I use the term “book review” relatively lightly, because, if you have read my reviews before, you will know they are essentially a discussion of the plot points / bits of information which struck me the most. This one is no different - so massive spoilers ahead!
I already really liked Gisele Bündchen, but after having read her book, I now LOVE her. It was a pleasure to spend the last week or so reading her words every day, and I looked forward to spending my mornings that way. So I thank you Gisele, for reviving my passion for reading - especially considering I don’t typically reach for non-fiction books! It has long been a goal of mine to return to reading daily or at least weekly, and I feel this book has set me nicely on my way.
Something I appreciated first of all is that the book wasn’t preachy. Very early on she emphasises that in her youth, she would always question people who claimed to have one, definitive answer for something, and thus makes it clear that what she’s writing is not an instruction manual, but merely sharing ideas.
Above all, Gisele’s words left me feeling incredibly educated and most certainly inspired. I could literally feel myself feeling light and elated during certain passages, and full of a new thirst for life. Now prepare yourself for a lotttttt of of listing and rambling about the many valuable lessons the book proposed and details which inspired me :
Quote I love - “we are the ones we have been waiting for.”
Another quote I like - “the universe is infinite”. So go out and make the most of it!
Lesson - idealism and dreaming big is great, but it has to be combined with discipline, hard work and focus in order to make things happen. You must marry the romantic and disciplined parts of yourself in order to have the life of your dreams
Lesson - when you start seeing yourself as a victim, you lose your power.
Inspired to - practice appreciating the little things in life, like your bed. Wake up every morning and, before you tackle the day, take a moment to reflect on how lucky you are to have certain things.
Lesson - forgive, but don’t forget.
Lesson - use the gifts life has given you to their fullest potential
Lesson - yoga is about being rather than doing. This can therefore make it a very healthy and valuable part of a go-getter lifestyle, for it reminds us that while it’s so worthwhile to strive to reach goals, we are also everything we need to be in any given moment <3
Lesson - if you become angry or upset with someone, it is not their job to alleviate your feelings. Those emotions arose in your body - no one else is responsible. By blaming someone else for your emotions, once again you surrender your power and ability to be in control of your own wellbeing.
Lesson - change comes from inspiration, not insulting yourself.
Inspired to - go on a meditation retreat where you have to sit in silence for weekends at a time
Lesson - the biggest gift we can give anyone is our time.
Lesson - Gisele’s vibrant and joyful personality was as important a factor in her modelling success as her body. As Mario Testino said, people aren’t rushing to book uninteresting girls, no matter how physically stunning they may be.
Lesson - nature is its own kind of presence. When you are in it’s company, you are never alone
Lesson - Yin (the feminine) and Yang (the masculine) come from Taoism. When both of them live in harmony and balance within us, we thrive. Gisele feels that the actualisation of the masculine is power, and the actualisation of the feminine is love. The most magical things happen when we act with both power and love.
Lesson - meditation is not a waste of time, in fact it can save time. It’s an exercise in focus and clarity which allows for better, more confident decision making
Inspired to - do more things outside under a full moon
Inspired to - start saying a blessing / expression of gratitude before I eat meals. After all, as Gisele pointed out, seeds that were nourished by the sun and soil make their way onto our plates and then nourish us. In addition, farmers work so incredibly hard, particularly in winter, to make sure that we have food to eat.
Lesson - all relationships reveal or teach us something about ourselves. In essence, to know others is to know thyself.
Inspired to - learn to fly a helicopter!
Inspired to - buy clothes from flea markets and charity shops
Inspired to - do as many home renovations independently as I can when I get my own place
Inspired to - mentally (or out loud) ask the ocean for permission before going in, thus creating a kind of contract between us. This demonstrates respect and reverence for something more powerful than myself.
Inspiring point - Gisele’s husband (now her ex) was one of the last people to be picked in the 2000 NFL draft. Now he is widely considered to be the best quarterback around, which his phenomenal results and statistics can support. This just goes to show that with hard work, discipline and determination, you can go from being good at something you’re passionate about to PHENOMENAL at it.
Lesson - don’t wait for something grave to happen before you feel gratitude for what you have (ie your health, family, home). Practice daily gratitude for all things, big and small.
Lesson - the best successes in life are born when you go outside your comfort zone
Cool quote from Joseph Campbell - “You become more mature when you become the authority of your own life”
Inspired to - start marveling at sunrises, waves, rain, and all facets of nature
Lesson - believing something is true makes it closer to becoming true.
Lesson - the various relationships we have with all the people in our lives form a kind of mosaic, with everyone adding a different shade and colour to our world. However, this mosaic is never complete because there are always people we haven’t met yet who can bring something new into our lives.
Inspired to - go sun gazing! (Reading that Gisele does this is so beautiful and just so her.)
Lesson - don’t rush your food - appreciate every bite.
Lesson - yoga isn’t just about physical movement. It focuses on helping you to know yourself better. Apparently the purpose behind asanas is to prepare the body for meditation! I didn’t know that.
