn to respond the way he does (with kindness and compassion” (pp115-116). Harvey quotes from Sarah Edwards’s (wife of Jonathan Edwards) biography, the title of which conveys the message of this chapter: Marriage to a Difficult Man. Being reminded of God’s mercy extended to us in Christ Jesus should be a strong motivation in our response to all who sin against us. He writes: “How we respond to sin reveals our true grasp of the gospel” (p127).
4.When You Discover Sex Changes with Age
“Don’t reduce cleaving to sex” (p136).
Section 3: Ending Together
1. When Dreams Disappoint
Everyone marries with hopes and dreams. Harvey notes three that are baseless: “Love will keep us together,” “We’ll always be friends,” and “We can live with no regrets.”
2. When the Kids Leave
“God shows us what it looks like to be the ultimate parent, always giving support rather than needing it. He shows us how to give away authority and respect rather than clinging to it like Nebuchadnezzar. And for this virtue we need to look to a better king” (p182).
3. When You Learn Closure Is Overrated
Harvey quotes Hebrews 11:13 “These all died in faith, not having received the things promised” to remind us that while we live in the kingdom, it has not yet been consummated. Life will be untidy, with loose ends that might not resolve as we like. We can’t allow this untidiness to provoke cynicism. “Cynicism turns Saturday Night Live into a way of life. Everything is a joke and everyone is an idiot. All of life becomes a sarcastic punch line. Cynicism is where our unbelief and bitterness disguise themselves as discernment” (p195). We need to rest our hope in another time and another place.
The book closes with a chapter titled “When Grace Conquers Your Wasted Moments: The Death of Ivan Ilych,” a chapter which I think is worth the price of the book itself. Harvey uses the illustration of the book The Death of Ivan Llych by Leo Tolstoy to help confront the reader with the end of life. “When does an ordinary and simple life become terrible? Tolstoy’s answer: when that ordinary and simple life is wasted on a propped-up delusion of self” (p202). Harvey presses the greatness of God’s grace, and the vanity of this world in light of it, exhorting us to recognize this sooner rather than later.
I found this book consistently worthwhile. He had a full book worth of teaching to give and gave it well. This is one of the best marriage books that I’ve read.
This isn’t a traditional marriage book. It isn’t primarily shining a light on the deep-seated sins that manifest themselves in broken relationships. While it doesn’t deny or avoid such a reality, this is a book that shines a light on the implications of a couple living in a fallen world and on the pressures of life (individually and as a couple) that face us as we mature. While the lessons center on marriage, it has applications far beyond it. Harvey writes:
Maybe your marriage has become merely functional, operating like a small business in the service of teenagers, occupations, or retirement goals. Maybe you are in the midst of marriage crisis, just fighting to hang on to your vows. Or maybe you’re maturing gracefully from one season to the next. Whatever your situation, I want to give you a new and time-tested perspective about how God may use these defining moments to make your marriage more resilient, more robust, and altogether more durable. (p23)Harvey deals with ten defining moments of life, which he divides into three sections.
Section 1: Starting Together
1. When You Discover Brokenness Is Broader Than Sin
In this section, we are introduced to five concentric circles, first presented by David Powlison. These were presented in the context of a question he was asked: “Why do we do what we do?” From the innermost to the outermost, the circles are: the human heart, physically embodied, socially embedded, spiritually embattled, and God of Providence. Harvey explains that “The nested circles offer a simplified way to understand the complex influences that shape marriage.”
2. The Moment of Blame
Harvey writes: “[T]here is one fundamental issue that lies at the heart of each miserable marriage and every devastating divorce since the beginning of time. . . . We have trouble accepting the blame when we are wrong.” Such a realization should promote humility. It should also help us to respond in a Christlike way when we are sinned against and when we sin against others, particularly our spouse.
3. The Moment of Weakness
“Marriage is the union of two people on a journey to discover their weaknesses. . . . Weakness is an experience of inability that requires dependence on God” (p61). Just as the church is sovereignly fashioned for the glory of God, so too is each marriage. God brings two people together that they might promote spiritual growth. Marriage has the ability to reveal our weakness and our need for God’s gracious power.
