"The ghosts that he first encountered at the Abbey assemble into one remarkable dynasty: this man a hero; this man a villain; and in their shadow, the women upholding the family name. Heirs, warriors, mothers and lovers - all acting out the roles they were born to play. Like those curious figures on the courtyard fountain, they present a parade of monsters and saints, and men in masquerade."
4,5/5!
We all know Lord Byron - the mad, bad and dangerous to know poet - but who were his parents, his grandparents? Where did he come from? In her book, Emily Brand tells the story of the previous generations of Byrons and how, essentially, their house fell from grace and what wealth their ancestors had managed to scrape together. It's a story of scandal, adultery, shipwreck, passion, betrayal and murder, relayed to us through the life stories of many family members but, above all, the siblings William, the 5th Lord Byron, his younger brother (and the poet's grandpa) John, known also as Foul-Weather Jack, and their older sister, Isabella.
The poet once wrote: "Some curse hangs over me and mine." After reading this book, while I do not believe in any actual curses, I cannot blame him for thinking so. The Byrons were, I learned, to put it mildly, a rather bonkers family. Apart from a few standout individuals who seemed like normal, nice people, this family was littered with rather eccentric figures who all caused scandal after scandal in their lifetime which, naturally, made this a very engaging and interesting book, one I kept reading even after I got a fever and had a pounding headache. I just had to get to the ending and learn what happened to all of these people. Emily Brand's mix of nonfiction with little fictionalised interludes worked for me, but I can see why some people would find it off-putting in a non-fiction book.
The three central Byrons of the book were all very vivid characters and I liked how Brand took time to really explore all of them equally, detailing all the weird and wacky events of their life. I feel like they all deserve their own little section of this review, so here goes:
William, the so-called Wicked Lord Byron, was, I feel comfortable saying, an absolute asshole. He seemed like one of those men who just never grows up and remains this petulant, entitled child for the rest of their life. He enjoyed the privileges of his station but never bothered to fulfil any of its duties. Some stories that I'd say give a good indication as to what he was like are A) that he joined the army to fight the Jacobite rebels but then dropped out just before a big fight, B) he killed a man, Chaworth, at a bar when drunk (he was tried for murder but ended up just fined as punishment for manslaughter), C) an actress, George Anne Bellamy, claimed in her memoir that after she refused him, he had her kidnapped and later harassed her with letters and threats of self-harm if she did not see him, and D) he wasted all his money and was so desperate for cash that he built a dam on his lands and wanted to charge the local businesses that relied on the water flow for access to water. It is no wonder he becomes a subject of all kinds of dark rumours of devils in his garden, murder and abduction, of domestic abuse and general cruelty. Whether most of those stories have any basis in reality or not, he was a truly abysmal person, with absolutely no ability to control his spending and who seemed to care, above all, about money. One of the people I felt most bad for in the whole book was his long-suffering wife, Elizabeth.
Isabella seemed like one of those women I would love to spend an evening with chatting and listening to music (she was known for her love of music and her musical soirees) but who might be a lot to handle as a wife, a sister or a mother. She was social and giddy and did not care too much about what other people thought which is, to our eyes, quite admirable, but which caused her family a lot of stress because she followed her heart into great many a scandal: after her respectable marriage to Lord Carlisle ended in his death, she married a much younger man (it was okay for men to marry girls in their late-teens, but the other way around? Oh, no!) and after separating from him, she lived in France for 14 years, a lot of the time with a much younger man, Weinheim, who claimed to be a baron when they were out together. It was frustrating to read about how people saw her, a mother and an aging woman, as inherently ridiculous and wrong because she liked to flirt, dance, party and wanted romance. Aging women are still today often seen as silly and inappropriate if they dare to step outside the comfortable box society likes to place them in. Her family laboured to get her back from France, which she really didn't want to do (they sent spies to lure her back – it was that drastic!), and when she eventually did make her way back to England for good, she had lost all her reputation, was severely in debt, dependant upon her son and quite sad. I get why her family was worried - she did spend wildly and uncontrollably (this family had some serious issues with money) and she did shame their family name - but at the same time, I was angry for her. She wanted a big life, but ended up dying quite alone, her reputation in tatters and no grand love by her side. She wrote a lot in her lifetime and it was fun how Emily Brand was able to quote her directly a whole lot: it made her feel more alive, more tangible.
