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Your Second Act: Inspiring Stories of Reinvention
An entertaining, inspirational book about second acts in life and reinventing yourself from beloved television actress Patricia Heaton—Emmy Award–winning star of Everybody Loves Raymond, The Middle, and most recently, Carol’s Second Act.
Patricia Heaton is one of TV’s most recognizable and beloved moms.
She’s won two Emmys for her starring role as Debra Barone on the long-running comedy Everybody Loves Raymond, and followed that career-making role with another gem as Frances Heck on the popular sitcom The Middle. Now, she returns to television as the lead in the new series Carol’s Second Act, which follows divorced fifty-year-old Carol Kenney (played by Heaton), who after raising two children and retiring as a teacher decides to finally pursue her dream of becoming a doctor.
Patricia Heaton knows what it’s like to stage a second act and navigate pivotal transitions in life. Just like Carol, when Heaton’s children left the nest, she found herself in a new and unfamiliar stage of life, compelling her to evaluate which direction to take next. She discovered she had the time to pursue passions that were previously placed on hold, both personally and professionally. She made her move and took a step forward in her career and for the first time, Heaton is not only the star of her own show, but also the executive producer. She also now finds her greatest fulfillment in using her influence to support humanitarian efforts as a Celebrity Ambassador for World Vision, the world’s largest non-governmental organization. She and her husband support their work in poverty relief around the globe, something that was planted in heart long ago.
Through her own experience, Heaton became curious about other people’s stories of second-act transitions and ways to offer support in the process. In her new book, Your Second Act, she shares wisdom from her own personal journey as well as insight from stories of numerous people across the country. From work to health, to love and more, the results are heartwarming, inspiring, and surprisingly relatable!
Filled with light-hearted anecdotes and pragmatic steps to help you discover your own path, Your Second Act shows us that midlife doesn’t have to be about crisis when you focus on the opportunity. After all, it’s never too late, or too early to stage your second act!
Patricia Heaton is one of TV’s most recognizable and beloved moms.
She’s won two Emmys for her starring role as Debra Barone on the long-running comedy Everybody Loves Raymond, and followed that career-making role with another gem as Frances Heck on the popular sitcom The Middle. Now, she returns to television as the lead in the new series Carol’s Second Act, which follows divorced fifty-year-old Carol Kenney (played by Heaton), who after raising two children and retiring as a teacher decides to finally pursue her dream of becoming a doctor.
Patricia Heaton knows what it’s like to stage a second act and navigate pivotal transitions in life. Just like Carol, when Heaton’s children left the nest, she found herself in a new and unfamiliar stage of life, compelling her to evaluate which direction to take next. She discovered she had the time to pursue passions that were previously placed on hold, both personally and professionally. She made her move and took a step forward in her career and for the first time, Heaton is not only the star of her own show, but also the executive producer. She also now finds her greatest fulfillment in using her influence to support humanitarian efforts as a Celebrity Ambassador for World Vision, the world’s largest non-governmental organization. She and her husband support their work in poverty relief around the globe, something that was planted in heart long ago.
Through her own experience, Heaton became curious about other people’s stories of second-act transitions and ways to offer support in the process. In her new book, Your Second Act, she shares wisdom from her own personal journey as well as insight from stories of numerous people across the country. From work to health, to love and more, the results are heartwarming, inspiring, and surprisingly relatable!
Filled with light-hearted anecdotes and pragmatic steps to help you discover your own path, Your Second Act shows us that midlife doesn’t have to be about crisis when you focus on the opportunity. After all, it’s never too late, or too early to stage your second act!
272 pages, Hardcover
First published July 21, 2020
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Patricia Heaton
9 books37 followersPatricia Helen Heaton (born March 4, 1958) is an American actress best known for playing Ray Barone's wife Debra Barone on the CBS television sitcom Everybody Loves Raymond. Heaton has been married to British actor David Hunt since 1990, they have four sons.
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August 17, 2020
Insightful Storytelling & Interesting Listening
Before listening to the audiobook version of YOUR SECOND ACT, I knew very little about the life of Patricia Heaton. Yes I had watched her on Everyone Loves Raymond but knew little else. It was fascinating that her father was a journalist and both of her brothers. It makes sense she studied journalism at Ohio State before switching her major to theater. I loved how the center of Heaton’s life is not the theater or acting but her faith—and she makes this clear in the first chapter.
The audiobook says read by author with full cast. Until listening to the book, I didn’t understand “full cast.” Other than the first couple of chapters, each chapter is focused on a single person. That person reads part of their own story in the book. After telling their story they include a Q & A section with Heaton asking questions and the person answering. Then each chapter includes Patty’s Points which gives readers action points from that particular chapter. Finally there are “Reflection Questions” for the reader.
