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Build Your Best Writing Life: Essential Strategies for Personal Writing Success
Is there a gap between where you are and where you want to be in your writing life?
Maybe you have a drawer full of unfinished manuscripts or a story idea you're struggling to develop. Maybe you're frustrated with your writing progress or overwhelmed by creative doubt, burnout, or writer's block. Maybe you just can't seem to sit down and write.
No matter the roadblock standing between you and writing success, here's the good You're capable of becoming the writer you want to be--and that work can begin today. In this actionable and empowering guide to personal writing success, Kristen Kieffer shares 25 insightful chapters designed to help
Cultivate confidence in your skills and stories Develop a personal writing habit you can actually sustain Improve your writing ability with tools for intentional growth Discover what you (really) want from your writing life--and how to get it! By the end of Build Your Best Writing Life, you'll know how to harness the simple techniques that can help you win your inner creative battles, finish projects you can be proud to share with the world, and work with focus to turn your writing dreams into reality.
Maybe you have a drawer full of unfinished manuscripts or a story idea you're struggling to develop. Maybe you're frustrated with your writing progress or overwhelmed by creative doubt, burnout, or writer's block. Maybe you just can't seem to sit down and write.
No matter the roadblock standing between you and writing success, here's the good You're capable of becoming the writer you want to be--and that work can begin today. In this actionable and empowering guide to personal writing success, Kristen Kieffer shares 25 insightful chapters designed to help
Cultivate confidence in your skills and stories Develop a personal writing habit you can actually sustain Improve your writing ability with tools for intentional growth Discover what you (really) want from your writing life--and how to get it! By the end of Build Your Best Writing Life, you'll know how to harness the simple techniques that can help you win your inner creative battles, finish projects you can be proud to share with the world, and work with focus to turn your writing dreams into reality.
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5 books192 followersKristen Kieffer is a fantasy author and creative coach who lives for art that unflinchingly explores our hurt and hope as human beings. A proud autistic and ADHD artist, she lives at home in New Jersey with her rock of a mom and rescue dog Aggie. When she isn’t creating, she can be found walking through meadows, staring at the stars, and waxing poetic about the creative work that has most recently captured her attention.
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December 29, 2019I think this book is pretty handy. But then again, I'm biased. *wink*
In all seriousness, this book is the culmination of my years-long journey toward building a writing life I love—one that no longer sees me buried under the weight of creative overwhelm and frustration. If this sounds familiar, if you're in any way struggling to find joy in your own writing life, let this book serve as your guide to personal writing success.
In all seriousness, this book is the culmination of my years-long journey toward building a writing life I love—one that no longer sees me buried under the weight of creative overwhelm and frustration. If this sounds familiar, if you're in any way struggling to find joy in your own writing life, let this book serve as your guide to personal writing success.
January 5, 2020
I recommend this, especially for beginning writers or writers struggling to finish their projects. Though there were a few worldview things I didn't agree with – including a couple of swear words – overall, it was freeing and helpful.
I especially like the practical activities to do at the end of every chapter. I highly recommend not skimming through quickly or in a line at the checkout where you don't have access to your journal. The helpfulness, which to me is the main goal and achievement if this book, is only reached when you take your time to work through almost every chapter and every question, applying to yourself. Even if you've begun your writer's journey and already have the publishing and marketing systems in place like I do, it's still a good idea to reevaluate and see if something isn't working.
One main idea I disagreed with: while I agree that we shouldn't compare ourselves to other authors, especially to the successful ones, there are things that I believe very strongly should not be in Christian fiction, and therefore, this statement is incorrect: “The comparison trap is a deadly creative roadblock because it’s built on the belief that there is a 'right' way to be a writer. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Creativity is creativity precisely because it results from originality and innovation. There is no best story, writing style, publishing path, or creative process.” I do believe that there are some “wrong ways” to be a writer; therefore, there is at least one “right way” to be one.
Another minor disagreement: “If writing energizes you, then write.” Though she goes on to qualify it, this statement could be used as an excuse to abandon any project as soon as it gets too hard. Just because I don't feel like putting in the work on a draining project doesn't mean I can quit – and this applies to relationships and commitments as well as to writing projects. I am glad she came back and pointed out that there will also be resistance (which is not the sentient being the author described in chapter 4) and hard work in writing. There are ways to move past it and work out the root problems of your block. But what if you're no longer excited about your project? Should you abandon it? Not necessarily – take a break, yes. Abandon or quit completely? Not usually.
Favorite quotes (I highlighted about 73 passages! Here is just a sample):
“'The problem is that bad writers tend to have the self-confidence,'” said Charles Bukowski ... “'while the good ones tend to have self-doubt.'” The reason for this lies in the nature of doubt, which highlights areas of uncertainty. Bad writers rarely feel uncertain. They believe their work is beyond reproach and therefore entitled to praise from readers, critics, and industry professionals. But no writer should aspire to confidence born out of arrogance. Good writers are good writers because they heed their doubts. Uncertainty breeds humility, and with a healthy creative mindset, humility allows good writers to view their doubts as opportunities for growth.” (p. 15-16)
“Building your best writing life isn't easy. But if you commit to putting in the time and effort necessary to become the writer you want to be, you will become that writer.”
“The healthiest response to doubt is action.”
“...doubts are essential to growth. Without them, you wouldn't question the quality of your work or seek to improve your writing and storytelling skills.” It sounds like humility to me.
“An imperfect story is always more enjoyable than one that is never finished.”
“The trouble with inspiration is that it's the sugar high of creative energy. Tasting the power that comes from crafting something out of nothing can be an addictive experience, but inspiration strikes hard and then retreats, leading to a crash in creative energy.”
“Your time isn't captive. You are its master – and only you get to decide how to spend it.”
“All progress is good progress.”
“Writing isn't a competition, and neither is publishing. Rather, writing is a marathon of the mind.”
(I received this book for free from the author. I was not compensated for this review. All opinions are my own, as was my decision to write a review.)
