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Single That: Dispelling The Top 10 Myths Of The Single Woman
Single, that does not mean broken, lonely, or desperate.
Even if for extended periods, being single does not mean that you are hard to love. These are a few of the myths that Single That puts to rest while empowering women to refuse being defined by whether or not we have a significant other.
Whether dating, divorced, in a relationship, or learning how to be alone, you will receive an empathetic yet assertive nudge toward the belief that you are enough. You will receive support if already comfortable and confident in this idea as Single That addresses misconceptions especially prevalent when assessing single women in their 30s and older.
A practical guide in defense, support, and admiration of the single woman, Single That obliterates audacious assumptions one by one, and serves as a reminder that we are much more than a relationship status. We are certainly more than the negative connotations that others choose to associate with our relationship status. This book is a must-read for every past and present single woman, as well as every man who would like first-hand insight into what being a single woman really means.
121 pages, Kindle Edition
Published September 27, 2019
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About the author
Acamea Deadwiler
7 books23 followersAcamea is the author of the memoir Daddy’s Little Stranger (Riddle Brook 2024), which has been featured by Literary Hub, The Creative Nonfiction Podcast, and deemed “arresting” by The BookLife Prize. Her writing has appeared in Bellevue Literary Review, North American Review, Beyond Words Literary Magazine, Hanif Abdurraqib’s ‘68 to ’05, and elsewhere. She holds an MFA from Randolph College—where she was awarded a Blackburn Fellowship.
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March 5, 2020
The author examines 10 myths about single women, i.e. that they are desperate, bitter, failures, etc for not being in a relationship. This involves looking at how society views single people, especially women, and argues that the issue is more to do with societal expectations and norms rather than a problem with single people. These expectations are powerful things and explain the pressure and the attitudes others have towards singles.
I enjoyed reading this book - it was a fairly quick and interesting read. I feel that it is aimed mainly at heterosexual women (as the attitudes of men were discussed a great deal) than those of other sexual orientations, but I think the advice could be extrapolated. One criticism is that most of the areas were dealt with in a way that skimmed the surface but didn't really go far beneath it, such as the topic of women who don't want children.
Overall, it was an interesting read and I definitely plan on reading a couple of the books mentioned in the text. I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
I enjoyed reading this book - it was a fairly quick and interesting read. I feel that it is aimed mainly at heterosexual women (as the attitudes of men were discussed a great deal) than those of other sexual orientations, but I think the advice could be extrapolated. One criticism is that most of the areas were dealt with in a way that skimmed the surface but didn't really go far beneath it, such as the topic of women who don't want children.
Overall, it was an interesting read and I definitely plan on reading a couple of the books mentioned in the text. I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
December 16, 2019
I was gifted a copy of ‘Single That’ with a request for an honest review. Reading ‘Single That’ is like engaging in a juicy conversation with your best girlfriend over a glass of wine. I often found myself declaring “yes!” out loud in agreement as I moved through the chapters. One part self-help book one part cultural analysis, ‘Single That’ is easy-to-read but insightful.
The book is told from a heterosexual point of few, however, many of the myths that Deadwiler works to dispel are often placed on women regardless of their sexual orientation. Deadwiler does a great job of not only deconstructing the stigmas themselves, but also the cultural norms and attitudes that have made them commonplace.
My favorite chapter of the book focused on the assumption that every woman desires marriage and children. As a fellow woman who is unsure if children are within my equation, but knows they are not directly tied to my personal sense of purpose or fulfillment, I could relate to that chapter a lot.
I am also currently at an age where many conversations amongst groups of female friends tend to focus on marriage and children. As Deadwiler writes in ‘Single That’; “All other achievements are overshadowed. Never mind the promotion you just got at work, the book you finally finished writing, your trip to Italy, or the beautiful home you purchased. Nothing will supersede everyone’s preoccupation with the one thing they seem to care about most, you having a baby”.
‘Single That’ is a quick but enjoyable read. Deadwiler’s writing reminds me of the early feminist writings of Jessica Valenti (think her book “He’s a Stud, She’s a Slut”). It’s approachable, but compelling. Deadwiler happens to mention in ‘Single That’ her desire to publish a book of poetry. I hope she is able to accomplish that goal soon, because I would be interested to read her poetry as well!
