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Unbreakable: How To Prepare Yourself For A Strong Relationship
For the singles who are searching of love, how do you know if you are ready to commit yourself to a relationship.
For those who are in a relationship, is there a method to make the romantic relationship last?
Is love a matter of the heart and emotions, or can love be managed in a logical and practical manner?
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In Unbreakable, Aiman Azlan encourages us to change our perspective when it comes to love and relationship — that it is not something you fall into but something that you need to prepare and work for.
Not only does this book provides practical steps towards managing love, but it also guides readers on how to embrace and navigate the emotional aspect of interhuman relationship.
"You will never be ready to be in a committed relationship, but you can always be prepared."
For those who are in a relationship, is there a method to make the romantic relationship last?
Is love a matter of the heart and emotions, or can love be managed in a logical and practical manner?
**
In Unbreakable, Aiman Azlan encourages us to change our perspective when it comes to love and relationship — that it is not something you fall into but something that you need to prepare and work for.
Not only does this book provides practical steps towards managing love, but it also guides readers on how to embrace and navigate the emotional aspect of interhuman relationship.
"You will never be ready to be in a committed relationship, but you can always be prepared."
273 pages, Mass Market Paperback
First published October 1, 2019
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March 5, 2021
I am disappointed.
Maybe I expected too much from this book.
This book is good. I can’t deny that it has such a great content but unfortunately, this book is just not for me. I don’t know, maybe it’s just me🤷🏻♀️
I am passionate about relationship & love. The books that are related to that area that I’ve read before had never gave me a hard time. Never gave me this feeling of wanting to throw away the book.
But this book? It annoyed me a lot with a lot of unnecessary metaphors & analogy for the sake of emphasis. The points are too straightforward so no need for metaphors & analogy because readers can understand it directly without having to give any emphasis.
The points stated are too redundant and too repetitive. Hence the reason why.
It’s just not giving me any new insight.
Also, there’s a lot of typos and improper sentence structures. It’s such a sore eyes for me. Why can’t it be proofread carefully before publishing? This is the second time I encountered a local publisher making these mistakes. I hope there will be improvement regarding this matter.
Maybe I expected too much from this book.
This book is good. I can’t deny that it has such a great content but unfortunately, this book is just not for me. I don’t know, maybe it’s just me🤷🏻♀️
I am passionate about relationship & love. The books that are related to that area that I’ve read before had never gave me a hard time. Never gave me this feeling of wanting to throw away the book.
But this book? It annoyed me a lot with a lot of unnecessary metaphors & analogy for the sake of emphasis. The points are too straightforward so no need for metaphors & analogy because readers can understand it directly without having to give any emphasis.
The points stated are too redundant and too repetitive. Hence the reason why.
It’s just not giving me any new insight.
Also, there’s a lot of typos and improper sentence structures. It’s such a sore eyes for me. Why can’t it be proofread carefully before publishing? This is the second time I encountered a local publisher making these mistakes. I hope there will be improvement regarding this matter.
June 12, 2022
I found this book right after a break up. I was in a dark place, I was hurt and lost at that time, I took this book out of boredom e and alhamdulillah I can finally can make peace with myself and see my fault and risk that I took during my relationship. The book discuss about marriage and relationship in islam. His word are gentle and understanding, not judging the reader for the things that we did but provide an alternative to dating that is through taaruf. Really good book that I would recommend to anyone that I know that is still single cause you don't have to be in a relationship to learn knowledge about marriage 👍
March 14, 2022
Such a very great book about preparing yourself for a strong relationship. Suggested for those who want to find their life partner. This book will guide from the first step on how to approach for your potential spouse until how you want to sustain the relationship. The author delivered his points very well. Very understandable and suitable for any range of ages. Really recommended.
January 29, 2020
I LOVE THIS BOOK! I would say this is one of his best book so far. I'm hooked, studied the book even. It's very refreshing and eye-opening. I highly recommend this book as it's for everyone ,although you're single, like me. This book focuses more on self-improvement actually, like how can we be the best version of ourselves for our future unborn children. Hence, it's never too early to learn about relationships and marriage. So, grab one today !
