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The Kid Code: 30 Second Parenting Strategies
This book, The Kid Code, is a practical, insightful manual for parents, grandparents, coaches, educators, and, for all human beings who know a child. It’s also for all human beings who would like to feel joy and at ease in any situation.
This life-giving book and its simple 30 Second Parenting Strategies take the anger and confusion out of parenting and bring you back to sanity and love as a natural response – no pretending, and no (or less) hollering, complaining, demanding and mumbling nasty stuff under your breath. When these strategies are used long-term, long-term patience and wisdom show up, and short-term craziness vanishes; or at least makes fewer, less stressful appearances! When you use these strategies, you’ll find that they give you and your kids relief – in the moments of upset, or in the moments right after, and that’s a lifesaver for parents and kids.Throughout this compassionate, insightful, and practical book, Brenda Miller provides a framework to understand the true cause of stress, and once we know that, we can set ourselves free from it. When that happens, a natural and peaceful way to exist and parent becomes possible.
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The strategies in The Kid Code took the anger out of parenting for me. They’re super simple, and quick. I’m not saying this lightly - my whole parenting life changed. I now have this back-up support (The Kid Code) which gives me time in the moment to think – “Can I do this another way?” I find I catch myself just as I’m ready to bring out the ‘undertaker voice’, count to 3, order them to get to their room, or just yell at them because that seemed to work – but I had to ask myself, “Am I ruining my kids?” I knew I needed another way to parent and I found it in what I call the ‘modern’ techniques Brenda shared with me.
---- Chris Veltheim, Founder, Course Rebel
Brenda Miller’s KID CODE is an incredible course assisting parents and children alike to experience challenges in an awakened, conscious state. The Kid Code challenges adults not only to increase effective parenting skills, but also the art of self-discovery and the ever-important aspect of “mirroring”. Brenda’s compassion and non-judgemental personality and coaching style makes KID CODE a nurturing, rewarding, and impactful course. Thank you, Brenda and Course Rebel for an amazing journey into waking up!
---- Julie Veresh, CBP- Innate Dynamics
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Brenda is a Peace Coach – she says peace is what she wanted most, and what she unexpectedly found. Now she teachers her clients, students, children and grandchildren the simple methods that take her there. She says that their work, when we do it for ourselves on a daily basis, is our own experiential proof that this work dissipates any troubling thought that become troubling actions that leads to troubling consequences.
She was drawn to, and, has immersed herself in the practical application of the work of the Self-Realized Master’s because they don’t experience stress like we do. Hard to believe one could live a life without stress, but they do it and she’s witnessed it firsthand many times. Their obvious love and concern for every human being on the planet…well, that left her needing to know how a person could live that way - for real.
288 pages, Kindle Edition
Published November 12, 2019
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Brenda Miller
71 books36 followersBrenda Miller is the author of Season of the Body and co-author of Tell it Slant: Writing and Shaping Creative Nonfiction Her newest collection of essays, Blessing of the Animals, is forthcoming from Eastern Washington University Press. Her work has received five Pushcart Prizes and has been published in many journals, including Fourth Genre, Creative Nonfiction, The Sun, Utne Reader, The Georgia Review, and The Missouri Review.
She currently lives in Bellingham, WA, with her dog Abbe and her cat Madrona, both of whom are acting as muses for her next book, where she is an Associate Professor of English at Western Washington University and serves as Editor-in-Chief of the Bellingham Review.
She currently lives in Bellingham, WA, with her dog Abbe and her cat Madrona, both of whom are acting as muses for her next book, where she is an Associate Professor of English at Western Washington University and serves as Editor-in-Chief of the Bellingham Review.
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January 28, 2022
“The Kid Code” by bestselling author Brenda Miller is the latest and greatest parenting book! Not only does it assist parents to better understand and handle their child(ren), but it also doubles as a self-help guide for comprehending and managing yourself as the parent when you feel like throwing a bigger tantrum than your child. When you notice yourself starting to lose control, a small part of you already knows that nothing good will come of your fit. However, a larger part wants nothing to do with common sense and feels stressed to the max. Brenda Miller explains right away the driving force behind the book: minimizing and then disposing stress in our lives. She also mentions that if you take the time to study your child, you will notice that children inherently have no stress because they have not been conditioned to believe in or react to this still unknown emotion. And let’s face it, wouldn’t we all be happier and more carefree if it were possible to be more like our kids?
Miller presents information dan data from some of the “masters” who have either lived without stress or found a way to manage it—influential spiritual leaders, with Gandhi, Buddha, Guy Finley, and Jesus being some of the ones included. Throughout the book, you will find a combination of chapters detailing facts regarding stress, and “30 Second Parenting Strategies” to try with your child(ren) to determine what works best for you and your family. Much of the book centers around themes of grace, self-acceptance, and blessings from a spiritual perspective to help all readers discover ways of bringing peace back into their household when it was not thought to be possible.
