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Mending Life: A Handbook for Repairing Clothes and Hearts

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Learn the art of visible mending—a joyful, meditative, and restorative practice—to repair the clothes and belongings you love!

Mending Life, a beautiful modern sewing and mending guide with vibrant, full-color illustrations woven throughout, encourages us to break free from the fast fashion industry by repairing our clothes rather than discarding them. Along with DIY and how-to illustrations and tutorials, you’ll find heartfelt stories by authors Nina and Sonya Montenegro (creators of the popular @TheFarWoods) that encourage you to change your consumption habits, celebrate a sustainable, intentional lifestyle, demonstrate mending as a powerful act that not only strengthens the object we are repairing, but ourselves as well. 

Beginners and Seasoned Sewers will find:

Basic Mending Skills - how to thread a needle, how to tie knots, and basic stitches Sashiko - a striking Japanese hand-sewing technique for reinforcement and decoration
Darning - plain weave, swiss weave, crocheted patch, knitted patch, and needle-felted patch
Patching - the best three ways to patch holes how-to guide
Mending Tutorials by Item - down jackets, shirt cuffs, and linen
Other Common Repairs - snags, buttons, belt loops, leggings, pant pockets, and more
Sewing Beyond Mending - hemming pants, taking garments in, and adding pockets

Extend the life of your favorite clothes and beloved household items with mending with this timeless and practical guide to cherishing and caring for our belongings.

223 pages, Kindle Edition

First published March 10, 2020

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506 reviews19 followers
August 9, 2021
I'd like to hold this up as a companion volume to Erin Lewis-Fitzgerald's "Modern Mending" -- if that one shows you how to mend, THIS one will make you understand WHY you should want to mend the clothes you already own and inspire you to learn to do it yourself. This one is less flashy but more inspirational. Hand-drawn artwork produces quietly compelling illustrations, but it is the text that drew me in most forcefully: there is a lesson here in cherishing rather than discarding our belongings, which may begin to change US along the way as well. Well done.
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Author 11 books98 followers
August 9, 2022
I have read a lot of books on visible mending, at least 5, it’s something I am very fond of. This book is my favorite of those. If you’re only buying one book on the subject, for yourself or someone else, make it this one. Covers it all. Beautiful, inspiring, simple for beginners. Also: almost every set of directions begins with: 1. Brew a pot of tea. I mean, for me it would be coffee. How can you not love that?
Profile Image for Julia.
Author 1 book50 followers
February 8, 2020
"When we mend, we are participating in the healing of the world, as
mending is a profound act of restoring integrity to an object and our rela-
tionship to it."

This book is more than a guide on mending, it's a love letter to mending. Beautiful illustrations, including drawings on how to tie a knot, and wonderful family stories of the authors.
Profile Image for Alicia Bayer.
Author 10 books250 followers
December 6, 2019
This is a lovely and thorough book that teaches you not just how to mend simple clothes like shirts but also sweaters, the pants of jeans, zippers and all kinds of other garments. Written by two sisters, it's accompanied by illustrations that show how to do each kind of repair. The authors go into the reasons to mend garments and also further the lessons with instructions on how to do other repairs like mending pants, taking in clothes and sewing on buttons.

My husband and I have always mended our clothes and we've passed this on to our kids, but this book taught me some techniques that I never knew like how to repair knitted garments. It's a very modern and whimsical book interspersed with poems, quotes and illustrations -- great not just for people who want to learn to mend their own garments but also for those of us who'd like to up our game.

I read a temporary digital ARC of this book for the purpose of review.
Profile Image for Moonkiszt.
3,023 reviews333 followers
July 11, 2025
A sweet read about mending. Mending your clothes, mending your things, mending your life, mending your heart, and being mindful about the preciousness of all of it.

The illustrations are charming, and don't think this is a child's book - although a thoughtful and mature reading child could certainly learn how to wield a needle and mend some holes, rips or tears if they were so inclined.

