Satisfactions: 7 Relationship Skills You Need to Know

by Peter K. Gerlach

Links belowwill take you to the non-profit Break the Cycle! Web site (formerly "Stepfamily inFormation"). Use yourbrowsers "Back" button to return to the Xlibris.com bookstore.Premise :From newborn infants to dying adults, we all communicate to reduce local discomforts - i.e. to "fill current needs." Doing that promotessatisfaction . Anything you do that causes a significantemotional-spiritual-physical-mental change in another person can be called communication .Its impossible to "not communicate" with other people, for silence and inactivity cause reactions and presumed meanings.The quality of your life and key relationships depends largely on the effectiveness of the way you communicate - yet you probablydont know what you need to know about this vital life skill. To reality check that, mull these five1) Name a learned skill that you rely on more often thancommunicating to get your key needs met. Note that thinking isinternal communication.2) How do you distinguish between effective and ineffective communication? Ifyoure not sure, how can you tell if youre communicating effectively inimportantsituations?"3) On a scale of 1 (totally ineffective) to 10 (totally effective), generally how effective a communicator would you rate yourself in calm times __ and in conflicts __ recently?4) Identify the five most important people in your current life. From 1 to 10, how effective would you rate yourself in your communication with each of them in calm __ and conflictual __ times? How effective would each of them rate you?5) Take your time, andsee how well you dowith thiscommunication quiz . Then return.Would you like to improve your communication effectiveness with others and yourself?Seven Essential SkillsThis unique guidebook describes and illustrates seven vital communication skills that any motivatedperson can learn, with practice. TheyAwarenessClear thinking,Digging down,Effectiveassertion,Metatalking (talking cooperatively about communication),

528 pages, Paperback

First published October 28, 2003

About the author

A professional trauma-recovery and family systems therapist.

The author of the non-profit educational "Break the Cycle" website. (http://sfhelp.org)

Over 33 years of experience as a professional therapist, working with individuals, couples and families.

B.Sc. of Mechanical Engineering from University of Stanford
M.A. of Social Work from University of Illinois
Participated in hundreds of post-graduate seminars.

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