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A Woman's Influence: Own Your Worth, Cultivate Your Power, and Change Your Relationships for the Better
From celebrity life coach and motivational speaker, Tony Gaskins Jr. and his wife, Sheri, comes an essential guide with hard-hitting truths about a woman’s undeniable influence on a relationship—and the power she has to change her man for the better.Tony Gaskins has inspired others by sharing his truth—drawing millions of followers online and making him one of America’s foremost experts on love and relationships. Now, he and his wife explore a woman’s positive impact on a relationship in this practical and accessible guide that walks you through a series of irreplaceable lessons on making personal changes that foster healthy relationships. Tony and his wife, Sheri, draw on their own relationship successes and failures as they examine the eighteen time-tested truths about how a woman’s influence can shift a relationship for the better—if used correctly. Including advice for women such as “you are not a maid,” “show don’t tell,” and the “72-hour rule”—where the woman makes herself totally unreachable to her partner—Tony and Sheri tackle all of today’s important topics such as misogyny and the “grown boy syndrome,” while never losing the empowering and empathetic tone that Tony’s loyal following has come to love and trust. Whether you are single, dating, engaged, or married, A Woman’s Influence is a hopeful response to a culture where men behave badly and women are victimized all too often. By providing a vision that empowers women to know their worth and simultaneously bring out the best in men, this guidebook can help you make a lasting, positive change to your relationship.
237 pages, Kindle Edition
Published April 7, 2020
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October 28, 2022
Wow, this took me a long time to read but I will say I’m glad I finally finished! If you watch Tony’s YouTube videos, you will see that his message is consistent in this book. I’m glad I purchased this and was able to support the author. This is definitely my most annotated book to date. I docked a star just because some points were extremely repetitive. He states in the epilogue that this was done purposefully, but it did decrease my enjoyment while reading. Didn’t love the writing style but the value of content made up for that. Overall, I’d recommend this to anyone who is single or dating and wants to peer into the perspective a man who isn’t a cheater or womanizer and aspires to uplift women.
July 5, 2020
WHEN YOU KNOW BETTER, YOU DO BETTER (Or at least you should)
Nobody is perfect, and everyone has their own methods on how to make a relationship work and thrive in a healthy way. But this book, however, helps you to do that, and a whole lot more.
This is mainly because things that often go unnoticed, are more often than not, to be repeated, especially when it comes down to dating. And this is the prime reason why we continuously meet a new face, but the same person at heart.
When you begin to take the time that's needed to realize that this dysfunctional pattern has gone on for far too long, taking the proper steps to educate yourself on what it really is that you're missing or quite frankly "just not seeing" changes EVERYTHING!
That's what this book does. It helps you to not only "see" the red flags when they've come, but also helps you to identify the common characteristics and traits in those men or rather "grown boys" who tend to do this.
This book is essential to life when it comes to loving yourself and understanding how men really think in both grown boy and grown men phases. It causes you to understand that allowing yourself the necessary time to heal from any previous relationship(s) is not about being tortured in a so-called "waiting game", but rather, doing something for yourself, that you have (and possibly for too long) neglected to do, that being: invest in your well-being. And finally, it enlightens you on ways to identify the right man who genuinely wants to love you in the same way that you love and value yourself (and not just to get you "on your back" either, like Tony often says to us ladies.)
Finding true love in the 21st Century doesn't have to be a tedious task; all that is required is having a great sense of self, time to allow yourself to learn who you are and what it is that you rightfully deserve, and a deeper understanding that the right guy will come to you when you are truly ready. And that's usually when you've finally realized, that you don't "need" anyone, because you need to love yourself first! You can enjoy your own company and be happy at that too because ultimately, with or without a man, you will always be fine. That's what self-love can do.
Yes! Self-love is really where it's at; and once established, you exude true confidence; which by the way, will attract men naturally because everyone knows, a man loves a woman who is unapologetically her and loving it!
*Rereading this a few times is recommended, simply because it will take some time for all of this information to be fully absorbed and properly utilized.*
4.5-star rating
Nobody is perfect, and everyone has their own methods on how to make a relationship work and thrive in a healthy way. But this book, however, helps you to do that, and a whole lot more.