I especially like the practical activities to do at the end of every chapter. I highly recommend not skimming through quickly or in a line at the checkout where you don't have access to your journal. The helpfulness, which to me is the main goal and achievement if this book, is only reached when you take your time to work through almost every chapter and every question, applying to yourself. Even if you've begun your writer's journey and already have the publishing and marketing systems in place like I do, it's still a good idea to reevaluate and see if something isn't working.
One main idea I disagreed with: while I agree that we shouldn't compare ourselves to other authors, especially to the successful ones, there are things that I believe very strongly should not be in Christian fiction, and therefore, this statement is incorrect: “The comparison trap is a deadly creative roadblock because it’s built on the belief that there is a 'right' way to be a writer. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Creativity is creativity precisely because it results from originality and innovation. There is no best story, writing style, publishing path, or creative process.” I do believe that there are some “wrong ways” to be a writer; therefore, there is at least one “right way” to be one.
Another minor disagreement: “If writing energizes you, then write.” Though she goes on to qualify it, this statement could be used as an excuse to abandon any project as soon as it gets too hard. Just because I don't feel like putting in the work on a draining project doesn't mean I can quit – and this applies to relationships and commitments as well as to writing projects. I am glad she came back and pointed out that there will also be resistance (which is not the sentient being the author described in chapter 4) and hard work in writing. There are ways to move past it and work out the root problems of your block. But what if you're no longer excited about your project? Should you abandon it? Not necessarily – take a break, yes. Abandon or quit completely? Not usually.
Favorite quotes (I highlighted about 73 passages! Here is just a sample):
“'The problem is that bad writers tend to have the self-confidence,'” said Charles Bukowski ... “'while the good ones tend to have self-doubt.'” The reason for this lies in the nature of doubt, which highlights areas of uncertainty. Bad writers rarely feel uncertain. They believe their work is beyond reproach and therefore entitled to praise from readers, critics, and industry professionals. But no writer should aspire to confidence born out of arrogance. Good writers are good writers because they heed their doubts. Uncertainty breeds humility, and with a healthy creative mindset, humility allows good writers to view their doubts as opportunities for growth.” (p. 15-16)
“Building your best writing life isn't easy. But if you commit to putting in the time and effort necessary to become the writer you want to be, you will become that writer.”
“The healthiest response to doubt is action.”
“...doubts are essential to growth. Without them, you wouldn't question the quality of your work or seek to improve your writing and storytelling skills.” It sounds like humility to me.
“An imperfect story is always more enjoyable than one that is never finished.”
“The trouble with inspiration is that it's the sugar high of creative energy. Tasting the power that comes from crafting something out of nothing can be an addictive experience, but inspiration strikes hard and then retreats, leading to a crash in creative energy.”
“Your time isn't captive. You are its master – and only you get to decide how to spend it.”
“All progress is good progress.”
“Writing isn't a competition, and neither is publishing. Rather, writing is a marathon of the mind.”
(I received this book for free from the author. I was not compensated for this review. All opinions are my own, as was my decision to write a review.)
June 2, 2020
Awesome read and resource. I will definitely be keeping this on my reference shelf. I highly recommend it!
Kieffer does an awesome job of laying out the steps to building your best writing life. Her writing style is friendly, but not sugary sweet. She keeps it real, but also encouraging. Making the process seem doable, not easy, but doable.
The book is broken up into four sections: The Creative Mindset; The Writing Practice; Tools for Intentional Growth; and The Road To Writing Success.
In the first section she talks about having a healthy creative mindset to help you handle Resistance that comes knocking on your door. She builds in affirmations to help you push past resistance's goal of stopping you up.
In the second section, she has you build a creative habit that works for you, whatever that might be. Each of us is different.
In the third section, she talks about the power of intentional growth to help you learn. You work on your areas of weakness to build your confidence.
The forth section had me slowing down to work through the activities she presented. I was able to define who I am as a writer and define my mission statement. I was able to focus in on my writing goals - what I want to achieve and how I see my success as a writer.
She also presented the publishing path in a way that was not overwhelming, as well as put forth possible business models for Authors. The big thing in this section was designing a Writing Road May to help guide you through whatever goal you seek to follow.
I read the first three sections quickly, but had to slow down and really consider the last section. I appreciated the care and attention she gave to all the areas she put forth. Her voice gave me confidence that I can do it. I can achieve my best writing life and it starts right now, right here where I am and moving forward in that confidence.
Kieffer does an awesome job of laying out the steps to building your best writing life. Her writing style is friendly, but not sugary sweet. She keeps it real, but also encouraging. Making the process seem doable, not easy, but doable.
The book is broken up into four sections: The Creative Mindset; The Writing Practice; Tools for Intentional Growth; and The Road To Writing Success.
In the first section she talks about having a healthy creative mindset to help you handle Resistance that comes knocking on your door. She builds in affirmations to help you push past resistance's goal of stopping you up.
In the second section, she has you build a creative habit that works for you, whatever that might be. Each of us is different.
In the third section, she talks about the power of intentional growth to help you learn. You work on your areas of weakness to build your confidence.
The forth section had me slowing down to work through the activities she presented. I was able to define who I am as a writer and define my mission statement. I was able to focus in on my writing goals - what I want to achieve and how I see my success as a writer.
She also presented the publishing path in a way that was not overwhelming, as well as put forth possible business models for Authors. The big thing in this section was designing a Writing Road May to help guide you through whatever goal you seek to follow.
I read the first three sections quickly, but had to slow down and really consider the last section. I appreciated the care and attention she gave to all the areas she put forth. Her voice gave me confidence that I can do it. I can achieve my best writing life and it starts right now, right here where I am and moving forward in that confidence.
January 15, 2020
Finally! My first read of 2020! And what a great book to start the new year and the new decade!
I have been following Kristen since 2016, when I started off on my writing journey. And since that moment, Kristen has been a part of my life and has been a great support to my writing journey. Now, I get to support her by reading and reviewing her first published book! (Congratulations Kristen!!!)
After taking a break from writing in 2019, I knew I wanted to get back on the ride in 2020. And when Kristen said she has a book coming out on the topic of building a writing life, the timing couldn't have been more perfect.
