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Minding Miss Manners: In an Era of Fake Etiquette
Minding Miss Manners: In an Era of Fake Etiquette is a modern guide to modern manners. Facing down the miscreants purveying false etiquette rules (no, you may not wait a year to send a thank-you note for a gift and yes, in an age of social-media-encouraged over-familiarity you can politely refuse to answer nosy questions), Miss Manners guides you through these turbulent times with her timeless wisdom and archly acid wit.
240 pages, Hardcover
First published June 9, 2020
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Judith Martin
110 books102 followersJudith Martin (née Perlman), better known by the pen name Miss Manners, is an American journalist, author, and etiquette authority.
Since 1978 she has written an advice column, which is distributed three times a week by United Features Syndicate and carried in more than 200 newspapers worldwide. In the column, she answers etiquette questions contributed by her readers and writes short essays on problems of manners, or clarifies the essential qualities of politeness.
Since 1978 she has written an advice column, which is distributed three times a week by United Features Syndicate and carried in more than 200 newspapers worldwide. In the column, she answers etiquette questions contributed by her readers and writes short essays on problems of manners, or clarifies the essential qualities of politeness.
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September 18, 2020
I couldn't get through the introduction so went straight to chapter one. I thought it was going to be about Judith Martin, Miss Manners, but it was a collection of questions and answers on etiquette. It felt like they were culled from innumerable columns. They weren't even interesting questions. I could think of some:
"What do you do when at a dinner party you go to the bathroom and really stink it up and there is no air freshener and what's more "it" doesn't flush away?"
"What do you say when you've been a long time in the host's bathroom, like 20 minutes and you sit down again at the table?"
"What do you say to the man who brought you to the party that it's ok to talk to the guest on his left and ogle her breasts but it's really not ok to invite her out to Joe's Stone Crab in front of you."
"What do you say when he says, 'Was it good for you?' and you think, couldn't you fucking tell? But you want to see him again because he's got an amazing car, a Ferrari Tributo, and so far you've only been in his AMG and you don't want to sound fake?"
There should be an etiquette book for ordinary people dealing with the super wealthy. It's like visiting a foreign country, it all looks the same superficially, but the customs, expectations, and conversation is subtly, or not so subtly, different.
Since Miss Manners wasn't on my wavelength telling me the answers to my very real etiquette issues, and instead was answering half-arsed questions on emails, forks and introductions, I dnf'd it. 2 stars. I reserve 1 stars for books that are despicable.
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Notes before reading
"What do you do when at a dinner party you go to the bathroom and really stink it up and there is no air freshener and what's more "it" doesn't flush away?"
"What do you say when you've been a long time in the host's bathroom, like 20 minutes and you sit down again at the table?"
"What do you say to the man who brought you to the party that it's ok to talk to the guest on his left and ogle her breasts but it's really not ok to invite her out to Joe's Stone Crab in front of you."
"What do you say when he says, 'Was it good for you?' and you think, couldn't you fucking tell? But you want to see him again because he's got an amazing car, a Ferrari Tributo, and so far you've only been in his AMG and you don't want to sound fake?"
There should be an etiquette book for ordinary people dealing with the super wealthy. It's like visiting a foreign country, it all looks the same superficially, but the customs, expectations, and conversation is subtly, or not so subtly, different.
Since Miss Manners wasn't on my wavelength telling me the answers to my very real etiquette issues, and instead was answering half-arsed questions on emails, forks and introductions, I dnf'd it. 2 stars. I reserve 1 stars for books that are despicable.
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Notes before reading
July 17, 2020
With the advent of audiobooks being offered by netgalley, this was my first pick.
I came of age when Emily Post’s etiquette book was on my bookshelf and frequently referred to. I owned Miss Manners’s original book, which was published in 1982. But etiquette books seem to have gone the way of the dodo. So, I was curious to see what this current book would cover. As expected, we hear of Bridezillas, food fussiness, thank you notes, selfie parties, busy bodies and political correctness. But above all else, this book points out the overwhelming materialism of this society.
Now, this was a very entertaining read and I enjoyed it immensely. Miss Manners has a wonderful snarky wit, and she truly has a way with a bon mot. Her answers are based on plain old common sense and decency. Having said that, an etiquette book is by nature a reference book. And if you really intend to refer back to it, you’d want this as a book, not an audiobook. Obviously, we’ve moved on from how to structure a response to a wedding invitation. Gentle reader, I kid you not. Response cards are a recent phenomenon. But you might want to remember an appropriate turn of phrase. But if you’re just looking for entertainment, then yes, the audiobook will fit the bill.
Warning - I was listening to this on my walks and realized I was in danger of catching flies as my jaw seemed to be perpetually down around my clavicles.
Jacobina Martin, Judith’s daughter, is the narrator and she does a fine job.
I came of age when Emily Post’s etiquette book was on my bookshelf and frequently referred to. I owned Miss Manners’s original book, which was published in 1982. But etiquette books seem to have gone the way of the dodo. So, I was curious to see what this current book would cover. As expected, we hear of Bridezillas, food fussiness, thank you notes, selfie parties, busy bodies and political correctness. But above all else, this book points out the overwhelming materialism of this society.
Now, this was a very entertaining read and I enjoyed it immensely. Miss Manners has a wonderful snarky wit, and she truly has a way with a bon mot. Her answers are based on plain old common sense and decency. Having said that, an etiquette book is by nature a reference book. And if you really intend to refer back to it, you’d want this as a book, not an audiobook. Obviously, we’ve moved on from how to structure a response to a wedding invitation. Gentle reader, I kid you not. Response cards are a recent phenomenon. But you might want to remember an appropriate turn of phrase. But if you’re just looking for entertainment, then yes, the audiobook will fit the bill.
Warning - I was listening to this on my walks and realized I was in danger of catching flies as my jaw seemed to be perpetually down around my clavicles.
Jacobina Martin, Judith’s daughter, is the narrator and she does a fine job.
July 13, 2020
My first audiobook review for Goodreads, and it is 5 stars all the way!
This audiobook by Miss Manners (also known as Judith Martin) is read by Jacobina Martin. Of course, being nosy, I immediately had to Google to see if Miss Manners and Jacobina were related. So I was today years old when I learned that in fact Jacobina Martin IS Judith Martin's daughter, AND both Jacobina and her brother Nicholas have been helping write the Miss Manners column with their mother for some time. I also learned that Jacobina Martin is an improv comedian, which explains how she totally nailed Miss Manners' humorous and slightly snarky tone.