The mending techniques are ancient, beyond seams, feature reweaving, getting your weft and warp in on that 1.5 inch hole in your jeans. Readers seeking to broaden their concepts of what mending consists of will find step-by-step skills - old and new, and will be encouraged to remember that which is homemade, simple, serviceable is also art. And as to art - the illustrations truly are humble and dear.

A lovely skill builder, with touches of philosophy and memoir for your shelves.
Profile Image for Maura Paxton.
76 reviews2 followers
January 8, 2021
I am so excited to have this book as a resource going forward to become more adept at mending! I’ve done basic patches on jeans, but a lot of the more complex ideas here are new to me and I’m excited about the section on repairs to down jackets and sleeping bags! The illustrations are gorgeous and the writing about incorporating mending as a philosophy of life is inspiring.
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416 reviews32 followers
March 11, 2021
This book is the best source on mending out of the several I've read lately. I wanted to find the most encompassing reference book to have on hand in my home, so that I have it when needed, because regardless of my long-cultivated sewing skills, I'm always learning something new or needing a refresher, and I wanted to have a source for my children to go to, so they too can learn these skills.

Nina provides very clear diagrams and illustrations for all types of stitches and repair methods, with detailed explanations in the text. Especially when it comes to doing something like this, having clear diagrams is essential and hers are excellent. She covers how to mend all kinds of items, from denim to socks to the tips of gloves to ripstop fabric used in down jackets and heavy-duty winter clothing. And with the tool overview, I finally learned that what I thought was a darning egg that used to be my grandmother's, is in fact a darning gourd and has multiple applications for usage. All other mending books hadn't even mentioned that there are at least three shapes/versions of this kind of tool.

The part I really loved about this book though, is the instructions on *invisible* mending. Visible mending is very much the hot thing now, to make repairs noticeable, but that's not for everybody. Say you have a nice dress shirt used for the office and it gets a small tear- no need to break out the embroidery thread. Or the crotch/bottom of your favorite pants is looking rather thin- it seems like overkill to slap a colorful and perhaps too bulky patch on it when there aren't any holes yet, and you just want to strengthen that weak area. Plus how to do a proper hem! And even taking in the seams on too baggy clothing- immensely useful! She covers all of that.

The illustrations not having to do with diagrams throughout are very charming, and I loved the personal stories added in as well. It gives you a feeling of soothing accomplishment and emotional connection to the act of repairing your clothing. Really an awesome publication.
Profile Image for Rachel Pollock.
Author 11 books80 followers
December 2, 2019
Mending Life: A Handbook for Repairing Clothes and Hearts by Nina Montenegro is a charming and useful little book on a wide range of needlecraft techniques to mend damaged clothing items. Her clear, concise explanations of techniques like patching, darning, and sashiko. This book is great for anyone rethinking fast fashion and the unsustainable disposability of contemporary clothing

Montenegro presumes no sewing expertise whatsoever on the part of the reader. She literally describes and diagrams how to thread a needle, several ways to knot the thread, and several useful stitches for mending both wovens and knits. She includes a list of mending tools you'll need if you decide to take up the "mending life" seriously--darning eggs, glove darners, etc.--but she also discusses ways to work around not having those specialized items.

Interspersed among the practical techniques/diagrams are sweet, peaceful illustrations of stitchers mending various garments and philosophical musings on how positive the act of mending garments can be on one's psyche. This book has no new information for an experienced sewist in terms of the how of mending/darning/patching, but even a seasoned seamster/mender may find something new and uplifting in the introspective portions.

I received an ARC of this book from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
Profile Image for Linda.
Author 4 books42 followers
March 10, 2020
Disclaimer: I was given a temporary ebook of this title on NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

I requested this review book because I've been very interested in improving my mending skills lately - actually learning tried-and-true techniques, not just cobbling things together as I go along.

The book delivers content-wise: many different techniques for mending are covered and there are step-by-step instructions for all of them. To be honest, though, I skimmed through what seemed like half the text because it was endless waxing poetic about why mending is a good idea. Chances are, if you picked up this book, you don't need much convincing about the value of mending. It's curious that the authors devoted so much space on it relative to the parts about actually how to mend.

