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O Homem que eu Penso Conhecer
This is the stunning new novel from bestselling author Mike Gayle, for fans of The Keeper of Lost Things and Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine. A powerful and bittersweet story of an unexpected male friendship and an unlikely love story, a thought provoking storyline told with Mike's distinctive wit and insight, touching on issues which affect us all. This uplifting tale reminds us of the simple courage at the heart of every human being.
Ever since The Incident, James DeWitt has stayed on the safe side.
He likes to know what happens next.
Danny Allen is not on the safe side. He is more past the point of no return.
The past is about to catch up with both of them in a way that which will change their lives forever, unexpectedly.
But redemption can come in the most unlikely ways.
Ever since The Incident, James DeWitt has stayed on the safe side.
He likes to know what happens next.
Danny Allen is not on the safe side. He is more past the point of no return.
The past is about to catch up with both of them in a way that which will change their lives forever, unexpectedly.
But redemption can come in the most unlikely ways.
360 pages, Paperback
First published April 19, 2018
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About the author
Mike Gayle
38 books2,264 followersI was born in the 70s — the 70s were great. I would recommend them to anyone.
I was also born in Birmingham — in my humble opinion the greatest city in the world with the nicest people too.
I used to live in London — a great city too. But a bit on the pricey side.
I also used to live in Manchester — another great city (although technically I lived in Salford which is next door but that’s sort of splitting hairs).
Before I went to university I wanted to be a social worker — I have no idea why. It didn’t last long.
After I left university I wanted to write for the NME — I’ve always loved music but it was only when I went to uni that it started loving me back. I can’t play any instruments or sing so writing about music seemed to make sense.
My first paid writing gig was for a listings magazine in Birmingham — (Actually my first unpaid writing gig was an interview with Kitchens of Distinction for Salford Student Magazine. I can’t begin to tell you how terrible it was.)
I used to write a music fanzine — it was called Incredibly Inedible and I co-edited it with my mate Jackie. We typed up the first issue on my dad’s olde worlde typewriter and then literally cut and paste on to A4 sheets using scissors and glue. Over the three years of its existence we interviewed many bands and artists including: Smashing Pumpkins, The Cranberries, Pavement, Bill Hicks and Blur.
I was also born in Birmingham — in my humble opinion the greatest city in the world with the nicest people too.
I used to live in London — a great city too. But a bit on the pricey side.
I also used to live in Manchester — another great city (although technically I lived in Salford which is next door but that’s sort of splitting hairs).
Before I went to university I wanted to be a social worker — I have no idea why. It didn’t last long.
After I left university I wanted to write for the NME — I’ve always loved music but it was only when I went to uni that it started loving me back. I can’t play any instruments or sing so writing about music seemed to make sense.
My first paid writing gig was for a listings magazine in Birmingham — (Actually my first unpaid writing gig was an interview with Kitchens of Distinction for Salford Student Magazine. I can’t begin to tell you how terrible it was.)
I used to write a music fanzine — it was called Incredibly Inedible and I co-edited it with my mate Jackie. We typed up the first issue on my dad’s olde worlde typewriter and then literally cut and paste on to A4 sheets using scissors and glue. Over the three years of its existence we interviewed many bands and artists including: Smashing Pumpkins, The Cranberries, Pavement, Bill Hicks and Blur.
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August 19, 2020
3.5 Stars
A really lovely read, the sort of book that restores your faith in humanity. The Man I Think I Know is a story of male friendship and challenges with lovely snatches of humor and emotion.
I needed something bright and breezy, uplighting and tender and this is the sort of novel that ticks all those boxes.
Ever since The Incident, James DeWitt has stayed on the safe side, He likes to live his life by knowing what comes next. Danny Allen is hiding from his past and has pretty much giving up on life and all it has to offer. When they both cross paths their lives takes twists and turns that they both were least expecting.
I loved the characters of James and Danny, their stories are compelling right from the first chapter and you just want the best for both of them and this is what makes this story so compelling.
A feel good novel and sure I could pick holes in the plot and talk about how contrived the ending was but this is a book that makes you feel good and gives you a warm fuzzy feeling about life and for that I am grateful for the read.
I listened to this one on audible as well as reading on my Kindle and it was an enjoyable and entertaining read and I have already downloaded another book by this author called Half a World Away
A really lovely read, the sort of book that restores your faith in humanity. The Man I Think I Know is a story of male friendship and challenges with lovely snatches of humor and emotion.
I needed something bright and breezy, uplighting and tender and this is the sort of novel that ticks all those boxes.
Ever since The Incident, James DeWitt has stayed on the safe side, He likes to live his life by knowing what comes next. Danny Allen is hiding from his past and has pretty much giving up on life and all it has to offer. When they both cross paths their lives takes twists and turns that they both were least expecting.
I loved the characters of James and Danny, their stories are compelling right from the first chapter and you just want the best for both of them and this is what makes this story so compelling.
A feel good novel and sure I could pick holes in the plot and talk about how contrived the ending was but this is a book that makes you feel good and gives you a warm fuzzy feeling about life and for that I am grateful for the read.
I listened to this one on audible as well as reading on my Kindle and it was an enjoyable and entertaining read and I have already downloaded another book by this author called Half a World Away
September 29, 2018
The Man I Think I know by Mike Gayle is the first book ever to have brought me to tears. I think because it hit too close to home with me. Early on I could see some of my lost self in Danny; then I found out how James suffered his brain damage and it hit me hard. It hit me very hard having had the same thing happen to me in 2001 but with different consequences. Everybody has told me how lucky I was but for some reason, I have never felt lucky about surviving. My mind used to tell me I wasn't meant to survive, and on occasions it still does.
Things can happen in our lives that can change our whole being. Who we are now and who we were meant to be. For James and Danny, this was exactly the case. Two young men coming head on to help each other confront two very different tragedies. If the pair had not met by chance and a change of circumstances in their home lives they would never have met and their lives would have remained the same.
