These words are for the one looking for hope, for the one questioning whether they’ll ever truly be okay. These words are for us all. Hold this book in your hands and hold onto hope. Trust that you will find peace and freedom from your past and clarity for your future. Stop doubting whether you’re worthy of living or if continuing to fight for your life is worth it. Pain comes and goes, but with every second, we grow stronger. You will get through whatever it is you are going through. There is hope. Let these words be your guide.
Coming out of the other side of trauma is the part people notice. They didn’t notice you within the trauma feeling stuck, losing the fuel to your fire, losing the best parts of you to appease those people who were absolutely blind to your worth.
They didn’t notice when you were broken and reaching out to everyone and everything to help you understand the pain that had doubled you over. That made you think that this was it. The story was over, and no one checked in or showed up for you like you did for them, you turned to a higher power and internal healing, and to be free of the pain you had to let go of what or who was holding you back.
Then, dead on arrival, the truth, the clarity washes over you and you come out strong. Like a phoenix you rise and begin to fly.
And when you rise, you help others like you heal.
For me, that is the poetry of Jacqueline Whitney. It is written from a place of severe trauma, from a place where people say something is wrong with you because you are depressed and only see darkness, and from a place where light washes over you in streams and waves until the darkness flees from you, and the place you are stuck in, becomes the place where you danced right out of the flames.
It was everything I didn’t know I needed post-trauma. And I thank her for putting her words, her heart, her story out into the world because they helped me heal even more.
We are always searching, we are always changing, we are always learning, we are always finding our way. You aren't lost when you don't know where life is leading you.
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Those feelings you are feeling — you are never alone in them.
It’s completely okay to not be able to explain what you feel or not know what to do next.
You are not your mistakes. You are the lessons you choose to learn through them. Keyword: choice. It is a choice to look for a lesson within every mistake. There is always one or a ton.
Everything is going to be fine. You will find happiness, comfort, and contentment in your life. I know you’re looking, but keep looking.
If they are continuously hurting you, it is time to walk away.
The pain of grief will go away. Your loved one is with you in spirit.
Don’t try to heal your bleeding hands before they’re ready. You will know when it’s time to begin healing. You will know when you have healed.
I don’t think you’re numbing or hiding from your past when emotionally you need a break from it. Trust your heart. Trust.
You are not alone. You can do it. You are strong and you are capable. Be brave and be bold. You’re going to figure your life out. You don’t have to figure your life out now.
Rest up.
You are not broken even when you feel you’re breaking. You’re coming together into all of whom you’ve been made to be.
If you’re making an excuse for something, recognize it now.
If you’re too hard on yourself, be more gentle.
At the end of the day you are a human being, and no human being has it all together.
The book has some beautiful quotes and pages, however in some chapters it felt a bit empty, as if the feelings that were being added didn't have much connection. Despite everything, it was an enjoyable and very quick read, some parts felt like a band aid to the heart, while others went a little unnoticed.
Jacqueline Whitney’s voice is empowering and powerful in this short work. You can feel her love and empathy radiate off the pages. There were lines that genuinely felt like they were written for me and the grief I was experiencing after a personal loss. What kept this from four stars was simply that parts of the book felt repetitive to me. As a whole though, the small snippets of self-affirmation are exactly what a person needs to endure troubling times.
I found this book when it was featured in an Instagram I follow. Read it quite quickly just when I needed it most. It’s like a warm cup of hot chocolate, or a smiling encouraging friend. I hope everyone who reads it feels the way I did afterwards: hopeful and calm.
Any book that makes you breathe deep is always worth your time. This is a lil ray of hope if you need one and even if you feel like you don't need one.
Please read this if you are ever going through a hard time. These words were exactly what I needed to hear when I needed to hear them. I will be reading this multiple times.
This is such a beautiful book. I'll probably come back a few times later to read some touching passages. I stared this book because I wanted to feel safe and warm and I got even more than that.
🥰🤗Salah satu buku yang indah dan menenangkan, rasanya waktu baca buku ini itu seperti sedang bercerita panjang lebar dengan seorang kakak perempuan yang pengertian dan hatinya penuh kelembutan. Rasanya hatiku seolah menjerit “Kak, aku lelah dengan semua hal ini. Aku lelah merasa insecure dengan banyak hal, aku lelah dengan semua tuntutan yang dibebankan padaku, aku lelah harus terus mengingatkan diriku tentang betapa indah dan berharganya aku, aku lelah karna pada akhirnya aku kalah dengan pikiran dan perasaan negatif yang menyerangku.” Lalu dengan kelembutan hati penulis seolah menatap dan tersenyum padaku, penulis mengelus punggungku dan membisikkan “Tak apa, perasaan dan pikiranmu adalah hal yang manusiawi. Wajar kalau kamu merasakan perasaan dan pikiran negatif itu, jangan terus-terusan dihindari jangan terus disangkal ya, coba refleksikan dan tanyakan kembali pada dirimu apakah semua perasaan dan pikiran itu benar? Kamu boleh merasa sedih tapi aku tak akan pernah lelah mengingatkanmu bahwa kamu berharga bahkan kamu, kehadiranmu, keberadaanmu melebihi kata berharga itu sendiri.”