Style-wise, I wish there were photographs of the techniques rather than drawings. The drawings are helpful, but for the fine detail often needed for sewing, it seems like photographs would have been a more helpful choice.

If you're already familiar with mending, this book won't tell you anything you likely don't know. If you're new to the concept or techniques, though, it's valuable in its breadth and attention to detail.
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38 reviews
December 29, 2021
This is a beautiful book. It is beautifully bound and beautifully illustrated. It has an important message and practical instructions on how to mend our possessions instead of discarding them.
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133 reviews23 followers
March 6, 2023
Beautiful. And informative.

I bought it because of the amazing cover and the striking title. It delivers technically, thoughtfully, and emotionally.

"Just as we choose not to give up on an old busted pair of jeans, we choose to heal a friendship, we choose to let go of an old grudge we've been carrying around, and we choose to acknowledge feelings that have been hurt.

The most vulnerable members of our society–the houseless, mentally ill, incarcerated–are cast out and disposed of. Can we learn to say, 'I won't give up on you' and truly practice it?"
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33 reviews2 followers
January 6, 2025
This is literally poetry dedicated to the art of mending clothes. Really useful tips also.
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1,527 reviews
February 2, 2025
Cute and useful- took lots of photos for when I try these things on my poor sad pants.
Profile Image for Kate.
18 reviews
October 8, 2025
very informative and I'll be reaching for it regularly
Profile Image for Dana.
237 reviews20 followers
May 13, 2024
Gentle and loving and like a big hug, this is a fantastic illustrated guide for mending tears and holes, threadbare spots, sewing on buttons, hemming pants—but also, how to mend our relationship to the world.
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1,266 reviews28 followers
January 2, 2020
We all have things we love, whether they be a favourite ornament, book or pair of jeans. The problem with loved items though is they can wear out or become broken because of overuse. In this book it is clothes and fabric or woollen items which are focused upon and in a sensible but also a sensitive manner.

There is nothing enjoyable in taking up a pair of jeans but mending and prolonging their life is a different matter altogether. Carefully constructed to start with the absolute basics, threading the needle, through to fastening off and everything in between, this book shows the best way to work but also to gain mindfully from the process.

I thoroughly enjoyed this, including the lovely illustrations and, in an age of recycling and upcycling, it makes sense that repairing and repurposing should be just as much the norm which is what this book shows in a friendly unpretentious way. It is a book of skills to be shared and maybe become as loved and well used as the things it teaches you to rescue and respect.

I was able to read an advanced copy of this book thanks to NetGalley and the publishers in exchange for an unbiased review and would recommend it to anyone who wants to perfect the skills of mending and relaxing at the same time. It isn't a preachy self help book but one which can only lead to a sense of achievement and a job well done.
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1,575 reviews21 followers
January 9, 2020
I really enjoyed this book it is very informative and includes easy to follow illustrations for beginners. Mending Life by Nina Montenegro and Sonya Montenegro is full of handy tips and warm stories. This book is full of useful information to help someone mend their torn, split, ripped, or unraveled things. This book lays out how to get started and thoroughly explains each step needed to mend your item. There are many useful illustrations for people who are visual learners. They walk you through cloth types, basic stitches, and much more.

I especially loved the art of patching and the Sashiko Stitching technique. The patched look is a very popular right now and really adds a longer life to clothes that most people toss away when they could prolong its lifespan and look good doing it. People actually buy clothing that have been pre-patched and pay a fair amount for the look.

Replacing a button or mending a small tear is an easy repair for a garment unfortunately, we live in a society in which we're sold lower quality fabrics and clothing that often wear in the wash and easily rip through activity or accident. I've recently started mending my clothing because I absolutely love certain items that I am not ready to let go simply because it ripped. Now I can extend the life of a much-loved garment or other item.

