First...this book is beautiful. The binding is bright and study. The paper is thick and slick in your fingers. The type, the colors...before you ever read, you are truly taken by the sheer beauty of the book.
Written by Archbishop Desmond Tutu's granddaughter, the book explores facets of Ubuntu, a practice that focuses on being citizens of the community..."A person is a person through other persons." Asking us to focus our time and energy, and yes, gifts, on being a positive, contributing member of community.
African proverbs and quotes by Tutu, Mandela, MLK are peppered throughout, highlighting the 14 lessons of Ubuntu...they invite you to stop and ponder.
I read this with a friend, a former student, who recommended it to me. We have talked about how hard it is to achieve this perfect balance, but how very important it is to try. We'll fail, but maybe we'll learn something that will help next time. Ngomane says our progress will not be linear...we will fail.
See yourself in other people
Strength lies in unity
Put yourself in others' shoes
Choose to see the wider perspective
Have dignity and respect for yourself and others
Believe in the good of everyone
Choose hope over optimism
Seek out ways to connect
Forgiveness is power
Embrace diversity
Acknowledge reality
Find the humor in our humanity
Why little things make a difference
Learn to listen so that you can hear.
My friend and I talked about an encounter I had with another person where I did not take the time to listen, and the harm it did. Speaking of the issue with this vocabulary gave me insights I might have missed otherwise. I was not able to repair the relationship, but I will keep trying.
This is a lovely, deep, little book that brought me quiet and focus in the midst of anxious times. It let me look inward...and out. Set worthy goals, connect to others, look for the goodness in others. I'm going to work harder to do just that.