At first I was very surprised at the narrator's voice. I perhaps unreasonably expected to hear the voice of a prim, elderly, possibly British aristocrat, as befitting the old fashioned Miss Manners in my mind. Nope! This narrator is young, funny, with a pleasant voice and a straightforward, witty and elegant approach to the manners discussed in the book. I thoroughly enjoyed listening to her.
This book is great because it is a thoroughly modern interpretation of Miss Manners and her advice. Topics tackled are things like: What is "political correctness" as it relates to politeness? What do we do about the highly commercialized/monetized nature of weddings and GoFundMe pages foisted on us nowadays? Does my cell phone go to the left or the right of my plate at a formal place setting? Are there polite ways to sidestep distasteful political conversations with your crazy uncle at Thanksgiving? Overall, this book provides many practical and funny responses to these and other questions dealing with the increased rudeness that seems to crop up more and more in our society nowadays.
As in previous books in earlier years, in this audiobook I ADORED Miss Manners' answers, snark, and humor. (She has been required reading per my mother for as long as I can remember.) I laughed out loud many times listening to this book and found myself taking mental notes to file away some of her proposed responses for future use. Knowing that Miss Manners is now being aided by a younger generation of writers initially took away from some of my nostalgia imagining Miss Manners as the elderly aristocrat I described above, but by about the first 15 minutes of this book, I was fully onboard with the slightly younger and more modern Miss Manners. (If you think about it, Miss Manners has always been a little political and a little ahead of her time - so it's nice that this continues here.) The book is of course full of Miss Manners' traditional puns and sassy comebacks, too.
I highly recommend this book - it's a fast read (clocking in around 5.5 hours of listening time), humorous, and provides a ton of good advice on how to remain polite and gracious in our sometimes trying society.
Thank you to Jacobina Martin, Judith Martin, Noisefloor and Andrews McMeel Publishing for the advance copy of this fun and useful audiobook!
This audiobook by Miss Manners (also known as Judith Martin) is read by Jacobina Martin. Of course, being nosy, I immediately had to Google to see if Miss Manners and Jacobina were related. So I was today years old when I learned that in fact Jacobina Martin IS Judith Martin's daughter, AND both Jacobina and her brother Nicholas have been helping write the Miss Manners column with their mother for some time. I also learned that Jacobina Martin is an improv comedian, which explains how she totally nailed Miss Manners' humorous and slightly snarky tone.
At first I was very surprised at the narrator's voice. I perhaps unreasonably expected to hear the voice of a prim, elderly, possibly British aristocrat, as befitting the old fashioned Miss Manners in my mind. Nope! This narrator is young, funny, with a pleasant voice and a straightforward, witty and elegant approach to the manners discussed in the book. I thoroughly enjoyed listening to her.
This book is great because it is a thoroughly modern interpretation of Miss Manners and her advice. Topics tackled are things like: What is "political correctness" as it relates to politeness? What do we do about the highly commercialized/monetized nature of weddings and GoFundMe pages foisted on us nowadays? Does my cell phone go to the left or the right of my plate at a formal place setting? Are there polite ways to sidestep distasteful political conversations with your crazy uncle at Thanksgiving? Overall, this book provides many practical and funny responses to these and other questions dealing with the increased rudeness that seems to crop up more and more in our society nowadays.
As in previous books in earlier years, in this audiobook I ADORED Miss Manners' answers, snark, and humor. (She has been required reading per my mother for as long as I can remember.) I laughed out loud many times listening to this book and found myself taking mental notes to file away some of her proposed responses for future use. Knowing that Miss Manners is now being aided by a younger generation of writers initially took away from some of my nostalgia imagining Miss Manners as the elderly aristocrat I described above, but by about the first 15 minutes of this book, I was fully onboard with the slightly younger and more modern Miss Manners. (If you think about it, Miss Manners has always been a little political and a little ahead of her time - so it's nice that this continues here.) The book is of course full of Miss Manners' traditional puns and sassy comebacks, too.
I highly recommend this book - it's a fast read (clocking in around 5.5 hours of listening time), humorous, and provides a ton of good advice on how to remain polite and gracious in our sometimes trying society.
Thank you to Jacobina Martin, Judith Martin, Noisefloor and Andrews McMeel Publishing for the advance copy of this fun and useful audiobook!
August 17, 2020
A fun and sassy way to explore etiquette, Minding Miss Manners is definitely a good read/listen. The narrator (Jacobina Martin, the author's daughter) is hilarious with a tongue in cheek expression that perfectly expresses the advice that Miss Manners wants to pass on.
The format is a Question and Answer forum from advice that Miss Manners has offered in response to questions asked by her fans. It is great for listening to on a road trip or walk! The questions astound me as does the simple rude greed that some people do not seem to have a problem expressing.
I requested an advance review copy and was fortunate to receive one from NetGalley. My review is voluntary and my opinions are my own.
The format is a Question and Answer forum from advice that Miss Manners has offered in response to questions asked by her fans. It is great for listening to on a road trip or walk! The questions astound me as does the simple rude greed that some people do not seem to have a problem expressing.
I requested an advance review copy and was fortunate to receive one from NetGalley. My review is voluntary and my opinions are my own.
August 6, 2020
Gentle reader......
This book is mostly about self-centered-ness, selfishness and our inability to have proper manners. Parents are partly to blame (me included) and we have drop the ball. But that’s another book for another time. I can’t say enough how refreshing this was. And I’m definitely reading more of these books.
First.... the narrator was excellent and fit perfectly with the telling. I would highly recommend listening to this as an audiobook. Second..... it’s really not that long and very informative and at times funny. And lastly I’m just going to highlight some things that jumped out at me.
I would agree that invites to “things” that are going to cost money are out of control today This day and time, people feel like everyone should contribute to there “life events” and we should never say no. And if you decide to contribute to give something that’s not on a registry you’re all but verbally put to shame and judged unworthy.
When did it start being ok to.......
• decide things for other people?
• social milestones are not social events.
• Presents are not mandatory.
• Have a fundraiser for divorce, adoption and or college.
It is greedy to expect a gift at all and we should only give if it’s heartfelt.
Why are we trying to profit from our friends?
It is an American privilege to speak out but we don’t need to vent or attach people. It’s counterproductive. Don’t do it any remember your manners.
