Філософія впевненості в собі

by Шарль Пепен

Le livre qui éclaire les mystères de la confiance en soi.

D'où vient la confiance en soi ? Comment fonctionne-t-elle ? Qu'est-ce qui la renforce ? L'affaiblit ? Pourquoi certaines personnes sont-elles plus confiantes que d'autres ? Est-ce une question de tempérament ? Le fruit d'un travail sur soi ? Un regard sur le monde ? Quelle relation la confiance en soi entretient-elle avec la confiance en autrui, avec la confiance en la vie même ?



En puisant dans les grands textes de la philosophie et des sagesses anciennes, dans les travaux des psychanalyses et des psychologues, mais aussi dans l'expérience de grands sportifs, d'artistes ou d'anonymes, Charles Pépin éclaire le mystère de la confiance en soi.

Genres: Philosophy, Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology, France, Personal Development, Audiobook

192 pages

First published December 31, 2019

Reviews

[Anne · Rating 4 out of 5]

I was ironically nervous to let anyone see me reading this book in public because I don’t think of myself as one who engages with self help books. But this had reviews of a different flavor and it was on the recommended desk at McNally Jackson so what the heck.

Pépin’s notes do feel like that - notes. He has them organized loosely in a way where one thought sets the stage for the next and so on. He doesn’t dumb down anything for the reader, and true to his urging, he seems to trust the reader to relate and understand. He uses some examples of people but just as often simply writes well about complex emotions.

He provided some nice insights. He gives a good shape to the idea of confidence in yourself and confidence in life and then shows how it can be nourished through some very basic, simple, god-given things like using your hands more often. He doesn’t offer 7 day life changing skills and in fact bemoans those approaches. The book feels more like a conversation that left me thinking “yeah, I have felt what he’s talking about, that’s a good way to put it, I know how I can be more that way.” It’s organic and doesn’t require anything but yourself, so it feels quite honest.

I’d recommend it to anyone who ever feels bogged down by self doubt.

[Célia · Rating 5 out of 5]

Encore mieux que La rencontre, une philosophie. Ma préférence va au dernier chapitre La confiance en la vie, sur la confiance première, la source qui alimente toutes les formes de confiance.
Un livre à garder près de soi.

[Monica Andreea · Rating 5 out of 5]

O carte care a reușit sa mă surprindă; cumpărată sub influența impulsului, fără nicio cercetare în prealabil, s-a dovedit a fi una dintre cele mai bune cărți citite pe acest subiect.

Așa cum indică și titlul, încrederea este prezentată din perspectivă filozofică, autorul trecând în revistă atât ideile diverșilor filozofi sau personalități aparținând Greciei antice cât și pe cele ale celor mai recenți eseiști americani sau europeni. 

De aceasta data, încrederea în sine nu mai este prezentată precum "acel ceva'' ce trebuie "reparat" la tine însuți, "o chestiune de ordin interior" sau o lupta pe care trebuie sa o duci de unul singur. Filozoful ne face cunoștință cu încrederea în sine care se construiește și se întărește prin :  
- relaționare
- ascultare a eului, a intuiției 
- munca asiduă 
- aprecierea frumuseții naturii 
- asumare a deciziilor luate
- munca cu sens, care permite perfecționarea individuală și care aduce recunoaștere 
- acțiune
- identificare a unor modele inspirationale
- fidelitate față de propria dorință 
- încredere în viață 

Mai jos, împart cu voi una dintre ideile întâlnite în carte, idee care mi-a plăcut în mod deosebit : "Increderea este acel dar pe care ni-l fac ceilalți și pe care îl primim cu bucurie." 

[Serhii Masalitin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Як на мене, книга не однорідна. Є дуже цікаві та корисні розділи, а є такі, де або забагато непотрібної інформації та виглядає це як спроба збільшити кількість символів, наче в курсовій роботі, або автор занадто довго пояснює одну просту думку.

Загалом виніс для себе з цієї роботи деякі корисні ідеї та погляди, тому 4 з 5 балів

[Y.S. Stephen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Charles Pepin's Self-Confidence: A Philosophy teaches that understanding and trusting ourselves is more crucial to living a good life than collecting data about the world. The journey of self-discovery is a never-ending lifelong exercise and the author lifts philosophy as one of the lights we can bring with us as we navigate our inner landscape while looking for clues about who we are.

