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Reconnect: Spiritual Restoration from Digital Distraction
Protect your time. Prioritize relationships. Restore your spirit.
In Reconnect , contemplative author and retreat leader Ed Cyzewski investigates the crisis of attention that is leading to mental health challenges and extending to our souls. Yet the Christian contemplative tradition--deeply rooted in the spiritual traditions and practices of the church--offers a way forward, grinding the gears of this frenetic activity and thinking to an unspectacular halt. For all its benefits and promises, technology trains its users to pursue the exact opposite of contemplative prayer practices every day, claims Cyzewski.
Grounded in current research into the impact of technology, Reconnect helps Christians rewire their technology addictions and train themselves to be present and aware of God rather than tuned into the constant distractions and deceptions of this digital age. When phones go dark and social media feeds stop scrolling, can we step into a deeper stillness and presence with an always present God?
In Reconnect , contemplative author and retreat leader Ed Cyzewski investigates the crisis of attention that is leading to mental health challenges and extending to our souls. Yet the Christian contemplative tradition--deeply rooted in the spiritual traditions and practices of the church--offers a way forward, grinding the gears of this frenetic activity and thinking to an unspectacular halt. For all its benefits and promises, technology trains its users to pursue the exact opposite of contemplative prayer practices every day, claims Cyzewski.
Grounded in current research into the impact of technology, Reconnect helps Christians rewire their technology addictions and train themselves to be present and aware of God rather than tuned into the constant distractions and deceptions of this digital age. When phones go dark and social media feeds stop scrolling, can we step into a deeper stillness and presence with an always present God?
256 pages, Paperback
Published June 2, 2020
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Ed Cyzewski
42 books119 followersEd Cyzewski is an author and editor north of Nashville. His books include Flee, Be Silent, Pray; Reconnect; Creative Renewal; and the Christian Survival Guide. Sign up for his bi-weekly newsletter for soul care ideas and book updates/discounts at www.edcyzewski.com.
Books by Ed Cyzewski
- Flee, Be Silent, Pray: Ancient Prayers for Anxious Christians
- Reconnect: Spiritual Restoration from Digital Distraction
- The Good News of Revelation
- Hazardous: Committing to the Cost of Following Jesus
- Coffeehouse Theology: Reflecting on God in Everyday Life
- Creating Space: The Case for Everyday Creativity
Books by Ed Cyzewski
- Flee, Be Silent, Pray: Ancient Prayers for Anxious Christians
- Reconnect: Spiritual Restoration from Digital Distraction
- The Good News of Revelation
- Hazardous: Committing to the Cost of Following Jesus
- Coffeehouse Theology: Reflecting on God in Everyday Life
- Creating Space: The Case for Everyday Creativity
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May 13, 2020
This is the book for our time, a thoughtful consideration of technology and how it is impacting our spiritual journey. Highly recommend.
April 28, 2020
Have you ever glanced at the clock on your smartphone after what seemed like a few seconds of idle browsing, only to realize you'd wasted the last half hour of your life on social media? Have you then slammed the phone down in disgust, berating yourself for not having the willpower to stick to your resolutions about phone use?
Yeah, me too.
With the rapid changes brought to our world over the last several weeks with COVID-19, I starting turning to my phone more and more. What new changes were there? What should I do? What did I need to know?
And then one morning, after spending a sleepless night warding off panic attacks, I realized the answer was simple: Little to nothing. There was very little I could do other than what I was already doing (common sense hygiene and staying at home all the time). There was nothing I needed to know that a five minute local radio news broadcast wouldn't tell me. I could pray, of course--but my constant news checking and growing anxiety had made that very hard to do.
So I turned off the internet on my phone and picked up a book.
Suddenly I had an insight into what addicts must feel. I'd always thought I had my phone usage under control, but now I'd read a page or so, then feel anxious and jittery again. "I should check and see if anyone emailed me..." I'd think. I resisted--then after another page or two, I'd wonder whether browsing through Instagram for a few minutes would settle my nerves. Again, I resisted. Eventually, after a full day of these jittery temptations, they started to go away. The next day, I read 80 pages of Daphne DuMaurier's Rebecca in just a couple nursing sessions with the new baby. I read the Bible and prayed a rosary peacefully.
After several such days, I flipped the internet back on so that I could download an audiobook. Instantly, notifications starting pinging, their little icons filling the top of my screen like presents under a Christmas tree. 45 minutes later, I'd checked email, scrolled through Instagram, read several news articles (Luckily for me, I don't have Facebook, and I pretty much gave up on Twitter after the 2016 election). Guiltily, during the last 5 of those minutes, I actually downloaded that audiobook. Baby was done nursing and napping, ready to be walked around--and I'd missed that time to bond with her, to stare at her face and run my fingers over the velvety skin of her arms.
The disgust I felt at myself made the resolution to start again easy. But it was a moment of grace that led me to open a new book on my e-reader app (despite generally disliking ebook reading): Reconnect; Spiritual Restoration from Digital Distraction, by Ed Cyzewski.
One of the first points that Ed Cyzewski makes--very compellingly--is that using your phone less isn't something most people can just decide upon and then do. It's not only because we're humans and therefore weak--it's because we're humans and therefore susceptible to the carefully constructed plans of social media entrepreneurs who go out of their way to make you addicted to their product. The amount of evidence Cyzewski provides to make this point is staggering. Over and over, he quotes the developers of media and "connecting" technology who fully admit that their plan was to get as many people addicted as possible. They want to make you anxious, because anxious people keep clicking. They want to make you outraged, because outraged people engage with their product. The problem isn't--and was never--all about your weakness or poor time management skills; you've been struggling against an enemy you didn't know was there.
The second point that struck me was how social media and smartphone use has the power to draw us away from the practices traditionally associated with drawing closer to God. Yes, you can absolutely use technology to spread the Gospel (and you should). You can use technology to remind you to pray, or to help you learn the liturgy of the hours, or--these days, especially--to livestream a liturgy when you can't be in church. BUT... you can also get addicted to the quick dopamine rush that comes when you check news or email or Instagram, making it harder to sit silently with God.