The book is told from a heterosexual point of few, however, many of the myths that Deadwiler works to dispel are often placed on women regardless of their sexual orientation. Deadwiler does a great job of not only deconstructing the stigmas themselves, but also the cultural norms and attitudes that have made them commonplace.
My favorite chapter of the book focused on the assumption that every woman desires marriage and children. As a fellow woman who is unsure if children are within my equation, but knows they are not directly tied to my personal sense of purpose or fulfillment, I could relate to that chapter a lot.
I am also currently at an age where many conversations amongst groups of female friends tend to focus on marriage and children. As Deadwiler writes in ‘Single That’; “All other achievements are overshadowed. Never mind the promotion you just got at work, the book you finally finished writing, your trip to Italy, or the beautiful home you purchased. Nothing will supersede everyone’s preoccupation with the one thing they seem to care about most, you having a baby”.
‘Single That’ is a quick but enjoyable read. Deadwiler’s writing reminds me of the early feminist writings of Jessica Valenti (think her book “He’s a Stud, She’s a Slut”). It’s approachable, but compelling. Deadwiler happens to mention in ‘Single That’ her desire to publish a book of poetry. I hope she is able to accomplish that goal soon, because I would be interested to read her poetry as well!
April 29, 2020
A quick and interesting well-written essay style book. Relatable and smart if a little indulgent (who can blame her? Any one of us would appear the same if writing about our own love lives)
April 5, 2020
"There’s a cliched misconception that men are single because they choose to be, but women are single because they have to be." LOC 187
"Single, at any age, is not and never will be synonymous with broken." LOC 979
With these two quotes author Acamea Deadwiler bookends what can only be described as a love letter to women everywhere.
This is a mere snippet of a book at 121 pages, and is sold in the self help section of the book store, but it much more than just platitudes written to fill pages and employ guilt in the reader for not having her life perfectly together. It is a battle cry for women everywhere to celebrate and rejoice in their singledom rather than allowing society to instill in us the idea that we are broken, a misfit to be pitied or just plain wrong for our existence.
Deadwiler makes the argument that this book focuses on the female side of the population because there are so many double standards within society that make it acceptable for a man to be single but a woman is defective if she remains single. One cannot help but see this as running true in modern societites, both east and west, and such an example is made with the likes of Taylor Swift’s song “The Man” also suggesting that to be older and single like actor Leodardo DiCaprio is acceptable and even applauded and that women are questioned as to their basic worth for daring to be unmarried. “Men are put of a pedestal. Girls grow into women believing that to have a man is a priviledge.” LOC 218
Deadwiler writes about ten myths that surround the life of the “single woman of a certain age.” They are entitled That Does Not Mean followed by the ideas so often lobbed at women who are not married such as being desperate, lonely, jealous, sexually frustrated, unrealistic, high maintenance, bitter, crazy hard to love or broken. Each topic is written about calmly, with no fist waving in feminist rage. Rather, she writes lucid, well thought out rebuttals too each ugly term that furthers the feminist cause of both sexes being equal.
The reality that women all too often play by the rules that have been made by a male focused society in an effort to keep a man by her side is challenging reading. Women are taught from the start that ‘men will be men’ and that we have to forgive them for their bad behaviour in breaking the promise to remain faithful to an agreed partner by fact of their gender if the woman wants to avoid the apparently fatal lot in life of being single. And men are never diminished for their bad behaviour. Men are still highly valued and a woman is diminished when the bonds of a relationship are betrayed and by not challenging this narrative we are implying consent to the rules made in their favour.
Deadwiler also challenges the cultural ideal of mens view of women, which is all too often only purely as sexual mates for them and to never truly value any other abilities, skills or traits in a woman. That if a woman is single and not willing to sleep with them, they are defective and worthless, to be discredited and disposed of. She is willing to acknowledge that as women we appreciate compliments from members of the sex we are attracted to, but that we shouldn’t be reduced to only them. “To be admired only for my appearance is not admiration at all. Its objectification.” LOC 447 Deadwiler writes that women should hold themselves to a higher standard and accept only the very best, not to accept sloppy seconds that so many men offer in an offhanded manner which they then expect us to be grateful for.
This book is sold to a target audience or market of women over a certain age, and yet Deadwiler has written a manifesto for all women, that should be read by women of all ages. It is challenging, confronting, encouraging and empowering. It is for women who are in the trenches of life, cheering them on to be the very best they can be,to not accept societal and cultural norms, but to strive to be better, to have more, be more and accept themselves for the multifaceted jewels that they are.
