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SM 101: A Realistic Introduction
Call it what you like - bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism. More and more people are experimenting with this exciting , consensual form of erotic play. SM 101 is your basic guidebook to safe rewarding SM. This book includes: finding partners, negotiating the scene you want, bondage techniques, spanking and whipping, erotic torture, role playing, related practices, physical and emotional safety. Must read book.
399 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 1992
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February 28, 2011
I started reading this book at a healthy pace, although since it's ten years old, the rules for finding like-minded sex partners have changed a lot. The safety guidelines were great and the sections about rope-typing somewhat interesting, but now I'm slogging through the sections about clamping various body parts because the idea grosses me out for some reason. This book is clearly not for the faint at heart, despite many reminders of how dated it is.
Best line so far: "Discovering the erotic possibilities of plastic wrap has made me Glad."
Best line so far: "Discovering the erotic possibilities of plastic wrap has made me Glad."
July 12, 2012
I can’t pinpoint it exactly, but for some reason I loved this book. It goes over a lot of information BDSMers already know, (hence the 101), but I found it was written in a way that I enjoyed revisiting the basics.
What you need to know before buying it:
■ In some ways it is wildly out of date. The first edition was released in 1992, and “the scene” has changed hugely since then…
■ …Because of one major thing: The Internet…
■ …My absolute favourite quote of the whole book (from the 1997 Internet Update section at the back):
■ I bought the Kindle version, and the transition from paper to digital hasn’t exactly gone smoothly. What I imagine are funny anecdotes that dot the pages of the paper book, have become bizarre out of place sentences that occasionally turn up in the middle of a chapter. And there’re some weird typos, but anybody with a decent grasp of English will be able to translate!
I saw one review complaining the information about some products (like lube) was now incorrect. I never bother with sections like that anyway, as it’s always US-specific, and I live on the other side of world.
Truly, what I loved best about SM 101 was the fact it was a little dated. To think it was that recently that the term BDSM wasn’t even used. Wiseman mentions the acronym at one point, in amongst a bunch of others that had “recently” been suggested as terms that could be used for the lifestyle. (That he mentions it as the one he likes best shows he is either a clever guy, or could see the future.)
The other thing I found fascinating was how bloody hard it was to find likeminded people back before the internet had taken over the world – especially for male Doms. Woo boy! There’re tips on setting up a PO Box for letters from prospective Doms to be sent to. There’re tips about what kind of bookshops to visit in order to find noticeboard advertisements for kink-oriented social events. There’s advice on what types of women you’re likely to find by placing print ads in sex magazines.
There was even a section telling you how to form your own BDSM community.
I was sitting there, shaking my head, and thinking, “Poor guys. Wait a few years and you’ll have FetLife!”
While this is fascinating in an out-of-date way, there is a lot of good information for people now too. The basics never change, and Wiseman knows his stuff. You’re not going to get a detailed education of the more experimental of fetishes, but the book covers everything you’ll ever need to know about protocols and popular toys, and basic bondage. There’s plenty about health concerns before, during and after scenes.
The most common criticism of the book (from the minority who dislike it) is how it can be preachy, and how there’re too many details about everything. I didn’t find that at all, but I also think that if it is the case, that would be because he wrote it in a time when people needed a book to tell them how things worked. Unless you were already in the BDSM community, how else were you going to learn the basics? There was no Google to rely on!
So – I can definitely see why the reviews for this book are becoming more and more mixed as the years go on, but I still found it to be a worthwhile read.
What you need to know before buying it:
■ In some ways it is wildly out of date. The first edition was released in 1992, and “the scene” has changed hugely since then…
■ …Because of one major thing: The Internet…
■ …My absolute favourite quote of the whole book (from the 1997 Internet Update section at the back):
“A third benefit is the ability to put up what’s called a “web page” that describes yourself, your interests, your company or other matters.”
■ I bought the Kindle version, and the transition from paper to digital hasn’t exactly gone smoothly. What I imagine are funny anecdotes that dot the pages of the paper book, have become bizarre out of place sentences that occasionally turn up in the middle of a chapter. And there’re some weird typos, but anybody with a decent grasp of English will be able to translate!
I saw one review complaining the information about some products (like lube) was now incorrect. I never bother with sections like that anyway, as it’s always US-specific, and I live on the other side of world.