John, or Foul-Weather Jack, lived one of those lives that you think would only exist in movies or novels. He embarked upon a mission as a young navy man of 17 in 1740 (all of the following was made extra horrible once I realized he was only a kid when it happened) aboard the Wager, and ends up living through absolute hell. The ship crashes and is marooned, there's mutinies and murder, people die of starvation and scurvy all around him, and eventually he, after the mutineers leave, remains with his captain with but a few other crew mates. The men of the Wager encounter indigenous peoples who offer them help and guidance, but then, obviously, one of the crew men tries to "seduce" the wives of the indigenous folk (I assume this means rape). John gets dysentry. He finds a dog but it ends up eaten. They are discovered by another indigenous tribe who escort them to a spanish settlement where they are given help. In another settlement they are held captive and only the kindness of the locals keeps them alive. It takes him four years to finally get home. It's horrible. Later in his life he becomes this great, renowned commander, who is respected by his crew (they like him so much that once, after a journey, it is said they came to his home singing and playing instruments and thanked him for being such a good boss), but his journeys tend to be a bit disappointing. When sent to find and claim land for the King, he finds a few islands (one of which is already under French control, it turns out) and nothing more, and later, when he is sent to fight off the French in America, he is, at every point on the journey, faced with truly awful weather; his fleet wrecked, he himself is injured, their chase prevented. This earned him his rather cool nickname.
This book was just full of crazy stories - some fun, most of them abysmal. William's son, William, did not just break off his engagement - he ran off, on the eve of his wedding, with his cousin, John's daughter, Juliana. John, seemingly bored as an older man living a life lacking in adventure, seduced a 19-year-old chambermaid of his wife's and was discovered, by his wife Sophia, in their bed with the maid (all this of course ended up in the local gossip rag, making it all extra humiliating for Sophia). Mad Jack Byron (the poet's father, notorious money-spender and generally an untrustworthy shithead) ran off with a married mother of three, Amelia, who got divorced very publicly and lost everything to be with this asshat of a man. The same Jack also seems to have had an incestuous relationship with his sister Fanny – he wrote to her about his sexual escapades, said he is mad that he is her brother and, essentially, that whenever he has sex he thinks of her (funnily enough, his son the poet would also have an incestuous relationship – to his half-sister, Augusta). George Anson, John's son, got hitched in Jamaica to a bastard girl and caused a ruckus: the couple loved each other (they died only months apart) but the family was highly skeptical of Henrietta, which says a lot about how foreigners and those of "low birth" were considered.
But while this book is full of scandal and chaos, there were also some lovely stories peppered in. George Anson and Henrietta loved one another dearly despite his family's objections to their marriage – he was brokenhearted when she died and died himself but a few months after her. Sophia, though she ended up not that close to her children (she annoyed them, it seems) had some decades-long friendships. Isabella seemed to always want to help those around her, even if it meant she threw away money she did not actually have to do so. John's letters to his daughters were genuinely sweet and full of fatherly love. Even amidst the horror of the Wager, there were glimpses of humanity: in his book John wrote about sitting by the side of his friends and feeding them even though he knew they would not survive, they were helped by indigenous peoples to survive and find food, and so on. But on the whole, it is a rather gloomy family saga, one of decay and ruination, broken hearts and lonely fates.