Like I said, I throughly enjoyed this and highly recommend everyone take the time to read this. It’s got some great advice and it’s funny.
Thank you NETGALLEY and the publisher for this ARC audiobook, in exchange for my honest review
This book is mostly about self-centered-ness, selfishness and our inability to have proper manners. Parents are partly to blame (me included) and we have drop the ball. But that’s another book for another time. I can’t say enough how refreshing this was. And I’m definitely reading more of these books.
First.... the narrator was excellent and fit perfectly with the telling. I would highly recommend listening to this as an audiobook. Second..... it’s really not that long and very informative and at times funny. And lastly I’m just going to highlight some things that jumped out at me.
I would agree that invites to “things” that are going to cost money are out of control today This day and time, people feel like everyone should contribute to there “life events” and we should never say no. And if you decide to contribute to give something that’s not on a registry you’re all but verbally put to shame and judged unworthy.
When did it start being ok to.......
• decide things for other people?
• social milestones are not social events.
• Presents are not mandatory.
• Have a fundraiser for divorce, adoption and or college.
It is greedy to expect a gift at all and we should only give if it’s heartfelt.
Why are we trying to profit from our friends?
It is an American privilege to speak out but we don’t need to vent or attach people. It’s counterproductive. Don’t do it any remember your manners.
Like I said, I throughly enjoyed this and highly recommend everyone take the time to read this. It’s got some great advice and it’s funny.
Thank you NETGALLEY and the publisher for this ARC audiobook, in exchange for my honest review
July 8, 2020
Having collected etiquette books as a bizarre hobby since first discovering them in my teens, I salute Miss Manners for continuing that tradition. Unfortunately, the current offering lacks the primary compelling factor that drew me to etiquette books: an explanation of why some behaviors are appropriate and how to improve one's social grace. The authoritarian bent that dominates this book is evident in the title: Minding. If that's not enough, the use of Trump's favorite word "fake" in the title seals the deal.
In one of my old etiquette books, the author describes the origin of the word "courtesy." Courtesy, or the standard for behavior in a royal court, involved decorum, charm, wit, and the ability to put people at ease so that they don't overthrow you. The higher the social standing, the more important the need to be courteous. Families with old money would never condescend to the snooty oneupsmanship that Martin seems to so enjoy. Martin's approach is more a reflection of our current leadership, with some of the ick buffed away, but still very much the nouveau riche perspective so frowned upon by those who truly understand courtesy. Throughout this book, the sneering, elitist tone is in itself a breach of etiquette.
Very disappointing.
In one of my old etiquette books, the author describes the origin of the word "courtesy." Courtesy, or the standard for behavior in a royal court, involved decorum, charm, wit, and the ability to put people at ease so that they don't overthrow you. The higher the social standing, the more important the need to be courteous. Families with old money would never condescend to the snooty oneupsmanship that Martin seems to so enjoy. Martin's approach is more a reflection of our current leadership, with some of the ick buffed away, but still very much the nouveau riche perspective so frowned upon by those who truly understand courtesy. Throughout this book, the sneering, elitist tone is in itself a breach of etiquette.
Very disappointing.
February 28, 2020
I first became a fan of Miss Manners back in the early ‘80s when I bought her first book. Times have changed since then and Miss M. has kept up. Her blend of snark and sensibility is as potent (and fun to read) as it ever was.
Thanks to NetGalley for providing an ARC copy for my review.
Thanks to NetGalley for providing an ARC copy for my review.
October 26, 2020
Miss Manners, a.k.a. Judith Martin, is back with another small volume of helpful advice in navigating the modern world politely. A major topic in this book is, of course, social media, and how to handle the lack of normal social courtesy and restraint that it enables.
No, you don't have to treat invitations to donate to charitable causes, or to purchase things you don't want from children who have been hijacked into fundraising for their schools, as social invitations. They are not, even when they are disguised as such.
No, you still don't have to respond to comments on your parenting style, or questions about your teenager's sex life.
And no, sexual harassment in the workplace is not best dealt with as mere social infraction.
Judith Martin's insight and arch humor are still on display here. The narrator is her daughter; I suspect that's why she's got her mother's style down so very well.
Light, useful, and fun.
I received a free copy of this audiobook from the publisher via NetGalley, and am revieiwig it voluntarily.
No, you don't have to treat invitations to donate to charitable causes, or to purchase things you don't want from children who have been hijacked into fundraising for their schools, as social invitations. They are not, even when they are disguised as such.
No, you still don't have to respond to comments on your parenting style, or questions about your teenager's sex life.
And no, sexual harassment in the workplace is not best dealt with as mere social infraction.
Judith Martin's insight and arch humor are still on display here. The narrator is her daughter; I suspect that's why she's got her mother's style down so very well.
Light, useful, and fun.
I received a free copy of this audiobook from the publisher via NetGalley, and am revieiwig it voluntarily.
August 3, 2020
Everyone needs to listen to/read this book! It covers all current etiquette topics such as online and technology etiquette, hosting etiquette, how to deal with those friends who invite you to parties just to extort money off of you, and much more! The book is divided into 5 large chapters, each consisting of Q&As from Miss Manner’s readers and Miss Manners answering each questions. If you have a social life and ever had to deal with rude and obnoxious friends, like us all, you need a copy of this book.
I deducted 1 star because some questions were a little far-fetched.
Excellent narrator with different intonations in her voice, pleasant to the ear.
Thank you Net Galley and the publisher for this audio arc in exchange for my honest review.
I deducted 1 star because some questions were a little far-fetched.
Excellent narrator with different intonations in her voice, pleasant to the ear.
Thank you Net Galley and the publisher for this audio arc in exchange for my honest review.
July 20, 2020
Minding Miss Manners is a collection of questions and answers in the traditional Miss Manners style that you'd expect. And, as you'd also expect, it is full of discussions about rude and polite behavior. The chapters are focused on topics like "Fake Etiquette" (she sets the record straight) and "Virtuous Rudeness" (to combat aggressive and needless fundraising). Her primary themes seem to be expressing gratitude, minding one's own business and responding to outrageous comments or questions with a simple "no."