The stories are excellent but have universal application to readers trying to figure out their own second act. Each one is well-done and interesting. Each chapter includes “Reflection Question” for the reader to apply the material to their own life. The result is a well-done thoughtful book with application for every reader about reinvention. I highly recommend YOUR SECOND ACT.
W. Terry Whalin is an editor and the author of more than 60 books including his latest 10 Publishing Myths, Insights Every Author Needs to Succeed .
Before listening to the audiobook version of YOUR SECOND ACT, I knew very little about the life of Patricia Heaton. Yes I had watched her on Everyone Loves Raymond but knew little else. It was fascinating that her father was a journalist and both of her brothers. It makes sense she studied journalism at Ohio State before switching her major to theater. I loved how the center of Heaton’s life is not the theater or acting but her faith—and she makes this clear in the first chapter.
The audiobook says read by author with full cast. Until listening to the book, I didn’t understand “full cast.” Other than the first couple of chapters, each chapter is focused on a single person. That person reads part of their own story in the book. After telling their story they include a Q & A section with Heaton asking questions and the person answering. Then each chapter includes Patty’s Points which gives readers action points from that particular chapter. Finally there are “Reflection Questions” for the reader.
The stories are excellent but have universal application to readers trying to figure out their own second act. Each one is well-done and interesting. Each chapter includes “Reflection Question” for the reader to apply the material to their own life. The result is a well-done thoughtful book with application for every reader about reinvention. I highly recommend YOUR SECOND ACT.
W. Terry Whalin is an editor and the author of more than 60 books including his latest 10 Publishing Myths, Insights Every Author Needs to Succeed .
January 31, 2022
I’m a huge fan of Patricia Heaton’s and have loved watching her in two adored sitcoms Everybody Loves Raymond and The Middle. Here she narrates her own book, Your Second Act. Amazing true accounts of people starting their next chapter mid-life. What was really interesting about this book was that Patricia Heaton included a Q&A section for each person to answer after they told their story, and just before the chapter ended there are reflection questions for the reader - where do you see yourself in the story, what is your greatest take-away from the story, what part of the persons personality, character traits or journey can you relate to or identify with.
“Second acts can be by choice, a new career, an artistic expression, a mentoring opportunity, or they can be due to a change in circumstances, a divorce, a death of a loved one, a lay off or the empty nest, second acts can be about self-fulfilment and they can be about service to others, your second act is your call, it’s personal to you, it’s your path and your journey.”
It’s never too late to pursue your dreams. Explore what excites you. I might just do that! It’s definitely never too late to try something new, that’s what Patricia Heaton will tell you in this beautiful inspirational book.
“Second acts can be by choice, a new career, an artistic expression, a mentoring opportunity, or they can be due to a change in circumstances, a divorce, a death of a loved one, a lay off or the empty nest, second acts can be about self-fulfilment and they can be about service to others, your second act is your call, it’s personal to you, it’s your path and your journey.”
It’s never too late to pursue your dreams. Explore what excites you. I might just do that! It’s definitely never too late to try something new, that’s what Patricia Heaton will tell you in this beautiful inspirational book.
January 31, 2021
An interesting read if you are in a career transition and seeking some inspiration, encouragement, or just need to feel less alone in your experience.
I was cautioned before I read this book that the author is “very Christian” and that many of the people she interviewed for this book are also “strongly influenced by their Christian faith”.
So, if you’re like me and Not a religious person at all, you have now also been given a heads up before you start reading. If you can be open minded and accepting of the perceived value that religion has had for many of the people in the book, and see their Christian faith as an analogy for other things in your life that provide motivation, ground rules to follow, a sense of community, accountability, etc. Then you’ll probably get more out of this book than if you dismiss them as being “too religious for me to relate to”.
A lot of the themes in this book are pretty universal, even if they are not always presented from a universal perspective. I trust that a smart reader can extrapolate the tidbits of wisdom and lessons learned by the people in this book, no matter where you stand on religion.
I was cautioned before I read this book that the author is “very Christian” and that many of the people she interviewed for this book are also “strongly influenced by their Christian faith”.
So, if you’re like me and Not a religious person at all, you have now also been given a heads up before you start reading. If you can be open minded and accepting of the perceived value that religion has had for many of the people in the book, and see their Christian faith as an analogy for other things in your life that provide motivation, ground rules to follow, a sense of community, accountability, etc. Then you’ll probably get more out of this book than if you dismiss them as being “too religious for me to relate to”.
A lot of the themes in this book are pretty universal, even if they are not always presented from a universal perspective. I trust that a smart reader can extrapolate the tidbits of wisdom and lessons learned by the people in this book, no matter where you stand on religion.