This is mainly because things that often go unnoticed, are more often than not, to be repeated, especially when it comes down to dating. And this is the prime reason why we continuously meet a new face, but the same person at heart.
When you begin to take the time that's needed to realize that this dysfunctional pattern has gone on for far too long, taking the proper steps to educate yourself on what it really is that you're missing or quite frankly "just not seeing" changes EVERYTHING!
That's what this book does. It helps you to not only "see" the red flags when they've come, but also helps you to identify the common characteristics and traits in those men or rather "grown boys" who tend to do this.
This book is essential to life when it comes to loving yourself and understanding how men really think in both grown boy and grown men phases. It causes you to understand that allowing yourself the necessary time to heal from any previous relationship(s) is not about being tortured in a so-called "waiting game", but rather, doing something for yourself, that you have (and possibly for too long) neglected to do, that being: invest in your well-being. And finally, it enlightens you on ways to identify the right man who genuinely wants to love you in the same way that you love and value yourself (and not just to get you "on your back" either, like Tony often says to us ladies.)
Finding true love in the 21st Century doesn't have to be a tedious task; all that is required is having a great sense of self, time to allow yourself to learn who you are and what it is that you rightfully deserve, and a deeper understanding that the right guy will come to you when you are truly ready. And that's usually when you've finally realized, that you don't "need" anyone, because you need to love yourself first! You can enjoy your own company and be happy at that too because ultimately, with or without a man, you will always be fine. That's what self-love can do.
Yes! Self-love is really where it's at; and once established, you exude true confidence; which by the way, will attract men naturally because everyone knows, a man loves a woman who is unapologetically her and loving it!
*Rereading this a few times is recommended, simply because it will take some time for all of this information to be fully absorbed and properly utilized.*
4.5-star rating
December 14, 2023
Omg! Omg! Omg!
Whooooo Chile this book has me so teary eyed! But I will not cry because I’m at my daughter’s school and I don’t want anyone to see me crying lol!
Oh god! Whoooo! Okay. I’m getting myself together. Mmmm!
Okay.
This book left me speechless (in a good way), it left me with a full heart, a full spirit, and a mind full of wisdom and knowledge.
I - I really have no words! This book omg! It was amazing! When I find the words to write. I will. Mmm! The encouragement, the way they spoke LIFE! The honesty! The transparency! The respect! The bunt-ness! The straightforward-ness!
It was an absolute complete HONOR to read this book! Omg I can’t get over how much Knowledge, Wisdom, and Understanding that this book had in it! It reminds me of the book of proverbs!
Thank you Mr.& Mrs. Gaskins for writing and sharing such an honest, wise and powerful book!!!
I love reading books that speaks truth to power! I’m so filled with joy, peace and understanding!! 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Whooooo Chile this book has me so teary eyed! But I will not cry because I’m at my daughter’s school and I don’t want anyone to see me crying lol!
Oh god! Whoooo! Okay. I’m getting myself together. Mmmm!
Okay.
This book left me speechless (in a good way), it left me with a full heart, a full spirit, and a mind full of wisdom and knowledge.
I - I really have no words! This book omg! It was amazing! When I find the words to write. I will. Mmm! The encouragement, the way they spoke LIFE! The honesty! The transparency! The respect! The bunt-ness! The straightforward-ness!
It was an absolute complete HONOR to read this book! Omg I can’t get over how much Knowledge, Wisdom, and Understanding that this book had in it! It reminds me of the book of proverbs!
Thank you Mr.& Mrs. Gaskins for writing and sharing such an honest, wise and powerful book!!!
I love reading books that speaks truth to power! I’m so filled with joy, peace and understanding!! 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
February 18, 2021
Needed this book to understand myself a little more of why I'm so different and hard on men. I knew it was because I deserve more and can respect a man enough to tell him without being toxic or crazy. Also gives me insight on understanding both perspectives of men and women in relationships and learning to love your self more than any person in this world.Thankful for Tony to see women for who we are and not being afraid to admit ,praise, and admire us for all that we truly are capable of. Men in my generation.. Seems like there's no hope and That they hate women and treat us as disposable beings for simply showing we care.
May 23, 2021
Very great read!