While the book is useful, and also mildly amusing, it got old for me after a while because the topics and themes repeated themselves. I suggest it is probably best enjoyed in short bursts, or given as a gift to someone you think has been rude to you.😉
While the book is useful, and also mildly amusing, it got old for me after a while because the topics and themes repeated themselves. I suggest it is probably best enjoyed in short bursts, or given as a gift to someone you think has been rude to you.😉
July 15, 2020
This was a great listen and there are so many people that need to experience it! In this age of being overly familiar with each other and there being no boundaries, so few of us feel that we can avoid answering nosy questions without being rude. The author lays out ways to handle all kinds of situations in this modern age. I also loved finding out that the narrator is the author's daughter and that she helps with writing her mother's column. I love weird facts like that and found this out when googling the author.
August 15, 2020
In the Twenty-first century it seems people have forgotten how to behave politely, suggests this book. People have become entitled and self-centered while believing everything must revolve around them. Miss Manners tries to condemn these behaviours by offering ways to deal with impolite and utterly nonsensical behaviours.
It is an eye-opener as it shows how the society has changed for the worst. It shows how people tend to be offended no matted in which way you behave. Nonetheless, politeness and good manners are virtues that should be preserved and cultivated despite the changes in society.
It shows that in a world full of entitlement and judgement, being well behaved is what elevates you and not what holds you back.
It is an eye-opener as it shows how the society has changed for the worst. It shows how people tend to be offended no matted in which way you behave. Nonetheless, politeness and good manners are virtues that should be preserved and cultivated despite the changes in society.
It shows that in a world full of entitlement and judgement, being well behaved is what elevates you and not what holds you back.
September 24, 2020
The modern, online-centered world has created a whole new set of sticky etiquette situations. Never fear, though! Miss Manners, that fiesty and hilarious maven of manners, is back with a batch of advice for the 21st century. If you anticipate attending a wedding or participating in a social group of some kind, this book is a great investment.
I look forward to listening to this again as an audiobook!
Thanks to the publishers and NetGalley for a digital ARC for the purpose of an unbiased review.
I look forward to listening to this again as an audiobook!
Thanks to the publishers and NetGalley for a digital ARC for the purpose of an unbiased review.
June 24, 2021
I found this book hilarious and tragic at the same time. Much of what surely would have been incredible 30 or 40 years ago is recognizable as shamefully commonplace today. I was gratified to learn that Miss Manners deplores some of the same trends I do, and I learned some appropriate ways to resist being caught up in them as victim or unwitting perpetrator. But much as I appreciated Miss Manners' wisdom and acerbic wit, I confess that I was quite ready to lay it aside when I reached the end. The hardback edition, at least, has a small sans-serif typeface and quirky layout, with page numbering and running headers centered sideways in the left and right margins rather than at the top of the page. It was a struggle to read and I sometimes used a magnifying glass.
July 16, 2020
3/5
- Copy given by Publisher in exchange for honest review.
While I believe that we certainly live an era of “fake etiquette”, and that manners are fleeting at best, this book does not denote the Miss Manners expertise we have come to know and love. I would not recommend this as a go-to gift, research manual, or the like. I prefer my manners to be given without snark and side-eye.
- Copy given by Publisher in exchange for honest review.
While I believe that we certainly live an era of “fake etiquette”, and that manners are fleeting at best, this book does not denote the Miss Manners expertise we have come to know and love. I would not recommend this as a go-to gift, research manual, or the like. I prefer my manners to be given without snark and side-eye.
September 17, 2020
I was intrigued with this book because the cover was cute and the title catchy.. The book is relevant to all of us especially in the times we live or bridezillas ,selfie parties and this book is necessary and the author has a way of saying things that you totally enjoy . Enjoyed it . Huge thanks to the publisher for my audiobook arc
February 25, 2024
Miss Manners is at her best when she is witty without being tart and gives enough information about the underlying rules so that a reader can apply the rules to other situations than just the very specific ones written about. This book felt a bit sharp, a bit abrupt, a bit tired. That said, it's still Miss Manners.
July 11, 2020
Loved this - and maybe it is just a sign of the times we are in.
Gentle Reader.... the scenarios she addresses are common everyday situations that I see and am often perplexed by. It is like a social commentary to our age of social sharing and entitlement. Many will make you laugh. Her short succinct responses are the best.
I enjoyed this light read.
Gentle Reader.... the scenarios she addresses are common everyday situations that I see and am often perplexed by. It is like a social commentary to our age of social sharing and entitlement. Many will make you laugh. Her short succinct responses are the best.
I enjoyed this light read.
October 11, 2020
This book was so fun. I love the art of etiquette (I have a huge Emily Post book) and I love dry wit. Miss Manners is the master of both! She addresses modern situations like crowd funding, bridezillas and social media.
Her answer to a person who didn’t like being touched had me laughing so hard I was crying. It’s especially funny because the narrator (Miss Manner’s real-life daughter) sounds just like I imagine Miss Manners does. The person who didn’t like being touched said that an acquaintance comes up behind them and scratches their back, and says she does it because she knows the person doesn’t like to be touched. The reader wants to know how they should handle this woman. Miss Manners responds:
“As your acquaintance considers that annoying people is amusing, Miss Manners hopes that she will enjoy you giving a piercing scream the minute she touches you and shouting, ‘What are you doing?’
Miss Manners gives practical advice too but even that is rendered with perfect wit. And she cuts both ways – several of the letters are from rude people seeking advice on how to be acceptably rude. Miss Manners has no problem putting them in their place.
This book is a fun listen. The format makes it a good book to listen to even if you only have little chunks of time – you can listen to several letters in just a few minutes. The print edition would make a great Christmas gift for the etiquette lover on your shopping list. Highly recommended.
Her answer to a person who didn’t like being touched had me laughing so hard I was crying. It’s especially funny because the narrator (Miss Manner’s real-life daughter) sounds just like I imagine Miss Manners does. The person who didn’t like being touched said that an acquaintance comes up behind them and scratches their back, and says she does it because she knows the person doesn’t like to be touched. The reader wants to know how they should handle this woman. Miss Manners responds:
“As your acquaintance considers that annoying people is amusing, Miss Manners hopes that she will enjoy you giving a piercing scream the minute she touches you and shouting, ‘What are you doing?’
Miss Manners gives practical advice too but even that is rendered with perfect wit. And she cuts both ways – several of the letters are from rude people seeking advice on how to be acceptably rude. Miss Manners has no problem putting them in their place.
This book is a fun listen. The format makes it a good book to listen to even if you only have little chunks of time – you can listen to several letters in just a few minutes. The print edition would make a great Christmas gift for the etiquette lover on your shopping list. Highly recommended.
