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Love Your Fear: A Quick Self-Help Guide to Managing Anxiety
The number one national bestseller
Love Your Fear will guide you through a peaceful adventure, a transformation into quietude, a set of techniques a fellow anxious person has discovered over almost two decades of living with anxiety. Now you can learn to live again too. You don’t have to fight anymore.
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Chapter 1 Mind Over Instinct
1.1 One Small Step
1.2 The Doing Method
1.3 Letting Go
1.4 Relating to Mind
1.5 Finding the Time
1.6 A Note on Breathing
Chapter 2 Confidence in Gut Instincts
2.1 Help from Others
Chapter 3 Types of Anxiety Disorders
3.1 Relating to Worry
Chapter 4 Consciousness
Chapter 5 What We tell Ourselves
5.1 Word Usage & Affirmations
5.2 How we think of Thoughts
5.3 Positivism & Balance
Chapter 6 Selfless Over Selfish
6.1 Love without Conditions; Love without Attachment
Chapter 7 More Meditations
7.1 Simple Breath Meditation
7.2 Ten Minute Meditation & Afterthoughts
Chapter 8 Other Considerations
8.1 Organisation
8.2 Blocks
8.3 Decision-Making
8.4 Helping Others
8.5 Exercise
8.6 Foods
8.7 Herbs
8.8 Laughter
8.9 Sleep
8.10 Caffeine Reduction
8.11 Alternative Therapies/Medicines
8.12 The Traditional Route
Chapter 9 Fight or Flight?
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110 pages, Kindle Edition
Published September 1, 2019
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Joel Schueler
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Jim & Martha: A Novel on Eco Living
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His works appear in over ten countries in over forty publications including Pennsylvania Literary Journal & The Brasilia Review. From London, he has a BA(Hons) in English Literature & Creative Writing from the University of Wales, Aberystwyth.
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Jim & Martha: A Novel on Eco Living
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The number one national bestseller:
Love Your Fear: A Quick Self-Help Guide to Managing Anxiety
http://viewbook.at/loveyourfear
Joel Schueler writes in/on the Genres/Topics:
Eco Living
Mental Health
Comedy
His works appear in over ten countries in over forty publications including Pennsylvania Literary Journal & The Brasilia Review. From London, he has a BA(Hons) in English Literature & Creative Writing from the University of Wales, Aberystwyth.
https://www.joelschueler.com
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January 18, 2020
I received a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review, and honestly, it's just bad.
I went into the book with an open mind. As someone who personally suffers from anxiety, I thought this would be an informative and enlightening read, and was looking forward to getting into it, but by page 7, I realized that was not going happen. I could barely get past a page without cringing at the multitude of grammar errors, run on sentences, filler words, and analogies that made absolutely no sense.
One would think when writing a self-help book, the goal is to sound credible and informative. This book was neither of those things. Sure, he cited sources. Possibly from the only three books he read before deciding to write this one. One of his favorites source to cite was an author named Robert Satterfield. In fact, he cited this dude's book so much, I looked it up my damn self to see if I would be better off reading that. Turns out that book doesn't have any reviews either so, who knows. Also, Satterfield is his publisher. Interesting.
Another name that appeared repeatedly was Gil Fronsdal; the only information given about this source was the author discovered him from listening to a podcast. Cool.
I was bummed about the chapter titled "Types of Anxiety Disorders" because he really only talked about PTSD, while briefly naming the others. I wish he would have gone into more depth with each of them. Instead, he chose filler words. Or maybe he just couldn't find a good enough Satterfield quote.
I'm not writing this just to be an asshole. I tried to find something positive in the book. It was just really hard. I liked some of the tips he gave on managing fear/anxiety, but it was nothing I haven't heard before. More like regurgitated information. Nothing was insightful, nor original. Perhaps I would have taken it more seriously if he hadn't been contradicting himself the entire time.
Example:
Recommends one method of managing anxiety, talks about how it works for him and how it's best, but, also how it might not be best for You, so maybe try the other method? You know, the method he hasn't tried. He doesn't know if it will work for you either. But give it a go!!