Don't worry: Reconnect is not out to make you feel guilt about technology use, nor to demand that you give it up. In times like these, especially, technology is an invaluable tool when it comes to staying in touch with our friends and family, among other things. What Reconnect does argue admirably is that technology is never the deepest or truest way to connect with family, friends, or God. Ed Cyzewski offers sound advice for going above and beyond connecting with a friend by hitting "like" on a post--and he reminds us that connecting with God is the most important connection of all.
I couldn't think of a more perfect time for this book to come out. I'm sure it's rough for an author to go about marketing a book when bookstores are closed and in person events canceled--but you can still order from your favorite bookstores online! If you need a shot of peace in a crazy world--if you need solid encouragement and sound advice, I can't recommend this book highly enough.
Thanks so much to the author for providing me with a copy of this book to review; all opinions are emphatically my own. ;)
Yeah, me too.
With the rapid changes brought to our world over the last several weeks with COVID-19, I starting turning to my phone more and more. What new changes were there? What should I do? What did I need to know?
And then one morning, after spending a sleepless night warding off panic attacks, I realized the answer was simple: Little to nothing. There was very little I could do other than what I was already doing (common sense hygiene and staying at home all the time). There was nothing I needed to know that a five minute local radio news broadcast wouldn't tell me. I could pray, of course--but my constant news checking and growing anxiety had made that very hard to do.
So I turned off the internet on my phone and picked up a book.
Suddenly I had an insight into what addicts must feel. I'd always thought I had my phone usage under control, but now I'd read a page or so, then feel anxious and jittery again. "I should check and see if anyone emailed me..." I'd think. I resisted--then after another page or two, I'd wonder whether browsing through Instagram for a few minutes would settle my nerves. Again, I resisted. Eventually, after a full day of these jittery temptations, they started to go away. The next day, I read 80 pages of Daphne DuMaurier's Rebecca in just a couple nursing sessions with the new baby. I read the Bible and prayed a rosary peacefully.
After several such days, I flipped the internet back on so that I could download an audiobook. Instantly, notifications starting pinging, their little icons filling the top of my screen like presents under a Christmas tree. 45 minutes later, I'd checked email, scrolled through Instagram, read several news articles (Luckily for me, I don't have Facebook, and I pretty much gave up on Twitter after the 2016 election). Guiltily, during the last 5 of those minutes, I actually downloaded that audiobook. Baby was done nursing and napping, ready to be walked around--and I'd missed that time to bond with her, to stare at her face and run my fingers over the velvety skin of her arms.
The disgust I felt at myself made the resolution to start again easy. But it was a moment of grace that led me to open a new book on my e-reader app (despite generally disliking ebook reading): Reconnect; Spiritual Restoration from Digital Distraction, by Ed Cyzewski.
One of the first points that Ed Cyzewski makes--very compellingly--is that using your phone less isn't something most people can just decide upon and then do. It's not only because we're humans and therefore weak--it's because we're humans and therefore susceptible to the carefully constructed plans of social media entrepreneurs who go out of their way to make you addicted to their product. The amount of evidence Cyzewski provides to make this point is staggering. Over and over, he quotes the developers of media and "connecting" technology who fully admit that their plan was to get as many people addicted as possible. They want to make you anxious, because anxious people keep clicking. They want to make you outraged, because outraged people engage with their product. The problem isn't--and was never--all about your weakness or poor time management skills; you've been struggling against an enemy you didn't know was there.
The second point that struck me was how social media and smartphone use has the power to draw us away from the practices traditionally associated with drawing closer to God. Yes, you can absolutely use technology to spread the Gospel (and you should). You can use technology to remind you to pray, or to help you learn the liturgy of the hours, or--these days, especially--to livestream a liturgy when you can't be in church. BUT... you can also get addicted to the quick dopamine rush that comes when you check news or email or Instagram, making it harder to sit silently with God.
Don't worry: Reconnect is not out to make you feel guilt about technology use, nor to demand that you give it up. In times like these, especially, technology is an invaluable tool when it comes to staying in touch with our friends and family, among other things. What Reconnect does argue admirably is that technology is never the deepest or truest way to connect with family, friends, or God. Ed Cyzewski offers sound advice for going above and beyond connecting with a friend by hitting "like" on a post--and he reminds us that connecting with God is the most important connection of all.
I couldn't think of a more perfect time for this book to come out. I'm sure it's rough for an author to go about marketing a book when bookstores are closed and in person events canceled--but you can still order from your favorite bookstores online! If you need a shot of peace in a crazy world--if you need solid encouragement and sound advice, I can't recommend this book highly enough.
Thanks so much to the author for providing me with a copy of this book to review; all opinions are emphatically my own. ;)
December 1, 2025
Great, focused mainly on Social Media as a Digital distraction.
June 3, 2020
I’ve read my share of books on the effects of social media and smartphone technology by authors Ed mentions (Turkle, Newport). I’ve also read my share of spiritual formation books. What I admire about this book is the way that it brings together these two discussion in a way that is thoughtful, challenging, and helpful.
Reading this book, I was forced to reexamine many of my habits and practices. Ed does a great job of offering a rationale for a more contemplative life while also offering encouragement and specific actions I can take.
I will definitely recommend this book to others!
Reading this book, I was forced to reexamine many of my habits and practices. Ed does a great job of offering a rationale for a more contemplative life while also offering encouragement and specific actions I can take.
I will definitely recommend this book to others!
March 26, 2020
Ed Cyzewski’s book RECONNECT: Spiritual Restoration from Digital Distraction has a simple premise.
“Our digital devices and social media apps are limiting our ability to concentrate, to have conversations, to eat dinner with our families or friends, and to practice spirituality because they distract us, eat up valuable time, and train us to crave stimulation, affirmation, and passive amusement.”
As one who deeply appreciates spiritual formation and practices Christian meditation (Centering Prayer), Cyzewski sees the danger of over-reliance on social media.
“Our devices and social media have the power to shape us into a particular kind of people: distracted by many thoughts, reactive, compulsive, and impatient.”
He points to the combination of increasingly sophisticated smartphones, and apps that tie-in to a constant stream of social media as the culprit. “Disembodied technology can devastate incarnate spirituality. How can we experience ‘God with us’ if we aren’t even aware of ourselves in the present moment?”