"Anyone who has never enjoyed being single is doing it wrong." LOC 320
Mention of Warsan Shires poem "For Women Who Are Difficult to Love" which is read by Shire herself here:
https://youtu.be/53JYLXVVd7g
Easily a top ten book for 2020.
"Single, at any age, is not and never will be synonymous with broken." LOC 979
With these two quotes author Acamea Deadwiler bookends what can only be described as a love letter to women everywhere.
This is a mere snippet of a book at 121 pages, and is sold in the self help section of the book store, but it much more than just platitudes written to fill pages and employ guilt in the reader for not having her life perfectly together. It is a battle cry for women everywhere to celebrate and rejoice in their singledom rather than allowing society to instill in us the idea that we are broken, a misfit to be pitied or just plain wrong for our existence.
Deadwiler makes the argument that this book focuses on the female side of the population because there are so many double standards within society that make it acceptable for a man to be single but a woman is defective if she remains single. One cannot help but see this as running true in modern societites, both east and west, and such an example is made with the likes of Taylor Swift’s song “The Man” also suggesting that to be older and single like actor Leodardo DiCaprio is acceptable and even applauded and that women are questioned as to their basic worth for daring to be unmarried. “Men are put of a pedestal. Girls grow into women believing that to have a man is a priviledge.” LOC 218
Deadwiler writes about ten myths that surround the life of the “single woman of a certain age.” They are entitled That Does Not Mean followed by the ideas so often lobbed at women who are not married such as being desperate, lonely, jealous, sexually frustrated, unrealistic, high maintenance, bitter, crazy hard to love or broken. Each topic is written about calmly, with no fist waving in feminist rage. Rather, she writes lucid, well thought out rebuttals too each ugly term that furthers the feminist cause of both sexes being equal.
The reality that women all too often play by the rules that have been made by a male focused society in an effort to keep a man by her side is challenging reading. Women are taught from the start that ‘men will be men’ and that we have to forgive them for their bad behaviour in breaking the promise to remain faithful to an agreed partner by fact of their gender if the woman wants to avoid the apparently fatal lot in life of being single. And men are never diminished for their bad behaviour. Men are still highly valued and a woman is diminished when the bonds of a relationship are betrayed and by not challenging this narrative we are implying consent to the rules made in their favour.
Deadwiler also challenges the cultural ideal of mens view of women, which is all too often only purely as sexual mates for them and to never truly value any other abilities, skills or traits in a woman. That if a woman is single and not willing to sleep with them, they are defective and worthless, to be discredited and disposed of. She is willing to acknowledge that as women we appreciate compliments from members of the sex we are attracted to, but that we shouldn’t be reduced to only them. “To be admired only for my appearance is not admiration at all. Its objectification.” LOC 447 Deadwiler writes that women should hold themselves to a higher standard and accept only the very best, not to accept sloppy seconds that so many men offer in an offhanded manner which they then expect us to be grateful for.
This book is sold to a target audience or market of women over a certain age, and yet Deadwiler has written a manifesto for all women, that should be read by women of all ages. It is challenging, confronting, encouraging and empowering. It is for women who are in the trenches of life, cheering them on to be the very best they can be,to not accept societal and cultural norms, but to strive to be better, to have more, be more and accept themselves for the multifaceted jewels that they are.
"Anyone who has never enjoyed being single is doing it wrong." LOC 320
Mention of Warsan Shires poem "For Women Who Are Difficult to Love" which is read by Shire herself here:
https://youtu.be/53JYLXVVd7g
Easily a top ten book for 2020.
July 21, 2020
There is too much life to be lived to wallow in self-pity simply because you are not attached to a partner. Searching for your worth in others will always leave you short.
This was a short read, and very much possible to be finished in one sitting at just 150 pages. This was on my Goodreads recommended page, and once I saw that it was available on Kindle Unlimited, I got it immediately.
I've been single for nearly two years now. This is not something I am ashamed of. At first I was insecure too – feeling that I need to be tethered to a man to be of value, but time in therapy, and reflecting on societal expectations on women, has made me reconcile with all of this and made me appreciate life being single.