Inspired to - get more confident on how to navigate public transport, particularly trains and tubes!
Lesson - eating food that is from local farms will taste fresher and better, because they don’t have to add preservatives (or at least not as many).
Lesson - your words can become part of how people define themselves, so be careful with them.
Lesson - “family members typically reserve their most hurtful words for one another. As I said, with family members, your walls are down.”
Lesson - take full advantage of the time you have. Are you using your days in ways that feel satisfying and fulfilling to you?
Lesson - drinking fluids while eating a meal is apparently hard on the digestive system. After a bit of further research, I have discovered that it can apparently slow down digestion?
Lesson - we all have a form of inner voice. For some people, this may be in the form of their God.
Lesson - furthermore, your inner voice is not composed of what your parents would want you to do, or society, or even your inner critic. It is something innate, instinctive, that exists within you.
Lesson - following this inner voice will rarely lead you astray. Ignoring it will.
Lesson - growing what you eat will increase your appreciation for your food
Lesson - nature supports us through every step of our lives. The first home many of us have is a wooden crib, and our last is a wooden coffin. In between we live in wooden framed houses.
Lesson - a friend once told Gisele that “you need to give people the opportunity to do what they can and must do for themselves”. If it is you who is doing all the teaching and giving in a relationship, it’s sort of selfish, for you aren’t giving them any space to learn and develop by themselves. You can’t just give and give and give to someone. In life we need to have a balance between learning from others and learning independently.
Lesson - the various processes our body constantly carries out are absolutely magical and miraculous.
Inspiring - Irving Penn told Gisele that everyone has their own unique beauty, and all of their sides and angles are beautiful.
Lesson - love lives all around us - in nature. It is the embodiment of compassion and care, for it is so giving.
Lesson - we never know where our relationships (platonic and romantic) will lead us - the butterfly effect is real and can be magical.
Inspired to - maintain strong relationship with my family, even when I move out, because they are our harbours
Inspired to - learn about composting
Lesson - appreciate every single moment of life - every single second. Being alive is a miracle in itself
Inspired to - continually learn new skills, polish up old talents, and try things that scare me. As Gisele said, if something frightens her, she feels the need to conquer that fear by trying it (obviously within reason).
Inspired to - experiment with different types of yogas (ashtanga, kundalini etc)
Lesson - turn challenges into an opportunity to see what life wants you to learn about yourself and what you might need to change
Lesson - do exercise you ENJOY (aka dancing hehe)
Lesson - the relationships we build and interactions we have with other people are what truly matters in life.
Lesson - sometimes leaving the room and having some time apart is the most sensible way to deal with tension between you and someone in your life. Confronting everything head on when you are both feeling hostile is likely to lead to unproductive and hurtful discussions. If you have a clear head, you are more likely to make progress and express your feelings clearly.
Inspired to - research what foods are both healthy and release lots of energy, leaving me invigorated and ready to achieve all the things I want each day
Lesson - comparing yourself to other people is an exercise in futility, for no one has shared the exact same life experiences as you. They haven’t lived in the same homes, they don’t have the same friends, interests, or genetics.
Lesson - sometimes it’s interactions with other people that will stay with you longer than experiences. Perhaps it’s having people to share experiences with that makes them magical, not the experiences themselves
Inspired to - try to build a closer relationship with my brother. After reading about the beautiful trust and generosity that Gisele and her sisters have for one another, I regret the fact that me and my brother don’t spend more time together.
Lesson - pets can be guardian angels, bringing you unexpected amounts of happiness and comfort.
Inspired to - master a discipline by doing work on it every day
Inspired to - look into natural medicines
Lesson - taking every single opportunity that comes your way isn’t always the smartest idea because it can deprive you of rest and thus lead to physical illness
Lesson - a way to recover from emotional distress can be to reconnect with your inner child. Gisele went back to Horizontina, Brazil when she had been experiencing her panic attacks and drank her mum’s special tea, helped out with the clothes washing and made empanadas in the kitchen - just as she did when she was a child. She claims this trip is part of what helped her to regain her strength, and I suspect she is right, because it is a far cry from the hectic, urban New York lifestyle she had been living.
Lesson - success comes from the many small actions you take to propel yourself forward just as much as the big, bold steps.
Inspired to - try out different sports - Gisele has tried yoga, skiing, biking, surfing, horseback riding and kickboxing, to name a few!
Inspired to - research eating seasonally
Lesson - Working hard isn’t enough - you have to work hard consistently.
Lesson - Achieving excellence or fame does not mean you deserve special treatment or can think you are better than others.
Inspired to - give martial arts a go, as it seems to teach a beautiful body awareness and strength
Lesson - becoming a vegan or vegetarian isn’t compatible with everyone’s health
Inspired to try - homemade fruit breakfast smoothies
Inspired to - join a community supported agriculture farm that delivers me seasonal fruit and veg
Ultimate lesson - live fully, live your truth, and love life.