🤗🥰Melalui buku ini juga rasanya seperti terus diingatkan untuk memilih jalan yang benar, jalan yang menuju cahaya terang penuh dengan cinta meskipun banyak hal yang melukai dan menyakitiku. Serius deh, rasanya se teduh dan se lega itu waktu membaca kata demi kata di dalam buku ini karena setiap katanya seolah ditulis untuk menghangatkan hati, kata-katanya tidak menyakiti tapi justru menuntun dan mengarahkan dengan penuh kelembutan, benar-benar seperti nasihat seorang kakak kepada adiknya. Rasanya seperti dipeluk, ditenangkan, disayangi, diterima tanpa syarat apapun tanpa judgment atau pandangan buruk sekalipun. Aku rekomen banget buku ini buat kalian yang love language-nya words of affirmation❤️
“The more you surrender to the journey you are clearly on, the more opportunities will come your way. The more you believe in your capabilities and natural gifts, the more opportunities will come your way. The more you are kind to your mind, the more opportunities will come your way. Opportunity comes when we surrender.
Surrender means to cease resistance. You must stop resisting the signs that are clearly leading you one way or another. You must stop resisting your visceral reac-tions. You must stop listening to the voices of others when you know where the voice within vou is undoubtedly guiding you. You may doubt, but doubt doesn't always mean no. You will know when the doubt means no; situations won't flow and fear will be clear. Every single one of us has a purpose. Every single one of us has something inherently special that can be used to give life to others and ourselves. If you don't have people who believe in the decisions you believe with everything in you are the right decisions, don't look down.
You have it in you to trust and motivate yourself. When your bones are brittle with doubt, I hope you look up and inhale deeply while saying you can do all the things you believe in. When your heart is beating with joy, I hope you allow yourself to fully experience it. When you come to a point where you finally realize why you went through what you did, I hope you cry and hug your heart tightly. You deserve this life my goodness, you deserve this life. You worked harder than anyone will ever know. You've always been soaring. Honestly, you should clap out loud. Give yourself an awkward round of applause, but embrace it. You deserve this life you're molding yourself into.”
Your bravery awakens desperate sunlight. You have the heart that reflects a single star in the universe wrapped around darkness. The bones and skin and everything in between that holds you together couldn’t be more perfectly placed. You are perfect the precise way you are, even though you’ve never believed it.
No, you’ve never been a burden. No, you aren’t annoying. No, you aren’t any “less than” because of the crap you’ve been through.
You are going to leave footprints in places no one ever believed you would make it.
You are the image of a tragic story turned breathtakingly beautiful.
I truly appreciate how real this author writes. She literally puts on the page what her mind and heart are speaking. Few people are willing to do that nowadays. I didn’t agree with everything, but I surely saved a bunch of quotes and am sharing them on my social media platform and also w/the people I coach and mentor. It was a great read and I do plan to read again!
i could see this being a great book for those struggling with depression or those in need of kind but motivating words.
i just wasn’t in the place in my life where i needed these words but maybe i’ll need to come back to them someday and this book will resonate with me more.
Such an amazing read, it made me feel okay about having days off when i feel down. It also made me realise i am allowed to excuse myself from any situation i don’t want to be in if itms affecting me. It is one of my favourite books.
Not as substantial as some other similar works. I didn't feel there were any wildcard texts or anything that truly stood out. It all felt very repetitive, with not as much imagery as I expected. It's worth a read but is not profound or memorable in any way.
Đúng là một cuốn sách perfect đọc vào những giờ phút đầu tiên của năm mới. Nó giống dạng affirmation á, nhưng rất insightful chứ không kiểu sáo rỗng đâu. Thỉnh thoảng nhắc nhở mình về giá trị bản thân cũng tốt chứ
This book felt like a personal diary to me. All of the words written here, I could've wrote for myself. That is why reading this book felt like a personal reflection to my own struggles and silent battle with depression.
fue tierno. en tiempos como estos uno necesita escuchar este tipo de cosas. me recuerda a las terapias grupales del hospital psiquiátrico donde nunca he estado.
Such a lovely book. Very considerate. I received these words just when I needed them. What a fantastic book! If you're going through a challenging time, please read this.