The philosophical spine of this book lies in this - that true self-confidence doesn't necessarily come from a conviction of what the outcome of our actions is going to be. The author believes the virtue of the action itself, as well as the joy we feel when performing the action, are a clue to what true self-confidence is all about. This might be the reason why people who are curious about life are naturally self-confident people. On the other hand, I have noticed that people who gain competence by rote (without a shred of interest in their work) do lack that radiant energy.

WHAT I LOVE ABOUT THE BOOK
What I love about this book is that it dispenses with the popular notion that charisma, money, competence, or good looks equal self-confidence. The author does a good job of peeling away the superficiality of insecurity or arrogance masking as confidence, stating that self-confidence is confidence in life, in something bigger than we are. And that people who would drink of this brand of confidence have to be those who would seek self-knowledge by being curious about themselves as well as observing life and embracing all that it has to offer with unwavering faith.

DISLIKES?
None

WHO IS IT FOR?
Those who suffer from crippling self-doubt might learn a lot from this. There is also a chance that those that have trouble making up their minds about what to do with their lives might benefit.

Many thanks to Random House (Other Press) for a review copy.

[zloup · Rating 1 out of 5]

on a un bon combo : mépris de classe, décontextualisation de citations de philosophes, banalités… et j’en passe. C’est du pseudo développement personnel mais certainement pas de la philo. Je comprends pas pq tout le monde aime ce type…
Aucune pensée propre, de la paraphrase fin bon… alors oui c’est hyper facile à lire puisque c’est du vide

C’est le premier que je lis et je vais essayer d’en lire d’autre afin de voir si c’est celui qui particulièrement mauvais ou pas… mais je suis convaincue

[Antoine Verot · Rating 5 out of 5]

Livre très structuré et accessible à tout public tant que l'envie d'apprendre à se connaître et à évoluer est présente.
Il relève en 10 chapitres concis les étapes fondamentales de la confiance en soi, en commençant par la définir, puis par la rendre concrète.
Ce livre m'a beaucoup inspiré notamment par la diversité des sources et exemples.
L'auteur sait donner le goût à la philosophie !

[Lavinia Nemes · Rating 4 out of 5]

L'approche philosophique de Charles Pépin rafraîchit le concept de confiance en soi - qui, suivant ses mots, est plus une confiance intangible, loin d'être fixée par nos expériences ou nos qualités... Une confiance en la vie et en un mystère auxquels nous prenons part, mais qui nous échappent toujours !

Pépin appuie ses idées avec des exemples de personnes célèbres, et j'avoue que cela me laisse parfois un peu perplexe. Cela me semble basé sur beaucoup d'extrapolation... Toutefois, les idées exposées dans ce livre sont lucides, et éclairantes pour quiconque cherche une nouvelle perspective sur la confiance.

[Melissa · Rating 2 out of 5]

It’s unfair for me to write a review for this book because I find philosophy rather dry. The reason why I read the book in the first place was because of the topic of self-confidence.

There were nuggets of thought-provoking statements, some bits and pieces of wisdom that I gleaned throughout the book. However, overall I had to force myself to finish it.

If you like philosophy, this book might please you.
If you don’t like philosophy, you most likely won’t like it.

[Stefano Boni · Rating 3 out of 5]

C'est un essai très interessant, avec un message très positif et des considérations à la fois simples, mais profondes. Cependant, il y a un certain nombre de répétitions qui alourdissent la lecture.

[Patrick · Rating 2 out of 5]

Une écriture simple et vivante. Un auteur philosophique à ma portée.

[Wellington · Rating 3 out of 5]

The book lacked a central thread of cohesion to keep it grounded.

[Almaleh · Rating 4 out of 5]

Intéressant mais pas novateur. Fait du bien.

[Kunal Gupta · Rating 4 out of 5]

A mixed bag of good and not so good essays

The book gives some useful ideas to cling to in the moments of lacking confidence and feeling low in life. Those pearls of wisdom alone make the book worthy read for anyone who has dealt with (or dealing with) depression, anxiety or lack of confidence in general.