February 12, 2020
"Just because you have not found the person yet, does not mean that person does not exist. There are 7.7 billion people on the planet. It is impossible for you to not find someone who will fit your minimum criteria and want to marry you. The person is out there, but you need to put in the effort and from that effort, one of two things can happen. Either you find the person or you do not."
December 8, 2019
I love that this book focuses on principles and setting KPIs for ourselves first.
October 9, 2020
Unbreakable ; How to PREPARE yourself for a strong relationship.
As mentioned in the title, this book is for preparation. Note the word "PREPARATION". Hence, its not just for those who are getting marrried in a near future, but to everyone even you're still single.
I found all the tips given by Aiman is very simple, easy to understand and most importantly practical. And as what we always heard, to prepare for a marriage, is to be a better version of ourselves.
I like the message where Aiman asked us to start with our WHY, when we talk abt marriage. The idea of classifying our self improvement to-do list into that 4 main aspects, is something really an eye opening. What is that 4 aspects? You should get this book to know more.
After all, the preparation for a strong relationship is no other than focusing in our self development, before thinking about somebody else. We cant hope that marriage will change us. But by try gaining as much knowledge before we get married, knowing ourself and our worth, practice how to communicate efficiently with people around us, learn to manage our emotion and keep our body healthy are among things that we can achieve not just for a marriage but for a better life.
As most of motivator told us when we wanna say abt marriage, it always start with loving yourself first, then you can spread the love to others.
Thanks Bro Aiman for the very practical book 🤗
As mentioned in the title, this book is for preparation. Note the word "PREPARATION". Hence, its not just for those who are getting marrried in a near future, but to everyone even you're still single.
I found all the tips given by Aiman is very simple, easy to understand and most importantly practical. And as what we always heard, to prepare for a marriage, is to be a better version of ourselves.
I like the message where Aiman asked us to start with our WHY, when we talk abt marriage. The idea of classifying our self improvement to-do list into that 4 main aspects, is something really an eye opening. What is that 4 aspects? You should get this book to know more.
After all, the preparation for a strong relationship is no other than focusing in our self development, before thinking about somebody else. We cant hope that marriage will change us. But by try gaining as much knowledge before we get married, knowing ourself and our worth, practice how to communicate efficiently with people around us, learn to manage our emotion and keep our body healthy are among things that we can achieve not just for a marriage but for a better life.
As most of motivator told us when we wanna say abt marriage, it always start with loving yourself first, then you can spread the love to others.
Thanks Bro Aiman for the very practical book 🤗
July 4, 2020
Buku ini sesuai untuk dibaca oleh sesiapa sahaja walaupun dirinya masih belum mempunyai calon suami/isteri.
Kerana buku ini banyak mengajar kita sebagai pembaca untuk lebih mempersiapkan diri menjadi seorang yang lebih baik sebelum menjadi ibu/ayah kepada seseorang (anak kita). Namapk seperti berfikiran jauh bukan? Tapi itulah yang harus kita fikirkan.
Sebelum kita meletak KPI atau ciri-ciri calon pilihan hati. Letakkan KPI terhadap diri kita sendiri terlebih dahulu. Ibu/ayah yang macam mana kita ingin jadi untuk anak-anak kita?
Jadi, penulis berkongsi langkah-langkah yang boleh dipraktiskan dari awal hinggalah apabila sudah melangkah ke alam perkahwinan. Jangan risau. Bagi yang belum mempunyai calon, jangan rasa terlalu awal untuk membaca buku ini kerana apabila kita membaca buku ini, kita akan sedar bahawa masih ada banyak perkara yang perlu dititik beratkan sebelum bergelar menjadi isteri/suami kepada seseorang.
Kerana buku ini banyak mengajar kita sebagai pembaca untuk lebih mempersiapkan diri menjadi seorang yang lebih baik sebelum menjadi ibu/ayah kepada seseorang (anak kita). Namapk seperti berfikiran jauh bukan? Tapi itulah yang harus kita fikirkan.