Destiny! Does it play a part in our lives? It certainly does for these two.
Two brilliantly written characters: Danny, who starts off looking like a tragic case of 'What's the point of it all? Why bother working when I can just sit on the sofa watching tv? There is nothing out there in the world I want or need.' Danny though hides a past of high intellect and family tragedy.
Then there is James, who suffered a brain injury after being hit from behind while out celebrating being elected as an MP. Two men who were destined for great things derailed by the actions of others.
When I first started reading the way the Character of James was written I thought, Hmm! I don't know if I can be dealing with what seemed like awkward writing making for awkward reading. I couldn't have been more wrong. A new voice in my head took on the role of James in the book. I put that down to superb writing.
Mike Gayle has done an amazing job here. He shows how so many peoples lives can be affected by any single incident.
It doesn't necessarily take a bad man to commit an action that can have serious repercussions to many: it can just take a good man making a bad decision. There are many touching and heartfelt moments in this novel. I personally loved It.
I could see parts of myself in both characters, not the clever parts but elements of their lives and minds trying to come to terms with and deal with unexpected tragic events that can occur throughout life. I loved it and could see myself taking on a role if it's ever turned into a movie or television drama. Wink Wink! Right, where's that number for acting lessons?
No, in all honesty, you should read The Man I Think I Know. Awesome work Mr. Gayle.
Things can happen in our lives that can change our whole being. Who we are now and who we were meant to be. For James and Danny, this was exactly the case. Two young men coming head on to help each other confront two very different tragedies. If the pair had not met by chance and a change of circumstances in their home lives they would never have met and their lives would have remained the same.
Destiny! Does it play a part in our lives? It certainly does for these two.
Two brilliantly written characters: Danny, who starts off looking like a tragic case of 'What's the point of it all? Why bother working when I can just sit on the sofa watching tv? There is nothing out there in the world I want or need.' Danny though hides a past of high intellect and family tragedy.
Then there is James, who suffered a brain injury after being hit from behind while out celebrating being elected as an MP. Two men who were destined for great things derailed by the actions of others.
When I first started reading the way the Character of James was written I thought, Hmm! I don't know if I can be dealing with what seemed like awkward writing making for awkward reading. I couldn't have been more wrong. A new voice in my head took on the role of James in the book. I put that down to superb writing.
Mike Gayle has done an amazing job here. He shows how so many peoples lives can be affected by any single incident.
It doesn't necessarily take a bad man to commit an action that can have serious repercussions to many: it can just take a good man making a bad decision. There are many touching and heartfelt moments in this novel. I personally loved It.
I could see parts of myself in both characters, not the clever parts but elements of their lives and minds trying to come to terms with and deal with unexpected tragic events that can occur throughout life. I loved it and could see myself taking on a role if it's ever turned into a movie or television drama. Wink Wink! Right, where's that number for acting lessons?
No, in all honesty, you should read The Man I Think I Know. Awesome work Mr. Gayle.
March 12, 2020
J&D ou o Poder da Amizade
No Passado:
J. e D. frequentaram a mesma escola. Não uma escola qualquer, mas uma daquelas para onde vão os filhos dos ricos e famosos. Eram ambos brilhantes e deles esperava-se quase tudo...
No Presente:
J teve um Incidente que lhe truncou a vida. Podia ter sido deputado, podia ter feito belos discursos,... mas nada disso aconteceu, e é agora um ser dependente que detesta que a mãe lhe corte a comida em pedacinhos, pois ao menos isso... ao menos isso, ele ainda é capaz de fazer!...
D está desmotivado com a vida e viu-se compelido a abandonar um estado de intensa abulia com receio que a namorada o deixasse. Está agora a trabalhar num lar onde se cruza com J que o reconhece imediatamente
Que futuro lhes reserva esta surpresa do destino?...
“O Homem que eu penso Conhecer” é um livro tocante que aborda os múltiplos efeitos benéficos da amizade.
Leiam... que o coração agradece! 💖
No Passado:
J. e D. frequentaram a mesma escola. Não uma escola qualquer, mas uma daquelas para onde vão os filhos dos ricos e famosos. Eram ambos brilhantes e deles esperava-se quase tudo...
No Presente:
J teve um Incidente que lhe truncou a vida. Podia ter sido deputado, podia ter feito belos discursos,... mas nada disso aconteceu, e é agora um ser dependente que detesta que a mãe lhe corte a comida em pedacinhos, pois ao menos isso... ao menos isso, ele ainda é capaz de fazer!...
D está desmotivado com a vida e viu-se compelido a abandonar um estado de intensa abulia com receio que a namorada o deixasse. Está agora a trabalhar num lar onde se cruza com J que o reconhece imediatamente
Que futuro lhes reserva esta surpresa do destino?...
“O Homem que eu penso Conhecer” é um livro tocante que aborda os múltiplos efeitos benéficos da amizade.
Leiam... que o coração agradece! 💖
March 27, 2018
Really no idea about to review this as the specifics that make James and Danny such special characters are best discovered by the reader. I truly believe going into this book with no preconceptions or thoughts as to what greatness would lie between its pages was the best way forward as anything else would have spoilt the surprise.
I have always enjoyed Mike Gayle's writing but although this does feature male friendship this a book that is sweet, heartwarming, and talks of new chances and two characters who really do experience huge personal growth as the story progresses.
Although they don't realise it at first both Danny and James really need each other in their lives, and they both think they are helping the other. It is not the most likely of fledgling friendships how it begins, especially once you know both mens startin circumstances,
What I am delighted to be able to say was that I was gripped and moved by the story, I just wanted more and more of these two remarkable young men and their stories. The book alternates viewpoints between James and Danny and I loved getting to know both of them on many levels.
This book felt very different to the majority of the others I've read by Mike Gayle and if this is the new direction he is taking his writing, then I can only applaud him. The Man I Think I Know is a remarkable book that I wish could have continued for longer.
Thank you to Netgalley and Hodder & Stoughton for this copy which I have reviewed honestly and voluntarily.
