Shattered Glass: Healing a Broken Heart

by Yasmin Mogahed

"To all those who are suffering from sadness or depression, know that it isn't your fault. It isn't because God is angry with you. It isn't because you're weak, not grateful enough or not religious enough"
Human being generally are very educated on how to treat a broken leg. We are very educated on how to treat a gunshot wound. But we are not very educated on how to treat a broken heart.

Emotional trauma is something that as a human race, we are handicapped in. We do not teach, we do not have tools, and beyond that, we are not very supportive of the healing process that is necessary for healing a broken heart.

When you get a wound or when you get hurt by something, how do you get yourself treated? What or who helps you in the healing process?

Genres: Islam, Self Help

69 pages, Paperback

Published May 1, 2019

About the author

Yasmin Mogahed received her B.S. Degree in Psychology and her Masters in Journalism and Mass Communications from the University of Wisconsin-Madison. After completing her graduate work, she taught Islamic Studies and worked as a writing instructor for Cardinal Stritch University, and a staff columnist for the Islam section of InFocus News. Currently she’s a freelance writer and international speaker. She also hosts Serenity, her show on One Legacy Radio.

Reviews

[Aiza Idris (biblio_mom)]

I love how brilliant Tertib Press is publishing pocket books like this one where I can easily grab and bring with me anywhere to read in bits and pieces whenever I'm available.

I just lost my beloved grandma, and 3 kittens recently and reading this right now is really the best time for me to move on more flawlessly. Its not that this book has magical effects to it, but the way Ustadha Yasmin put her thoughts in words are just amazing. In this book, she talks about how to overcome emotional pains and it needs to be done because they are just as hurtful as physical pains.

Here's some of my takeaways from this book :
- Healing ourselves from emotional pains is just not for us to learn and teach ourselves, but it is something we have to give to our childrens
- Turn to Allah when we are lacking of social supports. Crying is not for losers because even the Prophets cry. We are given tears as one of natural healing mechanisms.
- When we lost someone, keep just a few of their things to remember them by, not to mourn them with. Remind ourselves, nothing last except for Allah.
- Don't act tough. Tell Allah how hurtful it is, how sad you are, how hard things are and ask for His help.
- If your marriage doesn't worked out, refrained yourself from stalking. It only takes away your peace of mind. Find activities to distract you.

I recommend this book especially when you are feeling depressed, heart-broken and turned down. Give yourself what it deserves : health and happiness.

[Luo Zaini]

"Time alone does not heal"

We often hear the phrase of "Time will heal", but if we keep self-sabotaging (keep picking the same scab) and do not treat the wounds properly, will the wounds heal properly?

I like the way author tells us "It is ok not be ok", it is ok to feel your emotions, to feel sad. The author also wrote about how to heal our heart: how to turn to Allah. At the end, the one who will cure us is The All-Mighty Allah.

Allahu A'lam.

--- Bought it from Iman Publication Online, Malaysia

[Auni B]

I was expecting more of it from the psychospiritual perspective actually. But the author explained more on the basics and used life analogies to explain. Good but probably I put too high expectation out of it😅

If you are a constant listener to Yasmin Mogahed’s lectures, you don’t need to buy this book to get the gist of it😅 Her explanation through lectures are much thorough than the explanation in the book.

[aqilahreads]

a really short book with full of great reminders. :") much needed read at the moment.

[Amira Zuhapri]

I cried reading this one. The factors covered by the author is like an arrow pass through my heart. The prescription for the broken heart is simple yet gives a deep meaning wholely to our life. A good read for the broken souls. Recommended.

[Noral]

A short book; that reminds you to always think good of Allah. Thank you for the reminder.

[Ayda Razak]

Nothing else to say other than thank you

[Afzal Maqbool]

A thought provoking book saturated with psycho mystical elements, with teachings . A read of the book by me changed my life direction, making me a humble and meek being. A person who is enmeshed in burden of distress, grief and despondency, should study this book as it is a safe travel from despondency to merriment, from pessimism to optimism, from wound to healing process. I adore book's style characterized by simplicity vividness balance. Had I studied it yeas ago, I would not have been under the pressure of anxiety, despondency and distress.

[Iris Ymra]

This book talked about emotional pain, how it needs the same amount of attention as physical pain does in a way for it to heal.

Having experienced emotional pain isn't less concerning than any other physical pain and the best way for it to heal is first to acknowledge it.

What I love most about this book is how it taught you to not have feeling over what you feels -- no matter how small your feeling seems like, it's still worth to be recognised.

[kofiket]

This is a super short and beautiful book filled with practical lessons to help ourselves from the fall we face & opens up the mind to find our path to healing. I truly appreciate how Yasmin Mogahed includes elements of psychology in addition to Quran & Hadiths, totally recommend picking this one up!

