The pain behind the megawatt smiles.
This book caused a stir when it appeared in 1994 and NOT because it's the typical "who I slept with" show biz tell-all. There's plenty in here about Cassidy's sex life, but his partners weren't women with recognizable names. And a rock star sleeping with groupies is hardly front-page news, is it?
I found it interesting, even though I never watched "The Partridge Family" and was only vaguely aware of David Cassidy's music career. It's better written than many celebrity "autobiographies." Cassidy was smart and he picked a real writer, not a ghost writing hack. From the "epilogue" written by Chip Deffa after Cassidy's death in 2017, it's obvious that this was not a book written quickly from a few interviews. The two men spent time together and liked and respected each other. I suspect Deffaa was as surprised as I was to learn that Cassidy wasn't the empty-headed, spoiled celebrity's kid he seemed to be. He had problems, but he'd earned his scars through a troubled childhood.
He was the child of actress Evelyn Ward and actor Jack Cassidy. Jack abandoned his first wife early on and and David started life in New Jersey, living with his mother's parents. Even after Evelyn moved to L.A., Jack showed little interest in his oldest son. By that time, he was married to Shirley Jones and had three sons with her. Sadly, he wasn't a good father to them, either.
Both of Jack Cassidy's wives remain mysteries in this book. David says little about his mother, other than that she pretty much let him do what he wanted to. As a teen, he was heavily into the 1960's sex, drugs, and rock scene in California. His mother never interfered. Did she trust her son or was she simply more involved in her own life and marriages?
Shirley Jones' decision to marry the manic, charming Jack Cassidy and have a family with him is odd, too. She had an opportunity to see how he treated his oldest son and clearly didn't think he was a good father. She said that he ignored David except to discipline him. Did she think he would be different with her children? Like many families (in Hollywood and elsewhere) the smiling pictures looked far better than the reality.
Some things I took from this book.... Bad parenting leaves emotional scars that stardom and money don't make disappear. Cassidy emerged from his childhood hurt by his father's neglect and anger and especially by Jack's violent jealousy of his son's fame. When this book was written, he was 43 years old and still struggling with his ambivalent feelings about Jack Cassidy. Danny Bonaduce was also the son of any angry, abusive father. The book hints that Susan Dey had family problems and was drawn to older men to replace the loving father she wanted and didn't have. Money solves some problems, but it doesn't fill the hole in your soul left by the lack of love in childhood.
The old term "stage-struck" may no longer be in use, but it's wonderfully descriptive of people obsessed with performing. That obsession drives their professional and personal lives and skews their decision-making, even in regards to their children. Cassidy claims that he didn't want to "star" in a silly television show aimed at kids. He was building a career as a serious actor and becoming respected for his appearances in dramatic roles.
His father, mother, step-mother, and Ruth Aarons (the manager who was closer to him than any of them) urged him to sign. Why? Because the idea of passing up a starring role was unthinkable to them. Actors work, scheme, and sacrifice to get "big" roles. Although all of the people in his life TALKED about the importance of learning the trade and becoming a serious actor, the chance of stardom was what really mattered to them. In the end, it mattered more to them than David's happiness.
Anywhere people are making big money, vultures are trying to take that money away from them. Professional athletes and entertainers are particularly vulnerable. Perhaps they absorb the adulation of their admirers and come to believe that EVERYONE loves and wants the best for them. The money seems endless and the work is endless, too. If you think being an actor or musician is an easy way to make a living, you won't think so by the end of this book. Like many others, Cassidy worked incredibly hard at building his career and ended up with nothing.
Even if he exaggerated the crimes of the people who took advantage of him, even if he downplayed his own irresponsibility, the guy was screwed. Those who should have looked after him , either robbed him or looked the other way.
Cassidy's stories of the giant hoax that was "The Partridge Family" are shocking and sad and hilarious. His tales of his years as a "teen idol" are amazing. I had no idea of his huge popularity or of the insanity that followed his appearances everywhere. Most surprising of all is his intelligence and his shrewd insight into the minds of his fellow entertainers. He talks about "the insecurities and self-absorption" that seem to go with being an entertainer and how they affected his relationships and his career.
Happily, his third marriage lasted twenty years and produced a son. He was able to be the caring, hands-on father he didn't have himself. After Jack Cassidy's death in 1976, David became close to his three half-brothers. The four of them remained close, personally and professionally, for the rest of his life. His fan's never deserted him and he became a respected musician.
He never completely conquered the demons of his childhood. As a grown man, he stayed away from drugs, but he was a third generation alcoholic and his DUI's were front-page news. Jack Cassidy died drunk in a house fire after telling everyone that he'd given up alcohol. Forty-one years later, David Cassidy died of liver failure. He had told everyone that he'd given up alcohol.
I'm glad I read this book. It's entertaining and tragic. Cassidy was born with so many advantages and yet the deck was stacked against him.