I have always enjoyed Mike Gayle's writing but although this does feature male friendship this a book that is sweet, heartwarming, and talks of new chances and two characters who really do experience huge personal growth as the story progresses.
Although they don't realise it at first both Danny and James really need each other in their lives, and they both think they are helping the other. It is not the most likely of fledgling friendships how it begins, especially once you know both mens startin circumstances,
What I am delighted to be able to say was that I was gripped and moved by the story, I just wanted more and more of these two remarkable young men and their stories. The book alternates viewpoints between James and Danny and I loved getting to know both of them on many levels.
This book felt very different to the majority of the others I've read by Mike Gayle and if this is the new direction he is taking his writing, then I can only applaud him. The Man I Think I Know is a remarkable book that I wish could have continued for longer.
Thank you to Netgalley and Hodder & Stoughton for this copy which I have reviewed honestly and voluntarily.
April 11, 2018
Having been a great fan of Mike Gayle since reading his first novel "My Legendary Girlfriend" I am always impatiently waiting for his new release. This time he let us wait long but it was worth the wait, as I think that "The Man I Think I Know" must be his best novel yet. Mike Gayle has always been a champion of writing about relationships but this time he's opted for a different one, this of a friendship, and still he pulled it off completely, delivering a fantastic, emotional and realistic story. I had a feeling that few of Mike Gayle's last books were a little different in tone but this book seems like a new direction - it's mature, it's powerful yet it still reads like other books by this author.
Mike Gayle's writing style stays the same - it's full of humour but also down to earth, chatty and easy to follow. His characters are always brilliantly developed and it's the same here with Danny and James, as well as the other background characters. The friendship described in this story sounds realistic and true, both characters are genuine in what they're doing and how they communicate. They are believable. They made mistakes, they're not perfect, they have better and worse moments which only made them more true to life.
It is also one of the most unlikely friendships taking into consideration all the circumstances: how Danny and James got to know each other and how they met again after all those years. The story is told in alternative point of views and it was a great way to tell it. With their stories, they just pull you in deeper and deeper and I quickly found myself falling for them both and found both stories incredibly interesting and captivating. I was waiting for the big reveal and when it came I didn't feel disappointed, like it often happens when you're waiting for something holding your breath and then it feels so meh. No, it lived up to my expectations and the only thing that bothered me a little and left me a bit disappointed was the ending, guys, I'd love a little bit more, but it was the only thing, other than that I loved this story.
The things the characters are forced to deal with, those many things in their lives are true to life, and the way they're dealt with is realistic, relatable and believable. The author offers also a very deep and detailed insight into a life with ABI - acquired brain injury and I loved the way it was dealt with, with tons of understanding and subtlety but without pitying. With his words, he touches upon the right heart - strings.
"The Man I Think I Know" is a book about second chances and personal growths. It's heart - warming and uplifting, as well as poignant and moving. I drank this story in with my whole being, I didn't want to miss a single word. A bittersweet, realistic tale about family dynamics, love and second chances with enough drama, fun and charming romance that I highly, highly recommend!
Copy provided by the publisher in return for an honest review.
September 24, 2024
Добра і проста історія ❤️🩹без манірності та будь-яких претензій і саме цього наразі і хотілося ❤️🩹
Сподіваюсь, видавництво і далі буде видавати книги цього автора 🙌
Сподіваюсь, видавництво і далі буде видавати книги цього автора 🙌
November 15, 2019
The Healing Power of Friendship
“The Man I Think I Know” is a book about love in the form of friendship, exploring its healing power.
I bet this one will pull your heart strings 💖
“The Man I Think I Know” is a book about love in the form of friendship, exploring its healing power.
I bet this one will pull your heart strings 💖
September 19, 2019
I do get this story and it is well written. The characters are good too. However it is a little bit sugary for me. I don't regret reading it and maybe 3.5/5
August 11, 2019
A minha opinião em vídeo: https://youtu.be/KaQ3gxtuUZE
April 7, 2018
I have been a fan of Mike Gayle for many years so I was excited to read this book. However as I began reading I noticed a change in his writing, I can’t really describe what it is that made me think that but this book really grabbed me early on and made me realise it would be one that would stay with me long after turning the last page.
James and Danny are introduced gradually from each of their point of view. This is really cleverly done as the initial perceptions you have of them both develop in really interesting ways. These guys have been written so well you feel you know them, and there is something beautiful about their relationship both with each other and with the other people in the book.
This book has gone straight onto my “favourites read in 2018” list and I am already looking forward to the next book by Mike Gayle.
James and Danny are introduced gradually from each of their point of view. This is really cleverly done as the initial perceptions you have of them both develop in really interesting ways. These guys have been written so well you feel you know them, and there is something beautiful about their relationship both with each other and with the other people in the book.
This book has gone straight onto my “favourites read in 2018” list and I am already looking forward to the next book by Mike Gayle.
July 25, 2018
If you are only going to read one book this year make sure that you don't waste your time and make it this one. Just occasionally I find myself reading something desperately trite and badly written and wonder just how I made the mistake of buying it. I think you sometimes have to be wary of Amazon recommendations. People seem to have liked this book but I found it so tedious. Even the two main characters were cardboard cutouts. I had to keep checking the title of the chapters to find out which one was speaking half the time. Supposed to be uplifting but I found it so glib that it was in fact pretty depressing. Maybe it would have worked better as a film. One of those awful sugary films starring someone like Robin Williams. God I am so glad I have finished it.
October 29, 2018
This was my first Mike Gayle book but definitely not my last. I LOVED it!! Couldn’t put it down and didn’t want it to end ...
February 9, 2019
Saya "dirasuk syaitan" apabila berada di kedai buku. Tetap juga gatal tangan mahu membeli, walhal yang masih elok berbalut belum dibaca di rumah sudah bertingkat-tingkat.
Al hasil, saya beli buku ini.
