The humorous and heartfelt autobiographical comic essay of an otaku manga artist! Follow her journey as she learns the ins and outs of pregnancy and childbirth.
An amusing autobiographical take on pregnancy by a woman with an occasionally odd outlook on life and motherhood. Not fully sure why she even wants to have kids, the author nevertheless throws herself into the endeavor with energy and enthusiasm. Her good times are marred by occasional bouts of embarrassment and frustration as she deals with infertility and devotes a whole chapter to training her nipples for breastfeeding.
Her husband is also a manga writer/artist and he adds a page at the end of each chapter giving his reaction to the events described. It's sort of like having the dad cut the umbilical cord at the birth, letting him feel like he's contributing.
I Don't Know How to Give Birth! may certainly not be for everyone, but it's perfect for the intended readers. However, that is not to say that this manga can't be enjoyed by others, but I do know for myself that at another stage of my life, I would have more likely given this manga a pass. As it is, the English edition was published just a few weeks before my own due date and it just seemed too perfect a time not to give it a try.
I'm a pretty closed up person when it comes private matters and things like pregnancy are definitely considered a touchy subject. Being that kind of person has actually made a lot of things more difficult for me. Enter Ayami Kazama's autobiographical comic about her own pregnancy - it was hilarious, respectful, educational and just right in letting you know, you're not the only one facing these kinds of struggles. I've rarely read a more relatable book and her comedic approach really allows you to address the subject with more ease. I was almost surprised to find how many of my own worries and experiences were reflected in this. And even the parts that didn't relate to me, e.g. her infertility, were relatable in the sense that you can really feel for her about how awkward it is to breach such a subject, even with medical staff.
Kazama has a cute art style and doesn't hide the negative sides such as her doubts of whether or not she is even capable of loving a child or being a good mother. I can highly recommend this open-hearted and humorous manga to anyone who is, was or would like to become pregnant - and I'd extend that recommendation to those who are just willing to try something different!
"I'm doing my best, so that when it's all over I can say it was a lot of fun".
A charming, light-hearted comic addressing many hurdles and concerns of childbirth. It's cutely drawn and immensely relatable to me, currently in my third trimester with my first born. I would certainly recommend it to other first time mothers, not as an absolute source, but as an entertainment and a comfort that may well teach you something too.
A pretty hilarious, but at times a bit sad, manga about a girl getting pregnant.
I have been eager to read this manga for ages and finally I had time to do so! I just love the cover and the blurb made it seem like this would be a fun/funny autobiographical comic to read!
I was shocked that she didn’t know how sex and the like worked until she was quite a bit older. HOW? Do Japanese not give biology lessons and the like? is so confused
My heart broke that things weren’t so easy for her. She wanted to have kids so badly… but finds out that she cannot get them that easily. I was rooting for her and hoping that all that sex and the help of doctors would help her get a kid. I had a laugh though at the doctor and how open and frank he was. I could definitely relate to how awkward and stunned she felt. I would have definitely acted the same way, haha.
I liked reading about what the fertility treatment entailed. I know quite a bit about it already as I read some other books/seen some shows that feature it. But it was interesting to see it explained in manga form. I am glad that there are more manga about real situations, real life.
Despite being about a serious thing, there was tons of humour and hilarity as she asked her hubby for all sorts of things (like when he was crunching hard on his manga and she asked for his sperm). I loved that this book contained so much humour. It is a serious thing of course, but some humour lightens the mood.
It was really interested to read and I just loved how much support she got from her husband and how go go go he was with everything. It was quite cute!
We also see that, in the beginning at least, she struggles with things because it is mostly her husband who wants kids while she is OK with just being with him alone. I am glad that she thought about things later on because really, it is great that your husband wants the kid, but if it is this much pain and hurt to get one you need to be aboard as well, and not just tag along and do all the work.
I did think it was weird or odd that she said: “That’s right. You naturally start thinking about kids once you’re married.” Sorry, but no. My hubby and I talked about that and other things quite early in the relationship. I don’t want kids of my own (for good reasons), and I need to know if someone minds that or not. I am not going to wait until marriage before discussing that (and given we didn’t get married until we were together for 10 years… oh boy, imagine how weird that could have been). Even if I wanted kids I would want to see what my lover thinks about that. Really, that is kind of important to discuss beforehand. Just like other things. You don’t want to be stuck in a marriage only to realise there are issues or things that you partner thinks should be different.
I was just squeeing in delight and clapping my hands when she was finally pregnant. I was so happy for her! And with that begins the whole how does pregnancy work, how does childbirth work, what is this feeling in my stomach? I laughed hard when she called her baby Blasto-chan (after the eggs who in that stage are called blastocysts). We see her try to find underwear (apparently a daunting quest) and later also underwear for the baby, we see her battle morning sickness, burn scones, think of a birth plan, classes, boobs, and tons more. It was all very fun and interesting to read, especially since her reactions to things were just perfection and I had quite a few giggles (though at other times I just wanted to give her a big hug). During the labor I wondered why no one had told her how to do things? They just said push and they should have seen by the looks of our MC that she was confused about things. And did they thump her belly or did I see that wrong? WTF?