Build Your Best Writing Life is a holistic book for writers. It doesn't just focus on the technical factors that make a writer but also takes into account the internal factors. The mindset you need, the right writing practice you need to develop, the tools that will help you grow, and the roadmap you need to formulate in order to achieving writing success - this book lays out everything you need to know on the journey to become the writer you deserve to become. The friendly tone, in which the book is written, makes you feel as if a friend is talking to you. This book is minimalist, simple and calm just like the writer herself. The book made me see old views through new lenses. It made me think and re-work my thoughts and patterns. I'll definitely be going through this again to fine tune my knowledge and put it to practice.
This book doesn't just speak to the writer but to the spirit of the writer.
I have been following Kristen since 2016, when I started off on my writing journey. And since that moment, Kristen has been a part of my life and has been a great support to my writing journey. Now, I get to support her by reading and reviewing her first published book! (Congratulations Kristen!!!)
After taking a break from writing in 2019, I knew I wanted to get back on the ride in 2020. And when Kristen said she has a book coming out on the topic of building a writing life, the timing couldn't have been more perfect.
Build Your Best Writing Life is a holistic book for writers. It doesn't just focus on the technical factors that make a writer but also takes into account the internal factors. The mindset you need, the right writing practice you need to develop, the tools that will help you grow, and the roadmap you need to formulate in order to achieving writing success - this book lays out everything you need to know on the journey to become the writer you deserve to become. The friendly tone, in which the book is written, makes you feel as if a friend is talking to you. This book is minimalist, simple and calm just like the writer herself. The book made me see old views through new lenses. It made me think and re-work my thoughts and patterns. I'll definitely be going through this again to fine tune my knowledge and put it to practice.
This book doesn't just speak to the writer but to the spirit of the writer.
December 29, 2019
Build Your Best Writing Life is a very timely read as we enter the new year and the new decade. It has certainly made me examine my priorities as a writer and to work out what I want from my writing life.
This is a very comprehensive guide for writers, whether you are picking up your pen for the first time or wanting to review and consolidate your current writing practices. Build Your Best Writing Life takes you through the initial doubts and fears that can stop you writing before you even begin right up to the various publishing options available for writers today.
The book deals with all aspects of being a writer, from finding time to write in a busy life to developing a writer’s mission statement. There are exercises in each chapter that will help you get to know yourself better as a writer and to formulate your writing goals.
I read Build Your Best Writing Life in a day, and feel it was a day well spent. Practical and reaffirming, I am going to enter 2020 with a renewed idea of who I am as a writer and where I want to go.
If you love writing and want to make it a part of your life, I strongly recommend you read this book. I am so glad I did and will be keeping it close as I continue my writing journey.
This is a very comprehensive guide for writers, whether you are picking up your pen for the first time or wanting to review and consolidate your current writing practices. Build Your Best Writing Life takes you through the initial doubts and fears that can stop you writing before you even begin right up to the various publishing options available for writers today.
The book deals with all aspects of being a writer, from finding time to write in a busy life to developing a writer’s mission statement. There are exercises in each chapter that will help you get to know yourself better as a writer and to formulate your writing goals.
I read Build Your Best Writing Life in a day, and feel it was a day well spent. Practical and reaffirming, I am going to enter 2020 with a renewed idea of who I am as a writer and where I want to go.
If you love writing and want to make it a part of your life, I strongly recommend you read this book. I am so glad I did and will be keeping it close as I continue my writing journey.
January 3, 2020
I didn't make any strong new year's resolutions for 2020. What I did do was make a promise to myself to really put the work in on my novel in 2020. This book couldn't have come around at a better time. The first part focuses on the creative mindset and how it can be achieved, realizing there really is no right or wrong way to do things. The key is to recognizing what works, but also remembering it is hard work.
Later in the book, the focus is on publishing and marketing. Essential tools and tips here for when that time comes in the writing process. One of the things I really loved in this book was the Writing Road Map section at the end (with three very helpful examples). This book is going to be an indispensable resource for me as I embark on my planned writing journey in 2020.
Later in the book, the focus is on publishing and marketing. Essential tools and tips here for when that time comes in the writing process. One of the things I really loved in this book was the Writing Road Map section at the end (with three very helpful examples). This book is going to be an indispensable resource for me as I embark on my planned writing journey in 2020.
January 11, 2020
I could say this book is two years late in my life, because I could surely used it when I was writing and publishing my first novel. I know Kristen from Well Storied even before the site gained this name (I can't remember the old name), so I knew I could expect good things from her. I wasn't disappointed. The book is practical, exciting, full of not just motivation, but activities to improve our writing lives. If you love writing and want it to be a part of your life, you should totally pick this one.
Better late than never, right? I'm sure I'll have a better writing life after reading this!
Better late than never, right? I'm sure I'll have a better writing life after reading this!
January 6, 2020
As a writing coach and editor, I’m always on the lookout for resources to help me up my game and I certainly found a wonderful one in Kristen Kieffer’s Build Your Best Writing Life.
The author writes with a conversational and genuine voice. From page one, the reader is drawn in through the common thread of “I know what you’re going through, I’ve struggled myself.”
Build Your Best Writing Life is tight, focused, well-organized, and well-written. Kieffer’s mission and audience are clear from the beginning and throughout the whole book. The guide is divided into four main parts, and the chapters that fall within each part are good choices and flow really real. What I liked best and found the most helpful are the chapters where the author speaks on an inspirational level—she is understanding & encouraging, yet firm.
Even though this is the kind of stuff I coach on a regular basis, I was never bored or in disagreement with Kieffer’s guidance. In fact, I was inspired by her honest perspective. I appreciate that Kieffer shares her wisdom and experience in such a way that makes writers feel supported and enlightened.
Absolutely a must-read for any writer who wants to learn more about the craft.
The author writes with a conversational and genuine voice. From page one, the reader is drawn in through the common thread of “I know what you’re going through, I’ve struggled myself.”
Build Your Best Writing Life is tight, focused, well-organized, and well-written. Kieffer’s mission and audience are clear from the beginning and throughout the whole book. The guide is divided into four main parts, and the chapters that fall within each part are good choices and flow really real. What I liked best and found the most helpful are the chapters where the author speaks on an inspirational level—she is understanding & encouraging, yet firm.