1) Kerana temanya tentang persahabatan antara dua lelaki (bukan geng "kunyit", ya). Tema yang jarang diangkat dalam novel.
2) Bahasa Inggerisnya "mudah" untuk saya baca dan faham. Dan mengejutkan juga saya boleh tamat bacaan dalam tempoh 3 hari untuk buku English setebal 310 muka surat.
Jalan ceritanya agak mudah. Tidaklah begitu sukar untuk difahami. Kisah persahabatan yang terjalin antara dua manusia, James dan Danny, yang asalnya pernah satu sekolah tapi tak pernah bersahabat.
Kedua-duanya ada kisah silam yang suram, dan bersama-sama mereka mula memperbaiki diri sendiri. Saling sokong-menyokong dan akhirnya perlahan-lahan mereka keluar dari kepompong masalah yang membelenggu selama ini.
Cuma saya tertarik dengan kisah James, yang menghadapai kecederaan otak dan kemudian dijaga oleh kedua ibu bapanya bagai menatang minyak yang penuh. James, akhirnya bosan dengan kehidupan begitu tetapi kemudiannya menjadi teragak-agak ketika mula melepaskan diri dari kongkongan.
Kehidupan dalam dunia selamat, membuatkan James jadi sedikit takut dan ragu.
Saya juga ada rasa begitu.
Selepas buat pemeriksaan doktor, saya tak dibenarkan membuat aktiviti lasak lagi. Harus berpada-pada. Boleh lagi bersukan, tapi tak boleh keterlaluan.
Saya seperti James. Akhirnya tewas dan akur dengan "perangkap" nasihat, yang membuatkan takut untuk mencuba lagi.
Sebenarnya boleh saja, dengan kawalan yang cermat saya boleh saja kembali aktif. Perlu tahu had diri. Itu saja.
Dan James akhirnya keluar dari penjara bayang yang sudah terbina lama. Dengan bantuan Danny.
Dan saya juga sepatutnya begitu juga.
Insya-allah.
Al hasil, saya beli buku ini.
1) Kerana temanya tentang persahabatan antara dua lelaki (bukan geng "kunyit", ya). Tema yang jarang diangkat dalam novel.
2) Bahasa Inggerisnya "mudah" untuk saya baca dan faham. Dan mengejutkan juga saya boleh tamat bacaan dalam tempoh 3 hari untuk buku English setebal 310 muka surat.
Jalan ceritanya agak mudah. Tidaklah begitu sukar untuk difahami. Kisah persahabatan yang terjalin antara dua manusia, James dan Danny, yang asalnya pernah satu sekolah tapi tak pernah bersahabat.
Kedua-duanya ada kisah silam yang suram, dan bersama-sama mereka mula memperbaiki diri sendiri. Saling sokong-menyokong dan akhirnya perlahan-lahan mereka keluar dari kepompong masalah yang membelenggu selama ini.
Cuma saya tertarik dengan kisah James, yang menghadapai kecederaan otak dan kemudian dijaga oleh kedua ibu bapanya bagai menatang minyak yang penuh. James, akhirnya bosan dengan kehidupan begitu tetapi kemudiannya menjadi teragak-agak ketika mula melepaskan diri dari kongkongan.
Kehidupan dalam dunia selamat, membuatkan James jadi sedikit takut dan ragu.
Saya juga ada rasa begitu.
Selepas buat pemeriksaan doktor, saya tak dibenarkan membuat aktiviti lasak lagi. Harus berpada-pada. Boleh lagi bersukan, tapi tak boleh keterlaluan.
Saya seperti James. Akhirnya tewas dan akur dengan "perangkap" nasihat, yang membuatkan takut untuk mencuba lagi.
Sebenarnya boleh saja, dengan kawalan yang cermat saya boleh saja kembali aktif. Perlu tahu had diri. Itu saja.
Dan James akhirnya keluar dari penjara bayang yang sudah terbina lama. Dengan bantuan Danny.
Dan saya juga sepatutnya begitu juga.
Insya-allah.
January 26, 2021
"Há pessoas que, pura e simplesmente, estão para lá de qualquer redenção, ou salvação, ou seja o que for - alguns de nós estão, pura e simplesmente encalhados naquilo que são."
De uma forma diferente lembrou-me por vezes o filme "Amigos Improváveis", gostei muito.
De uma forma diferente lembrou-me por vezes o filme "Amigos Improváveis", gostei muito.
October 1, 2024
У центрі сюжету двоє випускників школи «Коронний писар», хлопці з кардинально різними долями і вміннями, які і ніколи не дружили, проте доля їх зводить між собою через майже 20 років після випуску. Як саме зустрілись Джеймс — в минулому політик, який не встиг виступити з промовою в уряді і Денні — колишній алкоголік, студент Кембріджу, якому пророкували успіх і чудову долю ви дізнаєтесь з книжки.
Красива добра історія про дружбу, про важливість розбиття кайданів з травмою, про травми, які можуть зруйнувати життя.
Єдине що не сподобалось — мотивація одного з героїв була прописана ближче до кінця і дуже скомкано, хоча про це наголошувалось майже всю книгу. Але це ніяк не впливає на сюжет.
Очікував більше драми, але те що прочитав — достатньо непогано.
Читається легко, автор намагався надавати на мої сльозові канали, але я тримався. Правда тримався.
Раджу книгу усім, хто любить фільм «1+1» і хоче прочитати щось типу «Маленького життя», але без хардкору.
Красива добра історія про дружбу, про важливість розбиття кайданів з травмою, про травми, які можуть зруйнувати життя.
Єдине що не сподобалось — мотивація одного з героїв була прописана ближче до кінця і дуже скомкано, хоча про це наголошувалось майже всю книгу. Але це ніяк не впливає на сюжет.
Очікував більше драми, але те що прочитав — достатньо непогано.
Читається легко, автор намагався надавати на мої сльозові канали, але я тримався. Правда тримався.
Раджу книгу усім, хто любить фільм «1+1» і хоче прочитати щось типу «Маленького життя», але без хардкору.