The prevalence of platforms for mean-spirited memes contributes to social division. And the rewards (given in likes, impressions and pageviews) for the meanest seem to strengthen this connection.
After taking the time to establish the extent of the problem, Cyzewski then turns to solutions, beginning with explaining the basics of what spiritual formation looks like.
“It involves patience, focus, silence, solitude, stillness, community, and regular practice. Centering prayer helps us release distracting thoughts with a prayer word so that we can become present for God. Whether practicing centering prayer or silent breathing in solitude, the experience of contemplative prayer, which is the interior work by the loving presence of God, is typically associated with a measure of stillness and awareness of God in the present moment.”
As social media is designed to solicit and offer instant gratification, Cyzewski cautions that spiritual practice involves discipline with results coming surely but slowly. It’s the exact opposite of a quick-fix.
Cyzewski spends some time, early on, in explaining the psychological research that goes behind the creation of social media and smartphone apps and their addictive nature. However, he makes his aim clear. “I have no intention of telling people to stop using their phones completely, to use a flip phone, to dumpster dive as resistance to the consumer economy…Rather, I want us to restore an element of free choice in our use of technology, specifically creating more space to choose things that are good for us (and others), like spiritual practices and serving our neighbors.”
“Social media isn’t designed to promote the most accurate or the most carefully assembled information. On social media, a study that offers a careful, measured assessment of its findings will always lose out to the emotionally charged spin-off article from a partisan site that twists the study’s findings to confirm the suspicions and bias of readers—thus ensuring that the average person is more likely to miss the original study.”
Case-in-point is the proliferation of bots, disseminating all sorts of falsity as truth, which can lead to intellectual illiteracy among youth who are most prone to spend large amounts of time on social media. “Even more disturbing is the finding from a Stanford study that more than 80 percent of middle school students couldn’t determine the difference between an ad and a news story.
Meanwhile, most high school students struggled to discern whether manipulated images were genuine, were unlikely to click through a link to evaluate a source’s credibility, and even when comparing the credibility of organizations, often struggled to figure out which was more reliable.”
So, is there hope? Cyzewski writes: “While there are opportunities for connection, community, and encouragement via social media notifications, those notifications can also serve as a source of insecurity that drives us back to social media for another hit of affirmation. (By the way, you can easily turn them off under your phone’s settings—click on “Notifications” to customize which apps can send them to you.)”
Turning notifications off on your smartphone is only one of a variety of practical tips Cyzewski includes in his book to help lessen the draw of social media on our lives. Here’s another: “Perhaps it would help to ask how we can become more present in our communities, addressing injustice and inequality while sharing the good news of God’s love, rather than policing what other Christians believe [and write via social media].”
The fruits of disengagement from social media and actively pursuing spiritual direction can be found in “silence, freedom from distractions and interpersonal conversations, writes Cyzewski. “The gift of the church for a world drowning in digital distraction is the spiritual restoration that comes from God’s always present love. If the church has one asset going for it, it’s the fact that it offers a physical space where people reliably show up every week. That physical space does not need video screens, smartphones, or other forms of technology to accomplish its purpose...”
Besides modified disengagement from social media, Cyzewski says we need discipline. “Making any kind of meaningful and long-lasting change to address digital formation versus spiritual formation calls for a clear and decisive choice,” he advises. “If digital technology is designed to be compulsive, addictive, and invasive and we struggle to put our devices down because of their appealing connections, then we won’t stand a chance without an intentional plan moving forward.”
What about social justice advocates, who rely on real-time information to fine-tune advocacy? Cyzewski says it’s possible to remain an advocate with limited social media use. In fact, including locally-based volunteer efforts where human contact is possible may prove to be the most satisfying of all social justice work.
What would a spiritually-infused version of social media look like? Cyzewski suggests that “perhaps our souls and the souls of others would be most encouraged if we prioritized gratefully sharing how God has shown up in our lives each day or the things that make us come alive. Living in greater awareness of the beauty and truth we’ve experienced will make us more prepared to pray simply because we’ll be aware of what God has given us.”
In summary, Cyzewski presents a very straightforward three-step answer to being overwhelmed and overinfluenced by social media:
“Protect your time.
Prioritize one-on-one interactions.
Restore your spirit with daily silence.”
Ed Cyzewski is one of the most coherent, intelligent and thoughtful writers I know. I highly recommend RECONNECT: Spiritual Restoration from Digital Distraction.
“Our digital devices and social media apps are limiting our ability to concentrate, to have conversations, to eat dinner with our families or friends, and to practice spirituality because they distract us, eat up valuable time, and train us to crave stimulation, affirmation, and passive amusement.”
As one who deeply appreciates spiritual formation and practices Christian meditation (Centering Prayer), Cyzewski sees the danger of over-reliance on social media.
“Our devices and social media have the power to shape us into a particular kind of people: distracted by many thoughts, reactive, compulsive, and impatient.”
He points to the combination of increasingly sophisticated smartphones, and apps that tie-in to a constant stream of social media as the culprit. “Disembodied technology can devastate incarnate spirituality. How can we experience ‘God with us’ if we aren’t even aware of ourselves in the present moment?”
The prevalence of platforms for mean-spirited memes contributes to social division. And the rewards (given in likes, impressions and pageviews) for the meanest seem to strengthen this connection.
After taking the time to establish the extent of the problem, Cyzewski then turns to solutions, beginning with explaining the basics of what spiritual formation looks like.
“It involves patience, focus, silence, solitude, stillness, community, and regular practice. Centering prayer helps us release distracting thoughts with a prayer word so that we can become present for God. Whether practicing centering prayer or silent breathing in solitude, the experience of contemplative prayer, which is the interior work by the loving presence of God, is typically associated with a measure of stillness and awareness of God in the present moment.”
As social media is designed to solicit and offer instant gratification, Cyzewski cautions that spiritual practice involves discipline with results coming surely but slowly. It’s the exact opposite of a quick-fix.
Cyzewski spends some time, early on, in explaining the psychological research that goes behind the creation of social media and smartphone apps and their addictive nature. However, he makes his aim clear. “I have no intention of telling people to stop using their phones completely, to use a flip phone, to dumpster dive as resistance to the consumer economy…Rather, I want us to restore an element of free choice in our use of technology, specifically creating more space to choose things that are good for us (and others), like spiritual practices and serving our neighbors.”