Even though this is the kind of stuff I coach on a regular basis, I was never bored or in disagreement with Kieffer’s guidance. In fact, I was inspired by her honest perspective. I appreciate that Kieffer shares her wisdom and experience in such a way that makes writers feel supported and enlightened.
Absolutely a must-read for any writer who wants to learn more about the craft.
January 1, 2020
I've followed the Well-Storied blog for a long while and was excited to read this book, especially after getting to know the author through her posts. A wonderful resource for aspiring authors, it offers affirmations, business models, and road maps for writing success. What I really like is the concrete action-steps I can follow to build my writing life.
January 30, 2020
This is a fantastic resource for any writer. The tone is casual, and yet extremely informative.
January 1, 2020
As someone who is terrible with baby steps and often in denial during self-reflection exercises, this is exactly the kind of advice book I needed in my life. I needed my action steps spoon-fed and Kristen delivered.
April 23, 2025
As someone that has spent the past few years struggling with the writing life and mentality and considered calling it quits several times, Kristen Kieffer’s guidebook to building a writing life that you will be satisfied with was much needed. While I’ve read other motivation based books in the past few years, Build Your Best Writing Life lays down the enemy of writing, resistance (in terms of the negative voices) and how it destroys writers lives. It then goes into how to fight resistance with a strong mindset and gives out detailed tips to build a stable foundation to your own writing life in terms of growth on your own terms. Kieffer speaks in a casual style drawing from her five year struggle of battling resistance and coming out of it stronger. It feels like you are reading from the experienced big sister or friend that is ready to help you with your own struggles. I have trusted her through the last few years via the Story Social chats she hosts of Wednesday nights, and while some of the material is familiar to regulars of the chats, there’s expansion via connections as well as brand new material that a series of tweets couldn’t go in depth into.
The first part goes into identifying the biggest enemy of many writers what she terms resistance. It’s the enemy of confidence and self doubt and she details the forms it takes and how to build a mindset to curtail its presence. The second part gets into writing habits and building a writing life that you’re proud of to keep the negative feelings at bay, and the roadblocks to be aware of that might put you right back in the pit of despair as I have with the comparison trap (which she spends a lot of time on). Part three talks about how to improve your writing and goes in detail about improving your craft, and not just the tips you see in articles online which can feel superficial and absolute. The critique chapter touched me especially since I struggled with some bad run ins years ago and still affects me today. The last part helps in establishing your road map for your writing life by helping you in deep diving in terms of who you are as a writer and the goals you want to achieve. It ends with some creative affirmations to help in your own writing life.
Even though I haven’t done the deep dive yet, I can see it will help me throughout 2020 as I work to regain my own writing identity after spending the last few years frustrated and annoyed by all my setbacks and my own battle with resistance. Highly recommend to those that struggle with their writing and wrestle with doubt and despair on those subjects.
The first part goes into identifying the biggest enemy of many writers what she terms resistance. It’s the enemy of confidence and self doubt and she details the forms it takes and how to build a mindset to curtail its presence. The second part gets into writing habits and building a writing life that you’re proud of to keep the negative feelings at bay, and the roadblocks to be aware of that might put you right back in the pit of despair as I have with the comparison trap (which she spends a lot of time on). Part three talks about how to improve your writing and goes in detail about improving your craft, and not just the tips you see in articles online which can feel superficial and absolute. The critique chapter touched me especially since I struggled with some bad run ins years ago and still affects me today. The last part helps in establishing your road map for your writing life by helping you in deep diving in terms of who you are as a writer and the goals you want to achieve. It ends with some creative affirmations to help in your own writing life.
Even though I haven’t done the deep dive yet, I can see it will help me throughout 2020 as I work to regain my own writing identity after spending the last few years frustrated and annoyed by all my setbacks and my own battle with resistance. Highly recommend to those that struggle with their writing and wrestle with doubt and despair on those subjects.
February 7, 2024
Build Your Best Writing Life
is an implied promise of help in in putting together a writing life that works. I think most writers go through extended periods of self-doubt regarding their craft. I know it is a constant struggle for me, and so this book’s title grabbed my attention.
WRITING PRACTICE IN THE WRITING LIFE
I have read many books intended to inspire writers to write. Most are offered with good intentions, but I have read so many that their message became trite. Best Writing Life goes beyond that, or maybe it was just the right time for me to receive it’s message.
The book begins with a “pep talk” section on “The Creative Mindset.” It is only four short chapters, which is all it needs to make its point of identifying “Resistance” as the root of creative frustration. Ms. Kieffer borrowed this concept from Steven Pressfield and gives him full credit. It is a useful concept.
The idea of Resistance as antagonist to the writer is correct, I believe. Ms. Kieffer goes on to further identify the fears Resistance uses against us: fear of rejection, fear of criticism and judgment, disapproval, and more. Many books of this subject stop there, but this is just setup. More is needed for the frustrated writer. Fortunately, Ms. Kieffer keeps going.
She goes into describing the writing process and what it needs to become a sustainable WRITING PRACTICE. This process includes claiming your writing workspace, making time to write, improving your output (and considering “output” properly), working through writer’s block, renewing writing energy, and building endurance. Here, Ms. Kieffer goes beyond trite, providing actionable suggestions along with exercises.
Ms. Kieffer advocates “intentional growth” in her book’s third section. This is the concept of deliberately taking steps to improve your writing ability. Her primary affirmation and mantra throughout the book is: You are as good a writer as you work toward being. Working toward that improvement is an intentional act. You should study writing craft, consume literature critically, and seek constructive feedback. There is nothing original in this advice, but it is true and should be taken to heart by the struggling writer.
In her last section, Ms. Kieffer describes the road to writing success, beginning with defining that concept. She continues on to crafting your writer’s mission statement, choosing a publishing path, and business models. None of these topics are covered ad nauseam, which is good, so as not to dilute the value in them.
Most interesting to me is her description of the WRITING ROAD MAP. Again, this is not an original concept, but I do like the way she presents it. She presents setting goals in a way I think is workable. In fact, her approach is similar to what I developed myself. What I learned from Ms. Kieffer, however, helped me improve my own writing road map to a point I think will finally work for me.