[Elisabeth Bulitta · Rating 5 out of 5]

Was Selbstvertrauen ausmacht.
Selbstvertrauen – der eine hat es, dem anderen fehlt es fast gänzlich. Doch was macht Selbstvertrauen eigentlich aus? Dieser Frage spürt Charles Pépin in seinem kleinen, 224 Seiten umfassenden Sachbuch „Sich selbst vertrauen. Kleine Philosophie der Zuversicht“, das im Mai 2019 im Verlag Carl Hanser erschienen ist, nach.
Wer ein Buch erwartet, das die Antwort auf die Frage gibt, wie man ein gesundes Selbstvertrauen aufbauen kann, wird von diesem Werk wohl eher enttäuscht sein. Nichtsdestotrotz gibt es Antworten auf die Frage, was ein Vertrauen in sich selbst und seine Fähigkeiten prägt – und somit auch indirekt darauf, was ich ändern muss und kann.
Am Anfang steht, wie sollte es anders sein, das Vertrauen in mich selbst durch andere, aber auch das Loslassen und das Animieren zum eigenen Tun sind wichtige Grundlagen. In insgesamt zehn Kapiteln erörtert Pépin, was darüber hinaus dazu gehört, sich selbst vertrauen zu können. Untermauert werden seine Thesen durch zahlreiche Beispiele aus seinem eigenen Leben, aber auch dem mehr oder weniger berühmter Menschen aus Vergangenheit und Gegenwart. Selbstverständlich kommen auch, wie beim Untertitel nicht anders zu erwarten, Philosophen verschiedener Epochen zu Wort.
Wichtige Aspekte sind, dass man nicht nur in sich selbst, sondern auch in die Welt und das Leben, trotz aller Unwägbarkeiten, vertrauen muss. Ein weiterer, wichtiger Punkt ist, selbst aktiv zu werden und zu üben, üben, üben …
Dem Geschriebenen kann man auch entnehmen, was in unserer heutigen Gesellschaft dem Ausbau des Selbstvertrauens im Wege steht, sei es in den Medien, sei es in unserer Gesellschaft an sich. Hier geht es zum einen darum, dass es uns oftmals als echten Vorbildern fehlt, dass wir aber auch wieder lernen müssen, die Welt so anzunehmen, wie sie ist. Es liegt eben nicht alles in unserer Hand; dieses kann aber auch befreiend wirken und somit dem Selbstvertrauen zuträglich sein kann.
Ein wenig Respekt habe ich ja immer, wenn Philosophen etwas zu sagen haben, da es sprachlich nicht immer ganz klar und einfach zu verstehen ist. Doch dieses stellt beim Lesen dieses Buches keine Hürde dar: Die Sprache ist leicht und flüssig zu lesen, zahlreiche Beispiele illustrieren das Geschriebene und „Ausflüge“ in benachbarte Wissenschaften wie Psychologie, Pädagogik und Literatur machen das Buch zu einem Wissensschatz. Mir selbst hat das Lesen jedenfalls großes Vergnügen bereitet, und Pépins Argumentationslinie ist gut und logisch nachvollziehbar.
Wie es sich für ein Sachbuch gehört, gibt es im Anhang kommentierte Literaturangaben, bei französischen Quellen sind auch, soweit existent, deutsche Übersetzungen angegeben. Interessierte Leser*innen können sich also bei Bedarf selbstständig weiter informieren.
Wenngleich ich im Vorfeld von dem Buch etwas anderes erwartet hatte, wurde ich in keiner Hinsicht enttäuscht: „Sich selbst vertrauen“ gibt reichlich Stoff zum Innehalten, Nach- und Weiterdenken sowie zum Reflektieren eigener Gewohnheiten und Verhaltensmuster, bringt es doch Aspekte ans Licht, über die man im Alltag wohl weniger nachdenkt. Ein mutmachendes Buch, dem man entnehmen kann: Zum Aufbau eines gesundes Selbstvertrauens ist es nie zu spät. Man muss es nur wagen.

[Helena · Rating 4 out of 5]

„Selbstvertrauen ist Vertrauen in das Leben.“

Charles Pépin unterrichtet Philosophie an der Universität und Schule. Ein Thema, das ihm seit jeher auf der Seele brennt, ist die Thematik des Selbstvertrauens, wie dieses entsteht und in welchem Verhältnis es zu den uns umgebenden Phänomenen steht. Auf diese Weise ist das handliche Buch mit ansprechendem Cover und Einband "Sich selbst vertrauen" entstanden - die kleine Philosophie für unterwegs!

Angefangen bei zwischenmenschlichen Beziehungen, die den Grundstein für Selbstvertrauen bilden, über die Bedeutung der Übung und Wiederholung, der Intuition, der Schönheit der Natur, des Handelns trotz oder gerade wegen Bedenken und Zweifeln bis schließlich zu der Bedeutung von Vorbildern im Aufbau von Selbstvertrauen, zeichnet der Autor den äußerst komplexen Weg zum Selbstvertrauen auf.