Sebelum kita meletak KPI atau ciri-ciri calon pilihan hati. Letakkan KPI terhadap diri kita sendiri terlebih dahulu. Ibu/ayah yang macam mana kita ingin jadi untuk anak-anak kita?
Jadi, penulis berkongsi langkah-langkah yang boleh dipraktiskan dari awal hinggalah apabila sudah melangkah ke alam perkahwinan. Jangan risau. Bagi yang belum mempunyai calon, jangan rasa terlalu awal untuk membaca buku ini kerana apabila kita membaca buku ini, kita akan sedar bahawa masih ada banyak perkara yang perlu dititik beratkan sebelum bergelar menjadi isteri/suami kepada seseorang.
June 12, 2020
"We have to raise our children, and before we can do that, we have to first raise ourselves."
Such an awesome book!
Beautifully written starts from the very beginning till the end. It suggests some of the crucial preparations for those who want to get married. I love the explanations he wrote, the analogies he made and also the sources he attached.
In this book, he managed to give me an idea and also a little bit solutions that i'm yearning for.
I think he successfully delivered his messages in a very good way as he is a youth as well haha.
Highly recommended. 👍
Such an awesome book!
Beautifully written starts from the very beginning till the end. It suggests some of the crucial preparations for those who want to get married. I love the explanations he wrote, the analogies he made and also the sources he attached.
In this book, he managed to give me an idea and also a little bit solutions that i'm yearning for.
I think he successfully delivered his messages in a very good way as he is a youth as well haha.
Highly recommended. 👍
October 20, 2020
I really love how the author approach the idea of building a strong relationship in a realistic and systematic way.
A great book to reshape your perspective before getting into a relationship.
A great book to reshape your perspective before getting into a relationship.
June 2, 2021
Great content, clear explanations and nicely written.
January 20, 2022
Most recommended for the singles (as stated)
Thanks for writing this book, I’ve never expected ada buku yangsangat membantu seperti ini tertutamanya bagi mereka yang masih sendiri, masih mencari dan masih keliru tentang erti sebenar marriage. Adakah perkahwinan itu adalah next step dalam kehidupan atau apa sebenarnya big whys sebuah perkahwinan di sisi Islam.
Sebab selaluya buku tentang perkahwinan atau rumah tngga ni untuk orang-oran yng dah ada potential partner jee (at least). Tapi buku ni sangat relatable dan praktikal untuk orang seperti saya yang tak tahu exactly why, how and where to begin.
I like the analogy mentioned.
Marriage is like an examination.
We’ll never be ready for it, but all we can do is to be prepared.
Maka dengan itu kena prepare diri kita macam nak jawab exam juga. Banyak benda perlu dipelajari. Instead of doing nothing.
Thanks for writing this book, I’ve never expected ada buku yangsangat membantu seperti ini tertutamanya bagi mereka yang masih sendiri, masih mencari dan masih keliru tentang erti sebenar marriage. Adakah perkahwinan itu adalah next step dalam kehidupan atau apa sebenarnya big whys sebuah perkahwinan di sisi Islam.
Sebab selaluya buku tentang perkahwinan atau rumah tngga ni untuk orang-oran yng dah ada potential partner jee (at least). Tapi buku ni sangat relatable dan praktikal untuk orang seperti saya yang tak tahu exactly why, how and where to begin.
I like the analogy mentioned.
Marriage is like an examination.
We’ll never be ready for it, but all we can do is to be prepared.
Maka dengan itu kena prepare diri kita macam nak jawab exam juga. Banyak benda perlu dipelajari. Instead of doing nothing.
March 26, 2023
Bought this book last year thinking i might need it someday. Who would have thought that someday is today. Ive come to a point where i have to take my personal matters seriously. Honestly ive been hiding behind my career to distract myself from thinking about relationships because i was just not ready to start again. And the author mentioned something in the book that never occured to me and that is "you will never be ready but you can be prepared by developing yourself". Ive always known i can never be ready 100% but what should i do? Do i just wait until i feel like im ready? Or Do i just go with the flow? That statement just answered my question. Anyhow, this book kinda helped me to stay open minded because im in a complicated situation. Maybe i should give this book to that guy so that he can make up his mind faster XD..