June 19, 2025
Перше - коли ви плануєте саме тематичне читання, уважно підходьте до відбору, не ведіться на загальні уявлення про книгу чи власні очікування.
Якби я читав її просто в загальному списку книжок, вона зайшла б мені більше. Але вона не для читання в рамках Прайд місяця.
Бо кожного дня я чекав сюжетного повороту в бік більш тісних стосунків двох гг. а їх просто не існувало в принципі.
Це книга про цілющу дружбу, ні не так, ДРУЖБУ двох чоловіків із серйозними проблемами в житті.
Колишній алкоголік і людина з черепно - мозговою травмою, які випадково (насправді ні, бо в реальності таке я слабо уявляю) зустрічаються.
У кожного свої проблеми і завдяки друг другу вони їх розв'язують.
Звісно загалом історія трохи казкова, але дуже важлива і добра. Багато важливих тем: ментального здоров'я, життєвих виборів, доглядальної праці тощо.
Рекомендую.
Якби я читав її просто в загальному списку книжок, вона зайшла б мені більше. Але вона не для читання в рамках Прайд місяця.
Бо кожного дня я чекав сюжетного повороту в бік більш тісних стосунків двох гг. а їх просто не існувало в принципі.
Це книга про цілющу дружбу, ні не так, ДРУЖБУ двох чоловіків із серйозними проблемами в житті.
Колишній алкоголік і людина з черепно - мозговою травмою, які випадково (насправді ні, бо в реальності таке я слабо уявляю) зустрічаються.
У кожного свої проблеми і завдяки друг другу вони їх розв'язують.
Звісно загалом історія трохи казкова, але дуже важлива і добра. Багато важливих тем: ментального здоров'я, життєвих виборів, доглядальної праці тощо.
Рекомендую.
April 25, 2018
Danny has had bad luck in life. Unemployed, he has just been given an ultimatum from his girlfriend- he has to find a job or she'll leave him. When he spots a job at a respite home, he's sure he's not cut out for it. He has no choice- if he doesn't want to end up alone, he has to take the job.
James was living a privileged life as an MP and property developer. He had it all. This is, until "the Incident" that left him with Acquired Brain Injury (ABI). His world from then on is reduced to his overprotective parents and sister.
When his sister books their parents on a cruise for their wedding anniversary, there's nowhere James can go apart from the respite home, as his disabilities mean he cannot do things for, or look after, himself and depends on the help of others.
The past catches up with the present when James, is sure he recognises Danny at the respite home. Danny is not that welcoming at the start, but when James is put into a situation where he just wants independence from his parents, Danny seems the perfect choice as a carer....
The two begin a friendship where they look out for eachother and where Danny is James's carer. The book is so powerfully written and I got through it in a matter of hours. Mike Gayle represents the world of disability with great accuracy. I do not know people with ABI, but do know many people with different disabilities. I was born with neurological disabilities myself and so know all too well the discrimination that James faced, as I experienced, and experience it, first-hand.
For that reason, I could immediately identify with James and his fight to be accepted by everyone around him. I admire both him and Danny after having listened to the book.
The thing that really stood out for me, though, was that James fought for what HE wanted for HIS life, and was not dictated to by his parents.
Having had vastly different experiences with carers in my own life, I personally agree with his decision to trust his judgement and as soon as he said he wanted Danny as his carer, I was cheering him on and was right behind him with his decision. I much prefer having someone I know as a caregiver.
To anyone who is sceptical of employing someone they know as a caregiver, I know from personal experience that it works.
To sum up, The Man I Think I Know is an extremely well-written novel about new opportunities and second chances at life and friendship. I was gripped by it and finished it in a matter of hours. This is the first book by Mike Gayle I have had the pleasure of reviewing and I am honoured to be a part of the blog tour for this title.
It's an outstanding 5 star novel for me, not only because of the representation of disability and life issues, but because of the realistic and occasionally humorous way that James and Danny interact. The family and other characters are very well portrayed, too. The pace is quick but natural and I was captivated!
I felt more aware of Acquired Brain Injury after finishing this. It really is an astounding novel! I really appreciate storylines like this where there is a deeply moving story that also helps raise awareness.
I recommend this book 100%!
Thanks to Mike Gayle and Hodder and Stoughton for my ARC in exchange for an honest and voluntary review.
James was living a privileged life as an MP and property developer. He had it all. This is, until "the Incident" that left him with Acquired Brain Injury (ABI). His world from then on is reduced to his overprotective parents and sister.
When his sister books their parents on a cruise for their wedding anniversary, there's nowhere James can go apart from the respite home, as his disabilities mean he cannot do things for, or look after, himself and depends on the help of others.
The past catches up with the present when James, is sure he recognises Danny at the respite home. Danny is not that welcoming at the start, but when James is put into a situation where he just wants independence from his parents, Danny seems the perfect choice as a carer....
The two begin a friendship where they look out for eachother and where Danny is James's carer. The book is so powerfully written and I got through it in a matter of hours. Mike Gayle represents the world of disability with great accuracy. I do not know people with ABI, but do know many people with different disabilities. I was born with neurological disabilities myself and so know all too well the discrimination that James faced, as I experienced, and experience it, first-hand.
For that reason, I could immediately identify with James and his fight to be accepted by everyone around him. I admire both him and Danny after having listened to the book.
The thing that really stood out for me, though, was that James fought for what HE wanted for HIS life, and was not dictated to by his parents.
Having had vastly different experiences with carers in my own life, I personally agree with his decision to trust his judgement and as soon as he said he wanted Danny as his carer, I was cheering him on and was right behind him with his decision. I much prefer having someone I know as a caregiver.
To anyone who is sceptical of employing someone they know as a caregiver, I know from personal experience that it works.
To sum up, The Man I Think I Know is an extremely well-written novel about new opportunities and second chances at life and friendship. I was gripped by it and finished it in a matter of hours. This is the first book by Mike Gayle I have had the pleasure of reviewing and I am honoured to be a part of the blog tour for this title.
