warning: spoilers ahead
this one’s tricky. i keep going back and forth between three stars, four stars, and five. because on one hand, i ended up not liking how this panned out, even though the beginning had me hooked and reeling from moments where i understood bridget too well. but the ending felt rushed, and ultimately a dishonor to the main character. the reckoning with her arch happened on one page in a swift moment that didn’t really have the impact it wanted to make. i also feel like i understand why the author decided to write the story in this way.
we follow bridget, a girl from connecticut who develops an obsession with the new girl in school, isabella. she graduates and ends up going to the same art history school as her, where she tries to solidify their friendship through tactful, deceitful means. and the funny part? i didn’t really harbor much hatred for her for doing this. she is also facing racism for being half arab, and spends the entirety of the book hiding this part of herself to win the favor of her peers.
one theme that stands out is the death of the self. this is referenced by sister teresa, who describes this process of emptying yourself of everything you are so that god may fill you with him. i took this to mirror exactly what bridget is going through: suppressing nearly everything about herself to be well liked by others, especially isabella. she betrays her ethnicity, her sick sister and the rest of her family, her hometown, and even her own reactions and responses. they’re all carefully calculated so that they’re not only seen as acceptable by others, but admired by them. she has virtually killed herself so that isabella’s love may fill her. and the tragic thing is that sister teresa, or rosaria, is her foil.
sister teresa is not able to betray herself. she does things you wouldn’t expect of a nun; she smokes, laughs loudly, and behaves at times like a regular girl would. to the point where bridget begins separating her between these two parts of herself— sister teresa the nun, and rosaria the girl. and in the end, it was rosaria’s true embracement of herself that wins isabella’s heart. the very thing bridget could not do. no matter how much she showed her love to isabella, she was never really her true self.
which is what makes this particularly heartbreaking. no matter everything bridget has done to gain isabella’s affection, no matter the carefully crafted persona she tried so hard to put on for her, it’s a person who accepts themselves and chooses themselves wholly and fully that ends up with isabella.
really punches you in the gut. ugh. so yeah, i’ll settle on three stars because while i feel like bridget has been done so incredibly dirty, i do appreciate the execution to an extent. the ending was, again, rushed and bridget’s arc just didn’t feel complete to me.
listen bridget, isabella isn’t even all that great. i hope you meet another arab lesbian who you fall so head over heels for and who falls even harder for you and makes you feel like you have to be nothing but yourself to be loved.
some quotes that stuck out to me:
“If I was careful to be quiet, small, I might be able to revert Isabella’s mood.”
“It had been nice, for a while, to be anonymous, unremarkable.”
“I tried to control my expression. Was she being cruel or was it a joke?”
“It’s no fun being an accessory to someone else’s adventure.”
“It’s totally possible to keep on loving someone, even if you don’t like them very much.”