April 10, 2020
Wow! This was not the etiquette book that I was expecting! I was expecting something along the lines of an Emily Post rule book, with well organized chapters in which I can look up my etiquette questions as they arrive in my life. Instead, this book was six chapters, each with multiple sub chapters, of wonderful correspondence between Miss Manners and her Gentle Readers arranged in a stream of consciousness fashion.
The book is based on the premise that our society has become one where people are free to be themselves - unregulated by etiquette - and no one is happy. Etiquette is viewed as the “extra-legal system of voluntarily restraint to avoid unnecessarily antagonizing others,” a “Civility Tax” that reasonable people must pay to maintain the smooth functioning of a happy society. From that premise, the six chapters address the common and the crazy etiquette breaches of the 21st century.
This is a book that must be read cover to cover, rather than pulled off a dusty shelf and referenced to prepare for an event or settle a dispute. Only by reading the book as a whole do certain themes appear, which recalibrate one’s approach to the world. The chapters are rather cryptically named, but each begins with a Miss Manners rant that makes the content to be covered a little less murky. The chapters are as follows:
Chapter one - sources of misinformation
Chapter two - lopsided etiquette
Chapter three - extortionist etiquette
Chapter four - virtuous rudeness
Chapter five - etiquette hazards: technology and sex (in that order)
Chapter six - unfortunate approaches
I highly recommend this book to anyone who has the slightest bit of anxiety about navigating the current “Free to Be Me” culture, replete with its smartphones and social media. The themes that appear in the book will definitely help you cope.
My only regret about having read this book as a galley, rather than a published product, is that there was no table of contents or index in the galley. I don’t know if these are planned additions to the published book, but those would be quite helpful in making this book a relevant source of reference as well.
I received this book as a digital advance reader copy from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
The book is based on the premise that our society has become one where people are free to be themselves - unregulated by etiquette - and no one is happy. Etiquette is viewed as the “extra-legal system of voluntarily restraint to avoid unnecessarily antagonizing others,” a “Civility Tax” that reasonable people must pay to maintain the smooth functioning of a happy society. From that premise, the six chapters address the common and the crazy etiquette breaches of the 21st century.
This is a book that must be read cover to cover, rather than pulled off a dusty shelf and referenced to prepare for an event or settle a dispute. Only by reading the book as a whole do certain themes appear, which recalibrate one’s approach to the world. The chapters are rather cryptically named, but each begins with a Miss Manners rant that makes the content to be covered a little less murky. The chapters are as follows:
Chapter one - sources of misinformation
Chapter two - lopsided etiquette
Chapter three - extortionist etiquette
Chapter four - virtuous rudeness
Chapter five - etiquette hazards: technology and sex (in that order)
Chapter six - unfortunate approaches
I highly recommend this book to anyone who has the slightest bit of anxiety about navigating the current “Free to Be Me” culture, replete with its smartphones and social media. The themes that appear in the book will definitely help you cope.
My only regret about having read this book as a galley, rather than a published product, is that there was no table of contents or index in the galley. I don’t know if these are planned additions to the published book, but those would be quite helpful in making this book a relevant source of reference as well.
I received this book as a digital advance reader copy from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
May 4, 2020
If I could pick people to eat dinner with, Judith Martin, a.k.a. Miss Manners would be high on my list. I love her acerbic wit. Alas, I probably would not be on her list as witty I am not. In fact, she would most likely cancel at the last minute. I used to read Miss Manner's advice to her gentle readers in the newspaper but my local paper dies not to carry the column anymore. This book is full of Miss Manners fabulous advice on any social situation you could ever come across with a smart answer to go with it. Never fear Miss Manners will never allow her gentle reader to set a foot wrong in a social situation. However, the gentle reader must never throw a "selfie" party complete with a gift grab, the gentle reader must leave the electronic devices with the wraps at dinner, and above all gentle reader mind your own business. Also, gentle reader, you are not required to find others life's moments like births, engagements, marriages, honeymoons, change of residences, house buying, illness, divorce, funeral, or any other life event others feel a small party and a financial contribution should come from you. I was greatly surprised by a lot of the delicate situations in the book and the flat out selfishness displayed by people but Miss Manners was not and was able to dish out great advice for those who found themselves in awkward or maddening social situations. A truly great read. Thank you to Netgalley, the publisher, and Judith Martin for allowing me to read this book in exchange for a review.
July 21, 2020
I received a free copy of this book from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
The first time I read an etiquette book as a child, I was visiting my grandmother and had dug out the book from her attic. I found a lot of the advice fascinating and, as Miss Manners would predict in her columns, the things I took to heart most were the ones that could serve me in some way. My favorite was the rule stating that, on airplanes, "your" armrest was the one to your right. I loved that interpretation and always tried to hack it by getting the leftmost seat so as to be entitled to two armrests. (Yes, yes, I've grown up and learned to know the hell known as "the middle seat" in the meanwhile...)
Anyway, I'd read some other etiquette books in my life, but none by Miss Manners and none that were culturally so specifically American. And, wow, what a ride this has been.
Not being familiar with Miss Manners' style, it took me a bit to get used to the tone of the book. Was this satire? Why was she being so... uppity? ... archaic? ... snarky? I could deal with "Gentle Reader", but what was with referring to herself in third person?
Then I got to the letters. Holy shit, the letters. Some of the letter writers seemed like normal people baffled at ever-changing societal norms (all the gift-giving, ALL the bridal showers!), but then there were those where all I could do was pray that they were trolls because the alternative was too depressing to contemplate (the people annoyed at minor linguistic quirks like being asked "are you still working on that?" at a restaurant, the people who apparently walk around insulted that their relatives haven't bought them a present yet, the people sending annual holiday letters to 150 others?!, the boyfriend who thinks his girlfriend shouldn't talk to other men in his presence?!, the one obvious troll asking for "advice" about how to address spouses in a same-sex marriage?!).
What bothered me about Miss Manners' answers was not so much if I agreed with them or not, but that there seemed to be little rhyme or reason as to when to answer sarcastically and when to be diplomatic. She does put down obvious trolls really well, so I did appreciate that.
At some point, I decided that ESH and just started reading the book as an anthropological document studying a fascinating society apparently obsessed with thank-you notes, which is when the book actually became fun. I'll likely turn to other sources (Captain Awkward + Ask a Manager - yes, I'm a millennial) for actual scripts to handle awkward social situations, but this was enlightening in its own way.
