Love Slows Down: How to Keep Anger and Anxiety from Ruining Life's Relationships

by Joel Malm

Anger. Anxiety. Frustration. Worry.

We’ve all felt the power of these emotions, and lived to regret the speed with which we spoke from, or even acted on them.

We know we need to slow down and calm down before that torrent of emotion sweeps us away—but how?

What if you could understand those feelings better? Not ignore them or stuff them down, but actually harness their power to improve your relationships?

That’s the journey Joël Malm will take you on in Love Slows Down . Whether you’re feeling the constant weight of worry, flashes of fury, or the exhaustion of always being on edge, there is a way to understand what triggers your emotions and put the brakes on. You can slow down and respond with love.

Genres: Christianity, Nonfiction

224 pages, Paperback

Published September 1, 2020

Reviews

[Mike Shaw · Rating 5 out of 5]

Did the audio book.

Lots of good, basic wisdom. Highly recommend.

Love the stories that the author uses to make his points. Love that the author explains that all of the lessons he learned the hard way.

We so easily forget and lose our perspective. This helped me in many areas.

[Gabie Jass · Rating 5 out of 5]

Absolutely loved this book! I first discovered it as a short devotional in the Bible app and loved it, so when I realized it was from a book I knew I wanted to read it. I never wanted it to be over! I have so much highlighted and dog eared pages that I will definitely be going back to. Highly highly highly recommend this book!

[Matt Elder · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book from a Christian perspective over a myriad of topics to live a happier, more joyful life!

[Shameka · Rating 5 out of 5]

Life changing read!!!

The book is insightful, simple, and relatable! The author is spot on in his approach to dealing with anger. I read this book slowly over a few months and I could feel myself growing more peaceful with each turn of the page. Thank you, God for bringing this book into my life!!!

[Emmanuelle Hellman · Rating 4 out of 5]

Lots of hiking but also lots of insights

I really liked the vulnerability of the author. I loved the practical tips and nuggets of truth. I did get tired of the hiking anecdotes but my husband liked them, so it is just a matter of preference. Some of the paragraphs felt a bit repetitive within the same chapter.

It is a good book with a ton to absorb. I'd recommend reading it once and then going back for reference. I read it as part of a study group at my base chapel and I honestly feel like I have forgotten a lot already because of the amount of information. This is why I feel this a good reference to return to after reading it through.

[Cam Marshall Film · Rating 4 out of 5]

I bought this book because I struggled with processing my emotions in real time. I say things I don’t mean, I get angry and I let my emotions guide my thinking too often. Love slows down was the first book I’ve read where they address why that’s the case and how I can slowing down can take my emotions and use them for my benefit. This book helped me see the root of me being angry is about change, control, connection or security. I’m not angry for no reason I’m angry because I care about something and I don’t feel like im receiving what I should. If that’s the case how do you process that angry and give a better less emotional amped up reaction? Answer slow down and think before you react.

[Kimberly Patton · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really enjoyed this book by an adventure-junkie. Loves his personal stories, vulnerability and humility to grow through struggles. It was so well-written and packed with truths that have already helped me. I enjoyed getting to know him through the process!

[John Dembeck · Rating 4 out of 5]

A good perspective on managing anger and expectations.

[Victoria · Rating 4 out of 5]

A bit simple but still a good reminder.

[Darlene Tate · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent author! Easy to read, very insightful and helpful. I recommend this book to everyone!

[Heather Warriner · Rating 5 out of 5]

There is so much good to soak up from this book. I am definitely going to revisit this with a second listen... taking notes the next time around!

[Howard Marcalle · Rating 4 out of 5]

I will re-read this one. Insight on what causes anger and how to control it.

[Claire · Rating 5 out of 5]

This one's staying on my shelf for reference purposes! 🤣 A Great read and a big help!

[Kenia Dutra · Rating 5 out of 5]

I picked up this book as I was struggling with anger but ended up gaining so much more than that. Amazing!

[Charles Reed · Rating 4 out of 5]

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This is a good book, misleading though. Because it's not really about love, it's about finding a way of calming yourself and being okay with the way your life is going.

[Charles M · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent!

This book offers a lot of excellent insights. I will be re-reading this book many times and highly recommend it!

[Seth Tibbs]

Joel is a very practical author. This book lays out actionable steps that the reader can take to evaluate the source of their anger and process it in a loving way (not just "I shouldn't be angry because..."). He also lays out his own experiences in an up-front manner (he doesn't hide that he still struggles with anger) and doesn't hide the work it takes to address our anger and anxiety. He avoids giving overly-general advice and instead opts for very small, intentional steps that can be implemented as soon as the reader finishes each chapter/section.