The Birth Order Connection : Finding and Keeping the Love of Your Life

by Kevin Leman, Dr. Leman, Kevin

Most people expect to get married, have their marriage last a lifetime, and enjoy a marital relationship that fulfills their deepest emotional needs. Yet few people experience this type of relationship. Statistics show that approximately 20 million divorced people live in our country, and the median duration of any given marriage is just 7.2 years. Few people consider the role that their birth order has played in developing their own personality, how it has affected their prospective spouse's personality, or how the two personalities might make it living under one roof. As a result, after the initial intoxicating infatuation ends, most married couples are left to work their way through the agonizing hangover of conflicting birth orders. In The Birth Order Connection, Dr. Kevin Leman helps readers avoid such conflicts before they arise. He shows how to find and recognize the best and wisest choice for a life partner, provides tools to succeed in marriage, and teaches how an understanding of birth order can do wonders not only for future marriages but for those that have already begun.

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Psychology

224 pages, Paperback

First published July 1, 2001

About the author

Dr. Kevin Leman, an internationally known psychologist, radio and television personality, and speaker, has taught and entertained audiences worldwide with his wit and commonsense psychology. The best-selling and award-winning author has made house calls for hundreds of radio and television programs, including The View with Barbara Walters, The Today Show, Oprah, CBS's The Early Show, Live with Regis Philbin, CNN's American Morning, and LIFE Today with James Robison, and he has served as a contributing family psychologist to Good Morning America. He is the founder and president of Couples of Promise, an organization designed and committed to helping couples remain happily married. Dr. Leman is also a charter faculty member of iQuestions.com. He has written over 30 best-selling books about marriage and family issues, including The Birth Order Book and Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage. Dr. Leman and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson. They have five children.

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Reviews

[G Haley · Rating 2 out of 5]

This was really interesting at first but halfway through became so heavily saturated with his personal views on religion and sex that it lost me. My favorite passage was written directly to woman, and told us we have 0 idea how often our partner is thinking of sex…. It fact, it’s the reason they are marrying us! And if we ever want to fulfill the duty of wife we should expect to sleep with him no less than 2-3 times a week. Apparently we don’t think about sex ourselves….. Once again I really enjoyed some parts, but these Christian psychologists are just driving me up the wall!!!!!

[C.M. Okonkwo · Rating 4 out of 5]

As the name implies, the book is a one-stop shop for people looking for their soulmates, who they are compatible with, in order to have a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship... The author explains (in my own words) that compatibility isn't just about trial and error, there are clear ways of knowing if someone is compatible with another person simply by analysing their birth orders (predestined personality).

There's an explanation for people's personalities depending on if they are first borns (male or female), the middle child or children (male or female), the baby or babies of the house (male or female), the only child (male or female), born into large families or small families; also on the role of the parents (absent, negligent, parenting several kids in different generations or times, older siblings playing the parent role), etc. Most, if not all, of what was said in this book seemed so real to me judging by some families that I know, mine included.

Read more on my blog: http://cmokonkwosblog.blogspot.com/20...

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[Di · Rating 2 out of 5]

This would have been a perfectly OK book (a little oversimplified, but I'll get to that later) if the author had managed to restrain himself from a religious/moral agenda. He spends a lot of time discussing why abstaining before marriage is for the best, and mentions God in more than one anecdote from couples' therapy.

Add that to the fact that birth order is used primarily as a rough estimate of familial experience, which oversimplifies a couple's dynamics to the horoscopic level. Blegh.

[Rick · Rating 4 out of 5]

This books helps explain relationship between siblings of the same family. It was very surprising to me how accurate the information in the book really is (compared with my family and others that I know).

[Connie · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is very interesting. Leman tells about how our personalities are developed through birth order and also how finding and keeping a partner can be benefited by choosing a companion with a birth order that compliments your own.

[Paula · Rating 5 out of 5]

This had my husband and I described almost right on. It also said, based on our birth order, that we were a good match. 5 years and going, I guess we will see...

[Colby · Rating 3 out of 5]

Full of interesting insights into how birth order affects personality and relationships.

[Tay · Rating 5 out of 5]

One of my favorites! Leman's writing is so entertaining and the book is truly insightful! Helps better understand yourself and others around you from romantic to friends and coworkers!

[JR Snow · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good advice. Second reading.

[Kerstin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very interesting book