Like, what? What's the point in writing this book if you have no confidence in your methods? And isn't this book partially about finding CONFIDENCE?? And he makes it sound so easy!
"Step 1: Do the task.
Step 2: Do the next task.
Step 3: Confidence grows."
I'm so motivated and inspired.
All in all, this book was an English teacher's nightmare. At the very least, it could have spent a little more time in the editing shop. At the very most, it could be rewritten altogether. A mere collection of filler words (could have easily been 40 pages without the fillers but it was 59), quotes from the same (credible?) sources, and a slew of repetitive drivel in between. That about sums this up.
My favorite part was getting to the end and realizing I could stop at page 59 instead of 69, because the last 10 pages were appendix.
The End.
I went into the book with an open mind. As someone who personally suffers from anxiety, I thought this would be an informative and enlightening read, and was looking forward to getting into it, but by page 7, I realized that was not going happen. I could barely get past a page without cringing at the multitude of grammar errors, run on sentences, filler words, and analogies that made absolutely no sense.
One would think when writing a self-help book, the goal is to sound credible and informative. This book was neither of those things. Sure, he cited sources. Possibly from the only three books he read before deciding to write this one. One of his favorites source to cite was an author named Robert Satterfield. In fact, he cited this dude's book so much, I looked it up my damn self to see if I would be better off reading that. Turns out that book doesn't have any reviews either so, who knows. Also, Satterfield is his publisher. Interesting.
Another name that appeared repeatedly was Gil Fronsdal; the only information given about this source was the author discovered him from listening to a podcast. Cool.
I was bummed about the chapter titled "Types of Anxiety Disorders" because he really only talked about PTSD, while briefly naming the others. I wish he would have gone into more depth with each of them. Instead, he chose filler words. Or maybe he just couldn't find a good enough Satterfield quote.
I'm not writing this just to be an asshole. I tried to find something positive in the book. It was just really hard. I liked some of the tips he gave on managing fear/anxiety, but it was nothing I haven't heard before. More like regurgitated information. Nothing was insightful, nor original. Perhaps I would have taken it more seriously if he hadn't been contradicting himself the entire time.
Example:
Recommends one method of managing anxiety, talks about how it works for him and how it's best, but, also how it might not be best for You, so maybe try the other method? You know, the method he hasn't tried. He doesn't know if it will work for you either. But give it a go!!
Like, what? What's the point in writing this book if you have no confidence in your methods? And isn't this book partially about finding CONFIDENCE?? And he makes it sound so easy!
"Step 1: Do the task.
Step 2: Do the next task.
Step 3: Confidence grows."
I'm so motivated and inspired.
All in all, this book was an English teacher's nightmare. At the very least, it could have spent a little more time in the editing shop. At the very most, it could be rewritten altogether. A mere collection of filler words (could have easily been 40 pages without the fillers but it was 59), quotes from the same (credible?) sources, and a slew of repetitive drivel in between. That about sums this up.
My favorite part was getting to the end and realizing I could stop at page 59 instead of 69, because the last 10 pages were appendix.
The End.
March 20, 2020
Love Your Fear by Joel Schueler is a book that could not have come at a better time. As of this writing, the Corona Scare has paralyzed the nations of the world. Global populations are faced with quarantine. The USA is one of the last countries that have not imposed shutdowns of businesses and curfews in cities and towns. The effect is not lost on the average citizen. Many are in fear of catching the flu. Others are afraid their workplaces will be shut down. Yet more are terrified that economic collapse will dissolve their life savings. What are we to do?
Schueler's work combines mental conditioning with medical research, explaining how the fear instinct triggers physical reactions that can paralyze or motivate. We can allow fear to overwhelm us, or analyze the situation in adapting and overcoming all obstacles. The author also discusses gut instincts that often eliminate regrets over second-guessing ourselves. Yet we also contemplate selflessness as a way of life, refuting the 'every man for himself' mindframe that destroys communities, families and relationships. It is an eclectic study of philosophical and biological remedies that will help readers deal with the everyday struggles of life.
Love Your Fear by Joel Schueler is one you won't want to miss.