Mending Life is a great resource book for beginners and experts who want to learn or refresh skills repairing clothes: from patches to Sashiko to darning knits. The book is filled with artwork illustrating step by step instructions that even include what types of knots to use or if you even need them for your repair. I highly recommend this book for all lovers of crafts, sewing, or mending. I received this book from NetGalley for an honest review.
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71 reviews2 followers
January 7, 2020
Mending Life is one of those books that is both delightful and useful. It’s about what has become known as “Slow fashion” , how to refrain from buying yet more clothes and repair what we have. The wonderful thought of honouring a sheep whose wool made your hat or sweater and repairing it several times over. Sheep need shearing to keep them healthy and comfortable and although there has been quite a lot of animal cruelty sites insisting sheep suffer when shown this is nonsense. That apart there are so many methods of darning I am surprised. Lovely simple drawings to illustrate and show exact ways to darn according to what the garment is, glove, socks, sleeve. Etc.

How to needle felt a moth hole in a precious sweater, the simple tools needed are listed.

Repairing houses linen used to be something most housewives would learn to do, taught my their mothers and grand mothers or at school. Now you have this book to show show and even how to repair shirt cuffs and more.

Sewing and mending are calming, meditative things we can take in a bag and pull out on a train, picnic, holiday. Restoring memories and bring new life to clothes in a fun yet practical way.

This is currently a fashionable craft to learn but one that helps the planet, soothes the sewer , saves money and brings wonderful satisfaction when completed.

As the book says”There’s nothing broken that can’t fixed”.

Explore the possibilities, learn new skills, keep the craft of sewing and mending alive.

Buy the book, it’s lovely!

Thanks to the publisher and NetGalley for allowing me to read an arc in exchange for an honest review.
Profile Image for Doreen Prentiss Gabriellini.
550 reviews
January 10, 2020
Mending Life, A Handbook for Repairing Clothes and Hearts by Nina Montenegro; Sonya Montenegro Is a delightful and informative. Not only does the book delve into patches, mending, darning, taking in garments, sewing buttons, sashiko stitching among other things it combines the age old art of mending and why we mend. It is about saving a garment, blanket or other item and ultimately saving the earth and saving us money. There are interesting stories from the authors about how mending was important to them as a child and how it became important to them as adults. The book also describes the feelings one achieves while fixing and mending and the nurturing of our creative side. Surprisingly the length of the book was surprising. It is over 200 pages long. There are wonderful illustrations and detailed illustrations for each technique. This book is wonderfully done.







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Profile Image for Flora.
563 reviews15 followers
December 28, 2019
After reading this book, I almost immediately picked up and mended my merino cardigan that was full of holes! Not that it was going into the landfill. I just kept putting off the mending! Mending Life was that inspiring!

I found the many techniques for giving clothes a new life very useful. I loved the charming illustrations as well. I wish that some photographs were provided however. I wanted to know how the real results looked like.

I never related mending clothes to relationships, and loved how this book managed to do that so skillfully and lovingly.