April 6, 2021
I picked this book back up & finished it today. I'm glad I did because it pulled me out of my foolish crushes and back to reality.
I stopped because I needed to rethink about my values, principles, KPIs as mentioned by Aiman inside the book. It really made me think a lot about the magnitude of marriage especially in terms of responsibility. It's common sense but sometimes we tend to forget that marriage isn't only for one day and it requires effort every single day of your life.
The book is practical and really helpful. It serves as a step by step guide and I really appreciate the casual, fresh & non-judgmental tone of Aiman's. It is laden with wisdom and I find myself highlighting almost every single bit -- yes, it's that important.
I'll end my review with two important questions for my own personal reference:
"Would I marry me?" & "Would he be a good father to our children?"
I stopped because I needed to rethink about my values, principles, KPIs as mentioned by Aiman inside the book. It really made me think a lot about the magnitude of marriage especially in terms of responsibility. It's common sense but sometimes we tend to forget that marriage isn't only for one day and it requires effort every single day of your life.
The book is practical and really helpful. It serves as a step by step guide and I really appreciate the casual, fresh & non-judgmental tone of Aiman's. It is laden with wisdom and I find myself highlighting almost every single bit -- yes, it's that important.
I'll end my review with two important questions for my own personal reference:
"Would I marry me?" & "Would he be a good father to our children?"
May 20, 2021
I love it because the steps are practical and the way Aiman azlan conveys the ideas and suggestions is very nice and easy to understand. it was written in a very positive way. The first part of the book successfully convince me to change my mindset about building good habit and my point of view about looking for future spouse. Even if you are not about to prepare for marriage, the steps may help you to improvise you daily habit for yourself. But as for the second part of the book, i kinda not really fancy the way the writer delivers the message. so i didnt finish the second part because it was disturbing for me. I believe, it is just me.
*idont remember the date i read the book, but what i know, 2020 was the year
*idont remember the date i read the book, but what i know, 2020 was the year
December 4, 2021
Excellent! I especially love the 'non negotiable minimum criterion' in choosing partner. Considering that people mainly relies on the basis of love when getting into relationships and marriages, this idea greatly help me in thinking clearly and rationally before choosing my life partner. Rather than love and only love. Lol. I start to consider more on attitudes, agama, and educational level. I even made an additional list called auto reject list; (vape, watching porn, misogynistic). It seriously works for me, I've listed all my minimum criterion and even paste it on the wall hahahaha XD and Alhamdulillah I never just fall for anyone since I read this amazing book.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
December 8, 2020
As a young adult, I haven't thought about marriage and relationships in depth. Now that I am at the age to start and consider all of this matter, it really helps to have a guideline even as basic as it gets cause that is the start. I believe in my case, this book is the starting point and I appreciate the advice given especially when it comes from someone with experience and what I like the most of the book is that it often relates back to the way of Islam. I would really recommend this to someone who are in the same boat as my scenario.
January 19, 2021
This is indeed a very good book on relationship and marriage. As a beginner in books and readings, I think Unbreakable is sufficient to help me understand and grasp the real meaning of marriage. The words used by Aiman Azlan are also understandable and simple to comprehend, even kids can understand his writing, I assume. So many new info(s) and knowledge I gained from my own reading though it took me for months.
P/S: I'm not a wordsmith, hence my review sounds simple but I guarantee you, the book really belongs to a 5 star category. Hope this helps!
P/S: I'm not a wordsmith, hence my review sounds simple but I guarantee you, the book really belongs to a 5 star category. Hope this helps!