Schueler's work combines mental conditioning with medical research, explaining how the fear instinct triggers physical reactions that can paralyze or motivate. We can allow fear to overwhelm us, or analyze the situation in adapting and overcoming all obstacles. The author also discusses gut instincts that often eliminate regrets over second-guessing ourselves. Yet we also contemplate selflessness as a way of life, refuting the 'every man for himself' mindframe that destroys communities, families and relationships. It is an eclectic study of philosophical and biological remedies that will help readers deal with the everyday struggles of life.
Love Your Fear by Joel Schueler is one you won't want to miss.
March 22, 2020
I read a lot of self-help books and the problem with most is that they are written by clinicians who actually have no idea what it feels like to have the issues they are writing about. What sets this book apart is that the author has actually been through the pain of anxiety. He uses his experiences and shares the techniques that he found useful to accept and live with this condition. Therefore, this book is supportive and a friendly guide through the process of learning to love your fear. There are no judgements.
I recommend this book to all anxiety warriors and worriers. This book will help you.
I recommend this book to all anxiety warriors and worriers. This book will help you.
May 12, 2020
I came across Joel Schueler via a post on LinkedIn. From that, I went to look at his work on Amazon and discovered ‘Love Your Fear’. As usual, I used their useful ‘Look Inside’ feature to gain an insight into the style and content.
I suffered ME/CFS for ten years and, although now rid of that condition, it seems likely that its effect on my hippocampus has left a lasting shadow relating to anxiety. I am much more sensitive to anxiety now than I was before I developed the condition. I explain this, as it’s the reason I decided to read the book.
A further cause of personal interest arose when I also found the book deals with some management of pain. I’ve suffered constant pain in my lower back for well over a year, and although I’ve now discovered the cause (my L4 nerve is trapped and has been damaged), the treatment is taking a long time to work.
So, I read this book with some hope for help with these two unrelated conditions.
Joel writes in a readily accessible style, which is easy to read and assimilate. He uses personal experience to describe his suggestions for how we can deal with the problems relating to both pain and the fear that causes much anxiety. This personal approach gives the book a friendly feel that allows the reader to trust in the advice provided.
I’d come across the terms ‘meditation’ and ‘mindfulness’ previously, but hadn’t found a description that so readily explained these practices. Joel explains what’s involved and makes it easy not only to understand but to apply the suggested remedies. There’s no authoritarian command here, just suggestions for treatment and behavioural change that might alleviate the conditions. He also leads the reader to other sources of information and mentions alternative techniques that might be tried.
To discover whether a book of this sort can help reduce pain and/or fear takes time of course. There’s no easy fix. However, I’ve already noticed improvements in both areas, following his advice and using some of his techniques. I’ll continue with these, as it’s clear there are positive effects.
Another aspect of the book that makes it an extremely useful guide is the list of organisations dealing with many problems. His links make it easy to contact these experts, and he lists the various bodies in a logical fashion.
I’m glad I bought the book, and look forward to consulting it at need over the coming months as I heal.
I suffered ME/CFS for ten years and, although now rid of that condition, it seems likely that its effect on my hippocampus has left a lasting shadow relating to anxiety. I am much more sensitive to anxiety now than I was before I developed the condition. I explain this, as it’s the reason I decided to read the book.
A further cause of personal interest arose when I also found the book deals with some management of pain. I’ve suffered constant pain in my lower back for well over a year, and although I’ve now discovered the cause (my L4 nerve is trapped and has been damaged), the treatment is taking a long time to work.
So, I read this book with some hope for help with these two unrelated conditions.
Joel writes in a readily accessible style, which is easy to read and assimilate. He uses personal experience to describe his suggestions for how we can deal with the problems relating to both pain and the fear that causes much anxiety. This personal approach gives the book a friendly feel that allows the reader to trust in the advice provided.
I’d come across the terms ‘meditation’ and ‘mindfulness’ previously, but hadn’t found a description that so readily explained these practices. Joel explains what’s involved and makes it easy not only to understand but to apply the suggested remedies. There’s no authoritarian command here, just suggestions for treatment and behavioural change that might alleviate the conditions. He also leads the reader to other sources of information and mentions alternative techniques that might be tried.