“Social media isn’t designed to promote the most accurate or the most carefully assembled information. On social media, a study that offers a careful, measured assessment of its findings will always lose out to the emotionally charged spin-off article from a partisan site that twists the study’s findings to confirm the suspicions and bias of readers—thus ensuring that the average person is more likely to miss the original study.”
Case-in-point is the proliferation of bots, disseminating all sorts of falsity as truth, which can lead to intellectual illiteracy among youth who are most prone to spend large amounts of time on social media. “Even more disturbing is the finding from a Stanford study that more than 80 percent of middle school students couldn’t determine the difference between an ad and a news story.
Meanwhile, most high school students struggled to discern whether manipulated images were genuine, were unlikely to click through a link to evaluate a source’s credibility, and even when comparing the credibility of organizations, often struggled to figure out which was more reliable.”
So, is there hope? Cyzewski writes: “While there are opportunities for connection, community, and encouragement via social media notifications, those notifications can also serve as a source of insecurity that drives us back to social media for another hit of affirmation. (By the way, you can easily turn them off under your phone’s settings—click on “Notifications” to customize which apps can send them to you.)”
Turning notifications off on your smartphone is only one of a variety of practical tips Cyzewski includes in his book to help lessen the draw of social media on our lives. Here’s another: “Perhaps it would help to ask how we can become more present in our communities, addressing injustice and inequality while sharing the good news of God’s love, rather than policing what other Christians believe [and write via social media].”
The fruits of disengagement from social media and actively pursuing spiritual direction can be found in “silence, freedom from distractions and interpersonal conversations, writes Cyzewski. “The gift of the church for a world drowning in digital distraction is the spiritual restoration that comes from God’s always present love. If the church has one asset going for it, it’s the fact that it offers a physical space where people reliably show up every week. That physical space does not need video screens, smartphones, or other forms of technology to accomplish its purpose...”
Besides modified disengagement from social media, Cyzewski says we need discipline. “Making any kind of meaningful and long-lasting change to address digital formation versus spiritual formation calls for a clear and decisive choice,” he advises. “If digital technology is designed to be compulsive, addictive, and invasive and we struggle to put our devices down because of their appealing connections, then we won’t stand a chance without an intentional plan moving forward.”
What about social justice advocates, who rely on real-time information to fine-tune advocacy? Cyzewski says it’s possible to remain an advocate with limited social media use. In fact, including locally-based volunteer efforts where human contact is possible may prove to be the most satisfying of all social justice work.
What would a spiritually-infused version of social media look like? Cyzewski suggests that “perhaps our souls and the souls of others would be most encouraged if we prioritized gratefully sharing how God has shown up in our lives each day or the things that make us come alive. Living in greater awareness of the beauty and truth we’ve experienced will make us more prepared to pray simply because we’ll be aware of what God has given us.”
In summary, Cyzewski presents a very straightforward three-step answer to being overwhelmed and overinfluenced by social media:
“Protect your time.
Prioritize one-on-one interactions.
Restore your spirit with daily silence.”
Ed Cyzewski is one of the most coherent, intelligent and thoughtful writers I know. I highly recommend RECONNECT: Spiritual Restoration from Digital Distraction.
May 11, 2020
Every writer has their favorite writing book. I assume it's true of other crafts as well. As I made my way through this book, I kept thinking it should be as necessary as any book on the craft of writing. For we live in an age where we must write online to one degree or another. We should study how to do it well.
Ed did a good amount of research for this book. I deeply appreciated his conclusions about how church life and spiritual practices differ widely from our social media presence. They must. We need guidance through this new age of non-stop connection and information. Reconnect gives us excellent direction.
Ed did a good amount of research for this book. I deeply appreciated his conclusions about how church life and spiritual practices differ widely from our social media presence. They must. We need guidance through this new age of non-stop connection and information. Reconnect gives us excellent direction.
May 14, 2020
"If your goal is to step out of the chaos of digital distraction and to then ground yourself in your identity as a child of God, then your habits can help you get there." - Ed Cyzewski
In an age that is dominated by a myriad of digital devices, 24/7 breaking news, and the never-ending social media scroll, this book is a gentle reminder that our digital lives often come with a spiritual cost. This book has loads of theory from fellow Christ followers and professionals - as well as practical things you can do to right now to grow closer to God and not default to mindlessly picking up your phone.
Mr. Cyzewski shows how the foundation of contemplative prayer and habits crafted with purpose will help align ourselves closer to Jesus. Smart phones are an important part of our lives, and he gives some great insight on how to keep our phones as a tool and not a distraction.
This book will bless your walk with Christ.
In an age that is dominated by a myriad of digital devices, 24/7 breaking news, and the never-ending social media scroll, this book is a gentle reminder that our digital lives often come with a spiritual cost. This book has loads of theory from fellow Christ followers and professionals - as well as practical things you can do to right now to grow closer to God and not default to mindlessly picking up your phone.
Mr. Cyzewski shows how the foundation of contemplative prayer and habits crafted with purpose will help align ourselves closer to Jesus. Smart phones are an important part of our lives, and he gives some great insight on how to keep our phones as a tool and not a distraction.
This book will bless your walk with Christ.
May 20, 2020
I don't like the idea of limiting my online presence. Or I didn't until online presence was all I had. In a time when we're relying on our digital devices more than ever, Ed Cyzewski has given us a way to reclaim how we spend our time for the good of our souls. I wouldn't have picked up this book five years ago because I would have assumed the author was judging me and telling me what to do. That's not what this book is about. It's about learning why the apps we love are so hard to quit and what we can do in place of our digital addictions. I appreciate the inclusion of resources at the back of the book.
May 19, 2020
This book is certainly eye-opening and actionable. I honestly thought I was "OK" at handling digital distraction. The amazing information, the tips, and flat-out diligent research built into this book make it a fascinating read. It's not depressing (although the tactics that companies use to reel us in are shocking). In fact, it gives me hope. I love the "Invitation to reconnect" at the end of each chapter which give us practical and simple ways we can reconnect our lives. I've shared this with my small group and they loved it! We actually spent several sessions on it and they're still talking about it in conversations.