October 21, 2020
I saw this on Overdrive and thought it was a memoir and I like Patricia Heaton, the mom in a TV show I used the love called "The Middle." It was a tiny bit autobiographical but mostly motivational for reinventing yourself when you get older. There were a lot of stories, many of which I fast forwarded through. But it was still enjoyable and made me contemplate my own second act...
July 27, 2021
Patricia is my age and seems to be in the same phase of life. It was encouraging to hear her words and to read about others starting second acts. I’m glad she shared her Christian faith and how it has played a part in her life.
February 25, 2021
I thoroughly enjoyed this. So many inspiring accounts from different walks of life. It’s just a joy to know people like this exist in this day and age. I’ve entered into motherhood recently and it’s really prompted questions in what it now means for me and for the influence I have on this growing boy.
There is some religious talk in the book, not much, that may or may not be a deterrent for some. As a Christian, it wasn’t a deterrent for me (in fact, it was a breath of fresh air to hear the positives!) but it most definitely wasn’t the focus of the book, it was just a few mentions of the individual’s faith or if they did community work in their church.
I feel encouraged to find my passion and go for my goals now. I needed to hear these stories and I didn’t even realise I needed it. I am a good 30yrs younger than some of the individuals but I take wisdom from their experiences and found a likeness to some of their pasts. I also found it inspiring that in a lot of cases of grief and trials, people have really made the most with the cards they have been dealt.
If you are in a bit of a rutt, lost someone dear to you, going through a tough time, this might just be what you need to hear to feel invigorated to move forward and blossom.
There is some religious talk in the book, not much, that may or may not be a deterrent for some. As a Christian, it wasn’t a deterrent for me (in fact, it was a breath of fresh air to hear the positives!) but it most definitely wasn’t the focus of the book, it was just a few mentions of the individual’s faith or if they did community work in their church.
I feel encouraged to find my passion and go for my goals now. I needed to hear these stories and I didn’t even realise I needed it. I am a good 30yrs younger than some of the individuals but I take wisdom from their experiences and found a likeness to some of their pasts. I also found it inspiring that in a lot of cases of grief and trials, people have really made the most with the cards they have been dealt.
If you are in a bit of a rutt, lost someone dear to you, going through a tough time, this might just be what you need to hear to feel invigorated to move forward and blossom.
March 28, 2021
This book is about making midlife changes. I liked the structure of the book—chapters about different people’s midlife changes, and a Q&A with each person. I didn’t like that so many of the stories were about career changes, but I really appreciated the story about the woman who brought comedians in for dementia patients, and the story about the woman who lost the use of her legs and is in a wheelchair. I do wish there had been more stories about social network changes/crises. In the last chapter, the author does talk a bit about the importance of having a social network (“tribe”) surrounding you when you are trying to make a midlife change, but I wish some stories in the book had been devoted to that challenge. I’m glad I finished this book, but I don’t think I’ll be likely to recommend it to people.
January 26, 2021
Encouraging and easy to read. Lots of great stories of people who have shared their own experiences of how they personally made a second act in their life. Very inspiring. Patricia Heaton has done a great job with this book. Excellent. (I read this book in small sections at a time, so I could really dwell on each shared tale.)
May 9, 2021
I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up! I really like the author as an actress. I feel the stories in the book were interesting. But I found the tone kind of condescending and annoying.
November 8, 2024
I really enjoyed this one. I thought it was an autobiography but I’m grateful it’s an anthology. All of the experiences and people involved in this book are amazing. It gave me hope and relief. I’m inspired and encouraged by this book.
September 2, 2020
Okay, I admit it - I think I’m in love with Patricia Heaton! I purchased the Audible version in order to hear her deliver the words in print. I am a 52-year-old public school teacher who still has another 14 years to go until retirement (don’t get me started - I left a possible career with the postal service to fulfill my love for reading and writing, and instilling that love within my students).
This book instilled in me the permission to pursue my “second act” of writing screenplays, short stories, and personal essays as a way to contribute to society. I’m not sure the world is ready for my sense of humor, but I’m willing to give it a shot (in the future).
I enjoyed the various people who contributed their stories of their second acts in life.
Patricia, if you are reading this review, I must tell you that I am married and have two fabulous young boys who also adore you!
Keep up the positivity! This world needs more people like you in it.
God bless!
This book instilled in me the permission to pursue my “second act” of writing screenplays, short stories, and personal essays as a way to contribute to society. I’m not sure the world is ready for my sense of humor, but I’m willing to give it a shot (in the future).
I enjoyed the various people who contributed their stories of their second acts in life.
Patricia, if you are reading this review, I must tell you that I am married and have two fabulous young boys who also adore you!
Keep up the positivity! This world needs more people like you in it.
God bless!
July 14, 2020
I have read several nonfiction books by persons who are celebrities in various media. I enjoy Patricia as an actress and appreciated getting to know more about her vision in other areas. Wile this book does hav a Christian slant, it is not a religious book.