Gone are the days of the "old maid". The single woman is as valuable of a person in society, and yes, that includes whether she is in a relationship or has children. Our worth and value as human beings is not in our reproductive capability or in the ability to be a romantic partner.
Deadwiler lists 10 myths, and this I will leave to the reader to explore themselves. But even from the very beginning, she had me sold. She discussed about the expectation of women needing to marry at a certain age, and that is one of my daily frustrations. It pains me to see my peers marry just because they feel like it's "time" to marry and that their "biological clock is ticking". When I was younger, I told myself I wanted to marry at 25. Twenty-five!. I am still at my earlier twenties, and I could tell you I do not want to marry at 25. That is way too early for me. I want to navigate a part of my life alone, learning about myself, and learning about the world.
If a relationship comes, that is great, but I don't feel compelled to be in one just for the sake of being in one. I am so glad this book exists for women to be assured that it is possible to be single and genuinely happy without being bitter or broken.
April 6, 2020
Finished this in two sittings on the same day and writing review a day later. So this book had some good information and goes over all the myths, stereotypes and "OMG, you're still single" hysteria. Like being single and or unmarried is a bad thing. Some people are really successful and happy being alone. You only have to worry about yourself.
Where it gets into the self-deprecating advice is the portion of single people that don't want to be single and they loathe it. This is where the advice becomes preachy and a little annoying. This is the off putting part. For myself, I am single and unmarried and age 36. I have been in and out of many careers until I found massage therapy at age 30 then I worked my tail off to thrive in the industry. My hours for dating are not the normal kind because I have to work evenings and weekends to make money to live. People I have dated don't like this unless they understand, and let's face it, many guys don't like to wait or stick around in the beginning. Throw in moving across country and starting all over again. This book has ZERO ADVICE for people like myself.
I didn't read this book to get advice for my situation but if it had helped I would have taken a few pointers. There are a few good ones i.e.: meet groups, volunteering for something you are passionate about. But I did feel this short book was very preachy. I get what the author was trying to say. I also like how she tried to make the reader guess if she was writing from the POV of being single or not. I am guessing she is not single but writing from her own experiences.
An ok read but you have to go into this with an open mind. Thanks to Netgalley, the author and publisher for an ARC in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.
Available: 9/26/20
Where it gets into the self-deprecating advice is the portion of single people that don't want to be single and they loathe it. This is where the advice becomes preachy and a little annoying. This is the off putting part. For myself, I am single and unmarried and age 36. I have been in and out of many careers until I found massage therapy at age 30 then I worked my tail off to thrive in the industry. My hours for dating are not the normal kind because I have to work evenings and weekends to make money to live. People I have dated don't like this unless they understand, and let's face it, many guys don't like to wait or stick around in the beginning. Throw in moving across country and starting all over again. This book has ZERO ADVICE for people like myself.
I didn't read this book to get advice for my situation but if it had helped I would have taken a few pointers. There are a few good ones i.e.: meet groups, volunteering for something you are passionate about. But I did feel this short book was very preachy. I get what the author was trying to say. I also like how she tried to make the reader guess if she was writing from the POV of being single or not. I am guessing she is not single but writing from her own experiences.
An ok read but you have to go into this with an open mind. Thanks to Netgalley, the author and publisher for an ARC in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.
Available: 9/26/20
June 29, 2020
5 stars from me! In my opinion, this book completely obliterates the typical relationship/self-help book where it is the female that must change in order to make the relationship work. After all, it is the woman that is the problem and must compromise if she wants to win the man that's allegedly courting her.
Acamea Deadwiler took the time to offer unbiased points of view and place "blame" on all parties involved in a relationship. She discussed the advantage both people can benefit from exploring individual issues independent of another person. Most relationship books are written by men advising women on how to be a good woman for a man which always seemed odd to me. Single That explores the 10 misconceptions about single women but I believe single PEOPLE regardless of gender, sex, sexual orientation, etc will benefit from this collection of essays.
It was like sitting with a group of good friends and discussing a variety of topics including love, intimacy and jealousy. The essays are easy to understand and make this a quick, enjoyable read. The message is clear: it's totally possible to be a happy and fulfilled single woman and still desire a relationship with the right person for you.
HUGE thanks to the publisher, author and NetGalley for the ARC in exchange for an honest review.
