Taking Charge of Anger: How to Resolve Conflict, Sustain Relationships, and Express Yourself without Losing Control

by W. Robert Nay

If anger is starting to rule your life, or someone else has urged you to "get a grip--or else," anger expert Dr. Robert Nay has a six-step plan that can help you regain control, even in the most stressful, hot-button situations. This proven program shows you how to stand up for yourself without losing your temper. Put a lid on destructive anger once and for all with fine-tuned strategies that help

*Figure out which of the five "faces of anger" are a problem for you, from passive-aggression to all-out rage.
*Recognize the early warning signs of anger in your physical sensations and thoughts.
*Identify and change unrealistic expectations you have for yourself and other people.
*Communicate effectively when differences arise--with your spouse, family members, colleagues, or others.
*Practice anger-management skills alone and in public until they're second nature.

For anyone who needs help with anger, Dr. Nay's program is effective, easy to learn, and--unlike other methods--brings about lasting change.

See also Dr. Nay's Anger Management Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior , which helps you build core anger management skills using interactive exercises, and Overcoming Anger in Your How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences .

Genres: Psychology, Nonfiction

245 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2003

Reviews

[Erika · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was pretty good and actually rather helpful. I had no clue of all the warning signs and faces of anger. Heck, sarcasm is a type of anger, who knew?
Either way I found this book to be pretty interesting as far as understanding your anger and where it comes from. As far as some of the practices, I can see how they might help but I felt the book didn't talk much about accountability and not just passing the blame.
Overall, it was informative, educational, and rather intriguing (for a self-help book).

[Ricardo Shimoda · Rating 5 out of 5]

During my whole life I've dealt, lived with, and created several situations of anger - while I can't change the past, I know that the present has to be different.

I also have gone through many interpretations of this feeling, from the cartoonish (yet quite accurate) volcano-shaped creature in Inside Out (a must-see for people who really love wandering around the emotional landscape) to religious interpretations (the temptation of the devil?) to emotion atlases and other views.

However, when compared to all the things I've read and done, this book is transformative, in the sense that several situations shown in it are extremely relatable - where I would either be the victim or the perpetrator of anger - and it has several good techniques to deal with it - by reading it I think I'm changing my daily life and I'm sure I'll re-read it from time to time to relearn.

Highly recommended!

[M.A USman Jr · Rating 5 out of 5]

Powerful guidance to really be in charge about your anger.

[Amani Mikati · Rating 4 out of 5]

Liked it. Easy to read. Provides good techniques for anger management.
The quizzes inside are not sufficient though.

[Evan Cato · Rating 5 out of 5]

Most helpful anger management book I have read

I highly recommend this book for everyone. I did not realize how often anger affected me, friends, and loved ones. Very effective for controlling anger in the workplace, for the reader and those we engage with every day. Easy to understand, and provides much needed tools to defuse anger & improve communication.

[Sheambelly · Rating 4 out of 5]

well i learn alot from thid book, and i realice how deep is my problems, it also helping me how to control my anger, i will tell you more latter..

[lita]

dikasi temen yang masih tetap tabah meski sering gua marahin..hihihi..thank you my friend!

[Reza Putra · Rating 4 out of 5]

Seru dibaca; manfaat akan terasa begitu perkataan si Nay benar-benar diterapkan. Jangan tergesa-gesa, baca buku ini secara perlahan :P

[Michelle · Rating 5 out of 5]

2nd edition is a great resource. When I go back to work this book will definitely be on my shelf.