The topic is one I have long had an interest in and I enjoyed the way she writes abut the people she interviewed.
Patricia started with people she knew from her own starting over activities and writes also about others she learned about, people who overcame obstacles, who did more than they were called to do, and those for whom there was a calling, that need to do more, to give back or pay forward the blessings they received in life.
This is an inspirational book. A book to make you think about the possibilities in your own life. What would give it more meaning and how to keep it feeling like you are here for a purpose.
The topic is one I have long had an interest in and I enjoyed the way she writes abut the people she interviewed.
Patricia started with people she knew from her own starting over activities and writes also about others she learned about, people who overcame obstacles, who did more than they were called to do, and those for whom there was a calling, that need to do more, to give back or pay forward the blessings they received in life.
This is an inspirational book. A book to make you think about the possibilities in your own life. What would give it more meaning and how to keep it feeling like you are here for a purpose.
April 14, 2020
I have been in love with Patricia Heaton since I was 9 years old and watched her on Everybody Loves Raymond . She is just super awesome and when I seen her in The Middle when I was 20 and became a mom myself I loved her even more. She is not just a wonderful actress but a wonderful woman. I have looked up to her not only for the characters she portrays on TV but for the phenomenal person she is. Reading Your Second Act was such a great feeling I loved hearing how she grew after her kids were leaving the house and she needed to learn how to be herself not just a mom raising kids. LOVED every bit of this book especially because I have two little ones myself and cant see where I would be without them in my life! A MUST READ BOOK!
May 2, 2021
Patricia Heaton writes a book about people who have changed their lives in their "second acts" She starts by writing of her own life and the decisions she has made to change parts of her life. Like being a producer of her own show after starring in two successful tv shows. and her work with World Vision.
The rest of her book is interviews with other people who have changes their lives in middle age and take a different paths then they have in their lives. Each has a different story. Some involving starting a very successful business, or a charity they started etc. Each essay ends with an interview with Patricia Heaton and then questions the readers can answer. Pretty neat book. I enjoyed reading this "feel good" book.
The rest of her book is interviews with other people who have changes their lives in middle age and take a different paths then they have in their lives. Each has a different story. Some involving starting a very successful business, or a charity they started etc. Each essay ends with an interview with Patricia Heaton and then questions the readers can answer. Pretty neat book. I enjoyed reading this "feel good" book.
September 10, 2021
3.25 stars. This book was not what I was expecting but I did enjoy it. 10+ stories, including Ms. Heaton’s, on finding purpose in the next act if your life, or how to move forward when life situations cause you to have to pivot for whatever reason-life season, health challenges, economic challenge, etc. I liked Ms. Heaton’s overt expressions of faith, as well as most of the others stories. It was refreshing to read a self-help book that had such an emphasis on faith.
I find this type of self-help (for lack of better term) enjoyable at first, but by the 7-8th story, I’m wanting to know what to do with the info presented. And the Q&A and Patty’s points made it feel like homework somewhat. I didn’t like that part much. Lastly, some parts really felt like a World Vision ad.
I find this type of self-help (for lack of better term) enjoyable at first, but by the 7-8th story, I’m wanting to know what to do with the info presented. And the Q&A and Patty’s points made it feel like homework somewhat. I didn’t like that part much. Lastly, some parts really felt like a World Vision ad.
June 27, 2020
This is a book about people who decide they want to change their lives. Mostly older successful folks who want more satisfaction out of their daily activity. Patricia Heaton tells her own story in the first chapter but then goes on to highlight 15 other people who changed careers midlife. It's a book that will give you confidence to go forward with your own plans if you are thinking about a lifestyle change. Ms. Heaton writes with clarity and a straight forward style that is easy to read. Not surprising since she was a journalism major in college. I received a copy of this ARC in exchange for a fair and honest review.
September 11, 2020
I am a big fan of Patricia but this book was just so-so for me.
I think when you come to that point in your life where you enter another stage, it's a lot easier to transition if you have the money.
For many people who don't have the funding, their hobbies bring them personal satisfaction more so than their jobs that create income to live on.
The positive tidbit I came up with after reading this book is to identify doors that may open for us when we least expect it.
I liked her new comedy and was sad to hear it did not make it into another season.
I think when you come to that point in your life where you enter another stage, it's a lot easier to transition if you have the money.
For many people who don't have the funding, their hobbies bring them personal satisfaction more so than their jobs that create income to live on.
The positive tidbit I came up with after reading this book is to identify doors that may open for us when we least expect it.
I liked her new comedy and was sad to hear it did not make it into another season.