Truly, what I loved best about SM 101 was the fact it was a little dated. To think it was that recently that the term BDSM wasn’t even used. Wiseman mentions the acronym at one point, in amongst a bunch of others that had “recently” been suggested as terms that could be used for the lifestyle. (That he mentions it as the one he likes best shows he is either a clever guy, or could see the future.)
The other thing I found fascinating was how bloody hard it was to find likeminded people back before the internet had taken over the world – especially for male Doms. Woo boy! There’re tips on setting up a PO Box for letters from prospective Doms to be sent to. There’re tips about what kind of bookshops to visit in order to find noticeboard advertisements for kink-oriented social events. There’s advice on what types of women you’re likely to find by placing print ads in sex magazines.
There was even a section telling you how to form your own BDSM community.
I was sitting there, shaking my head, and thinking, “Poor guys. Wait a few years and you’ll have FetLife!”
While this is fascinating in an out-of-date way, there is a lot of good information for people now too. The basics never change, and Wiseman knows his stuff. You’re not going to get a detailed education of the more experimental of fetishes, but the book covers everything you’ll ever need to know about protocols and popular toys, and basic bondage. There’s plenty about health concerns before, during and after scenes.
The most common criticism of the book (from the minority who dislike it) is how it can be preachy, and how there’re too many details about everything. I didn’t find that at all, but I also think that if it is the case, that would be because he wrote it in a time when people needed a book to tell them how things worked. Unless you were already in the BDSM community, how else were you going to learn the basics? There was no Google to rely on!
So – I can definitely see why the reviews for this book are becoming more and more mixed as the years go on, but I still found it to be a worthwhile read.
September 17, 2010
Highly recommended for beginners, the curious, or anyone interested in an aspect of SM that they have zero experience with. This is non-fiction, not erotic fiction. The book is basically a how-to safety manual while introducing some basic ideas and interests. The title says 'introduction' so take that to heart and do not read this if you have experience and then rate it low, as I am grateful for this book and wish more people were able to tackle the subject in such a way as Wiseman did here.
July 31, 2009
The stand by go to book for folks who are interested in safe, sane and consensual power exchange. Jay writes in an accessible voice that will have any reader feeling like they are spending an evening with a beloved uncle. Jay can get corny in parts but it is part of the charm of the book. It is best read as a self help book. Read it from cover to cover. Take what works for you and leave the rest.
February 26, 2017
Wiseman's years of experience come through as the strongest feature of this guidebook with excellent step-by-step breakdowns for novices. Unfortunately for me those sections are the minority in SM 101, with several pages devoted to his personal opinions on "the scene" (Which were personally not applicable to my life) and even more that present the purely "protocol"-style of BDSM as the default, or even only, style (Similarly inapplicable to my own sexual practices.) Given that this is 2nd edition was published in 1998 it's understandable that many recommended resources, suggestions for connecting with "the community" and even descriptions of "the community" are no longer applicable. For me SM 101 is a reference book for technical aspects of BDSM (the sections of interest I flagged would be more useful to me as standalone zines) and as a historical insight on the evolution of BDSM/Kink-centered communities.
February 24, 2013
Whilst reading about SM I discovered a whole pile of real trash - writers with mental health issues who should be in therapy, not in SM relationships! I also found a real lack of connection between partners - they the lacked emotional, spiritual or indeed physical intimacy required to make exploration of the SM scene anything more than a journey through mental illness and violent game playing.
As I read Jay Wiseman I get a sense that he, like other writers in this field, feel the need to repeat their message in different forms - are American readers of SM materials so lacking in sensibility that they need to have 'safe' language and terminology repeated to them ad nauseum? What Wiseman does, thus far is to lay out the foundations of SM 'for dummies'. I look forward to the end of his book.
As I read Jay Wiseman I get a sense that he, like other writers in this field, feel the need to repeat their message in different forms - are American readers of SM materials so lacking in sensibility that they need to have 'safe' language and terminology repeated to them ad nauseum? What Wiseman does, thus far is to lay out the foundations of SM 'for dummies'. I look forward to the end of his book.
June 22, 2013
Research for Screwing the System.
A very comprehensive primer in BDSM, the scene, and an introduction to the many varied way people might choose to play. This is strong on safety, and while some aspects might be a little dated now, it's still a great reference. Could have done with illustrations, but I loved the little quotes peppered throughout. Also, the writer has a sense of humour and includes anecdotes from his own experience, which really brings it all to life.