Section 2: Sticking Together
1. When You Realize Family Can’t Replace Church
“Declining church attendance is only a symptom of a deeper problem. The deeper problem is that our family units, with all of their weekend expectations and commitments, are increasingly being prioritized over gathering with God’s people” (pp79-80). Here Harvey emphasizes the need for each couple/family to commit themselves to the local church and to gathering together. God intends the family to flourish within the broader family of the church. Isolating a husband and wife from the broader Christian community is “one way the enemy unravels a marriage.” He quotes John Piper as well: “There is a great gulf between the Christianity that wrestles with whether to worship at the cost of imprisonment and death, and the Christianity the wrestles with whether the kids should play soccer on Sunday morning” (p91).
2. When Your Spouse Suffers
“How we respond when our spouse suffers says a lot about our understanding of marriage” (p100). “Selfishness, fear, worry, self-protection, anxiety, unbelief, confusion, exaggeration, self-service, bewilderment, disquiet—all represent opportunities lost for the sake of a personal agenda” (p103).
3. The Moment You “Get” Mercy
“Marriage, particularly an aging one, becomes an awakening to the mercy of God. A place of safety where we see each other as God sees us (as we are, without any masks) and where we learn to respond the way he does (with kindness and compassion” (pp115-116). Harvey quotes from Sarah Edwards’s (wife of Jonathan Edwards) biography, the title of which conveys the message of this chapter: Marriage to a Difficult Man. Being reminded of God’s mercy extended to us in Christ Jesus should be a strong motivation in our response to all who sin against us. He writes: “How we respond to sin reveals our true grasp of the gospel” (p127).
4.When You Discover Sex Changes with Age
“Don’t reduce cleaving to sex” (p136).
Section 3: Ending Together
1. When Dreams Disappoint
Everyone marries with hopes and dreams. Harvey notes three that are baseless: “Love will keep us together,” “We’ll always be friends,” and “We can live with no regrets.”
2. When the Kids Leave
“God shows us what it looks like to be the ultimate parent, always giving support rather than needing it. He shows us how to give away authority and respect rather than clinging to it like Nebuchadnezzar. And for this virtue we need to look to a better king” (p182).
3. When You Learn Closure Is Overrated
Harvey quotes Hebrews 11:13 “These all died in faith, not having received the things promised” to remind us that while we live in the kingdom, it has not yet been consummated. Life will be untidy, with loose ends that might not resolve as we like. We can’t allow this untidiness to provoke cynicism. “Cynicism turns Saturday Night Live into a way of life. Everything is a joke and everyone is an idiot. All of life becomes a sarcastic punch line. Cynicism is where our unbelief and bitterness disguise themselves as discernment” (p195). We need to rest our hope in another time and another place.
The book closes with a chapter titled “When Grace Conquers Your Wasted Moments: The Death of Ivan Ilych,” a chapter which I think is worth the price of the book itself. Harvey uses the illustration of the book The Death of Ivan Llych by Leo Tolstoy to help confront the reader with the end of life. “When does an ordinary and simple life become terrible? Tolstoy’s answer: when that ordinary and simple life is wasted on a propped-up delusion of self” (p202). Harvey presses the greatness of God’s grace, and the vanity of this world in light of it, exhorting us to recognize this sooner rather than later.
I found this book consistently worthwhile. He had a full book worth of teaching to give and gave it well. This is one of the best marriage books that I’ve read.
December 28, 2022
I Still Do
A great book on marriage.
Life, death, love, and troubles.
This was a great book to put perspective to life towards a life for Jesus.
I really quite enjoyed it
Looking forward to using this book's wisdom in my own marriage.
4.5/5
A great book on marriage.
Life, death, love, and troubles.
This was a great book to put perspective to life towards a life for Jesus.
I really quite enjoyed it
Looking forward to using this book's wisdom in my own marriage.
4.5/5
April 13, 2020
This book had flashes of brilliance but a lot that didn’t apply to me, probably more my problem since this was written for people further into their marriages than I am. Good for what I got out of it
October 27, 2020
Marriage is probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Why? Marriage confronted me with my self-righteousness, love of self, lack of empathy, irritability, and much more. This book is essential reading if you had been married for 5 yrs or more, after the veneer of the initial excitement has worn off. It is not a typical “pep talk, follow these steps to everlasting happiness” kind of book. It calls out marriage for what it is - the union of 2 fallen, broken people and their utter dependence upon God to deal with the curveball that is marriage. It is a sober and forthright look at marriage, offering hope and ultimately pointing towards God. Highly recommended!
February 28, 2020
“God presents such moments in the life of every couple. They become doorways to new insights or trailheads that redirect our paths. Some of these invitations will be self-evident; others will be downright astonishing. But one thing remains certain. How we respond to these moments in marriage determines whether we stumble along separately to move forward together toward maturity”.