What’s more, as I mentioned before, I now feel even more confident in Gisele Bündchen being one of my role models. Many of the insights she provided into her habits and beliefs were incredibly endearing - her friends and family are incredibly lucky! As per usual, you can now expect a long list of things which I found really sweet :
When she works out she often listens to an audiobook or YouTube video on a subject that fascinates her, such as Ancient Egypt or Greece
She would memorise Mariah Carey and Boyz II Men lyrics under the covers in the model’s apartment as a way to learn English
So that she could last in the modelling business, she had the initiative to try and master not just modelling, but every element in the creative process. Thus she would pay close attention to the work of the makeup artists, hair stylists and photographers. She would analyse what lighting made photos poor, and learned how she could slightly move her body to change the angle and light, hence creating a whole different effect in the photo
While she is widely regarded as the best fashion model of all time, what is arguably even more impressive is her commitment to protecting the environment. When she made a line of sandals, part of the profits went to protecting the Xingu River, a tributary of the Amazon river. Then, she created the Agua Limpa project, which worked to regenerate water quality in both Horizontina and the wider state (the Jacui river). Her environmental efforts resulted in the United Nations asking her to be a Goodwill Ambassador. Furthermore, Gisele helped to found an organisation called Believe Earth, which helps to spotlight those who preserve the environment in order to inspire others to do the same
When she started to gain traction as a model, clients would pay for her to have first-class plane tickets while travelling. Gisele however would trade these tickets for economy so that she could add to her savings. This helped her to be able to put a downpayment on an apartment at age 19.
On free weekends, Gisele would drive up to a cabin in Woodstock, New York and spend most of her time outside, listening to birds, pond gazing or walking in the sun.
When she first saw what would become her dog Vida in a pet shop window, she played with her for hours in the shop
After buying Vida, Gisele could no longer stay in the model’s apartment in New York because they didn’t allow pets. She already loved Vida so much and couldn’t bear to let her go, so she found a room in an SRO - a small dark room with only a bed and sink - where she lived for a week. She did this all for her dog <3
On this note, she wasn’t always living the glamorous and privileged lifestyle that we associate with models. For a while she sublet a NY apartment where the shower was a mere hose coming out from the ceiling, her bed was a mattress on the floor, and she once saw a rat three times the size of Vida crawling on the floor. Also, she once had a job as a fitting model, where her job was to try out potential looks for a show that other people would then wear. She would have to stand in her underwear for ages at a time waiting for people to bring her the clothes, with no one asking if she was feeling cold or uncomfortable
When her money was stolen while riding the subway in São Paulo, she remained resilient and phoned the model’s apartment to ask for walking directions. She then dragged a suitcase in the sweltering Brazil January heat for almost an hour to complete the journey, at age 14
After settling in, she bought a map and memorised all the bus and subway routes so she knew how to get to her castings
I really appreciated her honesty about getting breast surgery after having had children, which caused her breasts to get smaller and for people in the industry to make comments about how her body had changed. It’s refreshing to see celebrities open up about things they regret and mistakes they made
She wasn’t part of the “cool” group at school, and was rarely asked to slow dance by boys at parties
She proved so many people in the fashion industry wrong, such as the magazine editors who would say right in front of her that her nose was too big and her eyes too small to be on the cover of their magazine. Similarly, she did 43 castings before she finally got cast in Alexander McQueen’s Spring/Summer 1998 show
She likes to listen to astrology reports while on car drives
If she would go to a nightclub with friends, she would drink soda and then go home and read a book
She loves to sing and sang in the school chorus
At school she was a strong student, and the captain of the volleyball team
It became her signature thing to give out snacks to the other models backstage at shows, because food normally wouldn’t be provided
She would always bring home stray cats and dogs she found in the street, leading her to have a large number of pets in Horizontina
There were particular sections in the book which I found to be written in a way that was really engaging, totally absorbing me in her story. These included :
The section where she described the development and defeating of her panic attacks. In her depiction of events, Gisele successfully created a hectic, whirlwind, caving-in atmosphere, so although what she was describing was tragic, you couldn’t stop reading (kind of like watching a car crash - you can’t look away).
The part which explores the Alexander McQueen 1998 show and its impacts on her life is probably my favourite in the book. Once again, she told her story in a way where I could really picture the scene.
While I enjoyed reading the book overall, I do have a few minor qualms.
Gisele talks about how she feels it is her responsibility as a wife and mother to set the emotional tone for her family. Why wasn’t Tom, her husband at the time, equally responsible? Why is it all down to Gisele? Why was Gisele the one who slowed down her hugely-successful career for her children, not Tom? I understand her saying her career had more flexibility, but… I don’t know.
Her incredible discipline contributed to her immense success in the fashion industry. However, sometimes it comes off as just a little intense, particularly when it comes to food. For example, she talks about only having a “small” piece of cake on “special occasions”.