To discover whether a book of this sort can help reduce pain and/or fear takes time of course. There’s no easy fix. However, I’ve already noticed improvements in both areas, following his advice and using some of his techniques. I’ll continue with these, as it’s clear there are positive effects.
Another aspect of the book that makes it an extremely useful guide is the list of organisations dealing with many problems. His links make it easy to contact these experts, and he lists the various bodies in a logical fashion.
I’m glad I bought the book, and look forward to consulting it at need over the coming months as I heal.
February 5, 2020
Better Books on Anxiety Out There!
This book is certainly problematic on several levels. It is supposed to be about anxiety and fear, but one look at the table of contents suggests that it is an odd grab bag of popular psychology buzzwords and techniques. In fact, its organization is haphazard at best, which wouldn't be a help to somebody suffering from anxiety. A good non-fiction book is tight in its structure with a clear plan that delivers the reader easy-to-follow information or an outcome-based solution/transformation. This book was neither. The section on official anxiety disorders was actually laughable because it only discussed one of them in any detail at all. The author also kept referring to so many other authors and sources that it almost felt more like a high school student’s term paper. Even some language that the author used was teen-like, like the non-word “majorly.” There were a few people that he used as sources constantly, including a man named Satterfield (referenced 13 times). But seriously, this book seems like it was just cobbled together from a variety of sources and is a disorganized mess. If you have anxiety, there are far better books out there for you.
I received a free copy of this book, but that did not affect my review.
This book is certainly problematic on several levels. It is supposed to be about anxiety and fear, but one look at the table of contents suggests that it is an odd grab bag of popular psychology buzzwords and techniques. In fact, its organization is haphazard at best, which wouldn't be a help to somebody suffering from anxiety. A good non-fiction book is tight in its structure with a clear plan that delivers the reader easy-to-follow information or an outcome-based solution/transformation. This book was neither. The section on official anxiety disorders was actually laughable because it only discussed one of them in any detail at all. The author also kept referring to so many other authors and sources that it almost felt more like a high school student’s term paper. Even some language that the author used was teen-like, like the non-word “majorly.” There were a few people that he used as sources constantly, including a man named Satterfield (referenced 13 times). But seriously, this book seems like it was just cobbled together from a variety of sources and is a disorganized mess. If you have anxiety, there are far better books out there for you.
I received a free copy of this book, but that did not affect my review.
March 8, 2020
This little book is one of the best written books on anxiety I have ever read. The author shares his experience of living with anxiety and the things that have helped, or not helped, him. I often found myself nodding in wry recognition at what the author describes, as I have had anxiety myself for many years. The author inserts many interesting quotes and stories in the book, which all made me think or taught me something. The tips and ideas he gives on how to manage anxiety are well explained and useful. Not everything will work for everyone, but in just over 100 pages the author manages to say more than others will in 400 pages. Recommended for anyone who wants to learn to manage their anxiety better, or who wants to understand and help anxious people better.
March 13, 2020
Joel Schueler, “Love You Fear-A quick self-help guide to managing anxiety,” The Author has presented a fascinating personal touch in his approach to writing this book. He takes you on his own journey, learning to Love his Fears and managing his anxieties. Furthermore, he shares it in a very personal way of presenting useful information to help oneself. The narration is placed in such a way to stimulate your thought process to engage fully with the idea that having fear and anxiety is normal. Just how to deal with it and move on to Loving your Fear. I find his approach to mental health issues refreshing and useful. I personally recommend the book to get a glimpse of what it is to go through the various remedies and methods used in the book, well done.
May 15, 2020
There were quite a few grammatical errors, which was a little difficult for me, but overall, I liked the content of this book. Fear is at the base of so many things in our lives. It's there to protect us but often holds us back in the process of trying to keep us safe. The author is obviously someone who has put in a lot of personal work to understand his own fear and develop tools to move past it to achieve goals and dreams. I highly recommend this book for anyone who could benefit from advice from someone who has learned how to decrease the power of fear so you can move forward in your life.
March 30, 2020
This book explains a complicated process in a straightforward way. A step by step guide with pointers keeps you hooked. Love You Fear can be very helpful for those who face anxiety and don't understand how to get a hold on it. The author has good knowledge on the topic and its evidently clear. I would recommend this book to people who suffer from anxiety and their family and friends too as it would help them to understand the problem better.
