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The Male Couple's Guide: Finding a Man, Making a Home, Building a Life
Finding the right man is just the beginning. Figuring out how to build a happy, rewarding, and tong-lasting relationship is the next challenge. With the help you'll find in the pages of The Male Couple's Guide--a warm, commonsense companion based on interviews with gay men across the country, their families, and relationship experts, as well as the author's own experience'you'll get the answers to everything you need to know, including: Finding the Right Man: Knowing what to look for, where to look, and how to date
Getting Along: How to talk, how to listen, and how to accept differences
Monogamy/Nonmonogamy: Deciding what works for you
Moving in Together: Where to live, setting up house, managing household chores
Tying the Knot: Planning a ceremony, exchanging rings
Family: Coming out to your family, including your partner in family life
Children: Exploring your choices, making a decision
Work: How to include or exclude your partner from your professional life
Sex: What to expect when the honeymoon stage is a memory
Money: Managing your joint or separate finances
The Law: Protecting your relationship and each other legally
Getting Along: How to talk, how to listen, and how to accept differences
Monogamy/Nonmonogamy: Deciding what works for you
Moving in Together: Where to live, setting up house, managing household chores
Tying the Knot: Planning a ceremony, exchanging rings
Family: Coming out to your family, including your partner in family life
Children: Exploring your choices, making a decision
Work: How to include or exclude your partner from your professional life
Sex: What to expect when the honeymoon stage is a memory
Money: Managing your joint or separate finances
The Law: Protecting your relationship and each other legally
320 pages, Paperback
First published March 1, 1988
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About the author
Eric Marcus
33 books31 followersEric Marcus is a communications expert who has been communicating with the broad public and specific niche audiences for three decades. His work has ranged from writing consumer-oriented books and developing promotional and informational materials for non-profit and commercial enterprises to production jobs for both documentaries and television network news.
Eric’s ten books include Why Suicide?, What If Someone I Know Is Gay?, and Breaking the Surface, the #1 New York Times best-selling autobiography of Olympic diving champion Greg Louganis. In addition, Eric has written articles and columns for the New York Times, New York Daily News, New York Post, Newsweek, and the New Jersey Star-Ledger.
His many clients have included Waldenbooks, PBS “American Experience,” and Sanky Communications (for which he has worked on development materials for Planned Parenthood NYC, the NAACP Legal Defense Fund, the Christopher & Dana Reeve Foundation, and MOMA, among others). Most recently, Eric has worked with the family of the late Sir James Goldsmith to create detailed illustrated guides for their two nature reserves and luxury resorts that convey to guests, potential guests, and travel industry experts the essential qualities and features of these remarkable places.
Eric is a former associate producer for ABC’s “Good Morning America” and “CBS This Morning.” For a recent PBS “American Experience” documentary about the 1969 Stonewall uprising in New York’s Greenwich Village, Eric wore several hats, including advisor, associate producer, still photographer, and author of the film’s online teaching guide.
In addition to his behind-the-scenes work, Eric also has extensive experience on the other side of the microphone and camera as a spokesman on a range of issues related to his books. He is also a seasoned moderator and conversation facilitator, and in that capacity has worked in both public and private forums for clients ranging from the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention and the National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Association to Unilever and the University of South Dakota.
Eric Marcus is a graduate of New York City public schools, after which he attended Vassar College and earned master’s degrees from Columbia University in both journalism and real estate development.
Eric’s ten books include Why Suicide?, What If Someone I Know Is Gay?, and Breaking the Surface, the #1 New York Times best-selling autobiography of Olympic diving champion Greg Louganis. In addition, Eric has written articles and columns for the New York Times, New York Daily News, New York Post, Newsweek, and the New Jersey Star-Ledger.
His many clients have included Waldenbooks, PBS “American Experience,” and Sanky Communications (for which he has worked on development materials for Planned Parenthood NYC, the NAACP Legal Defense Fund, the Christopher & Dana Reeve Foundation, and MOMA, among others). Most recently, Eric has worked with the family of the late Sir James Goldsmith to create detailed illustrated guides for their two nature reserves and luxury resorts that convey to guests, potential guests, and travel industry experts the essential qualities and features of these remarkable places.
Eric is a former associate producer for ABC’s “Good Morning America” and “CBS This Morning.” For a recent PBS “American Experience” documentary about the 1969 Stonewall uprising in New York’s Greenwich Village, Eric wore several hats, including advisor, associate producer, still photographer, and author of the film’s online teaching guide.
In addition to his behind-the-scenes work, Eric also has extensive experience on the other side of the microphone and camera as a spokesman on a range of issues related to his books. He is also a seasoned moderator and conversation facilitator, and in that capacity has worked in both public and private forums for clients ranging from the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention and the National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Association to Unilever and the University of South Dakota.
Eric Marcus is a graduate of New York City public schools, after which he attended Vassar College and earned master’s degrees from Columbia University in both journalism and real estate development.
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March 13, 2018
The Male Couple’s Guide was good introductory resource for gay, male, relationships.
It was nice to read the situational examples of other gay couples in the various aspects of their relationship. Some of them were definitely relatable and hit close to home.
However, I’m not sure if there is a fourth edition but some of the information is a little dated and a lot has changed in gay, male, relationships in the last 10 years with the introduction of online dating, apps, and the marriage equality movement.
Overall, it was an insightful book and I have ear marked some pages as a resource for things to discuss with my husband in the future.
It was nice to read the situational examples of other gay couples in the various aspects of their relationship. Some of them were definitely relatable and hit close to home.
However, I’m not sure if there is a fourth edition but some of the information is a little dated and a lot has changed in gay, male, relationships in the last 10 years with the introduction of online dating, apps, and the marriage equality movement.
Overall, it was an insightful book and I have ear marked some pages as a resource for things to discuss with my husband in the future.
April 16, 2020
Mr. Marcus' elitist attitude comes shining through in this book. He interviews for the most part, highly educated, city dwelling, white gay men who similarly to Mr. Marcus, graduated from Ivy League Colleges and Universities. The book gives no insight into the nuance of a typical male relationship or of individuals who may have had the misfortune of attended a "no name state university".
July 11, 2017
A bit dated but worth the read.
July 16, 2019
I read the 1988 edition, it does have a lot of practical cohabitation tips and presents different options from a neutral point of view. A bit dated in terms of the legal information and I'm not crazy about the parenting chapter's promotion of the attitude that children need both a mom and a dad to raise them. However, I still learned a lot from reading it.
August 14, 2016
borrowed from library, 1 Feb. 2014
October 2, 2015
I read things that don't apply to me. From the non-target audience, it seemed like the author gave reasonable advice.
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