Crotch Thinking: A Memoir of Lust & Damage

by David Thomas

Crotch Thinking is the story of one baby boomer’s sexuality from his third year to his seventieth.
Repression, hormones, and cultural forces led to a shotgun marriage and two daughters he adored and abandoned for a second, trophy wife. Passionate pleasure with her obscured the permanent pain brought on by her alcohol and drug addictions and his co-dependence. Then, the joy of their son’s open adoption was overshadowed by failed treatment attempts and professional ruin. After six decades he learned the difference between lust and love, but not in time to save his children from alcoholism, depression, obesity, and inability to trust. From this life millennial men can learn to reflect on their sexuality and communicate openly about it.

126 pages, Paperback

Published September 27, 2019

Reviews

[Alicia Rickard · Rating 4 out of 5]

In this day and age sex is everywhere around us. In movies, music, and tv shows to name a few. Yet, there are still a lot of parents who aren’t comfortable talking about sex. Which is completely understandable because the “birds and the bees” isn’t an easy talk to have. But it’s better to learn these things from your parents than somewhere else on the internet. I like how early on in David’s memoir he emphasizes the importance of having this talk. He discusses it in the very first chapter. Which hopefully, will inspire more parents to be open with their children.

[Thomas D. · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really like how David admits to the pressure during his high school dating years to be with a women. How your masculinity an sexuality gets questioned if you don’t. But like with everything some people experience things at all different times than others. Some may learn to drive a car at 18 while others don’t until their late 20’s. It’s just a natural way of life. That’s why people shouldn’t let people pressure them into doing something they shouldn’t. David mentions this in the book and the honesty is refreshing.

[Brandy C. · Rating 5 out of 5]

With all the advancements we made towards becoming a more aware society about sexual harassment. We still definitely have a long way to go. There’s too many men who just act like this is a phase with the #MeToo movement, but it isn’t and they need to recognize this. The culture of men getting away with these atrocious acts is over and done with. This memoir really details that and explores the possible ways to prevent sexual harassment altogether. Definitely would recommend this book, it’s a very informative read.

[Lois J White · Rating 4 out of 5]

Toxic masculinity is very much a real thing and it still exists today. This along with gender stereotypes are a few factors contributing to sexual abuse and harassment. We need to recognize this in todays society and figure out a way to stop it. This book doesn’t necessarily have the solution. But it has the grounds to get the ball rolling by really making others think about how to stop sexual abuse and harassment.

[Brandy E · Rating 5 out of 5]

Every generation should be able to understand the message David is trying to say in his memoir. The message is we need to encourage more reflection on sexual harassment issues and start an open dialogue. It is necessary for men to act appropriately and the way David helps men think about this is great! We can no longer live with this macho culture in our heads. It’s time for men of all ages to grow up and behave in a way that would better our world.

[Ana Aguilar · Rating 5 out of 5]

I feel that when a book can spark a discussion and make you really think, then it did what it was supposed to. This memoir that David wrote did exactly that by catching your attention but also leaving you with more knowledge than you had before it. This is a book I’ve recommended to everyone around me because it has a great message and is something we should be more aware of. This was really well written and an overall fantastic memoir.