Sheri reminded me as a woman to know who I am & my worth, value life’s lessons (past & present), not settle for anything, & to live life daily becoming a better version of myself.
The book helped me to understand marriage & relationships better from a man’s perspective. Being married for six years, I’ve noticed some changes within my husband that Tony has helped me to approach differently to receive positive & mind-changing results.
I now have a better outlook on what it means to surround myself with positivity so that it becomes a part of my daily routines to bring about positive change.
Sheri reminded me as a woman to know who I am & my worth, value life’s lessons (past & present), not settle for anything, & to live life daily becoming a better version of myself.
The book helped me to understand marriage & relationships better from a man’s perspective. Being married for six years, I’ve noticed some changes within my husband that Tony has helped me to approach differently to receive positive & mind-changing results.
I now have a better outlook on what it means to surround myself with positivity so that it becomes a part of my daily routines to bring about positive change.
June 30, 2020
I have to admit, I was a little offended upon getting through the first half of the book. I felt like Tony's opinions and perception of woman was completely bias. That did cause me to take my time reading the book, however, I was able to finish the book entirely. And boy, am I glad that I did. It took a lot of maturity to overcome my personal offense to how REAL these two authors brought this information to the table for their readers. I thank God for this book, and I pray for this couple. We need more like them in the world. And I would like for Sheri Gaskins to write her own book.
November 3, 2023
I would actually rate this 4.5. This is a great read coming from a Godly marriage. Giving the truest experience, tips, and Bible Scriptures. I like how this book was written as it's straightforward and as if they were just talking to you directly. A woman's influence is more than just knowing what woman can do, but how woman is truly made as God's purpose for each of every woman. This is a must-read whether you're dating, in a relationship Orland especially marriage. I would highly recommend this book to all the women.
June 4, 2024
Astounded right Ponder Good
Oh my goodness, So glad father god touched this couple with this book. I am a avid reader note taker and This is what I did with the wise communicative book. King and Queen Gaskins is a couple I will apply to my heart and head. I adored this book and planning to read more congratulations on togetherness. For sure they is absolutely nothing wrong with being single profound and insight with yourself. I have done this and still doing this cause as a honorable woman my feeling needs good feeling feeding as well as a man needs this. All the Best
Oh my goodness, So glad father god touched this couple with this book. I am a avid reader note taker and This is what I did with the wise communicative book. King and Queen Gaskins is a couple I will apply to my heart and head. I adored this book and planning to read more congratulations on togetherness. For sure they is absolutely nothing wrong with being single profound and insight with yourself. I have done this and still doing this cause as a honorable woman my feeling needs good feeling feeding as well as a man needs this. All the Best
May 1, 2020
“A Woman’s Influence” is engaging, ground breaking, refreshing, exhilarating and comforting. There was one particular page that gave me a good laugh! Truly an honor reading their story and showed how a successful relationship and marriage can be possible with the information they provided. I highly recommend this #selfhelp relationship book to every woman! 👑💕
January 20, 2025
Tony Gaskins and his wife did an excellent job offering advice and sharing their personal experiences, creating a relatable guide for women struggling with self-confidence, especially in dating. Their vulnerability made this book both impactful and engaging—a truly captivating read that’s hard to put down.
April 21, 2020
I appreciate the insight
I watch alot of your videos, but it was great to hear what your wife had to say as well. It's a journey we are on and for the betterment of not just ourselves, but the society we live in. Thank you Tony and Sheri. God bless.
I watch alot of your videos, but it was great to hear what your wife had to say as well. It's a journey we are on and for the betterment of not just ourselves, but the society we live in. Thank you Tony and Sheri. God bless.
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June 27, 2020Must read for women!!!
This book is on point. I was in a relationship and it helped me to see the truth behind the words and actions of the guy I was seeing. His whole goal was to dominate me in our relationship. Tony, your book saved me from a damaging marriage! Thank you!
This book is on point. I was in a relationship and it helped me to see the truth behind the words and actions of the guy I was seeing. His whole goal was to dominate me in our relationship. Tony, your book saved me from a damaging marriage! Thank you!
