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599 pages, Paperback
Published September 29, 2005
- How to Empathize with Japanese: do not tell jokes unless they are at your own expense and can easily be understood. (p. 518)
=> it's important not to confuse them with too complex jokes, best to stick to simple ones, ask yourself: would a child understand it?
- How to Empathize with Iraqis: Under the present circumstances, one can only offer sympathy and, when possible, help and advice. (p. 426)
=> help and advice from foreigners and/or strangers is always wanted and appreciated (ask any woman), even if you are not an expert in the field, your advice and help is obviously useful to them and will gratefully be accepted.
- “It is not a good idea to ask to see a Japanese home; even important business people often live in tiny apartments, a fact that causes them some embarrassment. They are quite happy to go to your home, however, since you are likely to have more space.” (p. 518)
=> obviously your living conditions are better, so please don't embarrass them by visiting their home, it is naturally, in regard to yours, lacking.

- Try not to be judgmental about Indian failings or limitations. (p. 439)
=> there are naturally many failings and limitations, but try not to judge too harshly.
- How to Emphasize with Black South Africans: Although suspicious of “ex-colonialists,” blacks are quickly gratified by reasonable establishment of trust between parties. (p. 220)
=> a quick show of trust will obviously wipe away all the suspicions resulting from years of systemic oppression and abuse. You are now their best friend.
- Self-respect and loss of face are very much on their mind. Although they are not dealing from strength, the Vietnamese have a great sense of pride and will not be humiliated. (p. 483)
=> weirdly, unlike all other people in this world, they are reluctant to be humiliated, do keep that in mind.
- How to Emphasize with Chinese: they consider themselves extremely experienced, knowledgeable and shrewd. You may think you are more au fair (competent) with international business methods, but don’t let this show through. (p. 497)
=> you are obviously more competent, but try however not too show this totally obvious fact too much. Weirdly enough they do not appreciate being condescended to.
- Indians tend to complain openly about the injustices of the colonial period. If treated with respect, they quickly put the past behind them (…) (p. 439)
=> Are they still going on about that? Oh well, no biggie. A quick show of respect and they'll be eating out of the palm of your hand.
- When criticizing, praise other things at the same time. Leaving something unsaid can also be a subtle way of indicating mild disapproval. (p. 479)
=> in fact, just treat them like children in general, some mild disapproval here, some praise there, and voilà - problem solved.
- Black South Africans in general need warmth, kindness, sympathy and practical help (p. 221)
=> unsolicited help once again, is always appreciated and accepted with heartfelt gratitude.
- Try not to react suspiciously to the warmth emanating from Brazilians; they strive to be liked and to please others. They are hesitant to accept responsibility; you may find that you constantly need to build up their confidence (p. 544).
=> although over-eager to please you, do throw them a bone from time to time, it helps build up their confidence, which they would not have without you. so good job you.
“Despite years of racial suppression and injustices, there is in fact far less color consciousness in the country than in many other parts of the world.
White South Africans are entrepreneurial and decisive in business. At meetings they come well prepared and usually have a few cards up their sleeves. I a discussion they will often sit back to listen and learn, but they are not averse to assuming dominance and taking control.”
“Black South Africans in general need warmth, kindness, sympathy and practical advice. They are also proud, so that aid and advice must be offered discreetly. You should recognize Africa strengths, which are numerous in many artistic, aesthetic and humanitarian fields. These should be seen as compensating for short-comings (e.g. organizational ad economic experience), which derive from situations often created by whites.”
- Switzerland is the most mountainous country in Europe, with the result that most of its people live in deep and often isolated valleys. They are suspicious of those who live in other valleys and take refuge in steely, defensive parochialism.
- Formerly a warlike people who took on and defeated French, German and Austrian armies before being eventually crushed at the battle of Marignano in 1515, the Swiss retreated to their mountain strongholds and never left them again.
- and finally: a collection of sedated Germans, over-fussy French and starched Italians, all square like their national flag.
Hey, wait! What about the Romansh??!!!
In a book about cultures you can't leave out our fourth language and culture - there are still like 60'000 of us left!