June 19, 2020
A gentle, hopeful and joyful reminder that God's presence can meet us right in the middle of our distracted, polarized society.
Often, I avoid self-help books, especially Christian ones. Too often, they mostly serve to remind me of all the ways I'm falling short. And don't even get me started on the 'reflection' questions at the ends of chapters. I always pretend they aren't there.
So I was surprised, in a book about digital distractions, to feel like someone was coming alongside me with encouragement--that's hard for me to hear even when authors intend it. I think what sets Reconnect apart from other Christian self-help books is its abundant context about how these devices are -designed- to addict us, and a relentless focus on the very practical, reachable simplicity that God invites us into.
In the end, Cyzewski's book isn't -really- about devices. It is about practically articulating the kinds of people and communities God wants us to be--and how freeing, life-giving, and truly ease-y that kind of life is.
The book manages to transcend its 'self-help' genre because our phones are SUCH a touch-point for every part of our lives, so addressing our relationship to them can ALSO transform every part of our lives. It's like a hidden back-door into the kingdom that Ed gently and practically explores -through the lens- of our devices.
A supremely helpful book that will help us deal with anxiety, disconnection, and apathy in abundantly practical ways.
Often, I avoid self-help books, especially Christian ones. Too often, they mostly serve to remind me of all the ways I'm falling short. And don't even get me started on the 'reflection' questions at the ends of chapters. I always pretend they aren't there.
So I was surprised, in a book about digital distractions, to feel like someone was coming alongside me with encouragement--that's hard for me to hear even when authors intend it. I think what sets Reconnect apart from other Christian self-help books is its abundant context about how these devices are -designed- to addict us, and a relentless focus on the very practical, reachable simplicity that God invites us into.
In the end, Cyzewski's book isn't -really- about devices. It is about practically articulating the kinds of people and communities God wants us to be--and how freeing, life-giving, and truly ease-y that kind of life is.
The book manages to transcend its 'self-help' genre because our phones are SUCH a touch-point for every part of our lives, so addressing our relationship to them can ALSO transform every part of our lives. It's like a hidden back-door into the kingdom that Ed gently and practically explores -through the lens- of our devices.
A supremely helpful book that will help us deal with anxiety, disconnection, and apathy in abundantly practical ways.
June 28, 2020
Not only is this Ed’s best book yet, but it was just the book I needed to read in this media-saturated moment.
May 22, 2020
Reconnect : spiritual restoration from digital distraction by Ed Cyzewski is an excellent book for our time. The premise of this book is by limiting our time spent on social media we are able to immerse ourselves in life giving ways through spiritual disciplines and more time spent with our families. These spiritual disciplines ease our anxiety and anger at the world we cannot control and open up the possibilities of encouraging each other and being of service to those with whom we have actual relationships.
The first half of the book discusses the ways we have been sucked in and overwhelmed by our digital devices to the point of being somewhat addicted. I checked a suggested app that shows my digital app use and was stunned to see the large chunks of my day spent in social media use. I also turned off my notifications and made my screen grey scale. It was interesting to see how that stopped my constant checking for messages and posts on Facebook. This section is somewhat eye opening if you are new to this subject. Cyzewski also recommends several other authors for a more in-depth study of this issue with children and adults.
The last half of the book gives ideas for how to use time for spiritual restoration. I found most of my highlighting happened in this section. He gives good ideas for apps for prayers and meditation. If the first thing you do each morning is check social media, instead of using your phone for an alarm get an actual alarm clock. Then your phone won’t automatically be in your hand before you are hardly awake. Take a quiet break in the afternoon to contemplate your day, pray or just be quiet. Have a coffee and sit still. Make a plan for how to add spiritual disciplines to your life. Start small and see how your anxiety levels change. There are some very good ideas here.
I enjoyed this book a great deal. Mr. Cyzewski is a thoughtful writer, not only sharing information but also suggestions for how to use the information given and ideas on how to change habits. I strongly recommend this book.
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The first half of the book discusses the ways we have been sucked in and overwhelmed by our digital devices to the point of being somewhat addicted. I checked a suggested app that shows my digital app use and was stunned to see the large chunks of my day spent in social media use. I also turned off my notifications and made my screen grey scale. It was interesting to see how that stopped my constant checking for messages and posts on Facebook. This section is somewhat eye opening if you are new to this subject. Cyzewski also recommends several other authors for a more in-depth study of this issue with children and adults.
The last half of the book gives ideas for how to use time for spiritual restoration. I found most of my highlighting happened in this section. He gives good ideas for apps for prayers and meditation. If the first thing you do each morning is check social media, instead of using your phone for an alarm get an actual alarm clock. Then your phone won’t automatically be in your hand before you are hardly awake. Take a quiet break in the afternoon to contemplate your day, pray or just be quiet. Have a coffee and sit still. Make a plan for how to add spiritual disciplines to your life. Start small and see how your anxiety levels change. There are some very good ideas here.
I enjoyed this book a great deal. Mr. Cyzewski is a thoughtful writer, not only sharing information but also suggestions for how to use the information given and ideas on how to change habits. I strongly recommend this book.
#Reconnect #Netgalley
May 11, 2020
This is one of those books that you’ll want to earmark and underline. I read it on my kindle and I’m looking forward to getting a physical copy of the book.
The premise is simple enough - our digital lives are detrimental to the health of our soul. Our spiritual formation is being sold out in the attention economy. It’s not new news, but it’s still sobering.
I appreciated how the author spent a large portion of the book debunking the myth that technology is amoral. At one time this was probably true. But when programmers and psychologists spawned notifications and hijacked our brains....well, not all software is created equal. It’s not just a simple matter of self-control anymore. We’re rapidly becoming rewired (and required, as autocorrect suggests!) to scroll.
We need time away from screens to be refreshed and renewed. There’s a reason the desert fathers and mothers left the city to find God. Our souls crave silence and communion with our maker.
The author does a great job of digging into spiritual formation and how to find ways to ease into the disciplines. I keep finding that spiritual disciplines are making their way into conversations - from Willard to Comer, and now Ed. There’s a reason. We need them. We need quiet and rest. Communion and community.