Acamea Deadwiler took the time to offer unbiased points of view and place "blame" on all parties involved in a relationship. She discussed the advantage both people can benefit from exploring individual issues independent of another person. Most relationship books are written by men advising women on how to be a good woman for a man which always seemed odd to me. Single That explores the 10 misconceptions about single women but I believe single PEOPLE regardless of gender, sex, sexual orientation, etc will benefit from this collection of essays.
It was like sitting with a group of good friends and discussing a variety of topics including love, intimacy and jealousy. The essays are easy to understand and make this a quick, enjoyable read. The message is clear: it's totally possible to be a happy and fulfilled single woman and still desire a relationship with the right person for you.
HUGE thanks to the publisher, author and NetGalley for the ARC in exchange for an honest review.
September 7, 2020
'We can love people with our hearts, our minds, and all that is within us – and still not love them with our actions.' -Acamea Deadwiler
Anyone could read this book. A single woman. a married woman. A single man. A married man.
In my opinion, Acamea does a really good job of explaining what it means to be a single woman, and why both men and women treat single women in a different way, oftentimes unfairly.
We are provided with lots of insightful tips about relationships themselves. Usually single women do not get involved in a relationship because of the way they've been treated. It doesn't mean that they don't give relationships a chance or that there is something wrong with them.
Single women have the right to choose to be single until they choose to get married. Single women have been stigmatized in many societies and cultures around the world. Women have as much right as men to choose whether they want to be single or not. Whether they want to have kids or not.
I would recommend this book for any woman, or even man. If you are a man and you are reading this, you will get a lot of insights into the mind of a woman. Maybe not all women are like Acamea, but surely the insights can be applied, and experimented with.
4.5/5
Anyone could read this book. A single woman. a married woman. A single man. A married man.
In my opinion, Acamea does a really good job of explaining what it means to be a single woman, and why both men and women treat single women in a different way, oftentimes unfairly.
We are provided with lots of insightful tips about relationships themselves. Usually single women do not get involved in a relationship because of the way they've been treated. It doesn't mean that they don't give relationships a chance or that there is something wrong with them.
Single women have the right to choose to be single until they choose to get married. Single women have been stigmatized in many societies and cultures around the world. Women have as much right as men to choose whether they want to be single or not. Whether they want to have kids or not.
I would recommend this book for any woman, or even man. If you are a man and you are reading this, you will get a lot of insights into the mind of a woman. Maybe not all women are like Acamea, but surely the insights can be applied, and experimented with.
4.5/5
June 6, 2020
Acamea Deadwiler, a freethinker, writer and journalist, is the author of “Single That: Dispelling the Top 10 Myths of the Single Woman” which is a self- help book addressed to a general audience, but really interesting for adult single women.
The author has a top writer status in both love and feminism, so her experience and knowledge in the topic enrich the book.
Sometimes we feel that inside of us there is a feeling that things just aren’t right or fair. Some women strongly believe that being single is an offence or that it means they’re bitter. We constantly hear “Why are you single? You have to get a boyfriend, otherwise you will be alone when you get older” Many people in the world felt this at some point of their life and it’s extremely frustrating.
Through an interactive form of narration, Acamea helps us break with this kind of thoughts that do not let us be happy and with self- judgments. She teaches us to be satisfied while we’re free.
I found the book really helpful and inspiring. I would thoroughly recommend it.
The author has a top writer status in both love and feminism, so her experience and knowledge in the topic enrich the book.
Sometimes we feel that inside of us there is a feeling that things just aren’t right or fair. Some women strongly believe that being single is an offence or that it means they’re bitter. We constantly hear “Why are you single? You have to get a boyfriend, otherwise you will be alone when you get older” Many people in the world felt this at some point of their life and it’s extremely frustrating.
Through an interactive form of narration, Acamea helps us break with this kind of thoughts that do not let us be happy and with self- judgments. She teaches us to be satisfied while we’re free.
I found the book really helpful and inspiring. I would thoroughly recommend it.
April 18, 2020
Some quotes from the book:
“We make our choices and walk our paths."
and
“A woman should do what she does and like what she likes for herself, not to appease someone else. We have to get more comfortable with doing whatever makes us happy without feeling guilty or being concerned that it is wrong somehow."
This book won’t work as a self-help book nor you would gain tips and tricks on how to “escape’’ singlehood. The book is more of an overview of how single women are viewed in society. The book covers 10 quite well-known myths about single women, viewed from the author's point, life experiences and conclusions.