It's an outstanding 5 star novel for me, not only because of the representation of disability and life issues, but because of the realistic and occasionally humorous way that James and Danny interact. The family and other characters are very well portrayed, too. The pace is quick but natural and I was captivated!
I felt more aware of Acquired Brain Injury after finishing this. It really is an astounding novel! I really appreciate storylines like this where there is a deeply moving story that also helps raise awareness.
I recommend this book 100%!
Thanks to Mike Gayle and Hodder and Stoughton for my ARC in exchange for an honest and voluntary review.
March 7, 2019
One of my favourite reads for 2018.
I had previously read a couple of Mike Gayle books (Dinner for Two and The To-Do-List) and considered them to be Chick-Lit, but written by a man - Guy-Lit. The Man I Think I Know was in another class entirely, one of my favourite books of 2018. It still contained Mike's trade-mark humour, but this was also full of empathy and emotion, and still remains with me even though I read it nearly six months ago.
The two main characters had been to private school together, yet both were in some way disabled. James DeWitt was from a wealthy family, while Danny Allen was from the wrong side of the tracks, but circumstances have a way of producing outcomes that no-one would have expected and they are thrown together in a fascinating, endearing twosome, that had me turning the pages enthusiastically.
I don't think I want to say too much more because this is a book that should unravel before your eyes and it would be a shame to spoil the pleasure with too much information. So I will just say that I hope you get the chance to pick up this book, and if so, I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
I had previously read a couple of Mike Gayle books (Dinner for Two and The To-Do-List) and considered them to be Chick-Lit, but written by a man - Guy-Lit. The Man I Think I Know was in another class entirely, one of my favourite books of 2018. It still contained Mike's trade-mark humour, but this was also full of empathy and emotion, and still remains with me even though I read it nearly six months ago.
The two main characters had been to private school together, yet both were in some way disabled. James DeWitt was from a wealthy family, while Danny Allen was from the wrong side of the tracks, but circumstances have a way of producing outcomes that no-one would have expected and they are thrown together in a fascinating, endearing twosome, that had me turning the pages enthusiastically.
I don't think I want to say too much more because this is a book that should unravel before your eyes and it would be a shame to spoil the pleasure with too much information. So I will just say that I hope you get the chance to pick up this book, and if so, I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
July 4, 2021
audiobook
4.5
There’s so much that you could give the world if only you’d try, so much that you could do if only you wanted to.
Idk what to say but this was another amazing read. So much raw and real. So much uplifting I can't describe in words. It was about knowing when to swim after remaining in the water for too long. Also about how some people come into your lives at totally unexpected times and remind you that you CAN swim even if you think you forgot about it. Both of these men are going through some of the worst days of their lives but together they achieved what looked impossible alone. Highly recommended because it was like a self help book with a plot. You don't get those around. And the platonic love was amazingly portrayed. Just loved it. And the audiobook was amazing.
The truth is that we all fail sometimes, we all do things or have things done to us that will throw us off course, but you always have a choice: give in or get up
4.5
There’s so much that you could give the world if only you’d try, so much that you could do if only you wanted to.
Idk what to say but this was another amazing read. So much raw and real. So much uplifting I can't describe in words. It was about knowing when to swim after remaining in the water for too long. Also about how some people come into your lives at totally unexpected times and remind you that you CAN swim even if you think you forgot about it. Both of these men are going through some of the worst days of their lives but together they achieved what looked impossible alone. Highly recommended because it was like a self help book with a plot. You don't get those around. And the platonic love was amazingly portrayed. Just loved it. And the audiobook was amazing.
The truth is that we all fail sometimes, we all do things or have things done to us that will throw us off course, but you always have a choice: give in or get up
October 29, 2019
Este livro fala sobre a história de dois ex colegas que frequentaram uma escola de elite e que por casualidades da vida voltam a encontrar-se anos mais tarde em circunstâncias muito diferentes e no mínimo peculiares.
É um romance com uma história muito bonita, que nos toca ao coração e simples, não no sentido de ser uma história fácil, pelo contrário, mas no sentido de que com amor e força de vontade conseguimos tudo o que queremos.
“A verdade é que todos nós fracassamos às vezes, todos fazemos coisas, ou somos afectados por coisas que nos fazem, que nos desviam do nosso percurso, mas temos sempre uma escolha: desistir ou levantarmo-nos do chão.”
Obrigada @dora por me teres sugerido este livro. Fiquei de ❤️ cheio com o James e com o Danny. Ainda não ouvi a tua review mas digo já que este livro dará sem dúvida um filme espectacular!
February 24, 2022
Ono je to pekný príbeh, ale... až príliš predvídateľný. Čítať túto knihu bolo ako pozerať romantický film, v ktorom už po prvej polhodinke tušíte, že vlastne všetko dobre dopadne, každá maličkosť sa vyrieši. Nič ma neprekvapilo, nič ma nepobúrilo, emócie stále rovnaké, až som sa prichytila pri pocite, že už by som to aj chcela dočítať konečne :D
Určite kniha sadne ľudom, čo majú v láske príbehy o luďoch, kt. padnú na dno a vďaka priateľstvu sa z toho dna odrazia. A určite by bol z knihy ďalší pekný a láskavý film o chorom mužovi a jeho pomocníkovi s očakávateľným scenárom, pri ktorom si človek oddýchne. Ale 3 hviezdičky pre knihu sú odo mňa tak akurát.
PS: Obal je parádny :)
Určite kniha sadne ľudom, čo majú v láske príbehy o luďoch, kt. padnú na dno a vďaka priateľstvu sa z toho dna odrazia. A určite by bol z knihy ďalší pekný a láskavý film o chorom mužovi a jeho pomocníkovi s očakávateľným scenárom, pri ktorom si človek oddýchne. Ale 3 hviezdičky pre knihu sú odo mňa tak akurát.