To form deep relationships and sit in the tensions that spring up from them. To wrestle with big questions over dinner tables and not Facebook walls.
The book is timely. Needed.
But it’s odd to be reading this in the time of Covid-19, when the bulk of our interaction are limited to pixels instead of the physical realm. As we talk about reopening, I find myself rethinking how I’ll connect and gather. Instead of relying on the digital world, I’m aching for the physical.
The premise is simple enough - our digital lives are detrimental to the health of our soul. Our spiritual formation is being sold out in the attention economy. It’s not new news, but it’s still sobering.
I appreciated how the author spent a large portion of the book debunking the myth that technology is amoral. At one time this was probably true. But when programmers and psychologists spawned notifications and hijacked our brains....well, not all software is created equal. It’s not just a simple matter of self-control anymore. We’re rapidly becoming rewired (and required, as autocorrect suggests!) to scroll.
We need time away from screens to be refreshed and renewed. There’s a reason the desert fathers and mothers left the city to find God. Our souls crave silence and communion with our maker.
The author does a great job of digging into spiritual formation and how to find ways to ease into the disciplines. I keep finding that spiritual disciplines are making their way into conversations - from Willard to Comer, and now Ed. There’s a reason. We need them. We need quiet and rest. Communion and community.
To form deep relationships and sit in the tensions that spring up from them. To wrestle with big questions over dinner tables and not Facebook walls.
The book is timely. Needed.
But it’s odd to be reading this in the time of Covid-19, when the bulk of our interaction are limited to pixels instead of the physical realm. As we talk about reopening, I find myself rethinking how I’ll connect and gather. Instead of relying on the digital world, I’m aching for the physical.
June 17, 2020
As I was reading this book at a time when social media was going bonkers, Reconnect: Spiritual Restoration from Digital Distraction was an excellent, thought-provoking book. Cyzewski begins the book by emphasizing the many ways in which social media and technology is addicting and how much it has come to control our lives by digital formation. This section is very well-researched and even includes some excellent insights on the importance of media literacy. Reading this section was quite convicting.
Cyzewski does not leave the reader here to dwell on these issues but emphasizes the need to curtail our digital obsessions so that we can spend time in spiritual formation and relationship building. Throughout Reconnect, Cyzewski frequently reference Thomas Merton's writings. Each chapter includes several questions to help readers consider the material and make practical applications of the information.
During and since reading this book, while I have not cut off my social media use, I have been more conscious of it. I'm making a conscious effort to spend time in silence or prayer instead of glued to my feed. I look forward to spending more time disconnected from technology and reconnecting with others.
I received a complementary copy from Herald Press via Netgalley. All opinions are my own.
Cyzewski does not leave the reader here to dwell on these issues but emphasizes the need to curtail our digital obsessions so that we can spend time in spiritual formation and relationship building. Throughout Reconnect, Cyzewski frequently reference Thomas Merton's writings. Each chapter includes several questions to help readers consider the material and make practical applications of the information.
During and since reading this book, while I have not cut off my social media use, I have been more conscious of it. I'm making a conscious effort to spend time in silence or prayer instead of glued to my feed. I look forward to spending more time disconnected from technology and reconnecting with others.
I received a complementary copy from Herald Press via Netgalley. All opinions are my own.
June 2, 2020
• Wise
• Approachable
• Entertaining
• Vital for wellbeing in today's connected and frenzied world
notes:
Companies spend massive amounts of time, money on exploiting us and creating digital addictions.
Changes in how media is consumed and how mental health issues have spiked. (studies/research)
We have to create boundaries and spiritually healthy practices.
How we are digitally formed impacts how we are spiritually formed.
Lots of practical helps. Reflection questions, how-tos, starter guides.
Great as a group study book.
• Approachable
• Entertaining
• Vital for wellbeing in today's connected and frenzied world
notes:
Companies spend massive amounts of time, money on exploiting us and creating digital addictions.
Changes in how media is consumed and how mental health issues have spiked. (studies/research)
We have to create boundaries and spiritually healthy practices.
How we are digitally formed impacts how we are spiritually formed.
Lots of practical helps. Reflection questions, how-tos, starter guides.
Great as a group study book.
June 10, 2020
Ed's new book 'Reconnect' is so helpful and well-researched and convicting. I have talked about it with my oldest daughter. Ed is an example to me in this. It is a gift of grace for our souls to be saved in this day.
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June 10, 2020Review forthcoming in the Christian Century.
March 29, 2020
Ed Cyzewski's book, Reconnect: Spiritual Restoration from Digital Distraction is a wake-up call for followers of Jesus to take an honest look at how screens affect their lives and more importantly, their faith. Cyzewkski shows readers how screens can hinder spiritual growth and keep them from experiencing the abundant life Jesus promised. Using a combination of Scriptures, personal experiences, and well-researched and reliable statistics, he builds his case for how to disconnect from technology and how to reconnect with God--and how to set reasonable and needed boundaries.
While technologicy promises to remain in the forefront of our lives for the near future, Cyzewski asks some hard questions about technology use. He addresses digital formation and spiritual formation and how they can intersect and how digital formation can hinder our spiritual growth. He also helps readers get a grasp on how they can control their technology use instead of letting technology and screens control them. He shows how the use of boundaries can help us grow to be what Christ has called us and made us to be. He truly helps readers understand the need for solitude and silence and how to make that happen in today's super-connected world. Each chapter includes some questions to help readers process their habits in light of the principles presented. Cyzewski also includes some resources at the back of the book that give all sorts of practical tips and tricks for making technology work FOR you and a brief look at how to draw closer to God through spiritual disciplines.
Note: I received a copy of this book from the publisher through NetGalley in exchange for this honest review. The opinions expressed are my own.
While technologicy promises to remain in the forefront of our lives for the near future, Cyzewski asks some hard questions about technology use. He addresses digital formation and spiritual formation and how they can intersect and how digital formation can hinder our spiritual growth. He also helps readers get a grasp on how they can control their technology use instead of letting technology and screens control them. He shows how the use of boundaries can help us grow to be what Christ has called us and made us to be. He truly helps readers understand the need for solitude and silence and how to make that happen in today's super-connected world. Each chapter includes some questions to help readers process their habits in light of the principles presented. Cyzewski also includes some resources at the back of the book that give all sorts of practical tips and tricks for making technology work FOR you and a brief look at how to draw closer to God through spiritual disciplines.