“The Kid Code” can be helpful to many readers because it causes us to humble ourselves and strip away any ego and pride that still lingers, thanks to our society that has brainwashed us to think we have to be better, richer, or faster than others. The main point of the book is clear and available straight away so there’s no wondering or guessing, and Miller includes findings that support her chapters and ideas. I found one statement particularly interesting: “Negativity is biologically addictive and habitual.” After reading this line I thought of several people, and their negativity began to make sense. When Miller spoke about beliefs versus truths, it was eye-opening to realize I’d never thought of that on my own.
The overall work put into creating this book is commendable, and I hope that many homes will change for the better because of “The Kid Code.” As a Christian, it was disheartening to me to read of Jesus as simply being “one of the masters” instead of “THE master,” but I understand that the author is either writing from her personal belief to be inclusive or for the sake of her audience. The idea of spiritual parenting is heavy throughout the book, with talk of “Divine Intelligence,” “our True Inner Self,” and “blessing our mistakes” being prominent themes. From a parenting perspective, there is some good material here that you’ll find both informative and experiential to suit yourself and/or your family.
Miller writes to the general audience with simple language and, when needed, offers step-by-step instructions of how to successfully utilize the “30 Second Parenting Strategies.” I do like that she began with information, expanded into strategies, and then continued by supporting her ideas and processes with the information that preceded them. The research was well done and the presentation was organized and easy to understand.
Miller presents information dan data from some of the “masters” who have either lived without stress or found a way to manage it—influential spiritual leaders, with Gandhi, Buddha, Guy Finley, and Jesus being some of the ones included. Throughout the book, you will find a combination of chapters detailing facts regarding stress, and “30 Second Parenting Strategies” to try with your child(ren) to determine what works best for you and your family. Much of the book centers around themes of grace, self-acceptance, and blessings from a spiritual perspective to help all readers discover ways of bringing peace back into their household when it was not thought to be possible.
“The Kid Code” can be helpful to many readers because it causes us to humble ourselves and strip away any ego and pride that still lingers, thanks to our society that has brainwashed us to think we have to be better, richer, or faster than others. The main point of the book is clear and available straight away so there’s no wondering or guessing, and Miller includes findings that support her chapters and ideas. I found one statement particularly interesting: “Negativity is biologically addictive and habitual.” After reading this line I thought of several people, and their negativity began to make sense. When Miller spoke about beliefs versus truths, it was eye-opening to realize I’d never thought of that on my own.
The overall work put into creating this book is commendable, and I hope that many homes will change for the better because of “The Kid Code.” As a Christian, it was disheartening to me to read of Jesus as simply being “one of the masters” instead of “THE master,” but I understand that the author is either writing from her personal belief to be inclusive or for the sake of her audience. The idea of spiritual parenting is heavy throughout the book, with talk of “Divine Intelligence,” “our True Inner Self,” and “blessing our mistakes” being prominent themes. From a parenting perspective, there is some good material here that you’ll find both informative and experiential to suit yourself and/or your family.
Miller writes to the general audience with simple language and, when needed, offers step-by-step instructions of how to successfully utilize the “30 Second Parenting Strategies.” I do like that she began with information, expanded into strategies, and then continued by supporting her ideas and processes with the information that preceded them. The research was well done and the presentation was organized and easy to understand.
May 10, 2022
If you learn nothing else as a parent, you quickly learn some powerful lessons about time. Time is of the essence when you have children. So time-saving tips are always welcome, from getting enough sleep to knowing just what to say and when to say it. Brenda Miller has given parents a handbook that will save them precious hours of research and conferring with friends and family. From handling the everyday chaos of parenting to dealing with tantrums and how to effectively say “no,” Miller covers each and every dilemma, a parent could possibly encounter.
The Kid Code: 30 Second Parenting Strategies, by Brenda Miller, contains some of the best advice I have come across in 20-plus years of parenting. So many parenting books tend to be filled with a narrative that doesn’t necessarily apply to the advice readers actually crave. Miller’s book is everything we need with as little extra filler material. She gets to the point quickly and efficiently, offering short, one to two-page snippets of advice that address each parenting issue directly and without lengthy introduction sections. This is a book I wish I had when my son was born.
As a teacher, I find many of Miller’s strategies applicable in the classroom. I was especially taken with her advice on dealing with conflict and saying “no” with heartfelt words. I am finding this comes in particularly handy when it comes to the classroom and teaching students to deal with conflict and how to say no to each other in a much kinder manner. Surprisingly, Miller’s advice on saying “no” applies to older children as well. Overall, most of her 30-second strategies can easily be adapted to various situations, making this a must-read for a much wider audience than just parents of young children.