SLOW PARTS WITHIN COMPELLING PARTS WITH INSPIRATIONAL PARTS
I see in Build Your Best Writing Life, a realistic approach to dealing with Resistance that can work. While covering ground tread by others, she delves deeper and in a helpful way. So we have a compelling first part, a slower second and third parts, and an inspiring description of the Writing Roadmap.
There is an appendix of CREATIVE AFFIRMATIONS worth reading and internalizing. Also, there is a bibliography that looks like a good one, containing a number of books I have read and can endorse.
ALL ARTISTS STRUGGLE CREATIVELY
All artists suffer for their art to one degree or other. It is inner pain calling into question the artist’s self-worth. Creative writers are no exception. I have fought with self-doubt and Resistance in my writing life. The struggle prompted me, from time to time, to seek help from others who have fought the same fight and found ways to carry on. Build Your Best Writing Life is such a help. If you are a writer doubting yourself creatively, I highly recommend it.
WRITING PRACTICE IN THE WRITING LIFE
I have read many books intended to inspire writers to write. Most are offered with good intentions, but I have read so many that their message became trite. Best Writing Life goes beyond that, or maybe it was just the right time for me to receive it’s message.
The book begins with a “pep talk” section on “The Creative Mindset.” It is only four short chapters, which is all it needs to make its point of identifying “Resistance” as the root of creative frustration. Ms. Kieffer borrowed this concept from Steven Pressfield and gives him full credit. It is a useful concept.
The idea of Resistance as antagonist to the writer is correct, I believe. Ms. Kieffer goes on to further identify the fears Resistance uses against us: fear of rejection, fear of criticism and judgment, disapproval, and more. Many books of this subject stop there, but this is just setup. More is needed for the frustrated writer. Fortunately, Ms. Kieffer keeps going.
She goes into describing the writing process and what it needs to become a sustainable WRITING PRACTICE. This process includes claiming your writing workspace, making time to write, improving your output (and considering “output” properly), working through writer’s block, renewing writing energy, and building endurance. Here, Ms. Kieffer goes beyond trite, providing actionable suggestions along with exercises.
Ms. Kieffer advocates “intentional growth” in her book’s third section. This is the concept of deliberately taking steps to improve your writing ability. Her primary affirmation and mantra throughout the book is: You are as good a writer as you work toward being. Working toward that improvement is an intentional act. You should study writing craft, consume literature critically, and seek constructive feedback. There is nothing original in this advice, but it is true and should be taken to heart by the struggling writer.
In her last section, Ms. Kieffer describes the road to writing success, beginning with defining that concept. She continues on to crafting your writer’s mission statement, choosing a publishing path, and business models. None of these topics are covered ad nauseam, which is good, so as not to dilute the value in them.
Most interesting to me is her description of the WRITING ROAD MAP. Again, this is not an original concept, but I do like the way she presents it. She presents setting goals in a way I think is workable. In fact, her approach is similar to what I developed myself. What I learned from Ms. Kieffer, however, helped me improve my own writing road map to a point I think will finally work for me.
SLOW PARTS WITHIN COMPELLING PARTS WITH INSPIRATIONAL PARTS
I see in Build Your Best Writing Life, a realistic approach to dealing with Resistance that can work. While covering ground tread by others, she delves deeper and in a helpful way. So we have a compelling first part, a slower second and third parts, and an inspiring description of the Writing Roadmap.
There is an appendix of CREATIVE AFFIRMATIONS worth reading and internalizing. Also, there is a bibliography that looks like a good one, containing a number of books I have read and can endorse.
ALL ARTISTS STRUGGLE CREATIVELY
All artists suffer for their art to one degree or other. It is inner pain calling into question the artist’s self-worth. Creative writers are no exception. I have fought with self-doubt and Resistance in my writing life. The struggle prompted me, from time to time, to seek help from others who have fought the same fight and found ways to carry on. Build Your Best Writing Life is such a help. If you are a writer doubting yourself creatively, I highly recommend it.
December 29, 2023
Build Your Best Writing Life: Essential Strategies for Personal Writing Success by Kristen Kieffer
4.0 stars
Build Your Best Writing Life is a non-fiction self help book that is specifically tailored to helping writers develop personal writing success. It discusses the different roadblocks and struggles that writers go through in their writing life - whether it is developing a first draft, marketing a book or setting goals for personal writing success - this book covers many different elements that I have experienced as a writer.
One of the things that really drew me into this book when I first started reading it was how Kieffer was able to put the struggles and feelings I have experienced as a writer into words. Some of the issues she discusses are ones that I experience daily as a writer who has not yet completed her first book. Despite being involved in the writing community, I have never heard other writers talk about these things. This is one of the first things I've read that actually acknowledge certain creative issues and I'm so glad it does. Another thing I enjoyed about this book was that it provides realistic solutions to these issues. Kieffer gives advice on how to develop your own personal goals as a writer, how to fit writing into our daily lives, how to deal with resistance and our doubts, the misrepresentation of what writers block actually is and provides insight into the industry. I think, overall, what stands out most about this book is that it doesn't just say 'believe in yourself' and 'follow your dreams', it gives advice and structure to help you thrive as a writer which I think is more important than anything else.
I think one of the reasons why I couldn't connect with this book as much as I'd of liked to is because I listened to the audiobook version of it. I was still able to complete the activities that Kieffer suggests you do, but I think to receive the most out of this book is to own a physical copy to keep beside you whilst you write. I would love to have my own copy to highlight, annotate and tab so I can keep going back to specific chapters that would best help me in the long run. I might buy a copy with my Christmas money, we'll see haha. I also don't want to rate this higher than four stars because, whilst this book was extremely insightful, I haven't yet put all of these tasks into practice because I recently finished up with exams and haven't had much time to write. However, now I am more aware of what Kieffer discusses, I am hoping to implement her ideas into my own writing life.
I definitely recommend this book if you have been struggling in your writing life - whether it is in selling books, maintaining a consistent writing routine, going through the drafting process, not being able to finish a book or having doubts about your ability as a writer. If any of these issues seem familiar than this book is the beginning of the solution for you.