July 16, 2021
i have been wanting to find a book that give me an idea on why we must get married, or what is the purpose, true purpose i should find a partner in life?
and because of that, i purchased this book. it tells you on the how, why, what, when, and encourage you to make your own goals and principles about marriage.
i really like the input where he mentioned a lot about we as readers should prepare ourselves. it actually makes a lot of sense in trying to be ready for marriage.
overall, i like this book. it helps me a lot .
and because of that, i purchased this book. it tells you on the how, why, what, when, and encourage you to make your own goals and principles about marriage.
i really like the input where he mentioned a lot about we as readers should prepare ourselves. it actually makes a lot of sense in trying to be ready for marriage.
overall, i like this book. it helps me a lot .
September 18, 2025
6 sittings was all it takes. As someone who follows the author since my high school days, been listening to his podcasts, watched his YouTube videos, attended paid and free classes, this book was a lovely reminder. A light and easy read. I'm very familiar with his ideas and principles and they mostly matches mine —hence why I follow him on his social medias in the first place. I've put off from reading this particular book for years because I wanted to read it at the 'right time' and reading it in September 2025 can never be better. Bismillah, to a better Aliah every new day.
March 27, 2020
Buku yang bagus untuk persediaan, setelah membaca buku ini, sedikit sebanyak memberikan satu pandangan iaitu untuk kawin atau untuk melangkah ke alam perkahwnan bukan sesuatu yang mudah, Kita memerlukan ilmu, kerana dari sebuah keluarga yang kecil ini yang akan membentuk satu negara atau masyarakat yang berilmu atau bertamadun, sangat mengesyorkan buku ini kepada sesiapa yang sering tertekan dengan persoalan bila nak kawin. Setelah anda baca, anda akan dapat satu aura, cubalah!
August 29, 2021
I'm a fan of Aiman Azlan. I love the way he delivered his idea on relationship in this book. As usual,his advices are, approachable and urging the reader to think for themselves based on their situation,not merely fully depending on some strangers that have no idea on our current condition. Despite the idea of the writer,i totally agree that this book have some room for improvement especially in his writing and also for the editorial part. Thank you
December 11, 2021
Finished it in about 6.5h (cumulatively), likely due to a few reasons:
1. Written in simple language, so it is easy to understand. However, a lot of parts felt too conversational (personal opinion) and ought to be refined/edited more thoroughly.
2. Topic is close to heart
3. Some parts are reinforcements of concepts and practices that you are already applying so it is not too hard to digest
Overall a good read. Insightful.
1. Written in simple language, so it is easy to understand. However, a lot of parts felt too conversational (personal opinion) and ought to be refined/edited more thoroughly.
2. Topic is close to heart
3. Some parts are reinforcements of concepts and practices that you are already applying so it is not too hard to digest
Overall a good read. Insightful.
October 10, 2022
Strongly suggested this book to those who's preparing their self for a relationship. This book give me another perspective in finding the man of my life, the father to my kids. The step by step approach is easily understood and hooked in the mind. The QnA in the second part of this book is quite memorable for me. The questions are mostly common and being asked frequently on social media and happening in the reality.
January 7, 2022
A good book to kickstart my relationship. Found this on my 3rd year of marriage. Still relevant though, and still can apply some tips from the book to maintain the fire from fading out.
Recommended to every single girls or guys out there, including for those who want to get married anytime sooner. Easy to digest.
Recommended to every single girls or guys out there, including for those who want to get married anytime sooner. Easy to digest.
November 12, 2023
Great idea on only marrying someone who matches your principles and values. Also love the use of 100 Premarital Questions before getting emotional with the person you're interested in. Helps filter out who is actually suited for you. Other than that, just a great book for figuring out if someone is marriage material.
August 22, 2020
This amazing book gave me an idea that being a single is not the end of the world. Single means we have more time to get prepared for the right one to come. Easy to understand, very straightforward and relatable to our life I can say about this book. Kidos to Aiman Azlan!
November 21, 2021
It is a good book and I have read it twice and it is still not enough. I am reread it again. The idea is straight forward and easily to understand. It is much recommended to all singles out there struggling seeking for a good strong unbreakable relationship. Kudos!
November 6, 2022
A must-read book for men and women!
January 8, 2023
Clear explanations on how to get prepared for marriage. No sugar coated statements; more about tips & tricks to approach marriage with the right mindset & actions.
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