October 20, 2020
Some great advice in this book without being too heavy-handed. At times I felt like 14 different stories was too much; some of the characteristics of the "honorees" seemed a bit repetitive, but there was some variety. When I was finished, I went back through the book and looked up several of the people who were profiled, because I wanted to know more about them. I liked the way her questions in each section had at least one that was specific to that person or situation; chances are, each reader would find at least one story that really resonates with them.
October 26, 2020
Well-written "guide" for anyone considering a change-in-course for his/her life.
Patricia Heaton writes about her own "second act". Additionally, she includes many other people who made a pivot in their lives, some by choice, some by life.
After each person's story, Patricia includes #1 a question/answer with the individual, #2 "Patty's Points", and #3 Reflection Questions for the reader to answer.
A good read whether you're looking for inspiration or whether you're wanting a resource to make a change in your life.
Patricia Heaton writes about her own "second act". Additionally, she includes many other people who made a pivot in their lives, some by choice, some by life.
After each person's story, Patricia includes #1 a question/answer with the individual, #2 "Patty's Points", and #3 Reflection Questions for the reader to answer.
A good read whether you're looking for inspiration or whether you're wanting a resource to make a change in your life.
October 31, 2020
I really love this book! It was so much more than what I thought it would be. I thought it was a memoir, however it was a series of stories told by each of the people about your second career choices mid-life. At the end of each chapter Patty interviewed them, asking some questions and then gave some points that are takeaways from the book. I really loved it. There are some really great stories and the one Common thread, was that faith and prayers had a part for each of these people. I highly recommend this book and it gave me a lot more respect for Patricia.
December 5, 2020
A wonderful collection of inspiring stories and advice from people who found their “second act” in life. Patricia Heaton and various other voices narrate the audiobook. Heaton’s own second act isn’t all about producing and writing scripts or acting, she’s found another worthy cause for her time, like many others in this book. If you are middle age and wondering what’s ahead in your life, this might be a nudge in the right direction. Each story ends with a Q & A, Patty’s Points, and space to reflect on your own thoughts to help you narrow down your passions and talents.
February 24, 2021
It was an inspirational read. I am going through some stuff that has changed my circumstances and I am sort of being forced into a 2nd act despite being under 40. I enjoyed the book. Although I will say that it has been tough for me to find a way forward. Some of the people in the book seemed to just happen to naturally find what to do next and became very successful. I am just hoping to find something that I can get back on my feet but I haven't so far. This book makes it feel possible though. I am not done yet. I still have so much life to live.
June 24, 2021
I think this falls under a weird advice category. If someone is looking to pickup their lives and do something irresponsible and completely different, then you should probably read this book. It is oddly convenient that almost every person in this book didn't have financial struggles and therefore was able to "pursue their dreams".
The individual stories are interesting enough and some of them have made significant positive influences. However, they are often tied to whatever it is they are selling. It kind of felt like paying for and reading a couple hours of an infomercial.
The individual stories are interesting enough and some of them have made significant positive influences. However, they are often tied to whatever it is they are selling. It kind of felt like paying for and reading a couple hours of an infomercial.
January 27, 2022
It's always motivating to read stories of people who have done things to help others. These stories come from all different angles. Some were impacted by tragedy that they were able to overcome and go on to help others. Some had volunteered and become passionate about their cause and turned it into a successful business. Some looked at their hobbies and turned them into a way to give back. All of them help open your mind up to possibilities for you to do something to help others.
August 16, 2020
I am a big fan of Patricia and I have never once seen Everybody loves Raymond. I love the Frankie Heck Patricia :) Well that is why I read this book.
This book is all about how to live that second part of your life, not necessarily a mid-life crisis, but a re-invention. The stories within this cover are uplifting, inspiring, and inspirational.
This book is all about how to live that second part of your life, not necessarily a mid-life crisis, but a re-invention. The stories within this cover are uplifting, inspiring, and inspirational.
November 21, 2020
View life’s interruptions as interruptions, not ending points. This is one of “Patty’s Points” in Patricia Heaton’s latest book Your Second Act. I consumed this book over the weekend in two days. I loved it. I needed it, and now I want to gift it to my closest friends and female relatives. These interruptions we experience in life (especially now, during a pandemic) can be “opportunities to reassess and regroup.”
Your Second Act book by Patricia Heaton
Well said, Patty. I can call you Patty, right? Most people know you as the actress from the television series’ Everybody Loves Raymond, The Middle and Carol’s Second Act. Yet I feel that if I meet you someday we would just talk about being a mom, preparing foods and learning from others’ stories. I learned a lot from and saw myself in your 14 stories about other’s “second acts.”
What’s a Second Act?
Patty describes second acts as a “challenge, growth or change” that occurs in an individual’s life that takes a person out of his or her comfort zone. A person may have an unwavering feeling to take on a new task or make a career change. That second act can be by choice like Dr. Paul Osteen or it can be forced by circumstances such as a tragic accident in the case of Sarah Foley or a child’s autism diagnosis for Yudi Bennett.