4.0 stars
Build Your Best Writing Life is a non-fiction self help book that is specifically tailored to helping writers develop personal writing success. It discusses the different roadblocks and struggles that writers go through in their writing life - whether it is developing a first draft, marketing a book or setting goals for personal writing success - this book covers many different elements that I have experienced as a writer.
One of the things that really drew me into this book when I first started reading it was how Kieffer was able to put the struggles and feelings I have experienced as a writer into words. Some of the issues she discusses are ones that I experience daily as a writer who has not yet completed her first book. Despite being involved in the writing community, I have never heard other writers talk about these things. This is one of the first things I've read that actually acknowledge certain creative issues and I'm so glad it does. Another thing I enjoyed about this book was that it provides realistic solutions to these issues. Kieffer gives advice on how to develop your own personal goals as a writer, how to fit writing into our daily lives, how to deal with resistance and our doubts, the misrepresentation of what writers block actually is and provides insight into the industry. I think, overall, what stands out most about this book is that it doesn't just say 'believe in yourself' and 'follow your dreams', it gives advice and structure to help you thrive as a writer which I think is more important than anything else.
I think one of the reasons why I couldn't connect with this book as much as I'd of liked to is because I listened to the audiobook version of it. I was still able to complete the activities that Kieffer suggests you do, but I think to receive the most out of this book is to own a physical copy to keep beside you whilst you write. I would love to have my own copy to highlight, annotate and tab so I can keep going back to specific chapters that would best help me in the long run. I might buy a copy with my Christmas money, we'll see haha. I also don't want to rate this higher than four stars because, whilst this book was extremely insightful, I haven't yet put all of these tasks into practice because I recently finished up with exams and haven't had much time to write. However, now I am more aware of what Kieffer discusses, I am hoping to implement her ideas into my own writing life.
I definitely recommend this book if you have been struggling in your writing life - whether it is in selling books, maintaining a consistent writing routine, going through the drafting process, not being able to finish a book or having doubts about your ability as a writer. If any of these issues seem familiar than this book is the beginning of the solution for you.
July 11, 2020
I've studied writing craft, strategies for productivity, book marketing, etc. for years, but I still sometimes struggle to get or remain clear on what *I* need to do as an aspiring author. I wanted to get a clear, comprehensive plan of action down that would serve as my north star for every day of my writing life, so I bought this book, hoping it would bring some order to my easily scattered, disorganized, and indecisive mind.
Build Your Best Writing Life was an absolute godsend in that regard.
Kristen Kieffer adeptly addresses the mindset writers need to adopt in order to succeed at their goals, covers all of the major aspects that most aspiring writers need to consider (studying the craft, developing a writing practice, creating a marketing plan, etc.), provides practical and thorough guidelines, and supplies plenty of clear examples so that you're never left wondering what she's talking about.
Not only did this book address every part of the plan I wanted to include---it addressed issues of resistance that usually stop me from ever settling on a plan in the first place. Ms. Kieffer did the near-impossible and got me to *make decisions* regarding my writing plan and feel comfortable about making them. That, alone, deserves a 5-star rating.
But so does just about every other aspect of this book. It delivers on its promise with abundance, and does so in an engaging, accessible, and extremely helpful manner.
Build Your Best Writing Life is going on my most-important-writing-books list next to gems like Gabriela Pereira's DIY MFA and Jane Friedman's The Business of Being a Writer.
Build Your Best Writing Life was an absolute godsend in that regard.
Kristen Kieffer adeptly addresses the mindset writers need to adopt in order to succeed at their goals, covers all of the major aspects that most aspiring writers need to consider (studying the craft, developing a writing practice, creating a marketing plan, etc.), provides practical and thorough guidelines, and supplies plenty of clear examples so that you're never left wondering what she's talking about.
Not only did this book address every part of the plan I wanted to include---it addressed issues of resistance that usually stop me from ever settling on a plan in the first place. Ms. Kieffer did the near-impossible and got me to *make decisions* regarding my writing plan and feel comfortable about making them. That, alone, deserves a 5-star rating.
But so does just about every other aspect of this book. It delivers on its promise with abundance, and does so in an engaging, accessible, and extremely helpful manner.
Build Your Best Writing Life is going on my most-important-writing-books list next to gems like Gabriela Pereira's DIY MFA and Jane Friedman's The Business of Being a Writer.
April 10, 2021
Despite enjoying writing many writers find it difficult to put words on the page. Kieffer identifies this paradox as 'resistance' and throughout the book offers various solutions to combat it. The first half of the book succeeds most at this where advise is more generalized and could even be seen as more motivational than actually instructive. The later chapters get more specific with actual steps to take, which may or may not resonate with a reader depending on where they are in their writing hobby/career. I skimmed these parts as none of it really applied to me.
The core theme of the book is tenacity. Almost every tidbit of advise also comes with a disclaimer that the best way to improve as a writer is to write. This is said in different variations from cover to cover, so some may find it repetitive. For others they might need the repetitive reminder for it to sink in.
A quote near the end of the book really summarizes my takeaway from the whole thing:
“Building your best writing life is an ongoing endeavour. It’s a process that happens every time you sit down and do the damn hard work, as you become-through every word you write-the writer you want to be.”
I found the book to be a motivating light read, but nothing truly groundbreaking and certainly not entertaining. For that reason I'm giving it 3/5 stars (it was okay).
The core theme of the book is tenacity. Almost every tidbit of advise also comes with a disclaimer that the best way to improve as a writer is to write. This is said in different variations from cover to cover, so some may find it repetitive. For others they might need the repetitive reminder for it to sink in.
A quote near the end of the book really summarizes my takeaway from the whole thing:
“Building your best writing life is an ongoing endeavour. It’s a process that happens every time you sit down and do the damn hard work, as you become-through every word you write-the writer you want to be.”
I found the book to be a motivating light read, but nothing truly groundbreaking and certainly not entertaining. For that reason I'm giving it 3/5 stars (it was okay).
January 1, 2020
I've been a long-time follower of Kristen Kieffer's blog (www.well-storied.com) and the Facebook group (Your Write Dream) and the advice I've picked up over the years have been invaluable. Now imagine my excitement when I heard about this book. "Build Your Best Writing Life" is a collection of Ms. Kieffer's best advice for tackling the most prevalent issues faced by novice (and even professional) writers. It's clear from the first chapter that Ms. Kieffer writes from experience - she has been in the trenches and she has suffered through all the challenges she covers.