Sehr detailliert zeigt der Autor uns, wie Beziehungen zu anderen Menschen, die Schönheit der Natur und natürlich die Übung unser Selbstvertrauen beeinflussen und stärken. Sehr wichtig finde ich auch, dass Charles Pépin uns vor Augen führt, dass Selbstvertrauen kein Zustand ist, den man einmal erzielt hat (oder eben nicht) und damit hat es sich, sondern etwas ist, dass dem ständigen Wandel unterworfen ist, so wie unsere Identität ja auch „mannigfaltig, plural, wandelbar“ ist.

Ein weiterer wichtiger Punkt, den der Autor anspricht, und der gerade in unserer Zeit der Social Media präsenter denn je ist, ist dasjenige des Vergleichens. Pépin zeigt uns, dass es unsinnig ist, sich mit anderen zu vergleichen: „Wir sind alle so etwas wie solitäre Diamanten. Unser Wert ist nicht relativ gegenüber dem der anderen, sondern absolut.“ Dem eigenen Begehren, der eigenen Suche und dem Streben nach Vervollkommnung im Rahmen unserer Lebensweise treu zu bleiben - darum geht es im Wesentlichen.

Vorbilder im Leben sind wiederum sehr förderlich: „Bewundern bedeutet nicht verehren; auch nicht, sich selbst in der Betrachtung des Talents eines anderen zu verlieren. Wer bewundert, der nährt sich. Der nimmt sich ein Vorbild an denen, die den Mut hatten, ihrem Stern zu folgen, und begibt sich auf die Suche nach dem eigenen Stern.“

Wer bei „Sich selbst vertrauen“ nun viel Theorie erwartet, den möchte ich an dieser Stelle beruhigen: Der Autor lockert die theoretischen Erklärungen mit vielen Erzählungen aus dem Leben großer Künstler, Schriftsteller und Philosophen auf. Er erzählt uns auch sehr viel aus seinem eigenen Leben den Erfahrungen mit seinen Schülern und Studenten. „Sich selbst vertrauen“ ist alles in allem aber ein sehr gelungenes Philosophiebüchlein, zu dem man immer wieder greifen kann und sollte - denn es spendet viel Mut und Zuversicht!

„Dem Leben vertrauen bedeutet, auf die Zukunft zu setzen, an die schöpferische Kraft des Handelns zu glauben, das Ungewisse zu lieben, statt es zu fürchten. Dem Leben vertrauen bedeutet zu denken, dass das Leben etwas Gutes ist.“

[Barbara · Rating 4 out of 5]

I really liked reading this book,it was enlightening and more focused on gentle encouragement.

Favourite quotes:

“We know more about risks and dangers than when we first hopped on our bike as children. Our greater understanding makes us more anxious. But it shouldn’t blunt our boldness,our ability to go for it. Having confidence in ourselves requires us to keep the heart that we had as children- a child’s soul in the mind of an adult.”

“While self esteem is based on our assessment of our own value,self confidence is tied to our capacity for action,our ability to venture forth despite our doubts,to take risks in a complex world. To find the courage to adventure into the outside world,you have to have an inner assurance.”

“Without others,we could not develop our humanity;without others,we could not become what we are.”

“If we didn’t have the good fortune to grow up in a nurturing emotional environment,it’s never too late to form the bonds that we lacked early on. But it does require knowing oneself well enough to realise that these bonds are missing and need to be compensated for.”

“…confidence takes time to achieve. It develops in tandem with growing competence that,as it becomes integrated in stages and incorporated,has a liberating effect. Confidence is not innate but something that is largely acquired.”

“Often,when our confidence is at a low ebb,we start to think that we lack talent,that we aren’t good at what we do,when in fact it’s just a matter of not having trained enough. Whenever doubt starts to gain the upper hand,whenever we’re afraid that we won’t measure up,the best thing to do is to bolster our confidence by actively developing our skills,rather than invoking some hypothetical lack of talent.”

“To truly listen to ourselves,the important thing is for none of our faculties to predominate over the others. If our reason dominates,then we’ll obey our reason. If our emotions take over,we’ll follow them. When none of our faculties overshadows the others,then what we listen to and have confidence in is ourselves. We are all capable of doing this.”

