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Surviving Separation And Divorce
Reclaim you life and your self!
The weeks following your separation may prove to be the most difficult weeks of your life. But with a little help and support, you'll find the strength you need to get through the divorce process and move on.
Author Loriann Hoff Oberlin, M.S. , understands the rough road to starting over. A survivor herself, she shares her personal experience as well as her professional expertise as she shows you how to rebuild your life, step by step.
Surviving Separation and Divorce, 2nd Edition provides you with markers for the legally and emotionally taxing journey ahead, including how
With this completely revised and updated classic at your side, you'll summon your inner strength, let go of the past, and build a better future--starting today.
The weeks following your separation may prove to be the most difficult weeks of your life. But with a little help and support, you'll find the strength you need to get through the divorce process and move on.
Author Loriann Hoff Oberlin, M.S. , understands the rough road to starting over. A survivor herself, she shares her personal experience as well as her professional expertise as she shows you how to rebuild your life, step by step.
Surviving Separation and Divorce, 2nd Edition provides you with markers for the legally and emotionally taxing journey ahead, including how
With this completely revised and updated classic at your side, you'll summon your inner strength, let go of the past, and build a better future--starting today.
304 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 1997
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About the author
Loriann Hoff Oberlin
16 books6 followersLoriann Hoff Oberlin, MS, LCPC is a licensed clinical professional counselor with a private practice on Maryland's Eastern Shore in Talbot County and in Montgomery County, Maryland.
Oberlin is also the author of eleven non-fiction books — from health, relationships, parenting, social and psychological issues to writing and working from home. Her latest is WRITING TO MAKE MONEY: SHORT PROJECTS, which is the first in a new series of books for small business people and writers in the field part-time, full-time or to promote services/products.
She has also written SURVIVING SEPARATION & DIVORCE (a lifestyle book for women) and collaborated on OVERCOMING PASSIVE-AGGRESSION (about hidden anger) as well as THE ANGRY CHILD.
This breadth of material speaks to Ms. Oberlin’s diverse interests and experience she gained as a freelance writer in her first career spanning 20 years. She frequently contributed to national and regional magazines and some newspapers as well.
Having earned her bachelor’s in liberal arts from Westminster College, New Wilmington, PA, Ms. Oberlin lived and worked in Western Pennsylvania before moving to Maryland in 2001.
In 2012, Loriann became a full-time resident of the Eastern Shore, and she's served on the planning committee for the Bay to Ocean Writer's Conference for many years. She was a co-coordinator in 2018.
She’s married, the mother of two young-adult sons, and has the life experience of separation, divorce, single parenthood, remarriage, and stepfamily formation.
In addition, she’s taught many aspiring writers how to achieve their own publishing dreams. Her book WRITING FOR QUICK CASH was used in Barnes & Noble's University boosting enrollment quite a bit. It's a frequent book that when gifted to someone else says "you've got talent." WRITING TO MAKE MONEY, the book series, fills this void as other writing books are now out of print after successful runs.
With her knowledge and research base, Loriann earned her master’s degree in clinical counseling from Johns Hopkins University, and completed the post-master’s program as well.
In 2014, the School of Education at Johns Hopkins University, that subsumes the counseling program, was ranked #1 in the country among graduate schools, according to U.S. News & World Report.
As a therapist, she’s worked in community mental health, at the second busiest hospital emergency department in Maryland, and in a group practice before establishing her own counseling practice.
Many who read her self-help books comment that it helps them to overcome common struggles.
Loriann looks forward to posting reviews of non-fiction that she would feel comfortable recommending to clients and/or readers of parenting and other publications.
Loriann Oberlin also writes contemporary women's fiction under the pen name Lauren Monroe. See Good Reads/Lauren Monroe and her first novel LETTING GO: THE MARYLAND SHORES on this site. The sequel and her second novel was SECOND CHANCES: THE MARYLAND SHORES.
www.laurenmonroenovels.com
Oberlin is also the author of eleven non-fiction books — from health, relationships, parenting, social and psychological issues to writing and working from home. Her latest is WRITING TO MAKE MONEY: SHORT PROJECTS, which is the first in a new series of books for small business people and writers in the field part-time, full-time or to promote services/products.