What I liked about the stories in this book was the vast diversity in how the second act came to be from each “second actor.” Some second actors planned theirs and some just took each step as they came. Patty points out after Liz Smothers’ story that we “don’t have to have it all figured out” before we start. In fact in some cases, “if we believe we have it all figured out, or if we become determined to do something in a certain way, we can close ourselves off to opportunities that can take us further in life than our original plan.”
Openness, Time and Self-Assessment
Being open to change and adaptability was a key takeaway in this book. Another is partnering with the right people to support and encourage you. One of Patty’s points specifically says, “Find trusted mentors and supporters of your dream.” A dream can often take a team to bring it to life. No one in the book became successful by taking action without help.
Giving yourself time and doing self-work are two more pieces of advice that Patty gives in Dr. Joel Osteen’s story. He ran a successful medical practice in Arkansas before making a physical move and life change into medical ministry in Houston, Texas. Before he made that big decision and big move, he gave himself time to let the ideas sink in to be sure he did not act too quickly. He also spent time on assessing who he was. He and Patty are both firm believers in self-assessments like Myers-Briggs, DISC Assessment and therapy.
I agree and am a proud ISFJ according to Myers-Briggs. I am called a “defender who is introverted, observant, feeling and judging.” My personality is described as “warm and unassuming, efficient and responsible, giving careful attention to practical details in my daily life.” I have also read and taken Dr. Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages quiz to learn more about my expression of love. I quickly figured out what my husband is and my kids are as well through these quizzes. Knowing this about myself helps me understand why I feel and react the ways I do. They have made me a better partner, mom and friend.
Grieve the Life You Had
Sarah Foley’s story was one of the most powerful in the book for me. I found her website Vertical Blonde to learn more about her. An ATV accident left her with spinal cord injury that caused her to redefine who she was and how she could live her life with abilities, not just a disability. She admits that she had the “perfect life” prior to her accident and spent several years afterwards trying to get back to the person she was, before being in a wheelchair.
Sarah talks honestly about traveling through those dark places of denial and grief to get to a better place. Her therapist suggested she have a funeral for the old Sarah so she could then focus on who Sarah is now and will be in the future. This helped her focus on growth and the future or as Patty points out, “Let go of what no longer serves you.”
Reflection Questions and Facing the Future
Each chapter closing had a series of reflection questions to help the reader think more about her or his situation. How do you see yourself in the story? What were your key takeaways? I could find points in every story and reflect on my own experiences even though these situations and people are different from me.
Patty’s book Your Second Act had so many other wonderful points to it – the importance of laughter, acceptance of what you cannot change, giving back and other incredible impressions. I could write 1,000 more words on it. Instead I’ll just recommend that you read the book for your own ideas to put into action.
I just celebrated another birthday and have spent the last five months at home during a pandemic barely leaving the house. I wanted a new book to read, something uplifting to help me finish grieving my own pre-pandemic life. I’m thankful that I discovered Your Second Act. I craved words that would include profound, helpful stories. Patty delivered on this for me. Now I’m contemplating my own second act. Stay tuned. I’m just beginning the best years of my life.
(Note: This is NOT a paid advertisement. I was not asked to endorse or even read this book. I chose it as a birthday gift to myself and I enjoyed it so much that I felt compelled to review it and share it with others. I’m known for passing along books that should be shared among friends. I believe this is one of those books).
Your Second Act book by Patricia Heaton
Well said, Patty. I can call you Patty, right? Most people know you as the actress from the television series’ Everybody Loves Raymond, The Middle and Carol’s Second Act. Yet I feel that if I meet you someday we would just talk about being a mom, preparing foods and learning from others’ stories. I learned a lot from and saw myself in your 14 stories about other’s “second acts.”
What’s a Second Act?
Patty describes second acts as a “challenge, growth or change” that occurs in an individual’s life that takes a person out of his or her comfort zone. A person may have an unwavering feeling to take on a new task or make a career change. That second act can be by choice like Dr. Paul Osteen or it can be forced by circumstances such as a tragic accident in the case of Sarah Foley or a child’s autism diagnosis for Yudi Bennett.
What I liked about the stories in this book was the vast diversity in how the second act came to be from each “second actor.” Some second actors planned theirs and some just took each step as they came. Patty points out after Liz Smothers’ story that we “don’t have to have it all figured out” before we start. In fact in some cases, “if we believe we have it all figured out, or if we become determined to do something in a certain way, we can close ourselves off to opportunities that can take us further in life than our original plan.”
Openness, Time and Self-Assessment
Being open to change and adaptability was a key takeaway in this book. Another is partnering with the right people to support and encourage you. One of Patty’s points specifically says, “Find trusted mentors and supporters of your dream.” A dream can often take a team to bring it to life. No one in the book became successful by taking action without help.