August 19, 2020
Great book for those seeking healthy romantic relationships and to gain wisdom from a married couple on how being your best self and having Christ like values and self respect can tremendously set you and your marriage up for success
July 21, 2021
I really enjoyed this book. Tony and his wife Sheri touched on some hard truths when it comes to relationships and understanding the influence a woman can have in the relationships she is involved in. A lot of key points given I will definitely be applying to my relationship in the future.
May 15, 2022
A good read
It's a good read and easy to understand.
I learned a great deal of valuable information that was not taught to me growing up. I'll be sure to extend this knowledge to my daughter so she'll be well-equipped.
It's a good read and easy to understand.
I learned a great deal of valuable information that was not taught to me growing up. I'll be sure to extend this knowledge to my daughter so she'll be well-equipped.
July 14, 2025
Illuminating read on the power of a woman’s influence to inspire, uplift, and empower her man and relationship, while simultaneously honoring and respecting herself. Tony presents a no holds barred perspective on how men think about and approach relationships that many women would benefit from.
April 11, 2020
Great book for all people
This is a great book for the young and the old. It is a must read if you are dating, married, or divorced.
This is a great book for the young and the old. It is a must read if you are dating, married, or divorced.
April 14, 2020
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This is a great book for anyone seeking new knowledge and growth. This book helps enforce the idea that real love does exist.
This is a great book for anyone seeking new knowledge and growth. This book helps enforce the idea that real love does exist.
July 24, 2020
It was a great book just a big bible undertone that why I gave it a 4 star
September 6, 2020
Very good read. I had to go back and review so chapters when issues come up.
April 8, 2021
This is definitely a book for someone looking and ready for a long term commitment.
September 11, 2021
A very good read. Insightful.
November 25, 2024
A lot of good relationship perspectives regarding making sure women know their worth and setting healthy boundaries in non platonic relationships to ensure respect is given.
December 29, 2021
Love it!
Would read this again! Gave me a great perspective on how to treat myself as a woman and God. The rest will follow in suite. Thank you Sheri and Tony! Awesome book!
Would read this again! Gave me a great perspective on how to treat myself as a woman and God. The rest will follow in suite. Thank you Sheri and Tony! Awesome book!
April 14, 2022
Loved it! Such wisdom from Tony and his wife. Every woman and man should read this book.
January 4, 2022
For every Queen to read! This book is a gem. If you’re a SINGLE woman looking for love, This book is your Savior! Take notes ladies. Tony emphasizes on grown boys vs. grown men, knowing your self-worth as a Woman, What to do and what NOT to do when handling a sticky situation, and simply putting yourself First. If you want to be smart when it comes to Love, then Please read this book! We’ve all been fools in love, once. 😂 just don’t be that girl anymore. It’s time to WISE UP sis. 👑 Don’t EVER play ya self.
Bonus: Search and Watch Tony Gaskins on YouTube. I absolutely looooooove how Intelligent and SPIRITUAL he is. He speaks nothing but the TRUTH when it comes to finding Real, Authentic, and GENUINE LOVE. You will be Awakened after watching his YouTube videos AND Reading this book! Your whole life will change! You won’t regret it!!! Thank me Later. ♥️🙏🏽💕
Bonus: Search and Watch Tony Gaskins on YouTube. I absolutely looooooove how Intelligent and SPIRITUAL he is. He speaks nothing but the TRUTH when it comes to finding Real, Authentic, and GENUINE LOVE. You will be Awakened after watching his YouTube videos AND Reading this book! Your whole life will change! You won’t regret it!!! Thank me Later. ♥️🙏🏽💕
October 16, 2021
Absolutely Amazing!!!!
I've been a supporter of Tony Gaskins for years, so I knew this book would be another great read!!!! I read Mrs. Gaskins part 1st, because I've listened to countless of hours of TGs videos, so I wanted to dive into her section and I was impressed. I adore this couple and know that one day when I get married, my marriage will also be admired my many as a true Kingdom marriage.
I've been a supporter of Tony Gaskins for years, so I knew this book would be another great read!!!! I read Mrs. Gaskins part 1st, because I've listened to countless of hours of TGs videos, so I wanted to dive into her section and I was impressed. I adore this couple and know that one day when I get married, my marriage will also be admired my many as a true Kingdom marriage.
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