Fearless Loving: Eight Simple Truths That Will Change the Way You Date, Mate, and Relate

by Rhonda Britten

In Fearless Loving acclaimed author Rhonda Britten continues to reveal her teachings for achieving a life free from the nagging fears and doubts that keep us from realizing our full potential and making the most of every moment. Shattering many of the conventional myths about relationships, she illuminates the eight basic truths that will transform your life:

€ Love is up to you-you create your own romantic destiny.
€ Everyone is innocent-doubt, guilt, and suspicion destroy any relationship.
€ Love is not a feeling-it's much more.
€ Chemistry is between your ears-your brain is the key player in your love life.
€ Dating is where you practice being yourself-an essential step to finding more love, whether you are married or single.
€ "Yes" means nothing if you can't say "no"- trusting yourself is necessary for true intimacy to blossom.
€ Loss is a fact of love-and life.
€ Love is a risk you have to take-no person can survive and thrive without it.

Genres: Relationships, Self Help, Nonfiction

240 pages, Hardcover

First published March 3, 2003

Reviews

[Donna · Rating 4 out of 5]

QUOTE: “So which do you trust, fear or love? Fear tells you to hide your true self. Love tells you stand up and shine. Fear wants perfection. Love is perfect despite appearances. Fear tells you being right is the way to stay safe. Love knows safety is an illusion. Fear argues for your limitations. Love takes a stand for your greatness. Fear wants more. Love knows there is always enough. Fear thinks pain is a weakness. Love sees pain as an opening. Fear wants guarantees. Love wouldn’t ask for guarantees. Fear tells you to protect yourself. Love tells you to be vulnerable. Fear wants to know why. Love wants to know how. Fear wants to confine. Love wants to let go. Fear wants to hold on. Love wants to surrender. Fear wants to be wanted. Love knows it is. Fear judges. Love accepts. Fear tells you to sacrifice. Love tells you it’s a gift.” [p. 235-236]

[Sunshine Biskaps · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was published in Australia and New Zealand in 2003, and nearly two decades later on 2022, everything stated in it remains true to a tee. The part that resonated with me most was a quote on page 83: “To love fearlessly, we must be able to make and share our feelings.”

I didn’t think much of this book would be eye-opening, and was pleasantly surprised to find it rather helpful. I do like the part where the author mentions about feelings, it keeps the words “fear, afraid, frightened, scared and terrified” off the emotions list because these words often cover up a core negative feeling such as hopelessness, inadequacy or similar feelings.

I’ve never read such a graceful breakup message such as the one on page 95. It needs to be documented again here: “The love I felt for you still exists, yet what has kept us together for the past three months cannot sustain a lifelong commitment. This relationship has taught me that I can feel passion and keep my senses about me at the same time. And I am grateful. Good-bye, Chris.” How perfect is that?!

I would highly recommend this book and will use some of the things I learned to improve my own marriage. Thank you!

[Gabby kampman · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good easy informative read. Some great points and things to consider and work on. It’s just hard to hear someone teaching about love when she’s had more then 1 divorce . But still good reminders, to set boundaries, be open and take risks.

[Brittany · Rating 4 out of 5]

Dating book focused on being yourself and also picking 5 top things you want and only 5 things

[Kate · Rating 4 out of 5]

I like this book a lot, because I like Rhonda Britten and her teachings a lot. But I found some of her instructions slightly capricious and I think I trust myself and my instincts (especially in finding non-abusive men) more than her average reader does.

There are definitely some worthwhile truths, exercises and ideas in here, though. I would totally recommend it.

[shannon]

okay, i know the title might be a little dorky... but for anyone in the dating game (or soon to be)... i am learning a lot.

[Lori · Rating 5 out of 5]

an essential for anyone wanting to improve relationships or understand healthy dating.

[Gita · Rating 5 out of 5]

A challenging book on keeping an open heart

[Kara Larson · Rating 4 out of 5]

I wish I would have read this book years ago.

[Tonya]

So far, assume everyone is innocent ... what a concept ... that could save a lot of that inner dialogue I drive myself nuts with!

[Alona Perlin · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book made me feel hopeful.

[Angela · Rating 5 out of 5]

wish i had read it years ago