A very comprehensive primer in BDSM, the scene, and an introduction to the many varied way people might choose to play. This is strong on safety, and while some aspects might be a little dated now, it's still a great reference. Could have done with illustrations, but I loved the little quotes peppered throughout. Also, the writer has a sense of humour and includes anecdotes from his own experience, which really brings it all to life.
May 28, 2009
Very thorough. Covers some additional ground not covered by "Screw the Roses..." Author is very serious and has great concerns for safety.
November 29, 2023
I’m not even into SM but Jay is so refreshingly serious abt consent it’s like a breath of fresh air. This man is nothing if not thorough
But I will say to get to those parts you have to dive through chapter upon chapter of the safest ways to light someone on fire/the chemical composition of different gels/ guides on how post a good add in the phone book
So it’s a “do not recommend” for me but still give two thumbs up to old Jay
But I will say to get to those parts you have to dive through chapter upon chapter of the safest ways to light someone on fire/the chemical composition of different gels/ guides on how post a good add in the phone book
So it’s a “do not recommend” for me but still give two thumbs up to old Jay
April 4, 2015
Wiseman’s SM101 is a useful and comprehensive guide to the world of BDSM and D/s relationships anyway you slice it. It is useful for beginners because it details terminology, it details kneeling positions, differences between pet and slave - everything you were curious about, there’s probably a chapter in this generous 908 page book. Yup, that’s a hefty tome — and it rewards. It details anything from the basics to humiliation and how to keep it rewarding without offending.
Jay Wiseman’s been in the lifestyle for a good number of years, having works that were published in such magazines as Playboy. Wiseman details everything you’d ever want to know and throws in personal experiences to add weight to what he is talking about it. He writes with a welcoming tone that beginners will find relaxing and useful but I do have a problem with some of his ideals and this boils down to personal taste. I think he writes in a manner that dictates HIS opinion is the correct observation when dealing with certain things within the lifestyle.
Observe this line: Non-locking Collars do not, to my way of thinking, qualify as real slave collars. Some people disagree with me on this point. That’s all right. They can go on being wrong if they wish. (Wiseman, 1998, pg 611)
It’s sentences like these that rub me the wrong way. To me, this is a sentence that displays a certain snobbish attitude, a certain superiority that is misguided. I think if you are going to be writing a book for people, let alone wanting people to read it or buy it, I think maybe you should be a less biting in your delivery. But again, this is personal taste. I’m more forgiving, more flexible I think. I digress - let’s move on.
SM101 features 21 chapters, complete with a glossary that beginners will find handy and then appendixes that go into such topics as SM and the Internet. Should you read it? It can’t hurt to give it a try, but to me, it kind of goes against my own personal feelings so I am left with an odd taste in my mouth. To me, it lacks the warmth of other books I have read - such as Dominance & Submission: The BDSM relationship Handbook by Michael Makai or The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren. SM101 is informative and certainly helped me but at the same time, it’s prose left me somewhat annoyed.
Jay Wiseman’s been in the lifestyle for a good number of years, having works that were published in such magazines as Playboy. Wiseman details everything you’d ever want to know and throws in personal experiences to add weight to what he is talking about it. He writes with a welcoming tone that beginners will find relaxing and useful but I do have a problem with some of his ideals and this boils down to personal taste. I think he writes in a manner that dictates HIS opinion is the correct observation when dealing with certain things within the lifestyle.
Observe this line: Non-locking Collars do not, to my way of thinking, qualify as real slave collars. Some people disagree with me on this point. That’s all right. They can go on being wrong if they wish. (Wiseman, 1998, pg 611)
It’s sentences like these that rub me the wrong way. To me, this is a sentence that displays a certain snobbish attitude, a certain superiority that is misguided. I think if you are going to be writing a book for people, let alone wanting people to read it or buy it, I think maybe you should be a less biting in your delivery. But again, this is personal taste. I’m more forgiving, more flexible I think. I digress - let’s move on.
SM101 features 21 chapters, complete with a glossary that beginners will find handy and then appendixes that go into such topics as SM and the Internet. Should you read it? It can’t hurt to give it a try, but to me, it kind of goes against my own personal feelings so I am left with an odd taste in my mouth. To me, it lacks the warmth of other books I have read - such as Dominance & Submission: The BDSM relationship Handbook by Michael Makai or The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren. SM101 is informative and certainly helped me but at the same time, it’s prose left me somewhat annoyed.