“Knowing how to listen to yourself also means not giving into a sense of urgency….
One of the ways to free ourselves from the tyranny of urgency is to make the distinction between urgency and importance. Many things are urgent, but not all are important. Simply remembering this distinction can sometimes be liberating, and it doesn’t stop us from continuing to do what we need to do in a limited amount of time.”

“Self confidence had no real meaning in the pre-Revolutionary world,except as it applied to a few aristocrats with a chivalric turn of mind. Self confidence is a modern concept,an upshot of democratic ideals and the writings of the Enlightenment philosophers.”

“The self is multiple,paradoxical,changing:it’s when we are mindful of its complexity that we experience our freedom, and this realisation can come with the feeling that a dam has burst. We are no longer dominated by just one part of ourselves that tyrannises us from the inside. Nor are we in thrall to a truth that descends to us from the heavens,dictating to us from the outside. We are freed twice over:we finally trust ourselves.”

“We sense that at the heart of beauty there is a force at work that is greater than ourselves, a force that we have confidence in. We are not looking at beauty that is external to us. Instead we feel traversed by a power that is as much within us as without. At that point, we are no longer simple spectators of the world’s beauty. We are made aware of our own presence in the world. We had forgotten it, and now beauty has brought it back to our minds:we live in this world.”

“Our lives constantly force us to arbitrate between competing courses of action….
But no one can make the decision for us,and it is incumbent on us to be up to the task when a decision is called for…
You can’t have self confidence without mastering the difficult art of making decisions…
To choose is to choose logically,rationally,after an investigation that has Red the element of uncertainty to practically nothing….
To choose is to know before acting. To decide is to act before knowing.”

“The more we consent to the possibility of error,the more we experience ourselves as free beings,capable of acting decisively. To have confidence in oneself is to learn to love one’s freedom,rather than to be afraid of it. There’s a special joy in knowing that one is capable of it.”

“If god’s existence could be established by scientific reasoning,by a system of equations or by pointing to the intricate workings of the world,then there would be no need for belief:his existence would belong to the field of knowledge.”

“To decide is to take a stand at the heart of uncertainty,at the heart of life itself. Each time we consciously make a decision, we learn how to trust ourselves a bit more.”

“When we make things, we make ourselves….
We are made to construct,manipulate,work,experience our faculties in contact with the world, and alter matter to develop ourselves and our talent. It’s in relation to matter that our mind reveals its true nature. That is why we feel lost,strangers to ourselves,when we no longer make anything with our ten fingers…
To make things with your hands,your intelligence, and your heart:this is the road to a sturdy self confidence.”

“We must act,of course,as much as possible on the things that depend on us,but being self confident means that we must also have confidence in the things that don’t depend on us and that our actions may set in motion.”

“If I know what I aspire to,where I am and where I am going, I won’t compare myself to people who aspire to something else. And I won’t feel myself in competition with people who start at a different point and work toward different goals than I do.”

“There is is no user manual for a human life. In fact,that’s why we’re free and can choose the meaning of our existence.”

“Life is living up to its reputation when it veers from what we expect of it-whether for good or ill. If it corresponded to our expectations,it wouldn’t be life but a program executing its pre-planned course - and we couldn’t trust it.”

“Have confidence in your critical judgment. Of course,you’ll have moments of doubt. It’s harder to follow your own reason than the well-worn path of prejudice. But that’s how you’ll raise yourself up.”

[Dhwani · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.25/5

Self confidence, something a lot of us struggle with, on an everyday basis is the core of the book Self Confidence : 10 Lessons For Life in The Age of Anxiety by Charles Pépin.

Mr. Pépin has broken down the concept of self confidence and tried to explain the whats and the hows of it. The book compromises of ten chapters which are the ten strategies to cultivate a strong confidence in self. There's a plethora of examples in the book which makes the writing and concepts easy to understand. Huge personalities and their stories have been talked about. That, was something I really liked in the book. The language keeps shuffling between easy and moderate. The book is very informative and it need to be read, understood and the strategies, applied. Else, it's simply no use reading a non fiction. There have been enough references mentioned for the writing which makes the reader believe even more so in the concepts and strategies. What I wasn't able to enjoy was that the book doesn't keep you engrossed; it's like you have to forcefully pick it up in order to understand the writing and concept. A few practical exercises could've made the book interactive.

If you have the patience and the ability to consume the book slowly, then I'd recommend it to you.