Thank you Netgalley and Sasquatch Books for the ARC. This is my honest review.
Profile Image for Karen.
70 reviews
February 24, 2023
What a beautiful book! The artwork presents a story as well as a particular vision. Now I must find something to mend. I’m picky about illustrations, wanting to see simple but original representations of things. Art in the form of diagrams and picture mapping make this good book a very enjoyable reading experience. I hope lots of people find it.
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30 reviews
January 18, 2023
an INCREDIBLE love letter to mending and the concept of forging a relationship with our belongings. beautiful anecdotes woven in with a practical guide to mending that i will be returning to time and time again. gorgeous illustrations! an absolute essential read for crafters
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476 reviews14 followers
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February 27, 2020
Nina and Sonya Montenegro's lovely book Mending Life simultaneously serves as a carefully illustrated, pragmatic guide for would-be menders and a beautiful study in what it means to let go of our notions about what is and isn't disposable.  They have woven together detailed advice about how to repair clothing--beginning with a list of supplies and moving through techniques used to fix everything from socks to down jackets--with anecdotes of when and how they have learned in life about fixing things.  The meditations on what is irreparable and when we can, in fact, take what has been split ripped, or unraveled and return it to a new state of wholeness are beautifully grounded in private experiences yet accessible to any reader who has torn a much-loved article of clothing or, as the subtitle suggests, struggled with broken hearts and other, seemingly less mendable forms of disrepair.  This is a book to use long after it, like the garments the authors so carefully tend to, loses pages and takes on the stains of well-worn, well-loved readings.
Profile Image for Hannah.
199 reviews
April 8, 2024
picked this up from the library after seeing it at a bookstore - i am on the hunt for a mending book to buy for use as a personal reference, and i want to find the perfect one. “mending is a powerful act of restoration, both for our clothes and for our relationship to the world. we mend in gratitude, honoring all that went into making our clothes: the people who labored them into being, and the plants and animals that contributed to their creation. in taking care of that which takes care of us, we are demonstrating a deep understanding of our interconnected mess with every part of this world” 🥲 i found the writing on mending in this book very beautiful and inspirational. it has helpful tips, great for beginners, and really nice hand drawn illustrations. i have used it for several mends. however i will be looking at more books, i think for my personal reference/use for years, i would like something that goes more technically in-depth for difference fabrics, designs, techniques - especially for mending knitwear, knit socks, and denim which i do the most of.
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843 reviews7 followers
March 8, 2020
I received an ARC of this book to read through NetGalley in exchange for a fair review.  Mending Life a Handbook for Repairing Clothes and Hearts by Nina and Sonya Montenegro is a lovely collection of thoughtful heartwarming essays and instructions on repairing clothing and hearts. With clear and concise instructions, beautiful illustrations and lots of practical advise this is one book you will want to keep on hand for future reference. Topics discussed include Patching, Darning, Sashiko Stitching, button sewing, hemming and more to keep your clothes in tip-top condition. The book is a wonderful combination of practical and beautiful, perfect for those who are new to mending and those who want to try new techniques. I highly recommend it.  Publishing Date March 10, 2020. #NetGalley #SasquatchBooks #MendingLife #NinaMontenegro #SonyaMontenegro #instructionmanual #booksasart #bookstagram
Profile Image for Brandi Fox.
281 reviews5 followers
May 2, 2023
Beautiful. Practical. Encouraging.

Mending our clothes becomes a practice that forms us to be people who mend relationships and our world. It is a beautiful image of how we could live well in the world.

I originally checked it out of the library but immediately knew I wanted a copy for keeping in part as a reference for the techniques and in part as a reminder of the ethos.

If you are interested in gentle living and slow fashion this is a good read.
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484 reviews12 followers
April 24, 2024
Very practical and clear instructions. I just found this at my local library and I did not read all of her stories at the beginning of her chapters or the random quotes. I read a couple and they were just OK, not worth reading more.
But I do love the encouragement to try mending clothes and to keep on mending, even when holes reappear. one mend may not last forever and that’s OK. It’s still worth trying.
I am very interested in learning to mend clothes better/care for the clothes we have more so I enjoyed this.
Inspired me to look for more books on the subject.
Profile Image for Miranda.
18 reviews5 followers
June 18, 2024
So soft

The way this book was written feels so soft. It is encouraging, kind, and loving, when it didn't need to be. The authors shed light on so many ways to mend not just clothes but almost anything! The anecdotes sprinkled through, plus the illustrations make this book not just useful, it is also beautiful. I might need to buy a hard copy!
Profile Image for Archana Aggarwal.
162 reviews1 follower
January 15, 2020
Thank you Net Galley. I have always enjoyed sewing, especially reusing and repairing old clothes and fabrics. This book was perfect for me. I loved the layout and the way the author has connected "mending" with a philosophy for life. Highly recommended.
Profile Image for Javier.
28 reviews
June 10, 2025
Es muy bueno y lindo, y por sobre todo, útil.

Pero por esto mismo es que me queda la sensación que es más un "libro para tener" que uno para leer así de principio a fin.

Pero me enseñó harto, y también me hizo cuestionarme un poco mi relación con la ropa y el mundo.
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