I loved seeing the first time with the baby and how she and her husband tried to figure out how things worked. From breastfeeding to bottles to sleeping.
I like that next to the manga we also get bonus parts in between in which either the husband or our MC talk about certain things and they give tips and tricks. I really liked that those were added. The manga made it seem very one way, and this gives a bit extra dimension to it all.
I really enjoyed reading this manga and I am happy I finally had the chance to read it! It was interesting and funny and you will definitely root for the MC and her husband. There were a few things that were odd as I talked about in the review, but I am guessing that is cultural differences. I would recommend this to all who are in the mood for more serious manga.
There were so many moments I related to Kazama-san throughout this book. The whole fertility thing struck something in me but for different reasons. I was told all my life to NOT get pregnant as the medicine I take could potentially cause both of us to pass away. It honestly bummed me out because I'd always wanted to be a mother. So the fact I couldn't was just devastating. So seeing Kazama-san go through her fertility journey had me cheering her on the entire way!
Endearing, heartfelt, and extremely funny. Her husband seems like such a weirdo. 10/10, would definitely reread, and maybe even purchase even though I didn't like the art terribly much.
I Don’t Know How to Give Birth!, as you might expect from the title, falls into the same edutainment category as Little Miss P. But while that discussion was led by an anthropomorphic uterus, this is an autobiography about some of the author’s experiences from trying to conceive with her husband (who’s also a manga artist) to breastfeeding. Pregnancy is not a subject often covered in manga, especially from a personal perspective…and imagination. Because I don’t know where else you go to see a nipple personified as an RPG character. (And I probably don’t want to know!!)
Yes, the manga format allows Kazama and Konno to showcase their journey in delightfully quirky ways. Whether it’s dealing with an overly enthusiastic trainer, getting in touch with her inner (outer?) animal, looking like death incarnate, or thinking about the reactions if she dropped a jar of her husband’s “specimens”, I spent most of the manga cracking up thanks to the art, text, or both. The volume is made up of a series of short chapters centered around one of Kazama’s concerns. Each concludes with a one-panel comic and essay from Konno, and then Kazama does the same. Those too include some hilarious highlights and afterthoughts. (Sorched scones! Blasto-chan!) It’s so much more fun than the usual sitcom-style comedy of mood swings and cravings.
Still, despite the manga-styled jokes and exaggerations like arrows in heads, it’s still a heartwarming story about a couple undergoing the long process of delivering a child. There are a lot of myths and misconceptions about giving birth, and Kazama admits she grew up in a rather sheltered environment in regards to sex ed. Her husband, meanwhile, grew up reading dirty magazines since he was in elementary school. But both realize their knowledge has a lot of gaps when they find out getting pregnant is not going to be as easy as have sex = get baby.
While I compared this book to Little Miss P, perhaps the better comparison is The Bride was a Boy in that it’s very comedic, upbeat, and the main characters are a lot luckier than a lot of others in their situation. Sure, women having babies is hardly unusual even if you take into account fertility struggles, but not everyone has a partner that can work from home or be gifted a lot of baby merchandise. But I Don’t Know How to Give Birth!, like The Bride was a Boy, provides a good foundation and a stepping stone to knowing more from aspects as important as water breaking to the more everyday challenges like finding comfy underwear.
In addition, Kazama freely admits she was never one to long for a child. Not that she wanted to be childfree, but it wouldn’t have mattered much one way or the other. And we see her constantly wondering about what it means to be motherly, whether a maternal instinct will suddenly kick in and create a supermom. Yes, there are dangers if a woman has a child solely for her partner’s sake. But for Kazama, it’s something she gets more invested in as time goes on, from being too embarrassed to share details about her sex life to swearing she’s going to encourage her daughter to touch her nipples “for the sake of her future self!”
But whether you see yourself having children in the future, you already have some, or never intend on having children, I’m glad to see this manga added to the growing edutainment genre. I Don’t Know How to Give Birth! is an amusing glimpse at one couple’s experience in a way only manga artists can capture, and I wholeheartedly recommend it.
If you’re curious about infertility treatments, pregnancy, and childbirth, I Don’t Know How to Give Birth serves as a pretty good introductory text. Ayami-sensei’s illustrations and analogies do an excellent job of conveying basic concepts in manga/gamer terms. And the tone is pretty upbeat throughout despite the fact that Ayami-sensei clearly endured more than most women in order to have a child.
The Review
This book’s title is a bit misleading. The single-volume work is comprised of ten short chapters plus two “postpartum anecdotes,” but only two of the chapters have to do with the birthing process. Rather, the overall arc covers the more extensive journey of getting pregnant to the initial stages of parenting.
And for mangaka Ayami Kazama and her husband Azure Konno, the journey was longer than most because they struggled with infertility. Infertility isn’t a topic the general public knows much about and is often a source of pain and anxiety for those struggling to conceive. In the first three chapters, Ayami-sensei recounts all the different things she tried in order to get pregnant. If you know nothing about infertility, she lays out the information in a clear fashion that’s easy to understand. She’s also transparent about the emotional, physical, and financial impact it had on her.