September 7, 2014
Interesting book.
I decided to read it because this is said to be a milestone in BDSM literature. However, I thought it would focus more on the psychological aspects of BDSM or that it would explore the depths of it, but it doesn't. It does, instead, focus on a matter which was (and is), actually, the first thing which should be presented to a BDSM novice: safety.
So, this is not a particularly entertaining book. It is, actually, pretty tedious - and even a bit repetitive, it stresses very much on certain topics - but it succeeds in doing what it says in its title: introduce you to the world of BDSM.
It explains how the "scene" is and how it was born, what parties are and what they're like, how you are expected to behave there, how to find organizations (in a really, really outdated way, which from a certain point of view makes the book more worth reading), gives an exquisitely complete list of types of play and related practices (always focusing on the safety aspect more than everything) and provides some basic (really basic) knowledge on basic techniques.
But it doesn't end here, because what isn't found in the most part of the book is found elsewhere, behind references: in fact, in the last pages, there's a huge list of recommended readings, which makes you think about how much there is to say about this topic and why it isn't all here.
But all responsible play starts from knowing how to do it safely. Read this book and you will be ready for this (and there are more possible troubles than you might think!)
I decided to read it because this is said to be a milestone in BDSM literature. However, I thought it would focus more on the psychological aspects of BDSM or that it would explore the depths of it, but it doesn't. It does, instead, focus on a matter which was (and is), actually, the first thing which should be presented to a BDSM novice: safety.
So, this is not a particularly entertaining book. It is, actually, pretty tedious - and even a bit repetitive, it stresses very much on certain topics - but it succeeds in doing what it says in its title: introduce you to the world of BDSM.
It explains how the "scene" is and how it was born, what parties are and what they're like, how you are expected to behave there, how to find organizations (in a really, really outdated way, which from a certain point of view makes the book more worth reading), gives an exquisitely complete list of types of play and related practices (always focusing on the safety aspect more than everything) and provides some basic (really basic) knowledge on basic techniques.
But it doesn't end here, because what isn't found in the most part of the book is found elsewhere, behind references: in fact, in the last pages, there's a huge list of recommended readings, which makes you think about how much there is to say about this topic and why it isn't all here.
But all responsible play starts from knowing how to do it safely. Read this book and you will be ready for this (and there are more possible troubles than you might think!)
March 23, 2013
Read this one from cover to cover. Very informative and definitely worth the read for newbies.
Jay advocates SSC & places a lot of focus on safety in every section, explaining what precautions to take and what to do if something does go wrong. Contains lot of info on how to be a "responsible Dom".
Learned a LOT, got some great ideas and highlighted a few sections I would like to refer to again.
Rope bondage section could definitely do with more illustrations: I couldn't figure out some of those knots from a single drawing, but I suppose this is a 101 book. This book does contain references to further reading material on most of the topics discussed.
I agree that some areas of this book are a bit dated, although that didn't detract from the reading experience at all. Basics are still basics and the internet is there to find out the rest (more resources, communities around you, etc).
Jay advocates SSC & places a lot of focus on safety in every section, explaining what precautions to take and what to do if something does go wrong. Contains lot of info on how to be a "responsible Dom".
Learned a LOT, got some great ideas and highlighted a few sections I would like to refer to again.
Rope bondage section could definitely do with more illustrations: I couldn't figure out some of those knots from a single drawing, but I suppose this is a 101 book. This book does contain references to further reading material on most of the topics discussed.
I agree that some areas of this book are a bit dated, although that didn't detract from the reading experience at all. Basics are still basics and the internet is there to find out the rest (more resources, communities around you, etc).
April 6, 2013
I rated this edition as 5-star (and the newer edition as 4-star) simply because this is the one I first read...well, pored over, really. So it is literally true that this was amazing to me, while I really liked the second edition.
To be clear: You should buy the printed (2nd) edition, because it's bigger, newer, and actually available in stores, but this is my sentimental favorite, because it's where I started.
Yes, there are much more specialized guides to particular techniques, to types of relationships, to sub-facets of the BDSM world. But really, if you're new to the scene, I think anybody, top/bottom, dom/sub, whatever, should start here, then get Miller & Devon's Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns. Once you've got those under your hat, you're actually ready for 95+% of anything likely to come up in your first few years of exploration.
