Mary Anne seems to be on the verge of becoming a teen mom. She's obsessed with babies, and she is trying to convince her father and stepmother that the best thing in the world would be for them to have a baby. Then she takes a class with Logan where they have to look after eggs as if they were babies. She is shocked to learn that taking care of a baby for longer than an hour or two is like, really HARD! And like, exhausting. Who knew?
Things I remember from reading this as a kid:
This book came with a free bookmark that had all kinds of fun facts about Mary Anne. This was such a novelty to me, that I was sure that Mary Anne was my favorite baby sitter for a little while. This delusion did not last long.
My mother found this book interesting because she was in the process of creating a program to prevent teen pregnancy in the school she was teaching in. I remember she especially liked the chapter where Mary Anne has to call Dawn to help her soothe the twin babies she is watching.
Things I've considered since reading this as an adult:
I wonder if my bad eating habits when I was a teen was an indirect result of reading this series as a kid. For her afterschool snack Dawn has raw veggies and tofu. Mary Anne has what she calls "a nice, normal after-school snack," which is chocolate chip cookies, and an apple. Yes, it's unusual for a thirteen year old to eat a salad for a snack, but there's nothing wrong with it. If I could do it all again, I would totally get in the habit of eating a small salad, or raw veggies in the mid afternoon as a thirteen year old.
Mary Anne and Dawn are desperate for their parents to have a baby, partly because they can't see what an upheaval in their lives a baby would be. They are sure they are completely qualified to help with the baby because they are well trained baby sitters. They point to Kristy's family as a model of taking on the responsibility of a young child, quickly skipping over the fact that the Brewer-Thomas clan thought very hard about hiring a nanny to look after Emily Michelle while they were at work. Eventually Kristy's grandmother decided to move in to help with Emily while everyone is at school or work, but if she hadn't Kristy's family surely would have shelled out a lot of money to employ a nanny or au pair. With school, baby sitting and their other extra curricular things Mary Anne and Dawn are barely home. And both their parents work full time. So even though the teens are qualified baby sitters (if such a term exists for teens) that has nothing to do with being AVAILABLE to look after a baby. Mallory, with her seven brothers and sisters, points out that if her mother had been in school while pregnant with Claire, the youngest Pike, she would have dropped out. There's no question in Mallory's mind that her mother's taking care of seven children, in addition to being pregnant, would have meant that there was no way she could have gotten a decent education as well. Mary Anne considers this for a minute, then dismisses the problem by deciding that with her and Dawn helping out, Sharon "would only have to do one third of the usual mothering." I liked that Sharon and Richard didn't even entertain the possibility of having a baby. They simply don't want one, and if I had two teenage daughters, and one son who has already showed some behavioral issues then I wouldn't want any more children either.
Mary Anne is such an idiot in this book. I'm guessing she acts the way she does to highlight how easy it is for teens to look at adults and see nothing but being able to do whatever you want, and buy whatever you want, and live however you want, especially in a community as wealthy and sheltered as Stoneybrook. But her naivety is hard to read as an adult. When her teacher asks a class full of eighth graders, most of whom have lived all their lives in the bubble of Stoneybrook, if they are capable of living on their own, and taking care of a child, Mary Anne throws her hand in the air. She thinks she ready to raise a child because she's such a great baby sitter, and she wants to buy a two bedroom apartment so that she can have a guest room and hang curtains and paint her cabinets. Her whole class thinks of marriage as being nothing more than a fancy wedding, although Mary Anne has a glimmer of the level of commitment and compromise that goes into a marriage. It's a complete shock to Mary Anne to realize that even with her steady baby sitting jobs, she could never, ever afford to pay for an apartment on her own. Later, she's somewhat surprised that Mrs Salem, her client with twin babies who Mary Anne baby sits, is so tired. She's worn out from taking care of not a single baby, but twins, Mary Anne. I get exhausted just thinking about taking care of one baby, never mind two. I can barely make it through a day of work, let alone raise a helpless human. But Mary Anne is sure that since she's been a mother's helper for the Pikes, she knows all about taking care of multiple children. Later in the book, the rest of Mary Anne's Modern Living class is overwhelmed by the little job of taking care of a false baby. That part is a little over the top, but realistic enough. People just don't know how hard it is to take care of something you have to think about all the time. In the last chapter, the baby sitters decide that while they love children there is simply no way they could support any baby they would have as teenagers. Again, as an adult this is a little heavy-handed, but I didn't notice it as a kid, and my mother was clearly thrilled with the message, so it's a good one.
Most of the other baby sitters are just as nutty about their egg babies as Mary Anne is about babies in general. They are super excited about the project, and go totally overboard with caring for their eggs. The one exception is Stacey who is the only one who seems to realize that caring for a baby is not fun and games, but a lot of work that often involves very careful planning, and a lot of worrying. When the child she is baby sitting for freaks out about Stacey's egg child, Stacey has to scramble (HA!) around to contact her "husband" to come pick up the egg so she can carry on with her job. She realizes that her single mother, who is raising a teenager with diabetes must worry constantly. As an adult I wish this had been gone into in more detail. Most parents don't have extra income to throw around on baby sitters to watch their kids while they run errands. Many parents don't have jobs they can take endless leave from when they are facing an unexpected emergency. At some point in the book Stacey realizes that if she actually had a husband, and a baby she loved, life managing them wouldn't seem like quite so much work. In this series where so many kids in Stoneybrook have divorced parents this is an especially apt point. Life is so hard to live with partners you just don't love.
As an adult I can appreciate the problems Mary Anne faced while looking after the twins much more. She is forced to call Dawn for help because she can't soothe two screaming babies at the same time. But what does Mrs Salem do when she comes home? The book says that both Dawn and Mary Anne were still walking the babies around the house when she got there, and presumably they didn't stick around much longer, so Mrs Salem was still stuck with two screaming, teething babies. I hope her husband came home soon after and helped her walk the babies around the house. This sort of thing is the reason I am very happy in my childless life. If I had to manage a screaming baby I would resort to my great grandmother's favorite trick to soothing a baby -- rub his gums with opium.