What an amazing book! Dave Harvey is the president of Great Commission Collective, was a pastor, and serves on the board of CCEF. In “I Still Do”, Harvey presents ten “defining moments” that marriages will go through, and describes how it is that we think and behave toward one another in these moments that determines whether marriage endures or falters.
These moments are: brokenness in us mere humans, blame, weakness, your church community, suffering, mercy, sex changing with age, dissapointment in dreams, empty nesting, and learning that “closure is overrated”. He states this book is for “post-newlywed” couples, those who have been married a few years, as a “marriage checkup”. But really, I would recommend this for any couple and to take a proactive approach instead of a reactive approach. I would certainly have loved to have this book early in my marriage.
His examples and advice are so practical, biblical, and so gospel-centered. It is as if you’re having a coffee chat with an older wise man, telling you of the beauty and challenges of marriage. But throughout, you are encouraged, to be full of grace towards your spouse, to grow in love, and to cherish your spouse, till death do you apart. Buy this book now!
*Book graciously provided by Baker Books for an honest review.
What an amazing book! Dave Harvey is the president of Great Commission Collective, was a pastor, and serves on the board of CCEF. In “I Still Do”, Harvey presents ten “defining moments” that marriages will go through, and describes how it is that we think and behave toward one another in these moments that determines whether marriage endures or falters.
These moments are: brokenness in us mere humans, blame, weakness, your church community, suffering, mercy, sex changing with age, dissapointment in dreams, empty nesting, and learning that “closure is overrated”. He states this book is for “post-newlywed” couples, those who have been married a few years, as a “marriage checkup”. But really, I would recommend this for any couple and to take a proactive approach instead of a reactive approach. I would certainly have loved to have this book early in my marriage.
His examples and advice are so practical, biblical, and so gospel-centered. It is as if you’re having a coffee chat with an older wise man, telling you of the beauty and challenges of marriage. But throughout, you are encouraged, to be full of grace towards your spouse, to grow in love, and to cherish your spouse, till death do you apart. Buy this book now!
*Book graciously provided by Baker Books for an honest review.
November 23, 2025
I found this book to be really accessible and refreshing. It seems most marriage books are written to newly weds, which makes sense - that’s an audience who needs those resources. I think the danger is that, once you’ve read and know that information, you kind of start thinking “there really isn’t anything in these books I haven’t heard before.”
Yet, with age and experience, we feel and see the sways of marriage differently than we do in those early days. Sections about changes in our and our spouses personalities, or priorities, or dealing with traumatic events (inside or outside of our marriage) just didn’t seem as real back then as they do with a decade or more of life and marriage under your belt. Suddenly, these sections about unfaithful spouses, abusive relationships, wayward children, broken dreams, empty nesting, sickness and death aren’t these far-off theoretical examples we thought they were back then - there are real people who come to mind.
So I think what Harvey does so well here is re-package the information in a book, but with a gentleness and compassion to the weary in heart and mind. Premarital books are written to help you “avoid” difficulties; this book is written to those in the midst of difficulties. This isn’t a book where you’ll walk away with new things you’ve never heard before. It’s like a friend who put their arm around you and is giving you good Godly advice. It’s an encouragement to Christians in marriages of any kind (good, mediocre, or difficult) to shift your priorities and focus back to Christ. Your role is to glorify Him in spite of the difficulties, no matter what they are.
Yet, with age and experience, we feel and see the sways of marriage differently than we do in those early days. Sections about changes in our and our spouses personalities, or priorities, or dealing with traumatic events (inside or outside of our marriage) just didn’t seem as real back then as they do with a decade or more of life and marriage under your belt. Suddenly, these sections about unfaithful spouses, abusive relationships, wayward children, broken dreams, empty nesting, sickness and death aren’t these far-off theoretical examples we thought they were back then - there are real people who come to mind.
So I think what Harvey does so well here is re-package the information in a book, but with a gentleness and compassion to the weary in heart and mind. Premarital books are written to help you “avoid” difficulties; this book is written to those in the midst of difficulties. This isn’t a book where you’ll walk away with new things you’ve never heard before. It’s like a friend who put their arm around you and is giving you good Godly advice. It’s an encouragement to Christians in marriages of any kind (good, mediocre, or difficult) to shift your priorities and focus back to Christ. Your role is to glorify Him in spite of the difficulties, no matter what they are.