Most of these cases you have probably already heard somewhere, some things repeated and it is not entirely "new science", but more of a quick read and a reminder - being single is totally okay, there is nothing wrong with you if you are single!
Grateful to Netgalley for the chance to read this book!
“We make our choices and walk our paths."
and
“A woman should do what she does and like what she likes for herself, not to appease someone else. We have to get more comfortable with doing whatever makes us happy without feeling guilty or being concerned that it is wrong somehow."
This book won’t work as a self-help book nor you would gain tips and tricks on how to “escape’’ singlehood. The book is more of an overview of how single women are viewed in society. The book covers 10 quite well-known myths about single women, viewed from the author's point, life experiences and conclusions.
Most of these cases you have probably already heard somewhere, some things repeated and it is not entirely "new science", but more of a quick read and a reminder - being single is totally okay, there is nothing wrong with you if you are single!
Grateful to Netgalley for the chance to read this book!
June 6, 2020
This book is very insightful as the author has a great perspective on being a single woman, what it means, and what it does not necessarily mean. Each chapter represents a negative myth and stereotype about single women. The author does a great job of presenting each myth and detailing all the reasons why it is not true. I liked that her perspective was incredibly positive and reflected a healthy, self-confidence. Her words inspired me to view myself and my relationships in a different light. I also enjoyed the author’s humor and wit throughout the book as she wrote about her experiences with people who labeled her with some of these single woman stereotypes. I think this book would be helpful for any woman, single or married, as it gives an uplifting perspective on how to be happy with who you are and not depend on other people to make you happy. This book has a lot of great insights and I definitely recommend for anyone to read.
March 2, 2020
An interesting look at "the single woman"
Deadwiler pens a unique title in Single That: Dispelling The Top 10 Myths Of The Single Woman. As a single woman (by choice), this book intrigued me, wondering what could possibly be in these pages. This is the second book of this author's that I've read. The book gives information that disintegrates the myths of a single woman, single woman in this content is any woman who is not in a relationship at the time. The title provides the text to bring in the reader and the content was not only interesting, but it put the "myths" in perspective. Long are the days when single meant desperate, lonely or even crazy or bitter. Reading this was not just enjoyable, but relatable, and some myths were even surprising to me. I look forward to reading more by this author. This book is a definite recommendation by Amy's Bookshelf Reviews.
Deadwiler pens a unique title in Single That: Dispelling The Top 10 Myths Of The Single Woman. As a single woman (by choice), this book intrigued me, wondering what could possibly be in these pages. This is the second book of this author's that I've read. The book gives information that disintegrates the myths of a single woman, single woman in this content is any woman who is not in a relationship at the time. The title provides the text to bring in the reader and the content was not only interesting, but it put the "myths" in perspective. Long are the days when single meant desperate, lonely or even crazy or bitter. Reading this was not just enjoyable, but relatable, and some myths were even surprising to me. I look forward to reading more by this author. This book is a definite recommendation by Amy's Bookshelf Reviews.
August 27, 2020
Provided gratis in exchange for honest feedback.
Boof. Yuck.
This is basically the author holding forth on her opinions about being single -- which she admits are incredibly individualized and yet then proceeds to hold forth on.
They are not researched; do not provide new insight or experience; do not provide useful tips or tricks for dealing with the negatives; no myths were dispelled, except maybe that the author cares about these "myths" but then decided she didn't?
Basically it's literally her (I imagined wine-drenched because that at least made them interesting) monologue on what Being Single means to her and what it means to the people in her life and why those two things are different.
Since she and I are not friends and I'm not friends with her friends, I literally didn't care in any way.
Boof. Yuck.
This is basically the author holding forth on her opinions about being single -- which she admits are incredibly individualized and yet then proceeds to hold forth on.
They are not researched; do not provide new insight or experience; do not provide useful tips or tricks for dealing with the negatives; no myths were dispelled, except maybe that the author cares about these "myths" but then decided she didn't?
Basically it's literally her (I imagined wine-drenched because that at least made them interesting) monologue on what Being Single means to her and what it means to the people in her life and why those two things are different.
Since she and I are not friends and I'm not friends with her friends, I literally didn't care in any way.
