Should I Stay Or Go? : How Controlled Separation (CS) Can Save Your Marriage

by Lee Raffel

Until now, couples facing the dilemma of deciding whether or not to stay in an unhappy marriage had three options: individual or couples therapy, separation, or divorce. Should I Stay or Go? provides these couples with a fourth option--the Controlled Separation (CS). Revolutionary in scope, CS is a compassionate process that is designed to build respect and foster advocacy between spouses. Should I Stay or Go? thoroughly explains the CS guidelines, including the 12 fundamental issues that must be resolved for a workable, orderly separation. It also contains sample contracts, along with helpful checklists and self-assessment tools.

304 pages, Hardcover

First published September 1, 1998

Reviews

[Anne-Marie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Last night I leaned against someone's cellar door which opened and I tumbled backwards down 10 wooden steps. The incident sums up my current state of being. My head is pounding along with my heart. I know that there are ups and downs - an ebb and a flow in all relationships - but how long do you wait it out? How long do you hold on to a mutual and tangible misery? When does one say when? I just don't know. And scratch that statement I made last week about being done with the self-help genre.



---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Read up to the chapter that said, "If you're married to a passive-aggresive, alcoholic, disloyal ASSHOLE, consider youself finished with this book and just GO". Done and Done.