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Not Your Parents' Marriage: Bold Partnership for a New Generation
Find God’s Unique Shape for Your Marriage
It’s not just the two of you and God. The truth is, you bring your family into your relationship in more ways than you realize. Yet God has plans for your marriage that differ from the expectations of your parents’ generation. Looking at the past, how do you know what to jettison and what to keep as your own?
Jerome and Kellie Daley have wrestled with the tough questions about which spouse is responsible for what and why, how last night’s fight could help you love each other more, and what it really means to leave your parents and become full partners in marriage. As you practice the freeing biblical truths about marriage, you discover that many of the practicalities that worked for previous generations are a poor fit in your relationship.
Not Your Parents’ Marriage examines God’s dreams for marriage today, based on the scriptures and including honest dialog, fun questionnaires, and space for journaling. It’s time to honor what God has done in the past while unlocking the creativity and passion that are unique to your relationship.
Whether you are engaged, married, or somewhere on the way, God wants to do a new thing in your relationship. Are you ready to experience it?
Includes discussion questions for couples or groups.
It’s not just the two of you and God. The truth is, you bring your family into your relationship in more ways than you realize. Yet God has plans for your marriage that differ from the expectations of your parents’ generation. Looking at the past, how do you know what to jettison and what to keep as your own?
Jerome and Kellie Daley have wrestled with the tough questions about which spouse is responsible for what and why, how last night’s fight could help you love each other more, and what it really means to leave your parents and become full partners in marriage. As you practice the freeing biblical truths about marriage, you discover that many of the practicalities that worked for previous generations are a poor fit in your relationship.
Not Your Parents’ Marriage examines God’s dreams for marriage today, based on the scriptures and including honest dialog, fun questionnaires, and space for journaling. It’s time to honor what God has done in the past while unlocking the creativity and passion that are unique to your relationship.
Whether you are engaged, married, or somewhere on the way, God wants to do a new thing in your relationship. Are you ready to experience it?
Includes discussion questions for couples or groups.
176 pages, Paperback
First published May 16, 2006
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About the author
Jerome Daley
24 books12 followersJerome Daley is an executive coach and retreat guide who is passionate about helping leaders thrive in their souls and their organizational cultures. With over 20 years in people development, he speaks, trains, and mentors people toward their true identity and authentic influence.
Making his home in the mountains of North Carolina, he and his wife Kellie are parents of three grown children. His great delights are taking spiritual retreats, drinking good wine, backpacking in the mountains, and playing with his grandson.
You can also follow Jerome on his social media:
> Twitter: www.twitter.com/Thrive9Coach
> Facebook: www.facebook.com/iThrive9
> Linked-In: www.linkedin.com/in/jeromedaley
Making his home in the mountains of North Carolina, he and his wife Kellie are parents of three grown children. His great delights are taking spiritual retreats, drinking good wine, backpacking in the mountains, and playing with his grandson.
You can also follow Jerome on his social media:
> Twitter: www.twitter.com/Thrive9Coach
> Facebook: www.facebook.com/iThrive9
> Linked-In: www.linkedin.com/in/jeromedaley
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February 17, 2012
2.5 stars for Not Your Parents' Marriage. It was okay; a quick read with a few nuggets of wisdom, but nothing substantially life-changing.
The premise of Not Your Parents' Marriage is that every newlywed brings to their marriage expectations and preconceived ideas about gender roles, child-rearing, financial management, communication, etc. These assumptions are largely shaped by our upbringing - more specifically, by our parents' marriage and the example they set for us.
Throughout the book, the authors strive to remind readers that every marriage is unique and the relationship you share with your spouse is not going to be the same as the relationship your parents share. The description on the book jacket says that the goal of the book is to help readers "honor what God has done in the past" while simultaneously recognizing that "many of the practicalities that worked for previous generations are a poor fit" for relationships today.
I was excited to read this book as part of our pre-marital counseling prep. Unfortunately, though the book did raise some good points and sparked some good conversation, it wasn't nearly as helpful as I hoped it would be. The chapter on finding your place in the extended family, for example, encourages readers to actively pursue a good relationship with their in-laws ... but aside from the suggestion that you pick up the phone and chat with your in-laws yourself rather than immediately handing the phone over to your spouse to answer, there wasn't much in terms of practical advice on how to accomplish this.
They emphasize the danger of falling into the habit of communicating with your in-laws through your spouse, but they don't take into consideration situations like mine where my in-laws and I don't speak the same language. Potential cultural differences, language barriers, religious differences, etc are never addressed or even mentioned.
Which brings me to my next point: the authors write with an assumption that both husband and wife come from tight-knit, nuclear Christian families. They assume both spouses have good relationships with their parents and are subconsciously trying to "mimic" their parents' marriage. Readers who come from families where there is a history of divorce, or who grew up in a single-parent home, or who (for whatever reason) don't have a close relationship with their parents will likely find much of the book's content to be irrelevant. It is definitely written with a very specific audience in mind.
I think couples who come from similar backgrounds and who both have great relationships with their parents/families will get the most out of Not Your Parents' Marriage ... luckily, for the rest of us, there are many other great marriage books out there.
The premise of Not Your Parents' Marriage is that every newlywed brings to their marriage expectations and preconceived ideas about gender roles, child-rearing, financial management, communication, etc. These assumptions are largely shaped by our upbringing - more specifically, by our parents' marriage and the example they set for us.
Throughout the book, the authors strive to remind readers that every marriage is unique and the relationship you share with your spouse is not going to be the same as the relationship your parents share. The description on the book jacket says that the goal of the book is to help readers "honor what God has done in the past" while simultaneously recognizing that "many of the practicalities that worked for previous generations are a poor fit" for relationships today.
I was excited to read this book as part of our pre-marital counseling prep. Unfortunately, though the book did raise some good points and sparked some good conversation, it wasn't nearly as helpful as I hoped it would be. The chapter on finding your place in the extended family, for example, encourages readers to actively pursue a good relationship with their in-laws ... but aside from the suggestion that you pick up the phone and chat with your in-laws yourself rather than immediately handing the phone over to your spouse to answer, there wasn't much in terms of practical advice on how to accomplish this.
They emphasize the danger of falling into the habit of communicating with your in-laws through your spouse, but they don't take into consideration situations like mine where my in-laws and I don't speak the same language. Potential cultural differences, language barriers, religious differences, etc are never addressed or even mentioned.
Which brings me to my next point: the authors write with an assumption that both husband and wife come from tight-knit, nuclear Christian families. They assume both spouses have good relationships with their parents and are subconsciously trying to "mimic" their parents' marriage. Readers who come from families where there is a history of divorce, or who grew up in a single-parent home, or who (for whatever reason) don't have a close relationship with their parents will likely find much of the book's content to be irrelevant. It is definitely written with a very specific audience in mind.
I think couples who come from similar backgrounds and who both have great relationships with their parents/families will get the most out of Not Your Parents' Marriage ... luckily, for the rest of us, there are many other great marriage books out there.
July 18, 2008
Very good but I had already read the first 90 Days of Marriage and was already very attached to that book.
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