She has also written SURVIVING SEPARATION & DIVORCE (a lifestyle book for women) and collaborated on OVERCOMING PASSIVE-AGGRESSION (about hidden anger) as well as THE ANGRY CHILD.
This breadth of material speaks to Ms. Oberlin’s diverse interests and experience she gained as a freelance writer in her first career spanning 20 years. She frequently contributed to national and regional magazines and some newspapers as well.
Having earned her bachelor’s in liberal arts from Westminster College, New Wilmington, PA, Ms. Oberlin lived and worked in Western Pennsylvania before moving to Maryland in 2001.
In 2012, Loriann became a full-time resident of the Eastern Shore, and she's served on the planning committee for the Bay to Ocean Writer's Conference for many years. She was a co-coordinator in 2018.
She’s married, the mother of two young-adult sons, and has the life experience of separation, divorce, single parenthood, remarriage, and stepfamily formation.
In addition, she’s taught many aspiring writers how to achieve their own publishing dreams. Her book WRITING FOR QUICK CASH was used in Barnes & Noble's University boosting enrollment quite a bit. It's a frequent book that when gifted to someone else says "you've got talent." WRITING TO MAKE MONEY, the book series, fills this void as other writing books are now out of print after successful runs.
With her knowledge and research base, Loriann earned her master’s degree in clinical counseling from Johns Hopkins University, and completed the post-master’s program as well.
In 2014, the School of Education at Johns Hopkins University, that subsumes the counseling program, was ranked #1 in the country among graduate schools, according to U.S. News & World Report.
As a therapist, she’s worked in community mental health, at the second busiest hospital emergency department in Maryland, and in a group practice before establishing her own counseling practice.
Many who read her self-help books comment that it helps them to overcome common struggles.
Loriann looks forward to posting reviews of non-fiction that she would feel comfortable recommending to clients and/or readers of parenting and other publications.
Loriann Oberlin also writes contemporary women's fiction under the pen name Lauren Monroe. See Good Reads/Lauren Monroe and her first novel LETTING GO: THE MARYLAND SHORES on this site. The sequel and her second novel was SECOND CHANCES: THE MARYLAND SHORES.
www.laurenmonroenovels.com
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November 4, 2020
So...my husband is leaving me for the 3rd time this year, but this time, he won’t change his mind. You see, he cheated on me twice this year: emotionally in January while sending certain pictures to a female coworker, and again in March, where he hoped that if he was friends with the female coworker, she would eventually return his feelings. EVEN THOUGH SHE TURNED HIM DOWN 3 TIMES ALREADY!! And he kissed her, which should have been the final straw for me. I even miscarried at 4 weeks.
But after he “realized” he wanted to be with me again, I took him back even though my gut told me “don’t you dare fucking do it! You’re only prolonging the inevitable. He has a pattern.” I followed my heart instead and we were good for 7 months. We did couple’s therapy and individual therapy. We even got a new place together in August and things seemed great. Except they weren’t. I was just too blind to see them.
I’ve never been able to be my true self with my husband, and I accepted that. We’ve been together since I was 17 and he 19. 10 years is a looooong time to be with someone. We went through a lot, me getting stable with my bipolar, trying to figure our futures out, ect. People change, I get it, but I’ve never been with anyone else; I’ve never lived on my own. He was a trucker last year and I learned to be independent. I grew stronger, got my shit together, and became a better person.
But when he decided to quit the job because he got major depression (which I helped him with!), I supported his choice. I wanted him to be happy, even if it meant my own happiness had to take a back seat.
For the last week and a half, I’ve been a horrible mess, sobbing, wanting to beg him to stay and don’t give up on us. He blames my bipolar for being too much, even though I haven’t had any episodes in the last 2.5 years, I’m strong as fuck, I can do shit on my own, and I don’t hurt myself. He’s ignored aaalll my progress and just thinks I’ll fall back onto old habits. And I started to blame myself for the failure of my marriage.
Fuck. That.
He’s the one who ruined us. He got “bored” with our relationship and wants to be on his own. I know he fucked up, but I forgave him and accepted all his flaws, while he doesn’t even think I’m worth sticking around with. And this book helped me understand that. I will make it through this, even though I’m terrified as hell. I’ll learn to make myself happy and put myself first for once. He’s held me back long enough. He's a couch potato while I want to explore the world and try outdoorsy things. We only have a sense of humor in common.