PS: Obal je parádny :)
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
May 23, 2019
A tender, heartfelt and joyous story that reflected back to me many of my core beliefs about life, and the power of connections and of kindness. Great characters, a lovely light read with some big messages. Just what I needed
March 11, 2023
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August 12, 2025
A Danny in my life would fix a lot of my problems too
April 8, 2018
Oh man did this utterly tug at my heart strings. I’ve been a fan of Mike Gayle for years now, but this book utterly blew me away.
James was once on the path to brilliance. He had just been elected a Labour MP after a huge successful career in property development. Then a violent attack left him brain damaged and unable to function on his own. He is utterly dependant on his parents.
When his sister sends James’ mum and dad on a cruise for their anniversary, James is put into a respite home as he is unable to be left on his own. It is here that he meets Danny, a boy he went to a very prestigious school with. James recognises Danny straight away, but Danny pretends not to know him at first. He is ashamed that he has fallen so far from his academic pedestal that he fears he will be judged for being 'only a carer' when he was destined for other things. This story is about friendship in the most hard to find places and the curve balls that life can throw at you in the most brutal an unexpected ways.
To start with Danny irritated the heck out of me. Fallen on hard times due to his own bad choices and failures he is utterly uninterested in finding employment or even trying to become a better man. He’s content in being lazy and openly admits to not wanting to work just because he doesn’t want to. Grr! This got my back up. Gayle's brilliant writing and fleshing out of Danny's back story completely changed my perspective. My irritation grew into admiration for a very flawed and real man who turns a corner and works hard to make something of himself and support someone who he once knew years ago and ends up becoming his greatest friend and biggest champion.
James, oh how my heart broke for him and his family. His sister, mother and father treats him like a small boy and whilst you can completely understand that they want to wrap him in cotton wool and protect him from the world having nearly lost him, reading from James' point of view, you can see why he is utterly frustrated. He is a grown man with adult thoughts and cannot always express how he feels articulately. It is food for thought thinking of those living with acquired brain injury (ABI) and those supporting them.
Gayle really has written something very different from his previous books. This is not light-hearted, it is the opposite and yet so very powerful that long after finishing James and Danny will stay with you. I laughed and cried whilst reading this book. The dynamic between two very differently damaged and flawed men really do stop and make you appreciate what you have whilst you have it. It also shows that friendship and love can help heal scars so deep you didn't realise you needed healing.
A brilliant 5 star read for me.
James was once on the path to brilliance. He had just been elected a Labour MP after a huge successful career in property development. Then a violent attack left him brain damaged and unable to function on his own. He is utterly dependant on his parents.
When his sister sends James’ mum and dad on a cruise for their anniversary, James is put into a respite home as he is unable to be left on his own. It is here that he meets Danny, a boy he went to a very prestigious school with. James recognises Danny straight away, but Danny pretends not to know him at first. He is ashamed that he has fallen so far from his academic pedestal that he fears he will be judged for being 'only a carer' when he was destined for other things. This story is about friendship in the most hard to find places and the curve balls that life can throw at you in the most brutal an unexpected ways.
To start with Danny irritated the heck out of me. Fallen on hard times due to his own bad choices and failures he is utterly uninterested in finding employment or even trying to become a better man. He’s content in being lazy and openly admits to not wanting to work just because he doesn’t want to. Grr! This got my back up. Gayle's brilliant writing and fleshing out of Danny's back story completely changed my perspective. My irritation grew into admiration for a very flawed and real man who turns a corner and works hard to make something of himself and support someone who he once knew years ago and ends up becoming his greatest friend and biggest champion.
James, oh how my heart broke for him and his family. His sister, mother and father treats him like a small boy and whilst you can completely understand that they want to wrap him in cotton wool and protect him from the world having nearly lost him, reading from James' point of view, you can see why he is utterly frustrated. He is a grown man with adult thoughts and cannot always express how he feels articulately. It is food for thought thinking of those living with acquired brain injury (ABI) and those supporting them.
Gayle really has written something very different from his previous books. This is not light-hearted, it is the opposite and yet so very powerful that long after finishing James and Danny will stay with you. I laughed and cried whilst reading this book. The dynamic between two very differently damaged and flawed men really do stop and make you appreciate what you have whilst you have it. It also shows that friendship and love can help heal scars so deep you didn't realise you needed healing.
A brilliant 5 star read for me.
November 14, 2020
I'm afraid I have been led astray by high rated reviews again... because this was another popular book that just fell completely flat for me! A wonderful premise, not so great execution, and I may have loved the cover more than the book itself...
The main reason this book did not resonate with me was that I felt like there was very poor character development. With a book on such a sensitive topic, speaking about brain injury, alcoholism and depression, I would expect to have some emotional attachment to the situations at hand, but I found myself completely detached. Although the perspective was switching between the two main characters, I often lost myself on who was speaking because there were no differentiating characteristics. It was like they just moulded into the same person, with the only difference being one calling the other "mate".
However, the dialogue was the most frustrating part for me. It was unbelievably unrealistic and it felt stilted and forced. Normal conversations were turned into arguments in a matter of seconds with no build up, and there were too many clichés in this book to count, including the typical argument conclusion "it's not fair!" from a grown woman, and the classic "my heart feels like it has just broken into a million tiny pieces." I have no comment.
I so wanted to like this book, and I think that's why I kept going until the end. There had to be a redeeming quality, right? It had such great reviews, after all. And I don't think it was a pointless book - it got me reflecting on what it would be like to have to start life over again, for things to not go the way you had planned, and the importance of family and friends in supporting you. However, the switch never flicked. I got to the end - to the cringey, predictable and unsatisfying end - and I felt nothing.
The main reason this book did not resonate with me was that I felt like there was very poor character development. With a book on such a sensitive topic, speaking about brain injury, alcoholism and depression, I would expect to have some emotional attachment to the situations at hand, but I found myself completely detached. Although the perspective was switching between the two main characters, I often lost myself on who was speaking because there were no differentiating characteristics. It was like they just moulded into the same person, with the only difference being one calling the other "mate".
