Reconnected: Moving from Roommates to Soulmates in Marriage

by Greg Smalley, Erin Smalley

Are You Married to Your Roommate . . . or Your Lover?
Whether you’ve been married for six years or six decades, you may wake up one day to discover that the person sleeping next to you has become a stranger. Between work, kids, financial woes, and the busyness of everyday living, your marriage may feel like it’s on life support. You and your spouse love each other, but you’re both barely hanging on. How do you find your way back? How do you reconnect with your spouse and capture all that marriage is intended to be?

Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley understand. Despite being hailed as marriage experts, they found themselves living more like roommates than lovers. Through intentional work, they fought their way back, and you can too.

In Reconnected , they’ll walk alongside you and your spouse as you learn to reconnect

Take your marriage from surviving to thriving. Reconnect with your first love.

Genres: Marriage, Nonfiction, Christian Non Fiction, Family, Religion

224 pages, Paperback

Published April 21, 2020

Reviews

[Scott Wise · Rating 5 out of 5]

My favorite thing about this book is that it got stronger as it went along. Some of the things gs that seemed a little basic in the beginning were built upon as foundations for later concepts. I really appreciated that.

[Matt · Rating 4 out of 5]

Reading this book with my wife led to some high-quality conversations about our marriage.

[Julee Anderson Varela · Rating 4 out of 5]

I suggest reading this book before you become "roommates". Good conversation starters to help open meaningful communication in your marriage.

[Marinda Wise · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very practical.
Solid talk and advice with a Godly perspective.
I especially love that they included the idea of "bids for connection".

[Emily · Rating 4 out of 5]

The content of this book was overall excellent and solid biblical advice for marriages that are struggling in the mundane. I gained a lot of helpful insight and thoughts and corrected a lot of my actions as a result. I listened to the audio book. My biggest qualms were that the narrator used a weird “female” voice when reading parts spoken by Erin or other ladies and it was annoying lol. Also at the end where they try to force a snippet in there about “equality in marriage, ministry etc” it felt not only slightly woke but also forced and like it it didn’t at all go with the rest of the book preceding. Also I’m reformed and though they are Christians I don’t believe they are reformed which didn’t change the overall scope or impact of this book. So overall I’d recommend highly but with a caveat about those concerns. Totally worth the read!

[Kathy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Awesome book.

Lots of wonderful and faith filled guidance. I highly recommend this book, for anyone dealing with feeling more like roommates, than a married couple.

[Scott Kedersha · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really liked this book. Great stories throughout and illustrations - some made me laugh out loud, some made me tear up. The Smalleys ger very honest about their struggles over the years and their wins. We can all learn from their honesty, wisdom, experience, and passion for healthy, God-honoring marriages.

[Janice · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book for any married couple.

[Sarah Oppong · Rating 4 out of 5]

Reading this book made me cry often, it did have some really good suggestions.

[Travis Bow · Rating 3 out of 5]

Pretty decent advice on things to do to maintain or improve connection with your spouse, nothing super groundbreaking, but good stuff to keep in mind

[Donna · Rating 5 out of 5]

Reconnected by Greg and Erin Smalley is a life changing book for married couples. Havent we all found ourselves at some point feeling like roommates. Sometimes we focus on the big things that we forget the small gestures that make a difference day in and day out.

They share 11 behaviors that they feel slowly take couples from soulmates to roommates. I truly believe that satan is out to destroy the family and this is where he starts.

We know these things but what a great reminder that we have to have energy and intention in marriage. “…Connection requires endurance. Passion requires energy. Intimacy requires attentiveness…. Grace requires persistence. Forgiveness requires strength….

What I really liked about the book was their practical advice. They include questions you can ask your spouse.

I highly recommend the book. Well worth the time and money to initiate changes in your marriage for the better. The underlying connection I saw was that we have to talk about whatever it is. The book may help you understand the issue, then dig to the root and then talk about it.

Content- they have a chapter dedicated to sex. Nothing explicit but the topic is covered from a mental perspective and how to improve it and how to recognize and discuss issues.

I received this book from Netgalley. I was not required to write a positive review.
You can see my full review at More Than a Review dot com where I rate the level of sex, violence, language and drug/alcohol use in books.