Galateo was a bit of an afterthought. Written by Giovanni Della Casa near the end of a life of democracy and scholarly pursuit, it was designed as advice for his nephew and published posthumously. It became a bestseller around the world and spread ideas of politeness.
What makes the book great is that it’s not a particularly polite book. M.F Rusnak translates it into a very jocular text, not afraid to use sharp or impolite language to call out the impoliteness of others. At one point he describes people yearning to speak and missing the point like ‘a dog in eagerness missing a hare’. It’s a grouch’s book, and a very entertaining one at that.
Once of the things I found most interesting was to apply the lessons of Galateo into modern culture. ‘No man should boast of his intelligence’ says Della Casa - someone should tell the denizens of Twitter. The section in chapter 11 about how tedious it is hearing stories of the hilarious things their children say should apply to Facebook. The admonishment that ‘drinking is not an accomplishment’ could be given to anyone describing their ‘crazy’ night out.
The chapters on jokes may also be useful to those navigating the modern web. The reminder that if people aren’t laughing, maybe it is because the teller isn’t funny would apply to a great many Youtube channels. The reminder that wit should have ‘the bite of a sheep rather than a dg’ may also help some of those people who think being nasty and funny are the same thing.
Politeness has a bad name now, it’s seen as a thin veneer on people’s true thoughts but I think it really does have a place. That empty politeness is recognised by Della Casa as like ‘a rotten fruit’ but the true politeness of thinking of others and fitting out mode to a situation seem like perfectly useful concepts.
On less solid ground are the moments when he recommends doing what everyone else is because they are doing it. ‘Do what is done, not what should be done for it is better to blunder with others then be good by yourself.’ That could be the route to some unpleasant results I think.
That besides, we are living in such an argumentative world now, with people going out of their way to offend and others to be offended. A little more social polish can’t be a bad thing in such times.
And remember, ‘laugh out of need, not habit’.