[Farah Hany · Rating 4 out of 5]

Excellent book that re-framed confidence in many different lights. One particular one that stuck with me is how we gain confidence through witnessing beauty. Like watching a magnificent sunset or sunrise, when we are in awe of beauty, we recognise the beauty within ourselves, too.

I also loved his thoughts on the comfort zone, and how we often need to take a step back into our comforts to gain confidence and then step forward again into the unknown and the uncomfortable. He desired it as a two-step waltz. I appreciated this because we often hear that we gain confidence by being daring and 'getting out there' but he was proposing a different idea—step into your comforts and remember who you are, build your reserve, then step out try something new. For me, this is something I've personally experienced but never verbalised like Charles Pepin has. Sometimes I'll listen to an album by my favourite band when I was 17 and then somehow I feel like I'm me again, and I'm confident in my skin. Interesting book.

[Raphouu · Rating 5 out of 5]

Charles Pépin c'est une philosophie accessible à tous. Simple mais puissante et efficace.
La confiance en soi, c'est un livre de chevet, on prend plaisir à y revenir, à lire quelques phrases d'un chapitre.
En utilisant des exemples tels que Georges Sand ou Venus Williams, l'auteur choisit le réel pour illustrer ses dires. Et en fin de compte c'est mieux, on s'y retrouve. Je trouve ça très malin et très appréciable. Chacun travaille sa confiance en soi, ce n'est pas inné, et c'est ce qui est developpé tout le long du livre - qu'est-ce que c'est et comment y travailler.
Je vous recommande ce livre fortement!

[Craig Folcik · Rating 4 out of 5]

Learning the source of self-confidence

I learned what it is, a little bit where it came from and examples of those who achieve it and those who don't.

[Bianca]

3.5/5

[Santosh Shetty · Rating 5 out of 5]

Just loved it absolutely it. Forget the bad reviews

[floricel · Rating 2 out of 5]

*sigh*

[Chris Jaffe · Rating 4 out of 5]

About 3.5 stars, but I'll kick it up to 4 because the main points seemed sound.

Pepin is a French philosophy teacher who has written this short (145 pages of actual material) look at the foundations of self-confidence. This isn't based on analytical data, but based on (naturally) the works/themes of philosphers along with the author's own insights. He starts off by using the story of a father help a girl learn to ride a bike as an example of 3 foundations of self-confidence. First is confidence in others (the father's helping hand on her back), then is confidence in one's self (she's riding the bike!), the confidence in the experience itself (the thrill of zipping down the road).

The chapters are a bit basic, though sensible. Want confidence? It helps to cultivate relationships with others so you can lean on them for support (like the dad's hand on the girl's back). Also, practice, practice, practice at something makes one more confident. Trust your intuition, too - if you don't, it's dang hard to ever really be confident, after all. Expose yourself to beauty and wonder - just your surroundings can invigorate you. Also, sometimes paralysis comes from excessive analysis, but once you make a decision, you thrust ahead with it - so make a decision, dang it. (Actors have stage fright before going on stage, not during). Get your hands dirty - just taking some physical action and achieving something -nothing like a tangible result. Find someone you admire that you want to emulate - but do it like that, not as hero-worship with you as awestruck fan. If you have a serious desire, stay true to it as best you can - that's literally showing confidence in your innermost thoughts. Be willing to take action. Finally, trust the mystery of life. From stoicism to Christianity and everything else, if you have faith in some higher force guiding life, it gives you faith to march on.

He notes that the purpose isn't to always be sure of one's self, but to embrace the uncertainty without flincing away.

It all makes sense, but it's all also rather brief and a bit ephermal. It just feels like it's his own opinions with the backing just being that it sounds reasonable. A lot of times, I'd read a few pages and then forget what I'd just read. But the main points do make sense, though it reads more like an extended magazine article.

[Natasia · Rating 5 out of 5]