However, the dialogue was the most frustrating part for me. It was unbelievably unrealistic and it felt stilted and forced. Normal conversations were turned into arguments in a matter of seconds with no build up, and there were too many clichés in this book to count, including the typical argument conclusion "it's not fair!" from a grown woman, and the classic "my heart feels like it has just broken into a million tiny pieces." I have no comment.
I so wanted to like this book, and I think that's why I kept going until the end. There had to be a redeeming quality, right? It had such great reviews, after all. And I don't think it was a pointless book - it got me reflecting on what it would be like to have to start life over again, for things to not go the way you had planned, and the importance of family and friends in supporting you. However, the switch never flicked. I got to the end - to the cringey, predictable and unsatisfying end - and I felt nothing.
August 30, 2019
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Este livro surpreendeu-me imenso pela positiva.
Uma vez que a história é sobre dois homens de meia idade, senti que não era bem o meu tipo de história e que iria ser difícil para mim conectar-me com as personagens. Pelo contrário, gostei imenso das personagens e fiquei muita cativada para saber o que lhes ia acontecer. A forma como o autor criou estas duas personagens tão ricas e com vidas tão distintas é incrível.
Adorei a forma como a relação foi evoluindo e como duas pessoas mega distintas se cruzam por acaso e criam uma amizade forte e surpreendente.
Neste livro, Mike faz o leitor ver que às vezes a vida pode mudar muito de repente e que não devemos pensar que tudo está garantido. Pode sempre acontecer algo nas nossas vidas que as mude e que nos obrigue a adaptarmos-nos à situação.
Ao longo deste livro é observável como duas pessoas com vidas e problemas diferentes lutam por uma vida melhor e como às vezes nós só precisamos de um pequeno sinal que nos guie.
Adorei as mensagens transmitidas através deste livro. Como por exemplo:
- não podemos desistir mesmo que a nossa vida dê uma grande volta;
- as amizades são muito importantes e as pessoas que entram na nossa vida influenciam-na e podem melhorá-la;
- às vezes o amor está onde menos esperamos.
A escrita é fluída e muito cativante. O enredo é heartwarming, ou seja, emocionante e comovente.
Sem dúvida que aconselho este livro, dou-lhe 4 estrelas em 5.
Este livro surpreendeu-me imenso pela positiva.
Uma vez que a história é sobre dois homens de meia idade, senti que não era bem o meu tipo de história e que iria ser difícil para mim conectar-me com as personagens. Pelo contrário, gostei imenso das personagens e fiquei muita cativada para saber o que lhes ia acontecer. A forma como o autor criou estas duas personagens tão ricas e com vidas tão distintas é incrível.
Adorei a forma como a relação foi evoluindo e como duas pessoas mega distintas se cruzam por acaso e criam uma amizade forte e surpreendente.
Neste livro, Mike faz o leitor ver que às vezes a vida pode mudar muito de repente e que não devemos pensar que tudo está garantido. Pode sempre acontecer algo nas nossas vidas que as mude e que nos obrigue a adaptarmos-nos à situação.
Ao longo deste livro é observável como duas pessoas com vidas e problemas diferentes lutam por uma vida melhor e como às vezes nós só precisamos de um pequeno sinal que nos guie.
Adorei as mensagens transmitidas através deste livro. Como por exemplo:
- não podemos desistir mesmo que a nossa vida dê uma grande volta;
- as amizades são muito importantes e as pessoas que entram na nossa vida influenciam-na e podem melhorá-la;
- às vezes o amor está onde menos esperamos.
A escrita é fluída e muito cativante. O enredo é heartwarming, ou seja, emocionante e comovente.
Sem dúvida que aconselho este livro, dou-lhe 4 estrelas em 5.
April 19, 2018
Mike Gayle is one of Britain's favourite authors, I have to admit that is the first book of his that I have read! Thanks to LoveReading for giving me the opportunity to read and review 'The Man I Think I Know' I will now be looking out for more of his work.
Having not read this author before or seeing any reviews prior to reading I was able to pick this up with absolutely no preconceptions and to be honest I was surprised as it was not what I expected. A completely for me anyway, new approach to male friendship, an emotional rollercoaster, yet also realistic and humorous. Two young men with difficult experiences in their recent past reconnect after having not seen each other since schooldays. Chapters alternate with James and Danny recounting the story, which works as the reader can see that although they at first do not realise it themselves, they are really good for each other. To say anymore would spoil the impact so I urge you to read this for yourself as it provides plenty of emotive issues for you to think about. Highly recommended for those that enjoy relationship novels.
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Having not read this author before or seeing any reviews prior to reading I was able to pick this up with absolutely no preconceptions and to be honest I was surprised as it was not what I expected. A completely for me anyway, new approach to male friendship, an emotional rollercoaster, yet also realistic and humorous. Two young men with difficult experiences in their recent past reconnect after having not seen each other since schooldays. Chapters alternate with James and Danny recounting the story, which works as the reader can see that although they at first do not realise it themselves, they are really good for each other. To say anymore would spoil the impact so I urge you to read this for yourself as it provides plenty of emotive issues for you to think about. Highly recommended for those that enjoy relationship novels.
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September 19, 2018
"The Man I Think I Know" is a lovely story of male friendship and overcoming life's difficulties. It may be cheesy and predictable in parts, but it works and I've returned this book to the library with a smile on my face. Mike Gayle's getting 4 stars from me for this one.
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July 2, 2019
I found this book easy to read, the characters likeable and the message powerful. I love how Danny sets out to save and support James but ultimately experiences such personal growth and a healing journey of his own.
Although this story didn't have hidden twists or dramatic intrigue it sucked you in with hope and a desire to 'heal' the characters. Enjoyable but light.
Although this story didn't have hidden twists or dramatic intrigue it sucked you in with hope and a desire to 'heal' the characters. Enjoyable but light.
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