February 12, 2020
It speaks the truth.
There are certain processes I have learnt over the years, dealing with anxiety, some that have been mentioned in this book, and understanding the author's feelings when you feel deflated the next day after. I personally have always struggled to act on methods that can help me and during my anxious periods, I have decided to read this book, not only hoping to calm myself but to reflect on what is happening in my crazy little head as I go through the notions.
It speaks a lot of truth when it comes to dealing with the thoughts of the mind and for someone like myself who doesn't follow instructions from doctors, and struggle to follow sheets and plans. I believe it is good to pick this book up and re-read passages, helping you find calm and sense of clarity, while reflecting at the same time. I feel like I am doing something more productive when battling anxiety, when reading this book, as I understand where the author is coming from and I too have struggled, feeling like I am sympathised with. it's rather incredible and a breath of fresh air to have something written by someone who has experienced it themselves, than some professional.
There are certain processes I have learnt over the years, dealing with anxiety, some that have been mentioned in this book, and understanding the author's feelings when you feel deflated the next day after. I personally have always struggled to act on methods that can help me and during my anxious periods, I have decided to read this book, not only hoping to calm myself but to reflect on what is happening in my crazy little head as I go through the notions.
It speaks a lot of truth when it comes to dealing with the thoughts of the mind and for someone like myself who doesn't follow instructions from doctors, and struggle to follow sheets and plans. I believe it is good to pick this book up and re-read passages, helping you find calm and sense of clarity, while reflecting at the same time. I feel like I am doing something more productive when battling anxiety, when reading this book, as I understand where the author is coming from and I too have struggled, feeling like I am sympathised with. it's rather incredible and a breath of fresh air to have something written by someone who has experienced it themselves, than some professional.
March 2, 2020
LOVE your fear!
I enjoyed reading this book because it teaches people how to manage their fear and not be afraid of it. Joel gives several techniques which can help someone gain confidence in loving their fear and not letting it control their lives. I have read several books about the mind, specifically “Battlefield of the Mind” by Joyce Meyers which reminded me of one of the techniques that Joel suggested which is to distract yourself, whether that be through helping others, keeping busy, etc. I think this is a great technique to help manage anxiety.
I enjoyed reading this book because it teaches people how to manage their fear and not be afraid of it. Joel gives several techniques which can help someone gain confidence in loving their fear and not letting it control their lives. I have read several books about the mind, specifically “Battlefield of the Mind” by Joyce Meyers which reminded me of one of the techniques that Joel suggested which is to distract yourself, whether that be through helping others, keeping busy, etc. I think this is a great technique to help manage anxiety.
October 8, 2019
This is an easy-to-read and relatively short book, jam-packed with useful tips and suggestions for those who experience anxiety. It is less about fear and more about both mindset, physical and other recommendations to live well despite feeling anxious. Recommended as a quick read that may really help.
January 28, 2020
This book had a lot of references to other authors. Giving me the feeling that it was a research paper or thesis not really a book. But, it is a book, so it had was built up a bit more to give it that book feel. The writing style was informal/casual. As for the content. I am full of anxiety and was looking forward to reading this book. The techniques were not helpful for my anxiety. I didn't learn anything new to me.
November 12, 2021
As someone who suffers from anxiety, I had high hopes going into this book. I appreciated what the author was attempting to do with this book but it was a miss for me. There were a few nuggets of wisdom that could be beneficial to some and a few techniques that could be useful.
Voluntarily reviewed after receiving a free copy courtesy of HiddenGems and the author, Joel Schueler. Joel Schueler
Voluntarily reviewed after receiving a free copy courtesy of HiddenGems and the author, Joel Schueler. Joel Schueler
March 8, 2020
Lots of ideas
As a therapist and one who has struggled with anxiety myself, i found this book to be packed full of good ideas abs resources. Very informational.
As a therapist and one who has struggled with anxiety myself, i found this book to be packed full of good ideas abs resources. Very informational.
April 12, 2020
If you actually read this book, it would not have been given 4/5 stars.
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