Note: I received a copy of this book from the publisher through NetGalley in exchange for this honest review. The opinions expressed are my own.
July 1, 2020
I read this book about a month ago. I gave it five stars from my gut because I couldn't put it down and was driven to make changes right away. However, I purposely decided to wait several weeks before writing a review so I could answer this question: Does Reconnect have sticking power when it comes to changing the way we deal with digital distractions?
Yes. Definitely yes. Let's just say that since reading Reconnect, I've literally forgotten to check Facebook on some days. That might not sound like a big deal unless you know me. I still love Facebook and am not a Luddite by any stretch of the imagination. There's no throwing the baby out with the bathwater here. But I've learned to enjoy silence more, to fill more of my "spare minutes" with reading rather than scrolling––I've probably tripled my reading time since Reconnect–– and to prioritize connecting with individual friends rather than always interacting on a platform. I feel like I've gotten a lot of time, sanity, and peace back in my life. Reconnect is a must-read.
Yes. Definitely yes. Let's just say that since reading Reconnect, I've literally forgotten to check Facebook on some days. That might not sound like a big deal unless you know me. I still love Facebook and am not a Luddite by any stretch of the imagination. There's no throwing the baby out with the bathwater here. But I've learned to enjoy silence more, to fill more of my "spare minutes" with reading rather than scrolling––I've probably tripled my reading time since Reconnect–– and to prioritize connecting with individual friends rather than always interacting on a platform. I feel like I've gotten a lot of time, sanity, and peace back in my life. Reconnect is a must-read.
November 9, 2020
I'm a big fan of Ed Cyzewski's work and I can't seem to stop learning about the detrimental effects of social media and always-present technology, so it's no surprise that this book was a home run for me.
Cyzewski spends the first few chapters laying out the basics of how social media affects our brains, can damage our relationships, etc. Unfortunately, I found this to be quite repetitive since I've already read plenty on the topic. But the second half of the book really stands out from others. Rather than talking about ditching your smartphone so you can be more productive, as most authors do, Cyzewski focuses on spiritual formation. Told this way, the choice is clear: you can grow in prayer and enjoy the restorative gifts of silence and rest in the Lord, or you can waste untold hours scrolling through a newsfeed.
Overall, I was pretty convicted by Cyzewski's take on tech and how we can set boundaries around phone usage for the sake of our spiritual health.
Cyzewski spends the first few chapters laying out the basics of how social media affects our brains, can damage our relationships, etc. Unfortunately, I found this to be quite repetitive since I've already read plenty on the topic. But the second half of the book really stands out from others. Rather than talking about ditching your smartphone so you can be more productive, as most authors do, Cyzewski focuses on spiritual formation. Told this way, the choice is clear: you can grow in prayer and enjoy the restorative gifts of silence and rest in the Lord, or you can waste untold hours scrolling through a newsfeed.
Overall, I was pretty convicted by Cyzewski's take on tech and how we can set boundaries around phone usage for the sake of our spiritual health.
January 6, 2025
Part of my ongoing journey to finding (seeking, and not often finding) a healthy balance with the madness of modern life. I, personally, feel a profound and at times perpetual sense of being overwhelmed. (Am I in need of one of those handy "Adult ADHD Diagnosis"? I'm sure, but... why..? What has caused us all to exist with such scattered internal worlds?)
We live in a world full of endless demands on our attention. Lately, I try and remind myself that attention is a currency (We "pay attention" to things, and that energy-currency is also an investment, that pays us back whether we like it or not). I battle with the distraction and anxiety that social media creates and alleviates as the pendulum swings.
I'm also one who has a bit of the monk in him, one who finds himself often reading the "spiritual classics" even while I find myself increasingly at odds with the modern manifestations of religious spiritualities.
Here Cyzewski channels two of my favourites, Thomas Merton and also Martin Laird (who's "Into the Silent Land" was a favourite discovery of last year). The contrast and comparison between the spiritual practice of stillness and silence and our brave new world free of any possibility of boredom and unnecessary "waiting" is a rich world for reflection.
I did, however, find this book veering at times into that kind of "Christian self-help" structure and language in a way that felt a bit too crafted. Perhaps it's that I spend more of my time reading ancient writers, who indulge themselves a bit more in their prose and veer away from the somewhat snappy blog article structure that seems to be modern writing. It didn't help that each chapter had "discussion/reflection" questions that made it feel like I was the only member of a church book club.
Most of what was stated was somewhat familiar to me, having steeped myself in ole Merton and been as of late reading (and doing some school-related writing) on the damage to our psyche that our technology has (quite possibly) irretrievably done.
The reality is technology is knit into almost every facet of our current experience, and it's not entirely avoidable, but it is quite potentially harmful. I'm not optimistic, but I am becoming increasingly aware of the way it has shaped and formed my ability to be generous in my attention and my difficulty in remaining present beyond the screen.
For those unfamiliar with Merton and the more explicitly Christian perspectives on spiritual discipline and our "internet age" there are plenty of worthy insights here. I just wanted often to go a bit deeper, though perhaps I'm not sure entirely what I mean by that.
It is quite likely that I will eventually write my own book along these lines so perhaps I will write a similarly critical review of that book when it finally arrives.
We live in a world full of endless demands on our attention. Lately, I try and remind myself that attention is a currency (We "pay attention" to things, and that energy-currency is also an investment, that pays us back whether we like it or not). I battle with the distraction and anxiety that social media creates and alleviates as the pendulum swings.
I'm also one who has a bit of the monk in him, one who finds himself often reading the "spiritual classics" even while I find myself increasingly at odds with the modern manifestations of religious spiritualities.
Here Cyzewski channels two of my favourites, Thomas Merton and also Martin Laird (who's "Into the Silent Land" was a favourite discovery of last year). The contrast and comparison between the spiritual practice of stillness and silence and our brave new world free of any possibility of boredom and unnecessary "waiting" is a rich world for reflection.