To be clear: You should buy the printed (2nd) edition, because it's bigger, newer, and actually available in stores, but this is my sentimental favorite, because it's where I started.
Yes, there are much more specialized guides to particular techniques, to types of relationships, to sub-facets of the BDSM world. But really, if you're new to the scene, I think anybody, top/bottom, dom/sub, whatever, should start here, then get Miller & Devon's Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns. Once you've got those under your hat, you're actually ready for 95+% of anything likely to come up in your first few years of exploration.
December 17, 2018
This book is in dire need of an update. Not just because of the outdated references but because of how the world, and the community, views gender, sexuality and interpersonal relations. I understand that given the timing of original publication the world viewed BDSM differently than it does post 50 Shades, but the author's POV regarding feminism and it relationship to kink is almost painful to read.
There is relevant information in this book, particularly many things that folks would consider to be "common sense", but the book is almost painfully out of date and hard to read through to get to that information.
Side note, the Kindle version of this book is almost unreadable due to spelling and grammar errors. I had a friend cross reference the issues I had with their physical copy and the errors were not present in the physical text.
There is relevant information in this book, particularly many things that folks would consider to be "common sense", but the book is almost painfully out of date and hard to read through to get to that information.
Side note, the Kindle version of this book is almost unreadable due to spelling and grammar errors. I had a friend cross reference the issues I had with their physical copy and the errors were not present in the physical text.
February 13, 2014
I read this while stranded in an airport, waiting for my delayed flight to come in. I deeply enjoyed the looks I got from people around me when I read the pages with illustrations.
Very good as a technical manual. The safety recommendations put the fear of God into me. It was really good to get an EMT's (and a top's) perspective on how to kink safely. I also liked his whole checklist of things to negotiate before a scene.
Overall, though, I think it compares unfavorably to The New Topping Book as an intro for new kinksters. It doesn't go as far into why people do kink or the right frame of mind for going into a scene.
Very good as a technical manual. The safety recommendations put the fear of God into me. It was really good to get an EMT's (and a top's) perspective on how to kink safely. I also liked his whole checklist of things to negotiate before a scene.
Overall, though, I think it compares unfavorably to The New Topping Book as an intro for new kinksters. It doesn't go as far into why people do kink or the right frame of mind for going into a scene.
December 31, 2013
As a therapist who works with the kink community, I think it's my responsibility to understand the basics of BDSM, and someone recommended that this book would be a great starting point. The topic really doesn't hold any interest for me personally, and in fact I skimmed some sections. (I will never need to know how to hog-tie someone, for example.) But this book was chock full of basic information that I think will be enormously beneficial as I continue to work with clients.
This book is a great overview for someone starting out with BDSM, and I think that I'll recommend this book to clients in the future. It does a good job of combining logistics with safety considerations, including everything from safe words to silent alarms. An excellent resource, and I'm very glad I read it.
This book is a great overview for someone starting out with BDSM, and I think that I'll recommend this book to clients in the future. It does a good job of combining logistics with safety considerations, including everything from safe words to silent alarms. An excellent resource, and I'm very glad I read it.
August 30, 2011
i am currently researching sex guides for a writing project of my own called sex for boys - sex positive guide for young men (there seems to be lots of books out there for girls, but not for boys - and there are countless other reasons for writing this that i won't go into here) ...
this is a well written book - perhaps because of its thorny subject matter, it takes an objective approach - s&m practices are laid out clearly and the books is organized by sex toys and their uses. apart from the introduction, there isn't a lot of socio-cultural philosophy dolled out here. instead, the tone is appropriately non-biased.
this is a well written book - perhaps because of its thorny subject matter, it takes an objective approach - s&m practices are laid out clearly and the books is organized by sex toys and their uses. apart from the introduction, there isn't a lot of socio-cultural philosophy dolled out here. instead, the tone is appropriately non-biased.
January 18, 2018
Albeit I did pick up a few things from this book I found it to be outdated on many levels. Also, I did find information that is completely and dangerously wrong about nonoxynol-9. Wiseman claims nonoxynol-9 can kill bugs that cause AIDS and other STD’s. Au contraire!!! Nonoxynol-9 can even facilitate HIV infection.
I know this is more a personal appreciation but I did find the author often pedantic.