J'ai emprunté ce livre à la bibliothèque après avoir assisté à une conférence de l'auteur intitulée "Apprendre à oser" (basée sur ce livre), et j'ai adoré ! Il m'a non seulement réconcilié avec la philo, mais en plus il guide le lecteur à reprendre confiance en soi de manière originale, simple et pratique, bien différemment de toutes les méthodes qu'on voit habituellement sur les blogs et sites Internet (d'ailleurs l'auteur s'en moque ouvertement dans son livre).
Dans sa conférence, l'auteur a souligné le fait qu'il avait choisi des exemples majoritairement féminins, et ça fait du bien ! Et ça n'empêche pas du tout que le lectorat masculin s'y retrouve.
Ce livre donne vraiment une autre vision de la confiance en soi, qui passe par les autres, par ses compétences et par la vie elle-même. C'est rafraîchissant, léger et inspirant ! Ses élèves ont tellement de chance de l'avoir comme prof de philo !
Dès que j'ai fini la dernière page, j'ai eu envie de le relire tout de suite pour m'imbiber des conseils. Je me suis même dit qu'il fallait que j'en fasse des fiches pour plus tard !
A lire de toute urgence, je compte moi-même l'offrir à pas mal de gens de mon entourage. En attendant, j'ai réservé son livre précédent "Les Vertus de l'échec" dont j'ai entendu beaucoup de bien également.

[BroccoliPie · Rating 4 out of 5]

Un livre de développement personnel pour ceux et celles qui détestent (comme moi) les livres de développement personnel.

Car, dans La confiance en soi, Charles Pépin ne va pas essayer de vous enseigner la Méthode Coué, de vous expliquer qu'il faut vous faire des affirmations positives devant le miroir chaque matin, ou de vous convaincre que quand on veut on peut. Non, il prend la voie bien plus réaliste et intéressante d'une exploration philosophique et psychologique de la confiance en soi, en lien avec soi, les autres et le monde. Il ne fournit pas une sorte de méthode peu scrupuleuse en dix points, mais nous immerge dans une réflexion plus globale, profonde (mais pas compliquée, c'est moins un essai de philo qu'un recueil de sagesses tirées de la philo, de la psycho et du quotidien), sur ce sujet si complexe, en nous offrant différentes perspectives capables de nous inspirer. Au lecteur ou à la lectrice de prendre ses notes, grappiller ce qui peut lui servir, réfléchir sur lui-même. Une démarche qui me semble bien plus honnête et organique, et que j'ai beaucoup appréciée. Je relirai certainement ce petit livre régulièrement, car je suis sûre qu'il m'apprendra des choses nouvelles à différentes étapes de ma vie.

[Christian · Rating 3 out of 5]

Dans ce court livre, le philosophe (et professeur de philosophie) Charles Pépin revisite la notion de confiance en soi à mi chemin entre le livre de développement personnel (ce qu’il se défend d’être) et la leçon de philosophie qui disserte sur la notion.

Le livre est estimable à ce qu’il nous pousse à réfléchir à notre propre conception de la confiance en soi, que son exégèse des auteurs permet de déterrer des nuances oubliées (mention particulière pour le distinguo entre choisir et décider);

Cependant, il y  a un je ne sais quoi qui continue de me donner quelques difficultés, avec la « voix » de l’auteur Charles PEPIN trop proche par moment de la naïveté du professeur-copain de philosophie pour Terminal, un peu trop empathique, celui du Miel et des Abeilles avec lequel on va prendre un café après les cours...

[Juan Rivera · Rating 5 out of 5]

Il existe peut-être de nombreux livres qui parlent du sujet et la plupart sont de la philosophie de troisième ordre.

Cependant, Charles Pépin fait preuve d'une connaissance intéressante en philosophie, et il nous parle du sujet accompagné de philosophes comme Aristote, de personnages comme Marc Aurèle, de personnages controversés comme Nietche et bien d'autres.

Ses conclusions et idées viennent de bonne source, si vous souhaitez améliorer votre confiance en vous, ce livre est fait pour vous.

La partie la plus intéressante pour moi est peut-être quand il dit qu'une partie de l'apprentissage pour avoir cette confiance en soi se fait avec les autres, pas seul. Nous devons apprendre à faire confiance aux autres et créer ensemble un monde meilleur.

[Stefano Besana · Rating 3 out of 5]

Un libro leggero, interessante che non lascia molto tempo all'approfondimento, suo vero limite.

Diverse le citazioni interessanti che aiutano a costruire in 10 passi maggiore fiducia in se stessi: l'importanza dei legami, dell'allenamento, dell'ascolto - soprattutto verso se stessi - dell'esercizio della meraviglia, dell'importanza della decisione, della sperimentazione, dell'azione, di avere un senso e una direzione, ma soprattutto dell'avere fede.

Con qualche studio in più (penso soprattutto alle neuroscienze della motivazione) e un approfondimento di livello maggiore, sia dal punto di vista scientifico, sia dal punto di vista filosofico sarebbe potuto essere un saggio eccellente.