I did, however, find this book veering at times into that kind of "Christian self-help" structure and language in a way that felt a bit too crafted. Perhaps it's that I spend more of my time reading ancient writers, who indulge themselves a bit more in their prose and veer away from the somewhat snappy blog article structure that seems to be modern writing. It didn't help that each chapter had "discussion/reflection" questions that made it feel like I was the only member of a church book club.
Most of what was stated was somewhat familiar to me, having steeped myself in ole Merton and been as of late reading (and doing some school-related writing) on the damage to our psyche that our technology has (quite possibly) irretrievably done.
The reality is technology is knit into almost every facet of our current experience, and it's not entirely avoidable, but it is quite potentially harmful. I'm not optimistic, but I am becoming increasingly aware of the way it has shaped and formed my ability to be generous in my attention and my difficulty in remaining present beyond the screen.
For those unfamiliar with Merton and the more explicitly Christian perspectives on spiritual discipline and our "internet age" there are plenty of worthy insights here. I just wanted often to go a bit deeper, though perhaps I'm not sure entirely what I mean by that.
It is quite likely that I will eventually write my own book along these lines so perhaps I will write a similarly critical review of that book when it finally arrives.
November 24, 2020
'Reconnect' has something very important to say: our digital devices and social media apps are affecting our spiritual growth. Ed calls this 'digital formation': our attention, habits, spiritual state, priorities, and relationships with others are being shaped through our use of digital technology. This digital formation can have negative effects on our spiritual growth if we fail to reflect carefully on how to manage our digital lives.
There are now many books on the effects of digital technology and social media on our minds, habits, relationships etc. Ed's book covers all the important points about the design and effects of technology on our lives succinctly and effectively. The special importance of Ed's book is that he considers carefully the effect of technology on our spirital lives, and especially the development of more contemplative Christian spiritual practices. Ed draws on major contemplative writers and his own experience to present insights, advice, and practical activities to help individuals explore the appropriate role of digital technology in their lives.
Although I have considered these issues for some time, I came away with new insights and motivations to change my practices in ways that support more contemplative formation. I recommend this book highly for its clarity, accessibility, generosity, and practicality. I encourage all readers who are concerned about the effects of digital technology on their lives and spiritual state to read it.
There are now many books on the effects of digital technology and social media on our minds, habits, relationships etc. Ed's book covers all the important points about the design and effects of technology on our lives succinctly and effectively. The special importance of Ed's book is that he considers carefully the effect of technology on our spirital lives, and especially the development of more contemplative Christian spiritual practices. Ed draws on major contemplative writers and his own experience to present insights, advice, and practical activities to help individuals explore the appropriate role of digital technology in their lives.
Although I have considered these issues for some time, I came away with new insights and motivations to change my practices in ways that support more contemplative formation. I recommend this book highly for its clarity, accessibility, generosity, and practicality. I encourage all readers who are concerned about the effects of digital technology on their lives and spiritual state to read it.
July 17, 2021
If you walk into an AT&T store and ask about buying phone, they look at you like you are crazy. They told me they don't sell phones, they sell personal devices. This book makes the argument that these devices are really hindering our spiritual formation -- those things that require quiet, meditation, personal insight, and other like attributes. If you are in love with your phone, you probably don't want to read this book. After the first 4 or 5 chapters, I removed Facebook, Facebook Messenger, Twitter, email, you tube, etc,. from my device; and resolved that if I was with someone, I would leave my phone in the car until we were through. I don't want to be controlled by my phone, and distracted from people. I don't want to go to my phone look for arguments, or even affirmation! I would suggest that this is a book that we all need to read! I started this book about a month ago, read the first chapter, and then laid it aside for about 3 week. When I picked it back up, I devoured the rest of the book.
June 10, 2023
It was really nice to read such a coherent exposition of the addictive and compulsive design of social media apps, how they disconnect us from the spiritual and from those around us, and how we can restore a sense of presence through the use of contemplative practices! Highly recommended reading for anyone that struggles with social media or other digital distractions getting in the way of their relationship to God.
August 14, 2024
“Protect your time.
Prioritize one-on-one interactions.
Restore your spirit with daily silence.” pg 195
Published in 2020, so a little bit of it is dated. The first half established how being glued to our phones is harmful to us mentally, socially, and spiritually. Much of which I was already familiar with and convinced of.
Second half is where the meat is and is very worth the read. I’m now reading his earlier book “Flee, Be Silent, Pray”.
Prioritize one-on-one interactions.
Restore your spirit with daily silence.” pg 195
Published in 2020, so a little bit of it is dated. The first half established how being glued to our phones is harmful to us mentally, socially, and spiritually. Much of which I was already familiar with and convinced of.
Second half is where the meat is and is very worth the read. I’m now reading his earlier book “Flee, Be Silent, Pray”.
June 22, 2020
Cyzewski challenges me to reconsider my use of technology, how I engage on social media, and why that might be moving me away from any kind of grounded spiritual life. He does this without shaming the reader, and I felt convicted enough after reading his book to be more aware of my interactions with social media, swearing for the zillionth time to give up Facebook altogether.
September 20, 2021
Really enjoyed this and found it helpful for thinking through phone and social media usage.
August 2, 2020
This thoughtful, well-researched, and practical book is what is needed for our time of digital over-saturation. In God's perfect timing, this book released when our online connections with the outside world during the pandemic were online. And this book helped me become more aware of the way digital distractions are designed to keep us addicted to screens, and how this impacts our spiritual growth.
Cyzewski doesn't just convict the reader with these truths, but gives insightful ways we can disconnect from distractions and reconnect to God (without guilt or telling us we just need to get and stay offline).
I will be reading this again as I highlighted so much of the book and now I need to find practices within it that are sustainable and helpful for this season of life. It offers so much wisdom. I highly recommend it!
Cyzewski doesn't just convict the reader with these truths, but gives insightful ways we can disconnect from distractions and reconnect to God (without guilt or telling us we just need to get and stay offline).
I will be reading this again as I highlighted so much of the book and now I need to find practices within it that are sustainable and helpful for this season of life. It offers so much wisdom. I highly recommend it!
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