A quick note to the structure: I found the introductory paragraphs in each chapter so generalized that I often couldn't figure out what Miss Manners was talking about, only to get to the actual questions and be "oh, THAT'S where all that was heading". Some of the segues between different topics were also weirdly formatted and often seemed to be a continuation of the previous section rather than, as intended, set-ups for the next one.
Also, I did love a lot of the language in this sounding like it was straight out of an Austen novel. "I am a gentleman who..." Bitch, you're not. You're "I (M, 34)". I did chuckle at Miss Manners defining and suggesting "cutting" (in the Austenian sense) as the correct solution to one particular question.
All in all... fascinating. Not really useful in the way it's meant to be... but fascinating.
The first time I read an etiquette book as a child, I was visiting my grandmother and had dug out the book from her attic. I found a lot of the advice fascinating and, as Miss Manners would predict in her columns, the things I took to heart most were the ones that could serve me in some way. My favorite was the rule stating that, on airplanes, "your" armrest was the one to your right. I loved that interpretation and always tried to hack it by getting the leftmost seat so as to be entitled to two armrests. (Yes, yes, I've grown up and learned to know the hell known as "the middle seat" in the meanwhile...)
Anyway, I'd read some other etiquette books in my life, but none by Miss Manners and none that were culturally so specifically American. And, wow, what a ride this has been.
Not being familiar with Miss Manners' style, it took me a bit to get used to the tone of the book. Was this satire? Why was she being so... uppity? ... archaic? ... snarky? I could deal with "Gentle Reader", but what was with referring to herself in third person?
Then I got to the letters. Holy shit, the letters. Some of the letter writers seemed like normal people baffled at ever-changing societal norms (all the gift-giving, ALL the bridal showers!), but then there were those where all I could do was pray that they were trolls because the alternative was too depressing to contemplate (the people annoyed at minor linguistic quirks like being asked "are you still working on that?" at a restaurant, the people who apparently walk around insulted that their relatives haven't bought them a present yet, the people sending annual holiday letters to 150 others?!, the boyfriend who thinks his girlfriend shouldn't talk to other men in his presence?!, the one obvious troll asking for "advice" about how to address spouses in a same-sex marriage?!).
What bothered me about Miss Manners' answers was not so much if I agreed with them or not, but that there seemed to be little rhyme or reason as to when to answer sarcastically and when to be diplomatic. She does put down obvious trolls really well, so I did appreciate that.
At some point, I decided that ESH and just started reading the book as an anthropological document studying a fascinating society apparently obsessed with thank-you notes, which is when the book actually became fun. I'll likely turn to other sources (Captain Awkward + Ask a Manager - yes, I'm a millennial) for actual scripts to handle awkward social situations, but this was enlightening in its own way.
A quick note to the structure: I found the introductory paragraphs in each chapter so generalized that I often couldn't figure out what Miss Manners was talking about, only to get to the actual questions and be "oh, THAT'S where all that was heading". Some of the segues between different topics were also weirdly formatted and often seemed to be a continuation of the previous section rather than, as intended, set-ups for the next one.
Also, I did love a lot of the language in this sounding like it was straight out of an Austen novel. "I am a gentleman who..." Bitch, you're not. You're "I (M, 34)". I did chuckle at Miss Manners defining and suggesting "cutting" (in the Austenian sense) as the correct solution to one particular question.
All in all... fascinating. Not really useful in the way it's meant to be... but fascinating.
August 31, 2020
In looking at this book, there are two ways in which I reveal my age. The first is that I grew up reading Miss Manners in the first place and the second is that I still own her first book. And the updated version, not because being polite changes, but because times change and throw new situations at our ability to be polite. Which leads us to "Minding Miss Manners: In the Era of Fake Etiquette," a book that has made me laugh as much as it has made me groan as I either recognize situations I have lived or am horrified by situations that are even crasser than I thought possible.
This is an invaluable book, and honestly, for any of us with adult children, it's the perfect gift for them before they embark on important life stages like marriage and children. Miss Manners will explain, in no uncertain terms, why, no, you don't have a year to send a thank you note for your wedding gifts, and also why sending an internet generated generic thank you card in lieu of a handwritten thank you is absolutely crass. (Yes, it saves you soooo much time, just like the gift-giver could have saved their own time by not getting you a gift at all.) She also debunks the idea that you have to commit to all kinds of nonsense due to social pressure at work or in your family, or because friends are inconsiderate of your financial situation (which, by the by, is none of their business). And she has thoughts about the effects of social media on society at large. (It's not very social, for instance, since it often degrades the impetus toward actual in-person interaction.) She will also explain why inviting someone for tea is such a delightful solution to many meal dilemmas.
All in all, this is a book that should be on everyone's shelf, after you have read it from cover to cover, taken notes, and sworn an oath to live by these tenets of decency and civility.
The audiobook, beautifully narrated by Judith Martin's daughter Jacobina (Bina) Martin, is notable in Jacobina's ability to avoid peels of laughter over some of the situations presented, and that she hasn't resorted to hissing over others. I'm really not sure how she did it, other than having been raised in a family in which such things were constantly discussed. While I enjoyed the audiobook, I confess to having ordered the hardcover, since it is easier to bookmark passages to refer to as needed.
I received an audio and digital review copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
This is an invaluable book, and honestly, for any of us with adult children, it's the perfect gift for them before they embark on important life stages like marriage and children. Miss Manners will explain, in no uncertain terms, why, no, you don't have a year to send a thank you note for your wedding gifts, and also why sending an internet generated generic thank you card in lieu of a handwritten thank you is absolutely crass. (Yes, it saves you soooo much time, just like the gift-giver could have saved their own time by not getting you a gift at all.) She also debunks the idea that you have to commit to all kinds of nonsense due to social pressure at work or in your family, or because friends are inconsiderate of your financial situation (which, by the by, is none of their business). And she has thoughts about the effects of social media on society at large. (It's not very social, for instance, since it often degrades the impetus toward actual in-person interaction.) She will also explain why inviting someone for tea is such a delightful solution to many meal dilemmas.
All in all, this is a book that should be on everyone's shelf, after you have read it from cover to cover, taken notes, and sworn an oath to live by these tenets of decency and civility.