From exploring the concept of creativity to practical tips and prompts, this handbook deals with all the issues I've personally faced in my writing, as well as covering things that I've never even considered that could be creating roadblocks to success.
I highly recommend this book to any writer struggling to create a consistent writing schedule or those who want to start writing, but who are unsure where to start. You will find answers to your questions and you will find that you become a better writer.
From exploring the concept of creativity to practical tips and prompts, this handbook deals with all the issues I've personally faced in my writing, as well as covering things that I've never even considered that could be creating roadblocks to success.
I highly recommend this book to any writer struggling to create a consistent writing schedule or those who want to start writing, but who are unsure where to start. You will find answers to your questions and you will find that you become a better writer.
January 9, 2020
I found Kristen's Well-Storied Podcast last year. It was one of the few survivors of my podcast purge of '19. When she offered an ARC preview of Build Your Best Writing Life, I suspected I'd enjoy it, based on her podcast content and web articles.
She didn't disappoint.
Build Your Best Writing Life: Essential Strategies For Personal Writing Success is equal parts motivation, inspiration, and practical tips for getting the work done. It's like having your own writing coach on call 24/7. If you're new to writing, the book will inform your decisions and equip you with sound strategies for putting words on paper. If you're a veteran, I think you'll find Kristen's voice a worthwhile companion as you move through your next project.
If you're on the fence about buying the book, I suggest you check out her web site at well-storied.com and listen to a few episodes of the Well-Storied Podcast. If you like what you find, buy the book. It’s a great way to learn from a down-to-Earth writer who shares honest, practical insights.
She didn't disappoint.
Build Your Best Writing Life: Essential Strategies For Personal Writing Success is equal parts motivation, inspiration, and practical tips for getting the work done. It's like having your own writing coach on call 24/7. If you're new to writing, the book will inform your decisions and equip you with sound strategies for putting words on paper. If you're a veteran, I think you'll find Kristen's voice a worthwhile companion as you move through your next project.
If you're on the fence about buying the book, I suggest you check out her web site at well-storied.com and listen to a few episodes of the Well-Storied Podcast. If you like what you find, buy the book. It’s a great way to learn from a down-to-Earth writer who shares honest, practical insights.
January 23, 2020
Kristen Kieffer has been sharing her writing wisdom with the world for years now, so it's exciting to see her work finally take shape as a book!
In Build Your Best Writing Life, she goes in depth on all the various creative and mental blocks that stand between hopeful authors and finished novels, and she does so in her characteristically positive, empathetic way. There's no judgement here, just a fellow writer sharing her experiences and advice. For a book so focused on nurturing your creativity, this is super important and much appreciated.
My only (minor) complaint is that I wish there was a clearer throughline between all the chapters in the book. While the book is organized into a handful of sections, it felt like each chapter was more of a standalone experience, rather than the continuation of a single core idea. You may not notice this, but it left me wanting just a bit more of "something" by the end.
Overall, this book is well worth a read if you're ready to start writing a novel, but just haven't worked up the courage to do so!
In Build Your Best Writing Life, she goes in depth on all the various creative and mental blocks that stand between hopeful authors and finished novels, and she does so in her characteristically positive, empathetic way. There's no judgement here, just a fellow writer sharing her experiences and advice. For a book so focused on nurturing your creativity, this is super important and much appreciated.
My only (minor) complaint is that I wish there was a clearer throughline between all the chapters in the book. While the book is organized into a handful of sections, it felt like each chapter was more of a standalone experience, rather than the continuation of a single core idea. You may not notice this, but it left me wanting just a bit more of "something" by the end.
Overall, this book is well worth a read if you're ready to start writing a novel, but just haven't worked up the courage to do so!
January 3, 2020
The title ‘Build Your Best Writing Life’ is certainly relevant for this book. It represents a journey, from starting with remedies for the symptoms of creative skepticism and procrastination, through the discovery of what drives your writing, and finally to making the goals and a road-map to achieve personal success. The word ‘build’ in the title is the key. A foundation for writing is prepared, and each subsequent chapter adds information to construct the mindset and decision one needs to make to be successful.
Personally, I learned many of the early lessons the hard way. The middle of the book provided me with direction and solidified my understanding of my potential, and the final chapters have given me the ideas for the goals I want to pursue. I discovered much newfound self-awareness by doing the exercises. An excellent resource for both a new and seasoned writer. Five of five on Goodreads.
Personally, I learned many of the early lessons the hard way. The middle of the book provided me with direction and solidified my understanding of my potential, and the final chapters have given me the ideas for the goals I want to pursue. I discovered much newfound self-awareness by doing the exercises. An excellent resource for both a new and seasoned writer. Five of five on Goodreads.
January 1, 2020
Kristen Kieffer thought of everything.
This book is an invaluable resource for writers of all genres and skill levels at every stage of the journey. No writer is left behind — BYBWL caters to newbie writers who lack the confidence to call themselves writers as well as experienced novelists on the path to publication. The activities offer endless opportunities for self-discovery. As someone who's been writing creatively since I was old enough to hold a pencil (and telling stories before that), I can't recommend this book — or Kristen's blog, Well-Storied — enough. I know this will be a well-worn volume by the time I'm ready to start querying for an agent. But for now, I'm excited to dive in, create my writer's mission statement and roadmap, and lay out a clear plan to build a sustainable writing practice so I can finally #finishthedamnthing!
This book is an invaluable resource for writers of all genres and skill levels at every stage of the journey. No writer is left behind — BYBWL caters to newbie writers who lack the confidence to call themselves writers as well as experienced novelists on the path to publication. The activities offer endless opportunities for self-discovery. As someone who's been writing creatively since I was old enough to hold a pencil (and telling stories before that), I can't recommend this book — or Kristen's blog, Well-Storied — enough. I know this will be a well-worn volume by the time I'm ready to start querying for an agent. But for now, I'm excited to dive in, create my writer's mission statement and roadmap, and lay out a clear plan to build a sustainable writing practice so I can finally #finishthedamnthing!