It is clear he thinks very highly of himself.
I can’t say I recommend this book but I did get a few minor tips.
I know this is more a personal appreciation but I did find the author often pedantic.
It is clear he thinks very highly of himself.
I can’t say I recommend this book but I did get a few minor tips.
July 3, 2009
A little dry, but well-organized, and a great overview of the BDSM lifestyle. It is very aptly titled. There are a few instances where Wiseman gets a bit preachy -- for example, breathplay definitely has the capacity for being very dangerous, but it can be perfectly safe, too. Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and Judo practitioners choke each other to unconsciousness in tournaments regularly, with no known ill effects.
April 13, 2013
ugg. long and dry. needed book. its a classic that is often referred to. read every word in this book once. hopefully very early on in your bdsm exploration.
it introduces (as a 101 should) many different topics, some are very outdated, some will be around a long time unchanged.
jay is better in person than this book reads. maybe its the many years of presenting these (and other) topics.
good reference book.
it introduces (as a 101 should) many different topics, some are very outdated, some will be around a long time unchanged.
jay is better in person than this book reads. maybe its the many years of presenting these (and other) topics.
good reference book.
October 21, 2014
Fantastic read. I already read a good deal about bdsm and a lot of the information wasn't new to me. But there were many things that I hadn't read or that I didn't think of before, that are crucial to know.
This book does focus on SM. One of my primary interests in bdsm is dominance and submission, bondage and discipline (especially this).
I will be looking elsewhere for books focusing on these things.
This book does have robe diagrams and how-to's but doesn't cover discipline.
This book does focus on SM. One of my primary interests in bdsm is dominance and submission, bondage and discipline (especially this).
I will be looking elsewhere for books focusing on these things.
This book does have robe diagrams and how-to's but doesn't cover discipline.
November 15, 2015
As it was written 20 years ago, some of the information is dated, but the fundamentals of the power exchange dynamic are still sound.
Written in straightforward language, this book is a must-read for both those new to BDSM and more experienced practitioners. The book isn't just about techniques, it also explores the "why" of BDSM. The frequent reminders about safety and consent are good and have helped shaped the landscape of BDSM play even today.
September 15, 2012
This was the first book I was "assigned" by a former partner when first discussing BDSM. I found it to be extremely informative and accurately named, very much a good 101-type book. Covers basics of common concerns, pre-engagement basics, consent, various practices, etc... I sometimes, find myself thumbing through this book on occasion to this day.
November 16, 2012
Absolutely phenomenal book for those new to BDSM. I've recommended it several times to people who are just learning about the world of Kink. I refer to it often and keep a copy near the bed for how-to's and refreshers. It's more of a textbook than anything else but it reads like a novel! Love, love, LOVE this book!!
October 21, 2014
Really, this is an essential for anyone with less-than-vanilla predilections.
Wiseman has given us a fantastic primer for all things S&M; one that's not too squicky, or too vague. This is a great book to pass on to a lover with questions pertaining to SM play - especially if you underline key passages in pencil before sharing. ;)
Wiseman has given us a fantastic primer for all things S&M; one that's not too squicky, or too vague. This is a great book to pass on to a lover with questions pertaining to SM play - especially if you underline key passages in pencil before sharing. ;)
June 29, 2007
an excellent, well-written and lucid introduction to a subject that makes many people squirm for no good reason. if you are even remotely interested in SM, alternative relationships, or in sex education, pick this up and read it.
October 27, 2007
The author reminded me of someone I knew in college. Someone whose kinky little paws never would have been allowed within 10 feet of me! What should have been a titillating read was, well, not so much.
June 21, 2008
An awesome book for people who have an interest in trying BDSM with safety in mind. Seems to be written for couples, not pros.
It doesn't go into too much detail, but a good introductory overview to the most common interests and issues.
It doesn't go into too much detail, but a good introductory overview to the most common interests and issues.
August 7, 2013
I became fascinated with the BDSM and D/s lifestyle when I started reading erotica and wanted to know more about it. This book gave me a better understanding about the lifestyle and was full of information.
October 6, 2016
Sensible and informative approach to a taboo topic
In today's LGBT friendly world there is still not a lot of information on alternative sexualities, this book is an excellent primer.
In today's LGBT friendly world there is still not a lot of information on alternative sexualities, this book is an excellent primer.
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