If you’re going through the same pain of being left by a partner or spouse, pick this book up. I plan on rereading it again as I go through the stages of grief in my divorce. Whoever you are, you’re not alone. Be sad. Cry or scream to get things out. Its okay to ride the roller-coaster of emotions, but don’t wallow in it for too long. You ARE WORTH MORE! You will live beyond this, you will find love again when you are ready. Take your time and grieve like I am.
You got this.
But after he “realized” he wanted to be with me again, I took him back even though my gut told me “don’t you dare fucking do it! You’re only prolonging the inevitable. He has a pattern.” I followed my heart instead and we were good for 7 months. We did couple’s therapy and individual therapy. We even got a new place together in August and things seemed great. Except they weren’t. I was just too blind to see them.
I’ve never been able to be my true self with my husband, and I accepted that. We’ve been together since I was 17 and he 19. 10 years is a looooong time to be with someone. We went through a lot, me getting stable with my bipolar, trying to figure our futures out, ect. People change, I get it, but I’ve never been with anyone else; I’ve never lived on my own. He was a trucker last year and I learned to be independent. I grew stronger, got my shit together, and became a better person.
But when he decided to quit the job because he got major depression (which I helped him with!), I supported his choice. I wanted him to be happy, even if it meant my own happiness had to take a back seat.
For the last week and a half, I’ve been a horrible mess, sobbing, wanting to beg him to stay and don’t give up on us. He blames my bipolar for being too much, even though I haven’t had any episodes in the last 2.5 years, I’m strong as fuck, I can do shit on my own, and I don’t hurt myself. He’s ignored aaalll my progress and just thinks I’ll fall back onto old habits. And I started to blame myself for the failure of my marriage.
Fuck. That.
He’s the one who ruined us. He got “bored” with our relationship and wants to be on his own. I know he fucked up, but I forgave him and accepted all his flaws, while he doesn’t even think I’m worth sticking around with. And this book helped me understand that. I will make it through this, even though I’m terrified as hell. I’ll learn to make myself happy and put myself first for once. He’s held me back long enough. He's a couch potato while I want to explore the world and try outdoorsy things. We only have a sense of humor in common.
If you’re going through the same pain of being left by a partner or spouse, pick this book up. I plan on rereading it again as I go through the stages of grief in my divorce. Whoever you are, you’re not alone. Be sad. Cry or scream to get things out. Its okay to ride the roller-coaster of emotions, but don’t wallow in it for too long. You ARE WORTH MORE! You will live beyond this, you will find love again when you are ready. Take your time and grieve like I am.
You got this.
May 25, 2014
When I set out to write this book in its first edition, it was important to me to make it a lifestyle book for women who were facing separation and possibly divorce. With an emphasis on the former, the book even in its updated edition includes how to handle all aspects of your life including:
-- immediate fallout and emotions women feel
-- concern for children, safety, and practical matters
-- financial and legal realities
-- how to manage a household alone and make it thrive -- yes even the lawn!
-- looking after your health, including your emotions and mental health
-- how to handle the anger and frustration that comes with such a life transition
-- what to do if you're locked in gridlock with difficult personalities on the other side
-- how to move forward for a brighter future
Please consider gifting this book as women tend to always know of someone going through this type of circumstance. Also, be on the look out for giveaways and please check out and "like" the Facebook page: www.facebook.com/SeparationandDivorce
-- immediate fallout and emotions women feel
-- concern for children, safety, and practical matters
-- financial and legal realities
-- how to manage a household alone and make it thrive -- yes even the lawn!
-- looking after your health, including your emotions and mental health
-- how to handle the anger and frustration that comes with such a life transition
-- what to do if you're locked in gridlock with difficult personalities on the other side
-- how to move forward for a brighter future
Please consider gifting this book as women tend to always know of someone going through this type of circumstance. Also, be on the look out for giveaways and please check out and "like" the Facebook page: www.facebook.com/SeparationandDivorce
July 7, 2008
A really good and practical "how to" manual, if you will. Really helped me sort through some of the more painful details in a step-by-step fashion.
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