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Narcissistic Ex: How to Get Over a Toxic Relationship, Deal With an Abusive Ex and Become Free of the Controlling Sociopath
Narcissistic abuse is a form of abuse that ensures victims are left emotionally drained, mentally exhausted, and devoid of any self-worth or self-esteem. I was a victim of a malignant narcissist for seven years of my life, and I know just how crushing it is to live such an abusive and suppressed life. The helplessness and detachment from reality that comes with narcissistic abuse are enough to keep you in the tight grip of the abuser for as long as they choose.
However, I eventually found the courage to leave my abuser, but it didn’t end there. As you may know, ending a relationship with a narcissist isn’t that easy - even if it was the narc who did the breaking up, they don't just ‘let you go’ - they try to make sure you’ll go through hell before you get one over on them.
In this book, I want to offer you some guidance on this rarely-talked about aspect of an abusive relationship: how to deal with a narcissist when they’re your ex. The chapter list is as follows:
Why you shouldn’t go back and why you need to move on
Why you need to go ‘no contact’ and ways you can do this
How to stop missing your abuser
Understanding and dealing with ‘hoovering’ after a break-up
Narcissistic stalking
How to deal with ‘flying monkeys’
Survivor stories from two former narcissistic abuse victims
Throughout the book, I also offer some of my own story too, in the hopes that this offers you a sense of familiarity. You’ll likely find that thing things I went through are very similar to your own experiences, and the purpose of this book is to get you to the point where I’m currently at: healed and thriving.
However, I eventually found the courage to leave my abuser, but it didn’t end there. As you may know, ending a relationship with a narcissist isn’t that easy - even if it was the narc who did the breaking up, they don't just ‘let you go’ - they try to make sure you’ll go through hell before you get one over on them.
In this book, I want to offer you some guidance on this rarely-talked about aspect of an abusive relationship: how to deal with a narcissist when they’re your ex. The chapter list is as follows:
Why you shouldn’t go back and why you need to move on
Why you need to go ‘no contact’ and ways you can do this
How to stop missing your abuser
Understanding and dealing with ‘hoovering’ after a break-up
Narcissistic stalking
How to deal with ‘flying monkeys’
Survivor stories from two former narcissistic abuse victims
Throughout the book, I also offer some of my own story too, in the hopes that this offers you a sense of familiarity. You’ll likely find that thing things I went through are very similar to your own experiences, and the purpose of this book is to get you to the point where I’m currently at: healed and thriving.
98 pages, Kindle Edition
First published June 21, 2019
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July 31, 2025
Absolutely helpful to anyone who has experienced the nightmare of being involved with a narcissist.
November 6, 2019
The insights presented in this book are valuable. However, if you have already consumed a lot of resources about narcissism, which most victims of these vile people have done, you may already know where this is leading. I was hoping it would provide more practical tools when it comes to coping and healing. It's mostly about the no-contact rule, which is quite clear already even in articles you find online and support groups. I wish it had more steps on healing. But overall, it's still a good reminder or refresher. Might be good for those who are freshly introduced to this mindfuckery that is narcissistic abuse.
August 28, 2020
A must read for those in or just left abusive relationships
Brilliant easy read. I read this having just left an abusive relationship and benefited me no end, questions I had were answered and things made sense that I could not understand.. Thank you Lauren.. you helped me along with recovery x
Brilliant easy read. I read this having just left an abusive relationship and benefited me no end, questions I had were answered and things made sense that I could not understand.. Thank you Lauren.. you helped me along with recovery x
September 13, 2020
This really helped me when I was feeling very low
One week into separating from a very controlling partner- I was feeling a bit guilty and lonely. This book really helped me put everything into focus and lifted my spirits.
One week into separating from a very controlling partner- I was feeling a bit guilty and lonely. This book really helped me put everything into focus and lifted my spirits.
March 22, 2020
I found that I had a lot of tendencies described in the book. But what about the man’s point of view. Abuse happens from both genders. It’s super convenient to lean to what you know. I left an abusive relationship. I had to get out. Yet I was always the one being accused of narcissism. I barely knew what the word meant. Yes, once again, I have some the tendencies. But sometimes when both are narcissistic. It’s hard to see who is at fault. Try to explain that.
July 24, 2022
Highly Recommend this Book
The more we are made aware of and educated about narcissistic abuse the easier it will be to identify the behaviours from the beginning. This book provides first hand experience from a person who has survived and moved on.
The more we are made aware of and educated about narcissistic abuse the easier it will be to identify the behaviours from the beginning. This book provides first hand experience from a person who has survived and moved on.
April 5, 2022
10 out of 5,okay???
September 28, 2023
Good book and gives a lot of good advice. Will help if u have been with a narcissist or think u are with one. Very good. Would recommend
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