Giving yourself time and doing self-work are two more pieces of advice that Patty gives in Dr. Joel Osteen’s story. He ran a successful medical practice in Arkansas before making a physical move and life change into medical ministry in Houston, Texas. Before he made that big decision and big move, he gave himself time to let the ideas sink in to be sure he did not act too quickly. He also spent time on assessing who he was. He and Patty are both firm believers in self-assessments like Myers-Briggs, DISC Assessment and therapy.
I agree and am a proud ISFJ according to Myers-Briggs. I am called a “defender who is introverted, observant, feeling and judging.” My personality is described as “warm and unassuming, efficient and responsible, giving careful attention to practical details in my daily life.” I have also read and taken Dr. Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages quiz to learn more about my expression of love. I quickly figured out what my husband is and my kids are as well through these quizzes. Knowing this about myself helps me understand why I feel and react the ways I do. They have made me a better partner, mom and friend.
Grieve the Life You Had
Sarah Foley’s story was one of the most powerful in the book for me. I found her website Vertical Blonde to learn more about her. An ATV accident left her with spinal cord injury that caused her to redefine who she was and how she could live her life with abilities, not just a disability. She admits that she had the “perfect life” prior to her accident and spent several years afterwards trying to get back to the person she was, before being in a wheelchair.
Sarah talks honestly about traveling through those dark places of denial and grief to get to a better place. Her therapist suggested she have a funeral for the old Sarah so she could then focus on who Sarah is now and will be in the future. This helped her focus on growth and the future or as Patty points out, “Let go of what no longer serves you.”
Reflection Questions and Facing the Future
Each chapter closing had a series of reflection questions to help the reader think more about her or his situation. How do you see yourself in the story? What were your key takeaways? I could find points in every story and reflect on my own experiences even though these situations and people are different from me.
Patty’s book Your Second Act had so many other wonderful points to it – the importance of laughter, acceptance of what you cannot change, giving back and other incredible impressions. I could write 1,000 more words on it. Instead I’ll just recommend that you read the book for your own ideas to put into action.
I just celebrated another birthday and have spent the last five months at home during a pandemic barely leaving the house. I wanted a new book to read, something uplifting to help me finish grieving my own pre-pandemic life. I’m thankful that I discovered Your Second Act. I craved words that would include profound, helpful stories. Patty delivered on this for me. Now I’m contemplating my own second act. Stay tuned. I’m just beginning the best years of my life.
(Note: This is NOT a paid advertisement. I was not asked to endorse or even read this book. I chose it as a birthday gift to myself and I enjoyed it so much that I felt compelled to review it and share it with others. I’m known for passing along books that should be shared among friends. I believe this is one of those books).
June 2, 2020
First of all, thank you to the author, Simon & Schuster and NetGalley for a free ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review.
Whoever approved my request to read this in advance, thank you so much because it definitely did not disappoint. I came across this book when Patricia Heaton, the author, posted it on her social media and instantly knew I needed to add to my reading list; I thought it was an autobiography, and I wanted to know how her career has reached a high level of success.
However, to my surprise, it was all about "second act" in life (hence the title). With a bit of hesitation, I started reading the first pages, and I was immediately drawn to the story line, which consisted of many real and authentic stories about how middle aged people had started a new career path in that tricky life stage.
I devoured the stories, feeling even more inspired to take charge of my own professional life. However, I took my own time to reflect on each story, and individually, they gave me a lot of personal growth, and professional knowledge.
Before reading this book, I found "second acts" to be nearly impossible and uncommon in social circle, therefore, I had very little hope in doing one myself farther down the line. However, this book taught me to always try and see what happens, if not, the "what-ifs?" will most likely be a constant shadow in my thoughts. One of the many takeaways is that age should not be a factor whether a second chapter of someone's life is successful or not. It's about determination and a little bit of belief in yourself.
Whoever approved my request to read this in advance, thank you so much because it definitely did not disappoint. I came across this book when Patricia Heaton, the author, posted it on her social media and instantly knew I needed to add to my reading list; I thought it was an autobiography, and I wanted to know how her career has reached a high level of success.
However, to my surprise, it was all about "second act" in life (hence the title). With a bit of hesitation, I started reading the first pages, and I was immediately drawn to the story line, which consisted of many real and authentic stories about how middle aged people had started a new career path in that tricky life stage.
I devoured the stories, feeling even more inspired to take charge of my own professional life. However, I took my own time to reflect on each story, and individually, they gave me a lot of personal growth, and professional knowledge.