February 3, 2022
More like 3 1/2 stars. I liked a lot about this book. It was written from a different perspective on marriage than most marriage books I've read. It had a lot of practical truth and applications. Most marriages would find something good to chew on here. Like many practical Christian living books, it missed greater usefulness in exploring its best points in more depth because of the quantity of pages taken up with telling stories as examples. I would recommend it freely, though.
February 27, 2024
Practical, profound, Biblical wisdom on thriving, enduring, and finishing well in marriage; a strong antidote to meandering cultural narratives. Pulls no punches about the constant necessity to lean on Christ and choose to view marriage, parenthood, suffering, and loss through the lens of the Gospel. (4.5 stars, rounding up)
May 4, 2020
Excellent book on marriage. A little hard to get into at first; but because of the stage of life we are in right now, I am glad I finished it. I heard Dave Harvey being interviewed on a radio program and really enjoyed his practical, Biblical advice.
June 15, 2020
Insightful, and written with clarity. Dave Harvey writes engagingly and gets bonus points for ending the book with the story of Ivan Illyich one of my favorite books of all time) to illustrate the work of grace in a barren life.
September 21, 2020
Good, but not near as good as When Sinners Say I Do.
January 24, 2021
Great for marriage and heart tune-up!
February 10, 2021
Chapter 2 with Powlison's concentric circles and the final chapter reflection on Ivan llyich are worth the price of the book
February 4, 2022
A great tune-up written for those of us who have been married longer.
June 12, 2022
Powerful, thought provoking, and well written. The last chapter on grace is superb. Thank you, Dave, for this excellent resource. Keep writing!
August 2, 2022
Very good book for those that’ve been married a while.
September 6, 2022
Chpt 11 was the best.
January 31, 2023
Profound. Convicting. Full of hope and centered on Christ. As soon as I finished the last sentence, I immediately wanted to begin reading it all over again.
June 16, 2024
Finally a marriage book for "mature marriages". Practical but also wise counsel without telling.
October 5, 2024
Did not quite finish. Good topics and discussion points.
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February 18, 2025This book was such an encouraging book for my husband and I. Love books that help you see your marriage from the "eyes of Jesus"
March 5, 2025
for marriages of 20 years or more
Dave Harvey doesn’t exceptional job serving all marriages but sheds light on topics that are often untouched by other Christian authors
Dave Harvey doesn’t exceptional job serving all marriages but sheds light on topics that are often untouched by other Christian authors
April 9, 2020
This last October, my lovely wife and I celebrated our 25th Anniversary. It really wasn't much of a time to celebrate as we were, at the time, walking with our daughter through tremendous heart ache. It's not that we didn't want to celebrate. We found ourselves, more so, simply clinging to our Savior, asking Him for the grace needed to make it through a hard, hard time. But 25 years! God has been so good to us. He clearly poured out his sustaining grace on us, especially on my wife, given that she has stuck with me for 25 years. We've had many defining moments in those 25 years. There are actually too many to detail. Many of those moments came back into my memory as I read through Dave Harvey's excellent book, "I Still Do." Many people have read Harvey's first book, "When Sinners Say I Do." If you haven't, you should. It is a great book with incredible insight and counsel for a young couple who is just entering into the marriage relationship. It is a very helpful book. But what about those who have been married for 10, 15, 25, 35, say, 50 years? Ah, that is the audience that Harvey writes to.
The author does a great job as he speaks into issues such as: brokenness, sin, blame, weakness, church involvement, suffering spouses, Mercy, Sex, disappointment, empty nests, closure, and death. Each chapter touches on one of these topics. Harvey's self-deprecating humor is great. His illustrations are strategic and thought provoking. And his counsel is wise. I think that this book could serve as a very helpful book for many couples who are decades into marriage. It was a joy to read.
The author does a great job as he speaks into issues such as: brokenness, sin, blame, weakness, church involvement, suffering spouses, Mercy, Sex, disappointment, empty nests, closure, and death. Each chapter touches on one of these topics. Harvey's self-deprecating humor is great. His illustrations are strategic and thought provoking. And his counsel is wise. I think that this book could serve as a very helpful book for many couples who are decades into marriage. It was a joy to read.
October 16, 2020
“I Still Do” was not a bad book. However, like many marriage advice books it was filled with many personal stories. As a young married individual I did not resonate with many of these stories. The practical advice was helpful, but there was nothing novel or overtly profound. I’d rather have listened to talks on this subject matter than took the time to read it. I will say that is intended for couples who have been married for longer periods of time, so maybe I’ll revisit in the future.
August 31, 2024
Really great book for couples married 10-20+ years
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