The audiobook, beautifully narrated by Judith Martin's daughter Jacobina (Bina) Martin, is notable in Jacobina's ability to avoid peels of laughter over some of the situations presented, and that she hasn't resorted to hissing over others. I'm really not sure how she did it, other than having been raised in a family in which such things were constantly discussed. While I enjoyed the audiobook, I confess to having ordered the hardcover, since it is easier to bookmark passages to refer to as needed.
I received an audio and digital review copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
November 21, 2020
I first discovered Miss Manners in the early 1980s when parties were back, formality (of a kind) was returning, and yet all our social structures were changing--people were very confused. Miss Manners helped set them straight. I still fondly remember this early exchange:
"What do I say when being introduced to a gay couple?" Miss Manners suggested "How do you do? How do you do?" and I loved her for that.
It's nice to see the old gal again, with a whole new set of problems. If you're new to manners (oh dear) you might want to brush up with the older, larger tomes. She's hilarious, so it's not like they're a hard read (I think I read her first book about five times because she's just so funny). This smaller volume is mostly to address newish issues that have arisen as of late, not the whole rich panoply of manners.
These days Miss Manners' biggest problem (or that of her audience) seems to be the endless request for money, as people clamor to friends/family/coworkers/strangers: donate to my cause, help fund my wedding, let's buy the boss a present, pay for my surgery, pay for my dinner party, pay for my present, etc. About 60% of the book is people alternately horrified by (or wanting to make) such requests, and Miss Manners gently reminding us all not to do that. In one case someone begged money to support their family during their daughter's medical crisis, but it turned out no one had to quit their job, everything ended up fine, and they spent the donations on fancy trips abroad, while one donor essentially ate tomato soup for some months, depriving themself so they could help out. Nice.
So it's 4 stars rather than 5 because a little of that goes a long way, and 60% devoted to greed seemed a bit high. I was missing the juiciness of dealing with evolving social situations (now we could ask "what do I say when being introduced to a thruple?", she doesn't get into those situations, though I know what her answer would be).
(Note: 5 stars = amazing, wonderful, 4 = very good book, 3 = decent read, 2 = disappointing, 1 = awful, just awful. I'm fairly good at picking for myself so end up with a lot of 4s). I feel a lot of readers automatically render any book they enjoy 5, but I grade on a curve!
"What do I say when being introduced to a gay couple?" Miss Manners suggested "How do you do? How do you do?" and I loved her for that.
It's nice to see the old gal again, with a whole new set of problems. If you're new to manners (oh dear) you might want to brush up with the older, larger tomes. She's hilarious, so it's not like they're a hard read (I think I read her first book about five times because she's just so funny). This smaller volume is mostly to address newish issues that have arisen as of late, not the whole rich panoply of manners.
These days Miss Manners' biggest problem (or that of her audience) seems to be the endless request for money, as people clamor to friends/family/coworkers/strangers: donate to my cause, help fund my wedding, let's buy the boss a present, pay for my surgery, pay for my dinner party, pay for my present, etc. About 60% of the book is people alternately horrified by (or wanting to make) such requests, and Miss Manners gently reminding us all not to do that. In one case someone begged money to support their family during their daughter's medical crisis, but it turned out no one had to quit their job, everything ended up fine, and they spent the donations on fancy trips abroad, while one donor essentially ate tomato soup for some months, depriving themself so they could help out. Nice.
So it's 4 stars rather than 5 because a little of that goes a long way, and 60% devoted to greed seemed a bit high. I was missing the juiciness of dealing with evolving social situations (now we could ask "what do I say when being introduced to a thruple?", she doesn't get into those situations, though I know what her answer would be).
(Note: 5 stars = amazing, wonderful, 4 = very good book, 3 = decent read, 2 = disappointing, 1 = awful, just awful. I'm fairly good at picking for myself so end up with a lot of 4s). I feel a lot of readers automatically render any book they enjoy 5, but I grade on a curve!
March 23, 2023
If you think etiquette is all about which fork to use at a fancy dinner and mindlessly following outdated rules, think again: Miss Manners is here to explain that the point is to treat other people decently while maintaining your own dignity and self-respect.
I absolutely love Miss Manners’ columns; I have most of Judith Martin’s previous books, and have read each of them multiple times. I was worried that this would be a simple repeat of previous topics but oh no, there is plenty more material to work with! This book started off a little snippier than I remember her being—and who could blame her for being a trifle angrier?—but then it settled down into the same clever and witty banter, with moments of perfectly brilliant sarcasm sprinkled in. And wonderful advice, of course!
Naturally, the parts I liked best were when she agreed with my own pet peeves, and the parts I disliked were when she disagreed with my own opinions (namely about throwing your own birthday party or hosting potluck dinners). But the disagreements were rare, and even with those, her later clarifications made me think we were not that misaligned.
Most of the book is letters to Miss Manners and her replies, but the sections all begin with an introductory rant to set up the topic. Some of the letters appear to have been edited poorly, as the reply suggested aspects to the query / situation that were not actually presented. But mostly it worked.
I read it out loud to my partner and we enjoyed discussing our own answers to the questions and guessing about what Miss Manners would say before reading her response. It was a fun excuse for discussing etiquette opinions, how we were raised, and what our expectations in various circumstances are.
Recommended!
I absolutely love Miss Manners’ columns; I have most of Judith Martin’s previous books, and have read each of them multiple times. I was worried that this would be a simple repeat of previous topics but oh no, there is plenty more material to work with! This book started off a little snippier than I remember her being—and who could blame her for being a trifle angrier?—but then it settled down into the same clever and witty banter, with moments of perfectly brilliant sarcasm sprinkled in. And wonderful advice, of course!
Naturally, the parts I liked best were when she agreed with my own pet peeves, and the parts I disliked were when she disagreed with my own opinions (namely about throwing your own birthday party or hosting potluck dinners). But the disagreements were rare, and even with those, her later clarifications made me think we were not that misaligned.
Most of the book is letters to Miss Manners and her replies, but the sections all begin with an introductory rant to set up the topic. Some of the letters appear to have been edited poorly, as the reply suggested aspects to the query / situation that were not actually presented. But mostly it worked.
I read it out loud to my partner and we enjoyed discussing our own answers to the questions and guessing about what Miss Manners would say before reading her response. It was a fun excuse for discussing etiquette opinions, how we were raised, and what our expectations in various circumstances are.
Recommended!