February 28, 2020
Throughout the book, the author brings in what others have brought to the conversation. She gives a new perspective on old words of writing wisdom.
The practices and activities given are grounded and realistic, looking at finding what you can do without telling you what you must accomplish to be successful. The book is also formatted accessibly. It's easy to jump between chapters as they take your fancy.
The book goes through the full writing process, from idea capture to marketing. Each aspect she goes through, she caters to a wide range of writers, instead of one traditional writer's path. The only real complaint I have is that she attempts to have the spectrum of applicability of "If You Want to Write" without having any of the experience and depth that makes that book appealing. It does also sound a bit like a scrivener advert for the first half, though.
The practices and activities given are grounded and realistic, looking at finding what you can do without telling you what you must accomplish to be successful. The book is also formatted accessibly. It's easy to jump between chapters as they take your fancy.
The book goes through the full writing process, from idea capture to marketing. Each aspect she goes through, she caters to a wide range of writers, instead of one traditional writer's path. The only real complaint I have is that she attempts to have the spectrum of applicability of "If You Want to Write" without having any of the experience and depth that makes that book appealing. It does also sound a bit like a scrivener advert for the first half, though.
December 29, 2019
Having followed Kristen's blog for some time I was excited to read her first full book on the writing life. I would recommend this to any aspiring or new writers out there. This is not a guide on how to write a novel, although character, setting and story structure are touched upon briefly, you will find more detailed resources on these subjects elsewhere. This is however, a great guide on becoming the writer you want to be and helping you carve out a space to be just that. Full of inspiration and practical activities to really help you find who you are as a writer because importantly, Kristen recognises that we are all different and there is no one right way to be a writer. This book will help you find "your" way.
December 31, 2019
Having been made fun of for having the highest grade on a writing assignment, in college the grade on the assignment was lower because I didn't follow what others wrote, and then when I shared with some ladies friends about a book I had started writing, they told me not to bother because there was a book on that subject which nothing I could write would outdo that book. I stopped writing for years.
Now that I have started writing again the past has been messing with my thoughts in that I'm not good enough to write.
Kristen has a ton of help in retraining your thoughts and getting your focus set for writing. It is great for new writers or writers that are stuck in their writing. It is worth reading a couple of times to get everything one can out of it.
Now that I have started writing again the past has been messing with my thoughts in that I'm not good enough to write.
Kristen has a ton of help in retraining your thoughts and getting your focus set for writing. It is great for new writers or writers that are stuck in their writing. It is worth reading a couple of times to get everything one can out of it.
January 15, 2021
I write for a living, and I’ve learned that writing doesn’t always come out of some mythical feeling or a strike of inspiration. It’s way more practical than that, and it requires pushing past our personal resistance. Resistance is that extreme hesitation you feel when you’re writing. I love how this book acknowledges the specific reasons for our resistance to writing: imposter syndrome, insecurity, fear, pride, consistency, etc. She did a great job of balancing discipline and persistence with creativity and rest.
If you write professionally, personally, or somewhere in between, this book is an excellent resource. When writing is broken down practically , we can begin to become the writers we’ve always wanted to be.
If you write professionally, personally, or somewhere in between, this book is an excellent resource. When writing is broken down practically , we can begin to become the writers we’ve always wanted to be.
November 4, 2020
Fantastic for Writers of All Levels!
I love this book. Seriously. I’ve found a lot of writing help books to be kind of condescending, obvious, and without concrete actionable steps.
I have a bunch of things I can do to get me to where I want to be. She doesn’t tell me to ignore my inner critic, but rather change how I respond to it. And she includes actual steps you can take to change your response! That’s the biggest thing I’ve struggled with. I’ve read so many writing help books that have no suggestions as to how to do the work.
A+ Kristen! You’ll definitely be getting a shout out in the acknowledgments when I finish my novel!
I love this book. Seriously. I’ve found a lot of writing help books to be kind of condescending, obvious, and without concrete actionable steps.
I have a bunch of things I can do to get me to where I want to be. She doesn’t tell me to ignore my inner critic, but rather change how I respond to it. And she includes actual steps you can take to change your response! That’s the biggest thing I’ve struggled with. I’ve read so many writing help books that have no suggestions as to how to do the work.
A+ Kristen! You’ll definitely be getting a shout out in the acknowledgments when I finish my novel!
December 31, 2019
This book is very encouraging to writers who feel stuck or lack confidence. It encourages writers to look deeply at what they really want for their own writing lives and work toward that, instead of burning themselves out trying to emulate successful authors with different goals and values. It's fine if you'd rather keep a day job than crank out a book every month, if you want to self-publish your work, or if you don't want to publish at all. Highly recommended.
Full disclose: I received an advance review copy in exchange for this honest review.
Full disclose: I received an advance review copy in exchange for this honest review.
January 2, 2020
Build Your Best Writing Life is true to its title. Kristen guides you as a writer to help you find the time and confidence to be the writer she knows you can become. Every chapter is geared to move you along with your writing and keep you inspired to actually finish your book. It is not only for those writing a novel but for any writer who needs to really become the writer that they were meant to me. Kristen has taken her amazing talent as a writer to a whole new level and provided the help we all need to obtain our own writing goals. You will love this book and won't be able to put it down.
January 5, 2020
I have a LOT of writing craft books in my library. A lot. I've read most of them, started some and have finished the rest halfway. I finished Build Your Best Writing Life. This book is what I really needed after all the rest. Path of Hope, principles, overcoming resistance, validation, originality, and affirmations are tools I can use. Over and over. These tools combat the rest. Inner criticism, inner editor, imposter syndrome, and so on. Thank you, Kristen, for taking the time to write about us. One big family. Writers.
January 18, 2020
This is the most encouraging read about writing I have done this year. The entire first part of the book encourages writers and points out all of the negative self-talk we give ourselves. The rest of the book is filled with helpful information on how to write successfully. The author even goes into how to publish your book and keep yourself on track with lists and deadlines. There are examples throughout the book. If you need encouragement in your writing, feel alone, or doubt yourself, you must read this book.
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