The punitive system of discipline is the norm in our society. When people act out, we punish them. But rather than changing the offender's behavior, these punishments further disconnect teachers from students, parents from children, managers from employees and individuals from communities. In The Restorative Journey, Dr. Malik Muhammad introduces us to a different Restorative Practices. This framework helps us respond to wrong-doing in ways that restore relationships between those that cause harm and their community, offer healing to those who were injured, and lead to lasting behavior change. In clear and readable prose, Dr. Muhammad explains key aspects of Restorative Practices, including emotional vocabulary, restorative questions, and restorative circles. Ideal for educators, managers, community leaders and parents, this book will start you on a journey that transforms your approach to authority, discipline and community-building.
Malik does a great job of teaching how to use Restorative practices to lead people. His work recognizes that you have little influence when you are not in community with others and in or to be a change agent of the heart you must connect before you can challenge. Non-profits, political organizations, schools and business could learn a lot from this process to improve belonging, adherence to standards and strengthen communities.
I appreciated the author's lens on the IIRP teachings and hearing his own story and journey with restorative practices. We may differ on how we view affect script psychology but I totally understand where he's coming from. I liked his adaptation of the social discipline window as I've been thinking myself about language that will work better in my work.