September 18, 2020
Very readable, interesting book dispelling and examining the myths of single women. Nothing super revolutionary, but a clever analysis and personal reflection on the various different common assumptions: single does not mean desperate, lonely, jealous, sexually frustrated, unrealistic, high maintenance, bitter, crazy, unlovable or broken. Written in a very balanced way, the author is careful to look at both sides of an argument and acknowledge (sometimes with excessive caveats) that some women do fall into these categories, but not all. Clearly written for an audience of similarly single females, it does offer some counter arguments for those looking for tips, but not a self-help or how to find love book. Would make a great gift.
*I received a free copy in return for my honest review.
*I received a free copy in return for my honest review.
April 9, 2020
La autora presenta argumentos excelentes desmintiendo lo que tanta gente asume sobre la soltería. Los capítulos están bien organizados con cada mito que nos podemos llegar a encontrar al estar solteras y argumenta en contra, haciendo observaciones certeras, explayándose de manera bastante estructurada.
Al ser una persona que hasta la fecha no ha tenido pareja, siento que me ayudó mucho a comprenderme a mí misma. No estoy rota, no soy exigente, ni soy una loca. Cada una es diferente y tiene una visión distinta de lo que significa estar en pareja y compartir el día a día con otra persona.
Al ser una persona que hasta la fecha no ha tenido pareja, siento que me ayudó mucho a comprenderme a mí misma. No estoy rota, no soy exigente, ni soy una loca. Cada una es diferente y tiene una visión distinta de lo que significa estar en pareja y compartir el día a día con otra persona.
April 23, 2020
Well Done! I can tell she has walked the walk. I was skeptical when I saw how young the Author was however, she is an 'old soul' in practical wisdom. As a single 'older' woman, I have struggled with the label and all the baggage and history of single womanhood. The Author does an excellent job breaking down the myths and challenging ourselves as well as others, to work towards empowerment. I look forward to reading other books by this Author.
Thank you NetGalley & Amazon for the opportunity to read and review this book.
janne boswell
https://seniorbooklounge.blogspot.com/
Thank you NetGalley & Amazon for the opportunity to read and review this book.
janne boswell
https://seniorbooklounge.blogspot.com/
May 1, 2020
I know who hurt you.
This is one woman’s version of events. I don’t feel that this is for anyone other than her. Her story, that she gets to put her spin on, to make herself feel okay. I don’t feel that this at all applies to a vast majority of women. When discussing how your friends treated you, then how men treated you, I realized where the problem resides. It’s you. I feel that you are doing or saying things to make people feel bad for you to solicit the remarks you claim to have gotten.
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This is one woman’s version of events. I don’t feel that this is for anyone other than her. Her story, that she gets to put her spin on, to make herself feel okay. I don’t feel that this at all applies to a vast majority of women. When discussing how your friends treated you, then how men treated you, I realized where the problem resides. It’s you. I feel that you are doing or saying things to make people feel bad for you to solicit the remarks you claim to have gotten.
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May 24, 2020
At first glance, this book would appear to be an empowering book for single women. It was not. While the concepts of each chapter were great, the explanations and pages to follow were a snooze fest. The author kept changing between her experiences and then talking to the reader. PICK ONE SIDE! Honestly, no one cares what your experiences are! If you are writing a book to empower single women, EMPOWER them - don't bore them to death.
This book was provided by BooksGoSocial and NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
This book was provided by BooksGoSocial and NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
September 9, 2020
I read a similar book to this not long ago, called “Its Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons you’re single” by Sara Eckel. I did enjoy that book a bit more, but this one was also well thought out and written with care. I think there was a bit of difference in tone, where that book seemed a bit softer - this book was more no-nonsense.
If you are interested in this book, I would recommend it, but also pick up the above mentioned book. There are things for a single woman to learn from each of these stories.
If you are interested in this book, I would recommend it, but also pick up the above mentioned book. There are things for a single woman to learn from each of these stories.
February 19, 2020
Fácil de leer, ameno y honesto. Me identifico con algunas de las experiencias descritas, y con otras no, pero eso esta bien, porque todos tenemos vidas y experiencias diferentes. Me gusta que ahora existan libros que nos ayuden a quitarnos los paradigmas sociales que nos ha dejado el patriarcado y que marcaron los caminos a tantas generaciones, para a partir de ahora, construir nuestro propio camino.
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