At the same time, she tells her story in a way that’s entertaining and often funny. Part of it is because her husband is also a mangaka who’s extremely supportive and has a much more flexible work-life than most Japanese men. She also learns laughs by making comparisons and analogies to video games and anime/manga. (And because her husband also works in that industry, he’s right there on that same wavelength.)
The middle four chapters are about the pregnancy. Because the tone is humorous, she dedicates a chapter to the difficulties of finding properly fitting maternal underwear and another to “leveling up” her nipples for the intense rigors of breastfeeding. However, she also delves into her doubts about whether she will be in “motherly” enough. Interestingly, although she voluntarily underwent two harsh years of infertility treatment, including IVF, it wasn’t because she had an overwhelming innate desire to have a child; rather, her husband wanted one, so she was determined to make his dream of parenthood come true.
Thus, while there’s a lot of material that’s universal to all pregnancies/births, Ayami-sensei’s struggle with infertility, her particular motivation for having a child, as well as her gamer/otaku mindset adds a level of uniqueness to this tale of becoming a parent.
Extras include an afterword and translation notes. Also, every chapter concludes with a commentary from Ayami-sensei and another from her husband, so you get both spouses’ thoughts about story events.
Sure, the title is grating. No one knows how to give birth; you just do it. The spiral eyes are a dead giveaway that this girl is a DITZ, and she has an arrow sticking out of her head – why? But once I got past the opening sequence, I realized it was actually pretty good. She talks about some really awkward subjects, things many women are too shy to discuss, and offers reassurances. OK, it’s irritating that the overall message of the book is, I’m so bad at this that if I can do it, you can too!! But when you think about it, there’s something to that. When it comes to pregnancy and childbirth, all first-time parents are rank amateurs. I was surprised how much I liked Ayama’s husband, who is also a manga-ka. He was pretty laid-back, in contrast to her near-constant hysteria, and supportive, if a bit perplexed at times. So while this book definitely has its flaws, once you get past the opening sequences it's
I don't know how to give birth was a super fun, and super horrific manga-memoir about a woman going through the trials and errors of getting pregnant. I like that it included things like in vitro fertilization and pregnancies not taking. Reading about Kazama Ayami's ups and downs with her pregnancy and having a supportive husband was a rare treat. I laughed during the run of trying to find the right maternity underwear and the journey of breastfeeding. It's interesting reading the end-chapter comments by both husband and wife. I wish I could give more praise to this memoir.
And all the mammal jokes were the perfect balance with the horrors of giving birth and the worries of motherhood.
Cutest shit I've ever read! The most back-breaking training arc in all of manga history. I love the relationship between the author and her husband; you can tell that they really care about each other and appreciate the work they put into each other's lives.
I feel like I should give the disclaimer that I am without a uterus and therefore not in tune to the experiences of giving birth nor the expectations placed upon someone who is able to; I'm sure there's lots of things in here that I would have a more nuanced take about if that were the case, but I enjoyed it very much!
An amusing autobio manga about parenthood, starting with ferility issues and ending with the early newborn days. I chuckled aloud a few times. My sister just gave birth to twins, so some of it felt familiar.
It struck me how very Japanese it was (which shouldn't have been surprising in a manga.) She was at first very sheltered with the whole babymaking deal. I was surprised that the potential of having an epidural didn't come up at all. Also, she draws herself with an exaggerated arrow sticking out of the top of her head, which probably means something in Japan that goes way over my head.
Um, that was — something? I’m not the maternal type, so I just didn’t relate to this manga much at all (or feel stirred into wanting children of my own). I can see how it might be comforting to expectant mothers, though. It was fine while I was reading it, but it just wasn’t for me and I won’t be coming back to it for a reread.
Maybe not the most insightful pregnancy memoir and there are a number of things in it where I was surprised the writer was so unaware of prior to getting pregnant. That said, it was still fun to read while pregnant myself. Maybe more of a borrow than an own though.
I wasn’t expecting much from this, opting to read the book because of its silly title, but I was wrong in my presumptions.
I like to keep my reviews short and to the point, so I will say this manga is adorable, charming, and very funny throughout and was an absolute joy to read!
Cute. She's super funny. I did not expect the comparison to animal instincts and being a mammal, but it fit. It's also heartbreaking how unprepared she was for birth and sex talk. I'm glad she grew through the experience and seemed so comfortable with the topics.
This autobiographical manga is a must read. The way they wove comedy in with something as personal as giving birth was don't masterfully, and I think everyone should give it a read.
This was just bad. I am glad I got it from the library and didn't spend any money on this. I felt like the author was 12 year old not someone that is pregnant and giving birth. Avoid.
Ha! Thought this would be an interesting graphic novel and it was! Based on the author/illustrators own life of going through infertility, IVF, and then the birth of her daughter I liked how her maternal instincts were developing through each stage and the bonus material from her husband too.
This was less a memoir, and more of a diary that the creator made as she went through the process of IVF, pregnancy, birth, and the early months with her child. It made things a bit chaotic, but also very immediate.