[siso.sofy]

Very short but comprehensive. This book itself is the first aid for the broken heart. Read it and apply it in our life.

[Ahmarun Qalbi]

Three major points I have learnt from this book:-

(1) Sorrowful is a human being when losing a beloved one but to live a better life after losing them is necessary and not a fault. Not remember or remind about the memories with them doesnt mean you're being disloyal and do not force yourself to always be in their memories because it will detriment yourself.

(2) Have a feeling towards someone but never thought about being serious is just a useless thing. Do not waste your time with something that may lead you to be a sinner. If you wanna build a relationship, make it in the right way, or bear in mind that the after effect of broken heart may ruin yourself.

(3) The best way to heal is turning yourself to Allah S.W.T. by improving your "solah", increasing your "adhkar" and befriending with Quran.

[Wan Nor Hanifah Hidayah Hanifah Hidayah Wan Kamaruddin]

Life is not perfect and humans are not perfect too. It is imposible that we are ever going through life and never have times where we fall.

So in this book, we’ll learn about emotional first aid and how to come back after a broken heart.

The most essential ingredient for healing is turning to Allah.

You do not have to pretend to be strong. Just be completely real with Allah. Break down and cry.

The most common mistakes that we do during healing process are :
1. Negative cognition
2. Excessive self blame
3. Lack of closure or aceptance.

Etc.

Love yourselves and keep praying so that Allah will heal your heart.

[Wafi]

Alhamdulillah very basic knowledge share. Acknowledging the privilege I have of the information and knowledge I already obtained through other conduits of self-help Islamic values and ibadahs. Though, I did like the author’s use of analogies for some aspects of the book, such as the concept of viewing your side mirrors and front window while driving in reference to not dwelling in the past (not constantly looking at the side mirror) when you have a whole picture straigjt ahead to look forward to (looking ahead through the front window)

[Shafiyah Abdul]

May you find someone better to get on with your broken heart. Yet up until now, you find no one. So, if you can't find someone among the creation, fall in love with the Creator for He is better, incomparable to anything and anyone else. Besides, there are three prominent things that you must add to your daily life to heal your wounded heart:
1) Salah (oxygen)
2) Zikr (food and drink)
3) Al-Quran (healing)

[Hearts Lee]

Its a good book
BUT why does she keep saying 'this psychologist' and not mention the author she keeps referring her quotes to?
She mentions a few excerpt of the book but did not mention the name of the psychologist.

The first few chapters - is similar to the book 'how to fix a broken heart' but with a religious twist.

Hopefully you could mention and CREDIT the author that you keep quoting.

GUY WINCH.

[Lane]

Whenever you are in stress, depression or you lose something you value, people you love.. You will look for something or ways to help you overcome it. To ease you in facing those difficult times. Then read this book and let it help you by guiding you to that something or to that ways.

[Zahra Azam]

I dont have much thing to comment, but overall, reading this in january 2021 is making me ready and inshallah i have prepared myself a bit to confront with whatever that i need to go through this year.

[Muhammad Saqlain]

A very good read loaded with spiritual teachings in toto. Mogahed, the author weaves elegantly her mystically tinted ideas in a style characterized by simplicity,balance and rhythm. The book is a powerful outpouring of powerful religious and spiritual teachings.

[Syamimi Fatin]

This is marterpiece. One of the best spiritual book I've read. Habis baca tak sampai sehari, nipis ja but the content is sooo good! If u experience trauma in your life, loss or broken heart, this is for you ♥

Please aknowledge emotional pain just like physical pain.

[Nur Nadiah]

If you are not feeling great, this book is for you. I would love to read again when i feel lost with this life.

"Some things are not meant to be, and to accept that, will help us heal faster. It was not meant to be, and it was not good for us."

[Izzy Osman]

This really helped in my healing journey from heart break, and I feel like only now do I feel mature enough to accept the messages that the book has for me, about how people can be, the love we need to place in Allah, and the power of prayer to change our relationship with past relationships.

[Berry'S Bread]

Very direct, straight to the point and practical.
It tells you what to do.

[NOOR RAHIM]

small book with profound words.

[Raihan Sulaiman]

Good read, the author make the storyline based on the true story.

[Zh]

Inspired

[Fatinfarzanaa]

It is simple book but full of great impact words here. I can relate to a lot of what Yasmin Mogahed says in this book. If you are lost, you are tired and at the brink of giving up, remember that we have Allah to turn to. He is there, He will always be there

[Nelly Amelia]

im trying my best to collect all of Yasmin Mogahed books!! :)

[Waizury]

Easy to understand the messages and it brings lot of reminders as well.

[Mehboob Alam]

Good