Before reading this book, I found "second acts" to be nearly impossible and uncommon in social circle, therefore, I had very little hope in doing one myself farther down the line. However, this book taught me to always try and see what happens, if not, the "what-ifs?" will most likely be a constant shadow in my thoughts. One of the many takeaways is that age should not be a factor whether a second chapter of someone's life is successful or not. It's about determination and a little bit of belief in yourself.
May 8, 2020
Your Second Act by Patricia Heaton os an excellent book that is part inspirational, part memoir, and part self-encouragement.
I have always loved Ms. Heaton as not only an excellent actress, but also as a strong woman and role model on and off the camera. I was obviously excited that she has written a book, and I read it in hopes of finding out even more about her.
What I obtained from reading this gem is not only insights into her life, but her own hopes, dreams, memories, struggles, successes, and how she has been able to find herself and what matters to her. She let me know that it does not matter what age that this takes place. It is never too late, nor too large a hurdle to clear. I was able to not only read about her story, but also others’ stories as well as they relate to what she was trying to express to the reader.
What I came away with was a story of hope, faith, resilience, and light. An excellent book for anyone needing help in finding themselves, no matter what age.
5/5 stars
Thank you NetGalley and Simon & Schuster for this ARC and in return I am submitting my unbiased and voluntary review and opinion.
I am posting this review to my GR and Bookbub accounts immediately and will post it to my Amazon and B&N accounts upon publication.
I have always loved Ms. Heaton as not only an excellent actress, but also as a strong woman and role model on and off the camera. I was obviously excited that she has written a book, and I read it in hopes of finding out even more about her.
What I obtained from reading this gem is not only insights into her life, but her own hopes, dreams, memories, struggles, successes, and how she has been able to find herself and what matters to her. She let me know that it does not matter what age that this takes place. It is never too late, nor too large a hurdle to clear. I was able to not only read about her story, but also others’ stories as well as they relate to what she was trying to express to the reader.
What I came away with was a story of hope, faith, resilience, and light. An excellent book for anyone needing help in finding themselves, no matter what age.
5/5 stars
Thank you NetGalley and Simon & Schuster for this ARC and in return I am submitting my unbiased and voluntary review and opinion.
I am posting this review to my GR and Bookbub accounts immediately and will post it to my Amazon and B&N accounts upon publication.
September 28, 2020
I like actress Patricia Heaton, and enjoyed the two TV shows she's starred in, Everybody Loves Raymond and The Middle, which were classic comedies while they were airing and now in reruns. So when I saw this book I immediately wanted to read it. I knew it wasn't just a memoir after reading some of the Goodreads reviews, so was prepared that she starts off the book with her own story, and then the rest of the narrative focuses on 14 others who have created "second acts" or careers. Some of these people, including the author, have faith-based foundations, but many of them acknowledge only their own strength and capabilities for their success.
The brief profiles of those included are varied, interesting, and upbeat. I appreciated that they were each just a few pages long and got to the heart of their second act. There are a few short questions for the reader after each profile, which would help someone searching for a second act or direction in their new career possibilities.
I especially liked the conversational style of this book, and it is extremely well-written, which made me wonder if there was a ghost-writer. But knowing that Patricia's first career (before acting) was journalism, reassured me that she is just that talented.
The brief profiles of those included are varied, interesting, and upbeat. I appreciated that they were each just a few pages long and got to the heart of their second act. There are a few short questions for the reader after each profile, which would help someone searching for a second act or direction in their new career possibilities.
I especially liked the conversational style of this book, and it is extremely well-written, which made me wonder if there was a ghost-writer. But knowing that Patricia's first career (before acting) was journalism, reassured me that she is just that talented.
July 23, 2020
DNF.
Didn’t really know anything about the actress, never watched her shows, except she must have been on Letterman and was talking about her many plastic surgeries ... you lay down on a bed, you take a nap, and when you wake up...you look like this!
I get a lot of audiobooks from the library, and got this. She begins the book with some of her life story and how she turned her life over to God. And then her career took off.
If you’re NOT into this (I’m NOT) and prayer talk, I suggest NOT to get this book.
The rest of the book is inspirational stories from Seniors, written and read by (I guess) the real people.
This is the easiest way to technically say that you wrote (compiled) a book.
Oh, it’s also an advert for her upcoming tv series.
Didn’t really know anything about the actress, never watched her shows, except she must have been on Letterman and was talking about her many plastic surgeries ... you lay down on a bed, you take a nap, and when you wake up...you look like this!
I get a lot of audiobooks from the library, and got this. She begins the book with some of her life story and how she turned her life over to God. And then her career took off.
If you’re NOT into this (I’m NOT) and prayer talk, I suggest NOT to get this book.
The rest of the book is inspirational stories from Seniors, written and read by (I guess) the real people.
This is the easiest way to technically say that you wrote (compiled) a book.
Oh, it’s also an advert for her upcoming tv series.
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