The last thing I wanna talk about is how this book contextualises the poet. I feel like we easily think of him as this lone wolf, this singular peculiar man, and while I believe he is one-of-a-kind, he comes from a long line of peculiar individuals. And considering just how important his family legacy seemed to have been for him, I think this deserves to be talked of more. He wrote about his aunts, uncles and grandparents in his poems, and he felt a deep connection to the near ruined Newstead Abbey. He relished in the "curse" of his bloodline and the dark stories of his family, but he also defended them against slander and gossip. This book also makes it clear how much of an outsider he was: he grew up in Scotland, in his mother's country, and his relatives never really knew him (they didn't like his mother, it seems) until he inherited. He then became close with some of them, but not all. But despite growing up so far away and hearing mostly negative stuff about his dad's family from his mom, he grew to really embrace his name of Byron. It was fun reading about all the chaotic stories of his family members, knowing that the most chaotic and notorious one of them all is yet to come. I liked this quote from Emily Brand: "Following decades of scandal, sorrow and triumph, the fall of the House of Byron had given rise to its most notorious figure: George would be a hero and a villain, at once the privileged elite and an outrageous radical. His inheritance was a picture of perfect desolation, and he was 'the wreck of the line that have held it in sway'. 'Newstead', he wiill declare, 'has always suited me better than any other'."
I would recommend The Fall of the House of Byron to anyone interested in Lord Byron (he appears a bit in the book, especially near the end, but I think, if you really like him, you should also get to know his family), Georgian society and life, or stories of wacky family drama. It's a relatively short book but full of information and direct quotes from poems and letters (it is meticulously researched), and it gives you such a good overview of the few generations before the poet enters the picture and becomes the "mad, bad and dangerous to know" Lord Byron we hate to love and love to hate.
Here are some interesting facts I learned while reading:
- Samuel Pepys, the diarist, claimed that one of the reasons why the Byron family was elevated to the peerage was that the Lady Byron of the time slept with King Charles II.
- George Byron, the younger of Isabella, William and John, had, as one of his godparents, King George II.
- Child mortality and infant mortality rates were terrifying at this point (it seems baffling to a modern reader just how many kids die in this "story") – by the time William, John and their brothers were kids, some parents didn't want to send their kids to schools, preferred to have them home-schooled, because of fear of disease.
- William Byron, the 5th Lord, had a race horse called Why Do You Slight Me?
- After the Wager wreck, when stuck on an island, John found a dog he named Boxer. He hunted with it and befriended it, but eventually, his crewmates demanded it for food. John resisted at first but eventually, in desperation, ate Boxer as well.
- George III was the first "home-grown" monarch in 50 years when he inherited the throne.
- The impact of John Byron's navy career and legacy is still visible today: in Australia, there is Byron Bay (originally named, by James Cook, in honor of Byron, as Cape Byron), there's Byron Island off the Chilean Coast, Byron Bay in Newfoundland and Byron Heights in Falklands.
- Both Isabella and John became published authors: John wrote his memoirs, The Narrative of the Honourable John Byron about his travels and misadventures, and Isabella, ironically, considering her dubious reputation, published an etiquette guide to young ladies.
- At this time, if a couple got divorced, they could remarry but if they only legally separated, they couldn't remarry while the other still lived.
- The first man in parliament who supported George III's demand for punitive action against the rebelling americans, after the Declaration of Independence, was Frederick, Isabella's son. He was also sent to negotiate to America, where he was challenged to a duel - which he declined - by Marquis de Lafayette.
- George Byron's son Frederick George became a known and popular political cartoonist.
- Newstead Abbey was eventually sold in 1817 and Old Joe Murray, who had looked after it and the family for decades, died in 1820: to the poet, this marked the end of an era.
- During John's time in the navy, not many commanders considered it important to give their men fresh food and vegetables, but John did: he had as much fresh food on board as he could. Overall, he seemed to have been a respected, firm and caring leader - stern if he had to - but someone who wanted the best for his men.
- Navy wives, such as Sophia (John's cousin and wife), were often in charge of their husband's affairs and money when they were away (they had an important role in supporting their careers in this way) and many of them adopted navy slang into their language.
- The poet inherited very randomly: the one who was meant to inherit was hit by a cannon ball when fighting the French at Corsica. Later, George Anson's son, George Anson Jr., becomes the 7th Lord Byron after the poet dies.