This book ages well. It's my third time to wander through this book and like a bottle of fine wine, it gets better with age. I'll probably try and read through it every year. If you are a pastor, seminary student, ministry leader, or faithful church member, then this book is worth your time. Either you or somebody you know and love is likely wrestling with the issues Paul Tripp writes about in this underrated book.
Ministry is a dangerous vocation. It's dangerous because you can unknowingly develop fall into the trap of thinking you have arrived. In ministry, it's often easy to substitute experience or knowledge for depending on God and His grace. One of the best vignettes is when Paul Tripp (the prince of mustaches), recalls a story about an unnamed friend. This friend was a master gardener, who meticulously maintained a rose garden. His friend is an expert. But in his expertise, there is no enjoyment. "Expert, but unchanged. Expert, but without awe. Expert, but not driven to worship. Expert, but lacking in joy. Expert, but not very thankful. It was a sad state of affairs for a man who professed to love rose."
That quote got me thinking about the danger of complacency that comes with believing you graduate from grace and no longer require what only God can give. It's a hazardous place to be. At times, I confess that I've drifted towards the alluring lie and fallen into that trap. The key is to continually confess sin and move towards the Lord in repentance. I love how Tripp reminds the reader, especially myself, to "...be regularly exposed, humbled, assured, and given rest by the grace of his Redeemer. His heart needs to be tenderized day after day by his communion with Christ so that he becomes a tender, loving, patient, forgiving, encouraging, and giving servant leader." Character transformation is essential. I'm continually reminded by the Apostle Paul's words in Galatians about the fruits of the Spirit. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Those changes can only come through be deeply rooted in God's Word and continually depending on the Holy Spirit. I need deep roots if I want to continue bearing that fruit that only God can provide.
This book also reminds me that while ministry can be a more solitary occupation, it is essential to have community. Not just people to enjoy living life with, but people who will lovingly speak truth into your life. There are so many patterns of pastors, theologians, seminary students, and ministry workers descending into truly dark places. Most of these patterns could have been avoided if there was a solid community and if individuals were honestly questioned about how they were doing. From my own life, I have benefitted from hard truth and tough love. I truly believe Tripp when he writes that "Every believer is designed to have a teaching function in the life of every believer."
My last big takeaway is the reminder from 1 Peter 5:6-11. Paul Tripp made this passage come alive in ways that I rarely think about. I think in the back of my mind, I often assume that being a faithful follower of Christ protects me from being spiritually attacked. This is not true. Reality is quite different and the enemy will do anything he can to steal, kill, and destroy my joy and my relationship with Christ. It's so important to be watchful and to remember that my life is lived in a dangerous, spiritual conflict zone. But this is all the more reason to cling to God's promises.
"It is impossible to be in ministry and not be affected. So you and I must resist the lie of the enemy that we have been selected to face what others haven't. We must resist the temptation of thinking that God has forgotten us, neglected us, or turned his back on us. We must refuse to feel that we are victims of abandonment by the One we are called to represent. And we must remember that our suffering is not in the way of God's plan, but part of it. In our suffering, God is not only with us but also is employing it to change us and those to whom we minister."