The Kid Code: 30 Second Parenting Strategies is the self-help manual parents wish they had when walking in the door with a newborn. Any parent or teacher feeling lost when it comes to dealing with rebellion, their own confusion as to the adult in charge, or learning how and when to apologize effectively needs to read the strategies contained in this eye-opening book. This insightful book offers advice that is brief, solid, and to the point.
The Kid Code: 30 Second Parenting Strategies, by Brenda Miller, contains some of the best advice I have come across in 20-plus years of parenting. So many parenting books tend to be filled with a narrative that doesn’t necessarily apply to the advice readers actually crave. Miller’s book is everything we need with as little extra filler material. She gets to the point quickly and efficiently, offering short, one to two-page snippets of advice that address each parenting issue directly and without lengthy introduction sections. This is a book I wish I had when my son was born.
As a teacher, I find many of Miller’s strategies applicable in the classroom. I was especially taken with her advice on dealing with conflict and saying “no” with heartfelt words. I am finding this comes in particularly handy when it comes to the classroom and teaching students to deal with conflict and how to say no to each other in a much kinder manner. Surprisingly, Miller’s advice on saying “no” applies to older children as well. Overall, most of her 30-second strategies can easily be adapted to various situations, making this a must-read for a much wider audience than just parents of young children.
The Kid Code: 30 Second Parenting Strategies is the self-help manual parents wish they had when walking in the door with a newborn. Any parent or teacher feeling lost when it comes to dealing with rebellion, their own confusion as to the adult in charge, or learning how and when to apologize effectively needs to read the strategies contained in this eye-opening book. This insightful book offers advice that is brief, solid, and to the point.
May 10, 2022
Useful, Practical and Important. The Kid Code is an interesting juxtaposition of what we can learn from young children and the behaviors, approaches to life that we can model for them as they mature. The book points out that young children are naturally playful, non-judgemental, joyous and genuine. The author provides a series of “How To” approaches to both common aspects of child rearing, such as how to deal with temper tantrums, and general advice for anyone: how to turn mistakes into positive, learning experiences. The goal of the book is to provide ways to eliminate stress in one’s life as well as to model a stress-free life for one’s children. After all, children often model what they see and learn at home.
The book is broken into sections with instructional 30-second lessons. One of the nice features is the flexibility offered by this “how to” book. The author makes it clear that any method of using The Kid Code: (i) from practicing lessons individually; (ii) to reading the book from cover to cover, then picking and choosing relevant lessons; or (iii) to randomly opening the book and trying out the lesson.
The lessons the author highlights are ones that I have found to work in my life. They are also ones that I have seen be very successful in non-industrialized, subsistence-based economies. As an anthropologist, I lived on a remote island in Melanesia and was struck by how much simpler child rearing was there and how the stress of child-rearing so prevalent in the US was absent. I think that The Kid Code is a great start in getting us in touch with our inner selves and focusing on what matters so that we all can reduce the stress in our lives and live joyfully and playfully.
Ironically, I had just finished reading the Kid Code when my son asked about ways to reduce stress. I directed him to read The Kid Code. The next day, a friend with two demanding children lamented the stress in her life caused by managing a career and these two young children. Without a second thought, I bought her The Kid Code.
The book is broken into sections with instructional 30-second lessons. One of the nice features is the flexibility offered by this “how to” book. The author makes it clear that any method of using The Kid Code: (i) from practicing lessons individually; (ii) to reading the book from cover to cover, then picking and choosing relevant lessons; or (iii) to randomly opening the book and trying out the lesson.
The lessons the author highlights are ones that I have found to work in my life. They are also ones that I have seen be very successful in non-industrialized, subsistence-based economies. As an anthropologist, I lived on a remote island in Melanesia and was struck by how much simpler child rearing was there and how the stress of child-rearing so prevalent in the US was absent. I think that The Kid Code is a great start in getting us in touch with our inner selves and focusing on what matters so that we all can reduce the stress in our lives and live joyfully and playfully.
Ironically, I had just finished reading the Kid Code when my son asked about ways to reduce stress. I directed him to read The Kid Code. The next day, a friend with two demanding children lamented the stress in her life caused by managing a career and these two young children. Without a second thought, I bought her The Kid Code.
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May 3, 2023Brenda has obviously studied wise masters and children. Integrating that knowledge masterfully. The 30-second strategies are very helpful tools to use in the moment based on what you are experiencing as a parent or childcare giver. The interesting part is she is teaching us how to deal with the child, but more importantly how to gain awareness of ourselves in the moment. I believe raising children is our greatest opportunity to learn and transform as humans, if we take the opportunity. Brenda gives us sage advice garnered from many Wisdom Masters on how to do just that. The teaching sections are interspersed and are helpful in setting context. They also offer digestible wisdom and exercises in awareness. This book ultimately offers you peace as a parent and the opportunity for adult development on your way to becoming an elder as Brenda Miller surely is!
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