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August 21, 2020Minding Miss Manners is a refreshing trip back to a time when we minded our P's and Q's and learned our manners at home. If someone had any doubts they need only consult Emily Post's wisdom to avoid any unnecessary faux pas. I thoroughly enjoyed listening to the audio publication of this book, narrated by Miss Manners' own daughter, Jacobina Martin. As I listened, I realized this was the same "voice" I read every time I have read the beloved Miss Manners column.
The dilemmas of wedding etiquette were particularly of interest in a society that has created a very expensive, trendy industry that gives one pause to ponder whether it would be easier to simply elope. There seems to be so many expectations today for everyone from the bride to the guest.
In a world where people feel we need more kindness, manners could help solve some sticky situations. Yes, we do live in a modern world but good manners never go out of style. From raiding a cookie jar to that R.S.V.P. you neglected to send for an important event, what we do speaks volumes to what we say sometimes. I recommend this book for a little bit of fun and reminders to the "gentle reader" who wants to brush up on those good manners.
The dilemmas of wedding etiquette were particularly of interest in a society that has created a very expensive, trendy industry that gives one pause to ponder whether it would be easier to simply elope. There seems to be so many expectations today for everyone from the bride to the guest.
In a world where people feel we need more kindness, manners could help solve some sticky situations. Yes, we do live in a modern world but good manners never go out of style. From raiding a cookie jar to that R.S.V.P. you neglected to send for an important event, what we do speaks volumes to what we say sometimes. I recommend this book for a little bit of fun and reminders to the "gentle reader" who wants to brush up on those good manners.
July 21, 2020
Minding Miss Manners is a collection of etiquette dilemmas with answers in the traditional Miss Manners style & it brings Miss Manners’ advice up to date with questions such as “who has priority over the mobile chargers” and “how should I respond to this birthday gift list”. I really liked the way that Miss Manners discusses how so many people live in such a public/social media world that they don’t understand boundaries or privacy.
There were plenty of amusing moments, subtle “snark” and sharp responses that need to be filed away for future use! Some of the etiquette is American rather than British but there is much good advice.
The story is narrated by Jacobina Martin, the daughter of “Miss Manners” herself. Her voice worked well, but it felt too fast paced & could have benefitted from pauses between each “dilemma”. Overall, it is an amusing listen but if you want to refer back to it, you’d really need the printed book!
Disclosure: I received a copy of this audiobook free from the publisher via NetGalley. Whilst thanks go to the publisher & author for the opportunity to read it, all opinions are my own.
There were plenty of amusing moments, subtle “snark” and sharp responses that need to be filed away for future use! Some of the etiquette is American rather than British but there is much good advice.
The story is narrated by Jacobina Martin, the daughter of “Miss Manners” herself. Her voice worked well, but it felt too fast paced & could have benefitted from pauses between each “dilemma”. Overall, it is an amusing listen but if you want to refer back to it, you’d really need the printed book!
Disclosure: I received a copy of this audiobook free from the publisher via NetGalley. Whilst thanks go to the publisher & author for the opportunity to read it, all opinions are my own.
August 18, 2020
Minding Miss Manners: In an Era of Fake Etiquette by Judith Martin was a 100% enjoyable listen. This is a modern and current etiquette book, perfect for our world today with topics that are broad and relevant (technology/online/fundraisers for divorce/etc.). I personally think it would be a good idea for everyone to listen to this from teens on up. I highly recommend listening to this book, the narrator was excellent, her voice and way of speaking worked very well with the subject matter. Something I was not expecting was how funny the book was, I laughed quite a few times. The book is a question (from readers) and answer (from Miss Manners) format and some of the questions made me wonder how people did not know how to be polite in the situations, but I suppose some do not. Miss Manners is quite witty with straightforward answers and what some may think would be boring subject matter would definitely be wrong! Many thanks to Andrew McMeel Publishing and Netgalley for this ARC, all opinions are mine.
August 31, 2020
What a delightful book to listen to.
Proof that good manners never go out of style. Some of the questions Miss Manners received plus their answers had me laughing out loud - pure gold.
Many of these suggestions and tips can be practiced world-wide but there might be practical limitations to some. For example if you live in a country without a proper functioning postal system you may have to run the risk of annoying Miss Manners by utilizing email to send thank you cards etc.
A lot of these manners are proper common sense to me, but that might be because of where I grew up - in a conservative, small South African town. Such things were dictated to us by our elders and the church.
A very good read (listen) that I believe should be required reading/listening for everyone. Today's society focuses more on the "me" and making others feel appreciated comes a far second. It doesn't take much effort to be polite but the impact is powerful.
Thank you to NetGalley and the publishers for allowing me to listen to this book.
Proof that good manners never go out of style. Some of the questions Miss Manners received plus their answers had me laughing out loud - pure gold.
Many of these suggestions and tips can be practiced world-wide but there might be practical limitations to some. For example if you live in a country without a proper functioning postal system you may have to run the risk of annoying Miss Manners by utilizing email to send thank you cards etc.
A lot of these manners are proper common sense to me, but that might be because of where I grew up - in a conservative, small South African town. Such things were dictated to us by our elders and the church.
A very good read (listen) that I believe should be required reading/listening for everyone. Today's society focuses more on the "me" and making others feel appreciated comes a far second. It doesn't take much effort to be polite but the impact is powerful.
Thank you to NetGalley and the publishers for allowing me to listen to this book.
July 17, 2020
Minding Miss Manners by Judith Martin should be mandatory reading for everyone these days. It's a no-frill reminder that civility matters at a time when civility is in short supply. Organized like the newspaper column of the same name, this book covers all the modern-day challenges to good manners we face every day - how to respond to things like Go-Fund Me and birthday party gift lists, and how to walk away from a social media feeding frenzy with your dignity.
I listened to the audiobook version of this title, and it was just a great way to pass some time while I was out in the yard. Nothing too demanding, just a lot of great advice and answers to many of the awkward or uncomfortable situations we find ourselves in this post-manners time.
I highly recommend Minding Miss Manners, and will be giving it as gifts to all the graduates I know!
This review is based on an advance copy listen.
I listened to the audiobook version of this title, and it was just a great way to pass some time while I was out in the yard. Nothing too demanding, just a lot of great advice and answers to many of the awkward or uncomfortable situations we find ourselves in this post-manners time.
I highly recommend Minding Miss Manners, and will be giving it as gifts to all the graduates I know!
This review is based on an advance copy listen.
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